Due in Sept '07 - part 5 - '.... Half Way to Heaven......?'

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Hope you all don't mind about the new thread. We've been AGONISING over the name

Sending lots of sympathy too , ooh I must be very wicked!

Seamonster, fantastic story also.... 'who.. me?' ROFL

Seamonster/kinki/Mrs fish - what fabulous stories! I must admit you had me lol kinki - even though i agree it must have been mortifying!

Just to sympathise about the pooping thing - it happened to me and i didn't know it was likely to happen! I was so embarrassed i just remember DP saying 'is that normal' followed by the midwife saying 'very common - nothing to worry about'. DP ribbed me about it for ages and it's only almost 3 yrs on i can laugh about it! It came up recently at a family gathering when my dad was telling me how mortified my mum was when it happened to her! Apparently she refused to push insisting she needed the loo rather than the baby was coming and it took a lot of persuading to convince her than sometimes both happen together!

Don't want to scare/worry anyone! just wanted to agree that it is common! xx

hi guys im finally able to get on this thread! my phone wont load as there are so many posts!

im hollie and im due with dd2 on the 23rd im from luton so hhhhhhhhhhhhhiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii!!!

oh, kinki, you poor thing. I always wondered whether people gave birth in front of colleagues and if this embarrassed them, now I know. Are you giving birth in the same hospital this time? Sorry if you've said already, my memory is shot!

Welcome holsnovell!

Well to add to the pooping thing, since this is my first time I haven't done it yet but I will be buying a fishing net for my birth pool just in case

I remember being mortified when I went on my 3rd date with dh. I ended up with bad food poisoning and he witnessed me puking and pooing all over the place. I actually fainted and he ended up bathing all the shit and puke off me. We hadn't even slept together at that point

Please someone put me out of pram hell!! I have been given a 2nd hand mamas and papas freestyler however I find it is too bulky for me and want to get something lighter which is suitable for newborns. Please could somebody help me decide what to get. I am so confused. In my hormonal haze I have lost any decision making skills I ever had

Hope everyones sunday is going well

xx

i dont think i pooped 1st time?? if i did nothing was mentioned? i was terrified of it happening though!!

laksa - I had a Maclaren XT with ds1, it is a buggy but can be used from birth. He still uses it now and he was very comfy in it right from the start. Will be cleaning it up and using it again for this one. It also folds up small and neat (I can get it in the smart car)

OK, I'll fess up, I pooed whilst pushing, I was mortified but soon forgot about it, it was cleaned up straight away and I was told how common it was

I looked at this one today and it seemed a perfect option but the handles are ever so slightly too high when I am wearing trainers as I am a shortie and so it wasn't as comfy to push as it could have been, apart from that it would have been a good choice!

Laksa - I'm 5ft 3 and find it ok, do they not do an option with extendable handles, I know the cheaper Maclaren we bought does. Just a thought.

Laksa, that story was with ds1. The section was an emergency during the night so was done in the hospital's main theatres where I had worked. Thankfully ds2 was a planned section and so will this next one. At our hospital, these are done in the maternity theatre which have (mostly) different staff. And I don't really know those guys. Phew!

After 7 years I am finally beginning to see the funny side of it. Tell you what though, with ds2 I made sure I had thoroughly defuzzed myself before I went in. Wasn't going to run the risk of that happening again. And will do again for ds3!

i just had to go back and read what the fuss was about!

thats so funny poor you talk about mortified!!

Thank goodness its different colleagues kinki but good thinking for being prepared anyway!

My other story is a bit less embarassing but I use it as a warning to other pg ladies - you'll see why!

With DD1 I was about 35wks or so and I started to have problems with sleeping (I wouldn't mind but I've had it worse all the way through with this one!). Anyway, after a few weeks of exhaustion, the doctor gave me sleeping tablets and said to take half of one at bedtime. Well, I did so but unfortunately I ended up having such a deep sleep that I wet the bed!!!!! I never took another sleeping tablet after that and would strongly advise against it. Even without them, I slept with a few towels on the bed after that until DD1 was born. I know its normal to wet yourself as a child but I was mortified to have done it as an adult!!!!

Hi everyone... sorry to laugh at everyone's embarressing stories but they are soooo funny!! I had heard about the pooing during labour, mostly because my bil always mentions how my sister pooed on his new shoes when she was having her first daughter!

I wish I could share embarressing stories with you, but as a first timer, I don't really have anything similar. Most of my embarressing stories involve drink. I have wet the bed as an adult but I'm ashamed to say I'd drunk so much I passed out and did it!!

I'm sorry to hear about those who've been missing/are missing their dh/dps. I had a little hormonal wobble on friday night as dh was out until the early hours for the second night in a row. I felt really bad because I really resented him going out, and felt really old an boring staying at home watching telly. I couldn't sleep and sat in the garden until 2am until he came home. We had a chat, and all is well now. I think I just felt a bit lonely and bored. I felt so guilty because I was thinking how dull it is being pregnant, and that if I wasn't pregnant I would have met up with him in town and been out too, instead of freezing his favourite supper I'd made for him and crying like a silly woman!! Oh damn these hormones!!! It was just a wobble I guess, feeling much better now.

I did end up taking Thursday afternoon off, I was so tired and ever so slightly lightheaded. I looked at the clock at 4pm and thought, I can't do another 7 and a half hours of this!!! Work were really sweet, they booked me a taxi to go home so I didn't have to face the tube. I'm going to ask my mw to check my bloods next week when I see her as I'm sure my iron levels are low. The breathlessness and exhaustion sound too familiar to me.

The funny dreams are hilarious, filbrit I love the muffin one!!! I keep dreaming my baby is premature. I think that's just because I've decided that it can be born at any time now (not that I'd want it to). Maybe it goes back to the feelings I've been having about what a boring old fart I've become since being pregnant!!! Perhaps subconciously I just want him born now!!

I too have a v shaped pillow, I bought a cheapie from Debenhams. It's ok, but all the filling has migrated to the ends, so the middle bit is a bit flat. I think I squeeze too tight in the night, doing pelvic floor exercises in the night!!!!

I've had a lovely relaxing weekend, off tomorrow, but that's when all my building work starts so I'm expecting two weeks of chaos now (apart from the four months of Thames Water digging holes outside my house!) but it'll be worth it. Our "nursery" is a pretty depressing place at the moment, piled high with junk and stuff, and from tomorrow a new bathroom suite (until it's fitted that is!) We've got a cot, but it's still in boxes as we can't unpack until the painting is all done. Very frustrating! I think I had to get some of that frustration out of my system on saturday, as I spent a fortune on totally frivolous things for the baby, some silly indulgent clothes (a super sweet babygro thing which says "lock up your daughters" on the front!) a sweeeet baby blue rabbit, a mobile for the cot that plays motzart (!) a sheep that sits in the cot and can make heartbeat sounds (ok, it's official, those hormones are back!!!) Soooo silly I know, but couldn't resist, can't wait to have the nursery all decked out now!

We'll I'd better go and empty my bathroom now, how on earth am I going to go to the loo tomorrow with builders in there all day. They have at least promised to leave the loo in there until the last day, but I'm going to have to go to the yummy mummy cafe across the road loads tomorrow to use their loo, it could get very expensive!!

Take care everyone, sorry for rambling (God those hormones are back!)

xx

I have another really embarrassing story... I can't remember it, but dh told me...

It was when I had first met dh, the first time of meeting all his friends at a BBQ, I had been out in Nottingham all day and had eaten nothing, got back to his house and whilst helping him prepare all the food for a bbq I drank a bottle of white wine to myself on an empty stomach. Everyone arrived, it all went well, I was persuaded to do a yard of ale, which I did but it was carling so a bit fizzy. I then drank a shedload of vodka... so surfice to say I was absolutely slaughtered, ended up going to bed (passed out) at 7pm, before the food was cooked... (not usually such a binge drinker, I think it was nervousness of meeting his friends and only knowing him a week... but thats not the end of it

hi all

Decided to work from home today, didn't sleep last night and am sick and exhausted and baby is demanding i rest so it's (swollen) feet up and laptop on my lap for the day. Spent weekend buying buggy, car seat and cot, and DP was brilliant, didn't glaze over once. And PIL have offered to buy us the pram which is good of them all things considered. But it's good to get the big things out the way, so at least if it does put in an appearance i've got somewhere to put it although not for two weeks when it all arrives.
Being a first timer i have no embarassing birth stories but my whole life pretty much constitutes making a total tit of myself so i'm quite sure i'll rack up one or two by the time this one puts in an appearance.
Hope everyone is well and happy. Can't believe i'm 29 weeks now, all beginning to feel a bit real.
S
xx

Mrs fish, tell us the rest of it.I am off to get my hair cut but will be back later and expecting the rest!

Kinki, life has thrown its worst, it can only get better

sophus, what pram did you get?

Mrsmar, I feel the same way, dh's should be more sensitive, if we can't go out drinking why should they I have builders in on friday so am frantically trying to sort out all the junk lying around.

I am eally tired today but think it is all the walking and lugging of boxes that I did yesterday. I woke up this morning feeling like I'd done 10 rounds with mike tyson and now my pelvic bone is really hurting which is not good. How can you take it easy when there is so much to get sorted out, time just seems to be running away!

On the plus side I bought a nice rocking chair and stool on ebay and am looking forward to using it when bubs arrives

xx

I forgot I started that story

A bit busy at the moment, will tell you later when I have a coffee break

laksa - got phil and teds on basis that if we have another one it will have to be quite quickly as i will be 39 when this one appears, and if we stick with one it's fine for that as well.

MrsMar sending you lots of sympathy re DH being out late. I TOTALLY understand where you are coming from. If you think about it, it seems like an eternity we've been pregnant, and we're looking to the end now, so it's completely normal to be feeling the way you do.

I'm loving all the stories!!

Well I had a bit of excitement at the weekend!!! We were on our way to Bicester Village when we came across an overturned car on a roundabout and a crowd of people standing around...... I told DH to pull over because I wanted to see if I could help......

Well thank goodness I DID stop! There were 6 casualties and only one of them was being attended to! I felt a bit like 'Superman', I walked in there and said 'Is he conscious?, Is she conscious? Is he conscious etc etc' Then introduced myself as a First Aid Instructor (albeit retired ) and started giving instructions to everyone, asking for help getting this poor chap to lie down whose head was bleeding profusely and helping support this woman's body and head who I suspected had a spinal injury. In the end, I was looking after 4 casualties simultaneously! Then ambulances turned up incl. the very air ambulance that took my DH to hospital after his motorbike accident!

OK gonna have a micro rant....... what really struck me was how 'lost' people seemed in terms of not knowing what to do. I suppose a lot of people are scared to do the wrong thing.. I just wish people would do more basic first aid training. It's just little things like actually sitting on the floor with a casualty and chatting to them and reassuring them, NO-BODY was doing that at all, I had to keep telling people to sit and talk to the casualties. I kept on calling for jumpers/coats/blankets anything, and I only got 1 coat !!!!!!!!!!!!! These poor people were going into severe shock.

OK micro rant over sorry girlies!!!!!

Well DH has offered to take me to the theatre next weekend, all being well, because he's going in to hospital tomorrow for some surgery on his arm . Will have to play it by ear.

Well I'm off to Banbury now to have a look at a kitchen showroom (uber excited emoticon), hopefully DH will agree to having new kitchen done before baby arrives ... think he will

Crikey hopey, good job you were passing. You're right, not enough people know enough about first aid. I know a lot through my job and feel comforted that my dh does a first aid course with St John's every 3 years. I also remember learning a lot when I was in the guides, and although some of the minor details have changed (like recovey positions, cpr ratios etc) I remember a lot of it from back then. Maybe there's a case for it to be mandatory in schools. I hope all the people are ok, did you get any feedback? It sounds like you made a real difference - you are indeed superwoman? Are you ok? Any sign of shock for you or anything? You're doing the best thing talking about it. I hope it didn't bring back too many nasty memories about the time around dh's accident for you both. Good luck for his op, by the way, hope all goes well.

Ok, dilemma for the day. I lost a screw in my glasses last week, but dh 'fixed' them. Told him I wanted new ones anyway, and wanted to do bogof with sunglasses (as my old ones are broken). He convinces me we can't afford them and I should wait a while. I've had a bit of sickness this last week. Today, I rushed to the loo, threw up and then my lens popped out of the glasses into the vomit-filled loo. I didn't want to risk flushing it, so I did the unimaginable, and fished it out. Yuk. I washed and scrubbed it (and me) and was about to put it back into my glasses and thought, no why should I? It's been in the toilet, in vomit and the glasses are broken anyway. So, shall I go and get new ones and sod what dh says, or mend them? Using my old ones for now. Help me decide. I'm prepared to compromise and go to Specsavers rather than the little boutiquey place I usually go to!

Mrs F, tell us the rest, you can't stop there. I am extremely impressed (and jealous) of stories that involve getting pissed by 7pm. Those were the days.

Morning girls!

Well the builders are finally here to start the bathroom (turning up at 11am having promised to arrive at 9....hmmm don't get me started!) so I'm keeping my legs crossed and not thinking about waterfalls and streams at all!!!

HIWBB - thanks for the support. It does feel like I've been pregnant forever, and every now and then I miss my old life a bit! But then I go all gooey and my baby gives a kick as if to say "oi, you're gonna love it when I'm out there with you!!"

Well done on being so wonderful about the car crash. You're absolutely right about people freezing. I've done exactly the same. Years ago I was at a petrol station with a friend, we went in to pay for the petrol and get some snacks as we were going to be driving for a few hours. Suddenly this guy in a suit staggered in looking absolutely awful, really grey. He stood there for a second and then dropped to his knees. As he did so, blood started pouring from his head. He started going really grey and swaying. I was totally frozen for a few seconds. Just completely flumoxed. Didn't know what to do (well I did, just was so shocked) It turns out, he'd been cycling along the main road and some kids in a car, who hadn't paid for their petrol, screamed out of the petrol station forecourt and knocked him off his bike. As he wasn't wearing a helmet, he had a nasty head injury.

My friend dashed forward and helped him to sit down, and immediately started talking to him to find out what happened. After a few seconds I did jolt out of my shock, got the guys behind the counter to get their first aid kit so we could try and stop his bleeding, and get them to call an ambulance. The injured guy asked me to call his girlfriend and tell her what had happened, and we just kept him comfortable and talking until the ambulance came.

What amazed me is that I'd always thought I would be totally different in that kind of circumstance, really cool calm and collected, but I was rubbish. My friend was brilliant. The only thing that flashed through my mind was the amount of blood she was getting on her hands, which worried me.

A few years later I trained as a scuba diving instructor, and did lots of first aid as part of my training. I eventually trained as a first aid instructor, so I'd like to think I'd be a bit better, and although I certainly know what to do, I have no idea if I'll be frozen by shock like that again. I hope not, I'd hate to not be in a position to help someone in trouble.

On the same subject... has anyone done a resucitation course for children? I've done loads of training for resuscitation of adults and although I know the theory for children, I've never actually done anything practical. I'm quite tempted to do a course, not that I want to tempt fate, but I think things like that are so useful!

Sorry to put such a downer on things... must be the rain and the dust flying up from my bathroom!!

Have a lovely day everyone xx

hi Kinki - just read about your glasses. Are they covered by your home contents insurance? Could you make a claim as you dropped them down the loo? I think you deserve new glasses, if your dh doesn't let you, we'll have to think of endlessly amusing ways you can annoy him with your inability to see things, I think that's probably an excuse to do absolutely nothing as you can't see anything!

Good thinking on both counts Mrs M. I'll look into the insurance. And maybe I have a sudden inability to drive to do the supermarket shopping because my old glasses aren't strong enough. And there's no point hoovering if I can't see the dirt. That kind of thing? I'm liking this. Down side is I am actually straining a bit to read the computer screen.

HIWBB - total respect, I'm sure I would be useless in such a situation. BTW being flippant did you get any goodies at Bicester?

Mrs Fish - respect out cold by 7pm , those were so the days! I made the mistake last night of looking at some photos of me and DH prior to us having children. We were living in Sydney and there are lots of me looking very skinny in a bikini on various beaches or out drinking with friends. It all seems a very long time ago, and although I wouldn't swop my DD or bump for anything in the world and I love being a mum it did make me very nostalgic for my old life! I'm also craving cold white wine like there's no tomorrow, I may smuggle some in my hospital bag to start the celebrations early in hospital once DD2 arrvies !

Mrs Mar good luck with the builders, have you had to pop to the cafe over the road yet personnally I seem to need the loo constantly - I really hope this is just a pregnancy thing or I'm in serous trouble !

Kinki - nighmare about your glasses, although I love the excuse not to do any cleaning!

Off to have my lucozade, diabetes test this afternoon. I hate both the taste of lucozade and hainvg blood take so not happy about the whole thing. DD is much braver than me though and wants to hold my hand while they take the blood so mummy doesn't get scared - cute huh!

Filbrit x