September 2018 #2: testing and symptom-analysing

[Secondsop]

New thread. Will attempt to post link in old thread!

Theblindspot no 1 has ever mentioned it and I pph with all3 of mine! Most being 2.5l just at delivery (more obv after) needed a few bags of blood and least was 1.5l.
Had blood each time.

The 1.5l prob could have been less if they would have given me those tablets. If you know you know lol. The side effects aren't the best but I would have preferred that over bleeding more. That was still loads better than the 2.5l before that.

I paid over £600 for my quinny.

Is anyone else looking at the Finnish baby boxes? I love them so much, if things work out we'll be getting one this time.

If it's mattress from one of your own and it's in good condition then you might not have to change it.

Carseat I've seen some on eBay that are second hand but inspected and cleaned properly so will prob get one of those

We NEED a bigger car. No ifs or buts lol

My hospital issues the baby boxes for free so that's an easy one! I want a side by side crib but not sure we have room for one. I wont be breast feeding as I've got duff boobs.

I made the decision a while ago that this baby will be combi fed from about 6 weeks (Ideally expressed milk if possible), I exclusively breastfed my first and she self weaned when she was a little over 2.
I just don't have it in me to do it again, it very nearly did me in last time. I had no pressure to continue other than the pressure I put on myself, and at times it was crippling.
This will be my last baby and I want to enjoy it and not be solely responsible for feeding. This time I want the load to be shared.
It took me a while to work through the guilt aspect (again, coming from nobody but myself) and am at peace with the idea now.

CuppaSarah I love the Finnish baby boxes and really want one. I work for a Finnish company and they are very generous with gifts and love Finnish themed gifts, so I am going to hint obviously about one of these

I wasn't able to breastfeed last time and it was a nightmare. My DS ended up in A&E at 10 days old because he was so jaundiced and dehydrated. I'll probably give it a shot this time, but won't hesitate to switch to the bottle if it's not working out. The guilt trips from hospital staff were awful.

I love the Finnish boxes. That's a definite.
And a MAMA or WINGINGIT sweatshirt.
Promised myself one of these for a while!!

I love the baby boxes too. I’ve always wondered why the UK hasn’t adopted that ethos in our hospitals (apart from funding). I know when I was a first time new mum something like that would have been invaluable but instead we got Bounty miniatures and the rip off photographers coming around the wards.

Are those Bounty photographers still coming around the wards, by the way? Might consider a home birth

First vomit at work. Evenings are a bad time for me it seems.

Oh dear kirinm. Are you feeling okay otherwise? At least we can say good signs!

Would you actually let your baby sleep in the box? I'm thinking I would, maybe that can be the downstairs bed.

Kirin that sucks 😢 terrifies me.

Great news on scans!

I’ve had mild cramps today and haven’t felt at all sick 😢 xx

A lot of hospitals now do the baby box initiative mine does and was one of the first in the UK to adopt it.

They're really good and come with a top of the range mattress and other baby goodies. Beats a bounty bag hands down!!

this is the scheme my hospital uses

I had my first vomit at work too @kirinm. Swiftly followed by my second and third. Bleh. Not been the best day!

I’d love a baby box. Don’t think uclh do them though. Have most things from DD- car seat, pram (bugaboo chameleon- love it and still use it every day on the nursery run), cot. Hoping to breastfeed again so no steriliser but have a pump. Although if I get to a baby they will likely be prem so should probably get some bottle feeding paraphernalia. I have one of every type of bottle as DD refused them all!

I had a PPH and sepsis but luckily had no issues with feeding. But DD knew how to latch on like a pro from the start, don’t know how. I was blessed with the easiest baby in the world actually- slept 6 hours a night from a week old, through the night at 8 weeks. Breastfed easily. Never cried. So much harder now she’s a preschooler with opinions! I’ll be punished with a colicky non-sleeper next time!

HannahJH Easier said than done but please try not to worry too much. Yesterday I had mild cramping and no sickness at all. Today the nausea is back full force. The only consistent symptom for me are sore nipples when they’re touched or poked and first come out of a bra.

Paranormalbouquet My babies were great too. A little worried this baby will be harder but I’m confident we can cope!

Namechangedtoscream Love that initiative. I’m in South Wales and neither my local hospital or the university hospital offer these yet. My local hospital only got a single birthing pool in the past two years!

@dingdongdigeridoo re feeding, the same for me - both mine had tongue ties and we had a terrible time with their failure to gain weight in the early days. I remember the hospital sending me home with an incredibly prescriptive feeding plan involving top-ups in millimetre increments, and a strict expressing schedule, and the midwife seeming personally affronted that I hadn’t bought a breast pump before birth. I will always remember her saying “But how do you think you are you going to follow the plan without a pump?”. At least second time round I was much better able to advocate for myself. I’m absolutely going to give breastfeeding every effort but won’t hesitate to mix feed if necessary - I’m not putting myself or the baby through that again. I can’t look at some photos of my first boy, he was so thin. My first boy never liked latching on (it was a HUGE struggle - I feel awful when I think about how long I spent in the early with him crying and flailing while I tried to get him to latch on) but loved the bottle. My second one loved breastfeeding but it just wasn’t working out in terms of him gaining weight adequately so he also had bottles, but he kept breastfeeding at least twice a day even when I was back at work full time and in the end didn’t stop until he was 2.5years and that was only because we were apart for a couple of weeks. He loved breastfeeding. I found that it was perfectly possible to have a positive breastfeeding experience without exclusively breastfeeding and it saddens me that more women aren’t told this. So I am determined to let things go however seems best with the priority being the baby being well-fed and happy. The thing nobody told me about breastfeeding was that there were two people involved and that the baby has to be as up for it as you are!

@kirinm that sounds awful - hope you are feeling ok. Would your work agree to something involving you going home earlier?

Rip off photogs are still haunting postnatal wards. I thought I'd escaped them when I was put in a private room, but no they cane barreling in still. They did give ds a tiny santa hat though(he was born Xmas eve) which was a lovely keepsake as we hadn't expected him to arrive before Xmas.

Having breastfed one and bottle fed another, all I can say is both are fabulous in their own way. If breastfeeding doesn't work out, it's fine. Formula feeding has it's own advantages and they look at you in the same loving way and make the same noises when bottle feeding as they do breastfeeding.

Finally got a letter with my midwife appt today - a whopping 4 weeks since I went to the doctors and told them I’m pregnant

And the appt isn’t til 7th Feb, I’ll be 11w 5d- doesn’t that seem very late?! Guessing I won’t get a scan date til that appt either, looks like it’ll be a late 12 week scan for me eh?!

@Secondsop sorry to hear about your experience. I don’t think enough people talk about breastfeeding failure and how difficult it can be. This time round I’m going for ‘fed is best’.

I had my first proper vomiting session today too. Instead of having all day nausea, I’ve been intermittently being sick then needing to sleep. Second trimester can’t come fast enough.

I'm planning on breastfeeding but also will express so that dh can do a late evening feed while I get a bit of sleep. Both my dc have been absolutely horrendous sleepers. Dd finally slept through after her 4th birthday (6 months ago) and before that was waking every few hours, so me missing one feed at night will help a lot!

Does anyone else get crampy when in the bath? I don't have it too hot, it's always only ever lukewarm-warm temp so I know it's not that! I just always feel so so crampy during and afterwards! It's annoying because it's always been part of my evening wind down! Kids in bed, and then I can relax in a nice warm bath each night! Now I hate having them!!!

I hate hearing about people feeling bad about feeding one way or another. I was really lucky with DD, she just found it easy. The downside was that she wouldn’t have a bottle meaning my return to work was super stressful. Ideally I’d like to breastfeed and have DH give either EBM or formula once a day so I can get out and about a bit.

@Nixen they probably book you in for scan immediately then. I have my booking appt and scan appt dates already so at least I can plan. Must be frustrating that you can’t. Although I’ll possibly have extra appts re cervix.

Leaving work, stayed late to catch up on paperwork and to miss rush hour. Fingers crossed tube is quiet. Still feeling awful despite vomiting and nibbling on rice cakes. Colleagues commenting on how pale I look so suspect they are working it out.

Not posted for a while. Still no symptoms here at 6 +1.

Just wanted to comment because I saw chat about breastfeeding. I breastfed dd for 27 months ish so definitely planning to do it this time. It was much harder than I expected it to be, but so worth it.