August 2018 #2 Nausea and first scans!

[Babydreaming]

Welcome to our 2nd thread! The List below hasn’t been updated since early before since 21st jan so if you’ve joined since then please copy and paste and add in your details!

Name-Age-DC#/#MC(optional)-due#/18

YouCantBeSirius - 26 - DC2 - due 02/08
BabyH30 - DC3/1MC - due 03/08
somersetsinger - DC2 - due 04/08
Amzq87 - DC1 - due 04/08 - Derbyshire
milney25 - DC1 - due 04/08
Peoniesandcats - DC1 - due 04/08
CaffeineDragon - 37 - DC2 - 07/08
SmashyCup - DC2 - due 08/08
Sugarskulllover - 27 - DC1 - due 08/08
StrawberryLemonade - 30 - DC2 - due 8/8/18
Spydie - 33 - DC1 - due 09/08
SpriteGirl - 36 - DC1 - due 10/08
Peterpanwendy - 23 - DC1 - due 11/08
Hettyturnip - 35 - DC3/MC4 EDD 12/08/17
E2017 - DC1 Due 13/08/18 I'm in the Midlands
Hana327 - 29 - DC1 - due 13/08/2018
Babydreaming - 29 DC2/2MC - due 15/08
RiverRose - 28 DC3 - due 16/08
Gizzymum - DC2 - due 16/08
Whichoneisit - DC3/1MC - due 17/08
Kiki275 - DC1 - due 18/08
Eloisa123 - 44 - DC2 - due 20/08
Pestov - 33 - DC2 - 24/8
TheSleeperandtheSpindle - 32 - DC2 - due 24/08
Minkies13 - 32 - DC1 - due 24/08
ZoeRoma - 40 - DC1 - due 25/08
CumbrianExile - 37 - DC2 - due 25/08
TheGrumpySquirrel - 31 - DC2 / 1MC - due 25/08 - my dd will be 13 by then!
BertieBotts - 29 - DC2 - due 28/08 - Living in Germany
Emmasmum2013 - 34 - DC2 - due 21/08
Tinks15 - 26 - DC2 - due 03/08
Subo2018 - 27 - DC1 - due 14/8/18

@kathrynalicem oh that is so hard. What a jerk. Why do men think it's okay to have sex with you when they aren't happy in the relationship? That's besides the point I guess. The depression would need to get sorted/under control before he's thinking clearly again, but that's not a quick thing.

This happened to a girl in my other MN group and they are now very happy co-parents and while it was a shock and awful worked out well for them. She moved back in with her parents for a bit but they have their own place now.

Wish I could do more to help, but please know we're all here for you. x

kathryn that's awful, and so sad. Do you think perhaps the pressure of infertility and IVF just caused him to crack? Not that I am making excuses for him AT ALL. Know that counselling is expensive but it really can make sure a difference if you can find a way of affording it. Does his work do any sort of employee assistance program?

@kathrynalicem he’s a selfish SELFISH man. Fancy telling you all after you finally find out you’re pregnant!? Attention seeking much? Not sure how you stayed calm, I’d be throwing the kitchen sink at him with the way my hormones are, for example, right now I have no idea who you are but it feels very personal. Anyway...just see how things progress, maybe he’ll realise he’s being an utter wazzok...not that he deserves any sympathy! And like others have said, talking helps so free to come on here and vent! X

Hi all

I'm currently 10+2 with my first, first scan is 24th. Morning sickness hit me hard at 8 weeks and getting worse. It's now mainly of an evening, can't eat a normal dinner, just managing half a tin of soup.

Last night I was doubled over in pain, bad stomach cramping, terrified I was going to miscarry. Not sure if it's trapped wind, constipation (even though I've been) or the above. I've had no blood. Am I being paranoid? Woken up this morning with a dull pain, so it's a lot better but I know it's still there.

@LadesC take things slower and look after yourself

@spritegirl
Only saw midwife and she didnt ask and i didnt bother to mention as its happened every 4 days or so from the start. So its annoying as it worries me but on the other hand im almost used to it iyswim.

Mw was nice. Apparently my age doesnt automatically mean i cant give birth in mw led unit if all else goes smoothly. But im at risk of OC as had it last time and they also thought i had poss early pre eclampsia last time too. So we shall see how it goes.

kathryn, that is awful. You poor thing. Do you have someone you can talk to in real life about it?

k4rlyb, I had something similar at around 11 weeks, and it turned out to be trapped wind. It's surprising how painful that can be. However, I would either go to the GP or ring the midwife if you can today, just for reassurance.

BunBunMum, I night weaned mine at 14 months and didn't make a jot of difference. She is a machine, she just does not need to sleep.

I've had no nausea or sickness at all, but I didn't on my first either really. I have bone-deep exhaustion (partly thanks to my insomniac two year old). Has anyone had any cravings? I seriously cannot eat enough hummus. I will be the size of a house by twelve weeks at this stage, and honestly, I was already carrying a little bit extra before I got pregnant, so I was hoping to keep it under control. I don't want to be told I'm overweight at my booking in scan, but I have a feeling my BMI has crept above 25.

@badb at start about 4 weeks I was addicted to hummous then week later I didn’t like it. Atm got no cravings although just ate salt and vinegar crisps when usually I don’t like them

@kathrynalicem what an arsehole, an arsehole that you love of course. In these situations they expect us to rant and rave, cry and want to discuss everything.
Turn those tables on him, as hard as it is, be civil, chuck him in the spare room or sofa and get on with your life. The less you say, the worse he will feel. He sounds like a narcissistic knobend!
Thinking of you loads, we are all behind you and always here.

@badb i've not have morning sickness and only slight occasional nausea so far and im 7+3 today. I do have M.E. and suffer with fatigue due to that but in the last 2/3 days my fatigue has almost trebbled to the point that im now asleep from 7pm and trying to get out of bed at 6am for work but tbh i could sleep all through the day as well. Drained beyond anything I've experienced before. I've not told work and unfortunately i have a very unsupportive manager who doesn't believe M.E. is a real illness so am just trying to struggle through.

Cravings wise = everything bad for me especially carbs. Was hoping i'd be all healthy/ mother earth type but im up, walking around, functioning (almost) so that's enough for this week.

@misshannah I sympathise, I have ME too. With that and morning sickness and an 11 month old I'm wiped out. I've been so ill I've been off work since Christmas. I have a very supportive manager though. It must be very tough for you without one. Comments denying the existence of your illness are unacceptable though and I'd be reporting that to HR as discrimination. ME is a long-term health condition that meets the criteria in the Equality Act and your employer is required to make reasonable adjustments for it.

Got my scan appointment! 29th of Jan - so pleased to have a date :-)

Is that your 12 week scan @amzq87 if so we have them on the same day. X

Is anyone else slightly concerned about living off rubbish maternity pay?? I will get the minimum (6 weeks at 90% then 33 weeks at £140 a week SMP) so I don’t think I’ll be able to have very long off work. But childcare is so expensive, around £1000 a month if they go full time, as I can’t go part-time with my job. I’m going round in circles trying to work out the best way around this. Lottery win appears to be my only option! 😩😩

It is indeed @E2017 :-) scan buddies! They don't do any earlier ones here - I know I've seen people on here saying about 10 week ones but I've just got 12 weeks and 20 weeks x

@WaitingforToto childcare is very expensive. But if you are in a household where all adults work you'll get 20% off through the "tax-free childcare" scheme. I would suggest looking at options soon, good nurseries and childminders get booked up well in advance!

Sorry I haven’t been very active on here, good news is my house move and exam are now all complete!

My husband said he wanted to treat me after the exam and asked what I would like and all I could think of was a private scan to see our little one!

I measured 9w3d which is a little further along than I thought with EDD 12th Jan :)

Was so lovely to see baby moving around!

Hope this is reassuring for anyone who hasn’t had much nausea - I’ve been lucky and had no vomiting and only mild nausea when I’m not doing anything! I’ve been keeping busy so have been distracted from it.

Sorry to those who are suffering nausea/vomiting though as it must be awful!

Thanks for the info @Smashycup I’ll look into that, I didn’t know. That’s a day for ‘free’ so it’ll definitely help xx

@WaitingforToto I am a feeelancer and yes the money is rubbish it worked out about £500 a month for 9 months. I'm lucky my partner earns enough but work has been nigh impossible except when my daughter was pre walking so 5 -9 months I worked and got a nanny that yes cost an arm and a leg. I missed my girls first summer and as a toddler she is clingy so I am setting up a new business online that I can work around my kids. Also I have loved the baby swimming class and I'm considering teaching that. I can go back at some point to my career. You just might need a career hiatus or develop something that is home based or child friendly.

It really is so difficult isn’t it @ehealy it’s impossible to have it all I guess. I am a fashion buyer but I’m trying to think of something I can do from home or a new idea which could work in my new life but I’m struggling to come up with any ideas. I’m sure it won’t be as bad as I think it will, everyone seems to get by one way or another

@WaitingforToto tell me about it. I get more than the minimum from my employer (12 weeks at half pay after the initial 6 weeks, then it drops to £140 a week) so I am trying to think of ways to save money now. I'm switching energy suppliers at the weekend. We moved just over a year ago and our huge mortgage comes to the end of it's fixed term in September so I'll be getting all my ducks in a row before baby arrives and hopefully sorting out a deal with cheaper monthly repayments or I may even see about doing a few months interest only or taking a mortgage break, just to give me more time with the baby and us a bit more breathing space when the money really drops off. I've a beautiful wooden dressing table but it doesn't really have a proper home in our new house so I'm thinking it's ebay.

@Babydreaming thank you so much for putting your scan picture up, it's beautiful and made me cry. Congratulations. What a lovely present from you husband.

kathrynalicem, that's awful. Can one of you (preferably him) move out for a bit, so you can both consider what you want to do in the long run? You may or may not want to try and work things out with him and a bit of calm space with supportive family or friends would surely be helpful. For what it's worth, I'm raging on your behalf. Feel free to come on here and vent.
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Waitingfortoto*, I believe that you and/or your partner can save into the childcare scheme before you start using it, so if you start saving early, you can make the most of your tax free monthly allowance. In my area at least, childminders are less expensive than nurseries. You might also be able to organise a nanny share. But yes, it is expensive. For us, the age gap between baby 1 and baby 2 (fingers crossed) is based entirely on when no.1 will be able to get funded childcare because we can't afford to pay for two at the same time.

Awww - so lovely @Babydreaming xx

My maternity leave is quite decent (work in the nhs) I get 8 weeks full pay, 18 weeks half pay+ smp then 13 weeks just smp then 13 weeks unpaid.
However I’m only taking the first 26 weeks then hopefully will add on another 2-4 weeks through annual leave.

Childcare is so expensive just hoping my family will give me a hand, don’t live far from them.
@Babydreaming that’s beautiful! Very healthy little one! Makes me excited and I haven’t got a date for scan yet!