Due in Sept '07 - part 5 - '.... Half Way to Heaven......?'

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Hope you all don't mind about the new thread. We've been AGONISING over the name

Sorry to hear you are having a rough time Trinity, and I hope you are able to work it out with your DH. I had something like that (but not so bad) with mine, and found teh only things which helped were - bursting into tears and screaming at him, and going to teh Dr and getting my thyroid and iron levels checked. I was sooo emotional last month, and now I'm taking my extra tablets I'm back to my usual self. It wont help the lazy DH issue, but will help you. I love Kinkis solution. Another thing is to just go out. To say take off saturdays, and just LEAVE the house. Let him sink or swim on his own. Good luck, and let us know how you get on.

Bonjour!!!!!!!!!! I'm Back!!!!!!

Wow, what a lot of posts to catch up on...

Sophus - how exciting re your kitten, did your DH react well?? I did that years and years ago, DH came home from work and 'met' out new pet! He soon got over the shock!

MrsFish - Congrats on your recent 3rd wedding anniversary, here's to many more happy years. x

Hannahsaunt - Did you get that blood in urine checked out? I had it towards the end of my first pregnancy, it turned out that DS was kicking the hell out of my bladder. This LO seems to enjoy using it as a trampoline these days!

Kinki - I am SO SO of you meeting George Michael! (Your DH's a star for arranging it all) I saw him in concert a few years back and had a mental picture of me fighting my way to the front of the crowds and of course, once he saw me he'd most definately decide he was going to be straight!!!!! ahum

ccpink - hope your Mum gets on well with her treatment.

seamonster - sorry to hear about your Mum too.

Pennypops - snap re wedding baby!!!!!!!!! Our DS2 was 3 months old on our first wedding anniversary. He was a wedding night baby!

Rhubarb - congrats on your scan results, another girl - yay!!!!!!!!!!!!

Kinki - VERY well said re 'it's your job', I like your style.

Me ! - Well we had a lovely time in France. It seems we were very lucky re the weather, I had to spend most of the time in the shade, most unlike me! It was TORTURE looking at all those lovely cheeses and OMG the seafood!

My only criticism was that there seems to be a definate lack of toilets in France, and when you ask in shops/restaurants if there is a toilet they are VERY unhelpful, it seems they don't give a toss if you're pregnant and about to wet yourself

Am v tired now....... now the unpacking and washing ..... joy!

Want an opinion on antenatal classes? As I'm on baby no 3, albeit with an 8 year gap, do you think it is worth going to these classes? Has much changed in that time?

DH goes to Finland tomorrow, then on Wednesday it's my birthday . It's the first (and only) time in 14 years that we've been apart on my birthday . Look after me ladies, I'm , can you tell?!!

Apart from that, me and bump are well. Still struggling with names.

Anyone having any luck posting pictures on their profiles ?

Wow Kinki - I have the deepest respect for you! That's some speech. I have made notes and will file it away for future emergencies. Good for you.

Trinity - I'm so sorry you're going through such a rotten time. Perhaps it's time to make a stand! x

Rhubard - congrats on your scan result! Another girl too

Filbrit - you aren't alone, as I'm pretty sure I'm not getting BH's either. If I am they are so mild I can't feel them at all. Not sure if all women get them or if some of us just miss it. Glad to hear your lo is lively as well! Sometimes my ribs hurt so much I feel like I've just taken a punch in them.

HIWBB - Good to have you back and glad you had a lovelty holiday (apart from cheese withdrawl symptomns). We'll look after you in dh's absence! x

Well, I had a hormonal breakdown at the weekend. Spent most of Saturday afternoon feeling really melancholy and then then yesterday lost a car parking ticket because I'm such a jelly head, had to pay £20 to get out of the sodding car park, spent about 10 minutes sobbing in the car, cried all the way home and then blubbled on dh for half an hour. Poor thing - he thought something was really wrong because he couldn't get much sense out of me for a minute. Then I told him it was a lost car park ticket - he handled it well - just cuddled me and waited for me to calm down.

It wasn't just the car park thing - I just feel so huge and ungainly waddling around the shops and everyone looks so damn thin. I know I am meant to look like this but sometimes I just feel so fed up. I hate the fact that I have to rest more and feel more vulnerable.

Today I'm feeling a lot more perky and its clearly all hormone related but thought I'd share!!

Hope you all had a better weekend than me xx

hello everyone!

I had a lovely weekend until we woke up this morning and realised DH's bike had been stolen from our back garden. Really depressing as we've not been here long and annoying, but it will teach him to lock it up.

Anyway, have enjoyed reading posts.

Ccpink & seamonster - so sorry to hear about your mums, loads of luck.

Trinity - really sorry to hear your trouble, but sounds like Kinki has some fab advice - which I also have stored up for future use...

HIWBB - glad you had a great hols, and lucky you with the weather. I confess I gave into some of the cheeses... on occasion. They are just too damn tempting.

Had a parenting class this weekend - an NHS one - was quite useful, in that I could ask lots of silly questions that the books don't cover (like - does the waters which break actually look like water and do they gush out like they do in the films?).
Also dragged DH buggy shopping. What a minefield? Is there anything they don't do apart from fly? Still deciding on that one, though if anyone has experience of a britax vigour 3 or trekker, let me know.

also - pennypops - poor you - totally frustrating! And, know exactly what you mean about everyone looking thin - it's bizarre and can only be due to my own large-ness. It is depressing, but we are all doing a really important job right now and we have to remember that!

Feeling vulnerable....feeling fat... i am right there with you. I suddenly just feel useless, so slow, especially if it's hot or i haven't had enough sleep - so that's every day then.
HWIBB - glad to have you back. I ignored all fishy advice in spain and ate everything except for clams/mussels.
Kitten is a great success, will add a photo to profile. I let DP name her (except that he's called her Albertine after the fictional female embodiment of Marcel Proust's gay lover...). He adores her and thinks she is way cool and is practicing being a responsible parent - which he's a bit useless at so far to be honest - but hey i've got another 3 months to train him....
xxx

kinki - that speech is genius! Just so true, I feel like printing it out and giving it to my DH. He is actually really good, really hands-on but I can tell that he sometimes feels like I have it too easy being a SAHM. He doesn't seem to think that it is actually a sacrifice not earning any money for yourself or pulling yourself up the career ladder. He jokingly calls me the "lady of leisure" now and then and I just want to smack him.

Trinity - I have a friend in a similar situation with her DH. I don't really have any advice other than to make it very clear to him that you are not happy about it. Don't let him get away with saying "But I didn't know it bothered you...". Maybe you could tell him exactly what you want - i.e. he gets up with your lo 2 days a week and you have a half day to yourself on his day off, or whatever. Do you think that would work? Men can be so effing selfish .

HIWBB - glad you had a nice holiday, but I know what you mean about the food. We had a lovely week in Corsica last week, but it was so hard not giving in to the pate and carpaccio. There were some menus where I couldn't actually have any of the starters. I normally eat a goat's cheese salad every day in France, but I just couldn't bring myself to risk it, even though DH kept telling me to go for it.

pennypops - honeymoon babies are SO romantic, how lovely for you and your DH! It will be our 8 yr anniversary in July - how time flies!

rhubarb - congratulations! pinkety pink pink

[remind self to think of girls' names too, just in case....]

Myeloma, that's what its called.
I wasn't trying to take any sympathy away from you, CCpink, I was trying to let you know you aren't alone. (sorry)

I'm glad I'm not the only one feeling a bit down at the moment, I hate this stage of the pregnancy when its uncomfortable but still too far away to be thinking 'right that's it, OUT!'

I hope everyone had a good weekend, and I am going to print off the 'speech' and stick it on the fridge.

Thanks for all those nice comments about my earlier post. There is an important ps to it that I never told my dh, but thought I'd better add here. I'm a bit that I didn't already. And that is, although having a 'job' (!) as a mum is hard, I've got to say IT IS very rewarding, and in terms of job satisfaction its the best job I've ever done. Just thought I'd add that especially for the first timers, wouldn't want to put anyone off at this stage!

Been thinking about the girl/boy ratio. I wonder if all the surprises are going to boys, to average things out, or if they'll have the same ratio as the babies we know about. Iyswim. I reckon they'll be boys. Strange isn't it, (and lovely too) how comes there are so many girls.

I'm having a boy.
Take it easy fiofio

Fio, maybe you've subconsciously noticed the bus driver is checking you out, scanning you, every time you get on the bus. Lucky you! Its a long while since anyone checked me out twice. Hope you feel better soon.
I'm having a boy too. I like being part of an elite club, but would welcome more members.

Hello all! It's been nearly a month since I've been on so please forgive me for not reading all the posts I've missed! We've got our internet back now (obviously!) and I've got nearly 600 e-mails to catch up on too - great!

I'm now about the size of a house and concerned that at only 25+2 I'll be about the size of a hotel/small village when I'm ready to drop! My new centre of gravity has provided new/hightened problems with my hips and I'm struggling to sleep any more than an hour or two at a time. I have all sorts of other aches and pains BUT I'm still very happy to be pg and looking forward to LO arriving! . When I'm awake at 2am, 3am and 4am etc., I just remind myself that come the autumn, I'll be awake at about those times but I'll be feeding a lovely baby girl and I won't have sore hips.

Baby is moving around lots and all the family have now officially felt her at some point in the last few days. DH seems to be coming out in sympathy as he is quite emotional and he also seems to have piles even though I'm the one with constipation! (He's welcome to any of my other ailments too lol!).

We've started buying lots of lovely baby bits and pieces but still need to get the big stuff (matress, buggy/pram, car chair, moses basket and bedding). The room that will be the nursery is hopefully going to be started in the next few weeks too.

I've only got 3 weeks left at work and I have to say I can't wait to leave!!!! I just want to clean and nest and get ready and run the house etc. I just wish I had the energy but when I'm working its really hard as I'm sure you can empathise with!

Anyway, enough of my waffling! I have really missed all of you and truly hope you are well. I'll do my best to read up as much as I can on what you've all been up to over the next few days.

Love and hugs! PLP (25+2) xxxx

I'm having a boy

I'm having a boy too!

Hi everyone! i'm having a boy too!

Does anyone else read all the posts then draw a complete blank on what was said?

Trinity/Kinki - def lazy DP syndrome at my house and i tend to just pick up the slack and get on with it! - not that it will help in the long term but like you i mowed the lawn the other week as otherwise it wasn't happening! As for coping - you will, we all will! But if you want things to change then you have to say/do something to make them change! And i do too!

Had a fab weekend - down in devon on the beach - yes i looked like a beached whale but it was great fun and ds enjoyed spending time with DP. Paying now though - i'm so tired!

Hi everyone

Purplelostprincess - welcome back!

Just popped in to say hi, no real news from me except to say I'm also feeling very big today, my tummy seems to grow noticably overnight, every night ! I'm also getting quite tired as I'm having problems sleeping as my bump kicks a lot!

I'm "working" from home today though which is nice as I'm getting more of a chance to relax

FilBrit x

Hello all, I'm having a boy too!!! Nice to know we're in an elite club!

Chatty - glad to hear you had a great weekend, you deserve it after all the horribleness you've been going through.

PPS - I'm so jealous of you finishing work in three weeks, I'm 26 weeks today and I've still got another two months to go.. officially maternity leave starts on 1st September, but I've got so much annual leave to use up, I'm finishing work in mid August, plus we're having a week off in mid July to go to France and catch some rays. At least I don't have to do nights any more... Just been signed off them.. yipeeeee!

I'm the same as you when I wake up in the nights though... I can't tell you the number of times (even before being pregnant) when I've tried to imagine being awake at that time. I'm probably totally mad to say this, but I'm quite looking forward to it, I imagine it's a really intimate time with you and your baby. No one else is awake, just the two of you. I actually quite like being awake in the middle of the night when no-one's up, it's a bit special, especially in winter when it's cold outside, and you're inside all snuggled up. OK it's official, I'm totally mad!

My little fella is moving around alot, but I'm such a fattie that dh still hasn't felt him move yet. Mind you I think that has something to do with his total lack of patience in waiting for a kick, if he hasn't kicked within seconds of him placing his hands there he gets bored!

HIWBB - great to hear you had a good holiday, I can't wait til our week in France.

Fio - I hope the tummy gets better soon, I can't believe you've only put on a pound and a half, that's amazing. I've put on a stone and a half so far. I got a bit of a lecture from my mum at the weekend about putting too much weight on. To be fair, I've been really piggy of late, so the crisps and biscuits are now off limits again!

Seamonster - sorry to hear your mum has myeloma, that's what my friends mum had. She was telling me there's an amazing new drug (Verceptin??) around for the treatment of myeloma.. unfortunately it was too late for my friends mum, but I hope your mum is able to get it.

I had a terrible dream last night, my baby was premature, actually very premature (like born now, at 26 weeks) and I didn't go and see him or feed him in hospital, because I didn't want to miss a concert I had tickets for. I woke up feeling so guilty!

Have a good day everyone xxx

Hi PLP, glad to know all is well with your lo although sympathise with you on the hip pain. Hopefully when you go on ML you can rest some more.

No real news from me - just checking in really.
Fio, I hope you are feeling well and relaxed now.

Re weight gain - if it makes anyone feel better I am now a stone up. I didn't put on any weight for ages and worried a bit even though my bump was getting bigger then all of a sudden a couple of weeks ago the scales started ratcheting up! My lo is obviously chubbing up like his Mum

I am convinced I am having a boy now - mainly because so many of you are having girl. Mind you, I started off equally convinced it was a girl so could quite easily change my mind again before blast off!

PMSL Pennypops re 'blastoff'

mrsmar
My dh hasn't felt it either - like yours no patience to wait. He is doing my head in at the moment like he has gone into a panic and isn't ready for the baby. Too late now - I've told him but still hard. He was never the most enthusiastic I am just hoping he will feel different when we have our surprise. Jealous you all know what yours is
Anyway enough moaning
I've stayed off today as don't feel 100% - tired etc and my back was hurting yesterday. Guess extra rest will help.
DO YOU EVER BORE YOURSELF MOANING... [GRIN

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aw cc, don't worry, I'm sure he'll get mega excited once the baby's born. I've yet to see a bloke yet who doesn't go totally gaga over their own babies, even if they don't like children normally. Before you know it, he'll be boring everyone with photos and stories!

I hope your back feels better soon xx