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September 2018.... still trying to believe it's a BFP

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Jfw82 · 26/12/2017 20:47

Starting a thread with cautious optimism, BFP on Christmas Eve and again today (on ic, first response and CB digital Blush) If all goes well EDD 3 Sept. this will be DC2 for us, DS is 13 months and completely shocked as this was first month TTC when last time took 6 months. Hope to have some company here soon Grin

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Namechangedtoscream · 03/01/2018 16:12

That's reassuring mona

I'm exhausted and my nausea has just hit. It's going to be an interesting journey home tonight!

MonaTheMoaner · 03/01/2018 16:35

Are you going to wait as long as possible to tell her CuppaSarah?

SantaBaby1 · 03/01/2018 16:37

Why will your mum be furious CuppaSarah? Apologies if I’ve missed the reason 🙈

CuppaSarah · 03/01/2018 17:50

Hoping to tell her after the 20 week scan. She has mh issues and me being pregnant really sets her off. She stopped talking to me after ds was born for 7 months, as by not allowing her to the scans or birth made me an embarrassment to her. But my hospital only allows one person to scans and obviously it's going to be dh.

It's not her fault, she just struggles sometimes. My autistic sister also manipulates my mum when she's unwell as she gets scared the baby will take away mums attention. But with a big pre eclampsia risk I don't need stress. They don't need the stress either. It sounds like a nightmare situation, but I grew up with them, making allowances for their conditions is the norm for me. It's not like they like feeling that way.

LostMyBaubles · 03/01/2018 17:55

Cuppa Flowers doesn't sound easy but do what's right for YOU

Fia256 · 03/01/2018 18:06

Ahh @CuppaSarah that doesn't sound the easiest bless you!

I keep feeling absolutely exhausted by around 4pm each evening for a few hours. Literally fighting with my eyes to stay awake it's horrible!

LostMyBaubles · 03/01/2018 18:11

Fia I feel like that all day.
Manage to potter a little in between then I'm knackered

Looking into breastfeeding support.

I really struggle and give up.

Any advice

SantaBaby1 · 03/01/2018 18:17

CuppaSarah that sounds difficult but it sounds like you’ve got a handle on it all Flowers

bitzy12 · 03/01/2018 18:19

CuppaSarah - my son is 8 and autistic too, I don't know how he's going to deal with it. If it's a boy he will be happy, if it's a girl....I dread to think :-/ xx

Paranormalbouquet · 03/01/2018 18:21

Cuppa that sounds very stressful. Fia I’m exhausted as well. Absolutely shattered by lunchtime today, fatigue is kicking in it seems!

Lost I breastfed DD for a long time. What is it you struggle with generally?

LostMyBaubles · 03/01/2018 18:33

Para latch, and supply I think.

I want to exclusively bf this time round.

Getting baby into the right position etc

With the youngest I was in hosp at 32 weeks and did go to a breast feeding class there. All the other mums had babies lol so we're practicing

LostMyBaubles · 03/01/2018 18:33

Ps thank you Flowers

Fia256 · 03/01/2018 18:40

I'm planning on exclusively bf this time too. I bf both mine but only for the first few weeks. DS I think I did until about 8 weeks then I just decided to switch to formula, and dd I only lasted a few weeks as she cluster fed pretty much all day and I struggled to do anything with a toddler running around! This time though I'll be seeing it through hopefully, dc3, can't go wasting money on formula this time Grin

CuppaSarah · 03/01/2018 18:41

Thanks everyone. It's really not that bad, it's the norm for me and I've got a much better handle on it third time round!

Lost see if there's a La Leche League near you. You can go before the baby is born for advice and after for practical support. They're used to shattered new mums with tiny babies and are so supportive. When I went a poor mum came in her pyjamas and dressing gown, just days post birth, who was really struggling. They spent the entire session with one of them helping her out.

bitzy I hope your son takes to the change well, it's so upsetting knowing you have no choice but to upset their normality. Flowers

LostMyBaubles · 03/01/2018 18:44

Fia youngest will be in school full time by then so will be a little easier to do!

Cuppa thank you will look into now. They did come up when I googled bf support

Thank you

muffyduffster · 03/01/2018 18:48

Evening all
Just had some light pinky-red bleeding, could it be implantation bleeding? I'm hoping it's nothing bad, not sure there's much they could do at 4w+0 anyway Sad

LostMyBaubles · 03/01/2018 18:49

Bitzy sorry missed your post

Is your ds verbal? How's his understanding?

I'd prob start talking about baby once you get a bit of a bump and do it daily. Once a day for a few weeks then twice etc just to get him used to the idea so won't be so hard once baby is here. Maybe show him some of his own baby pics and tell him how amazing he will be when he gets a new baby etc

My eldest has developmental delay, they thought he was on the spectrum for a long time. In fact his paed said he was and drew a pic of where she thought he was on the spectrum. Then denied it.

During one of his meltdowns he lashed out at me and got bump.

So I took him to a safe space where he could lash out without hurting himself or anyone else

Fia256 · 03/01/2018 18:56

@LostMyBaubles yes both mine are now in school so I think I'll be able to push through the cluster feeding stage this time!

@muffyduffster if it's only light and not bright red, try not to worry too much. Light bleeding is actually more common than people think. Have you taken anymore tests? When I had my chemicals the tests were pretty much negative again before spotting and bleeding started

muffyduffster · 03/01/2018 18:58

@Fia256 thank you!
I took a digital this morning and it said 1-2 (I think I conceived on weds two weeks ago so that makes sense)... will maybe test again early next week.

Paranormalbouquet · 03/01/2018 19:04

Lost I used to find getting the right latch so frustrating. Some midwife kept telling me to get DD to open her mouth wider but how are you meant to do that!!

So I ended up on google and found reference to “flipple” techniques which really helped me. I found I had to experiment with positions to make us comfortable and relied very heavily on pillows and cushions in the early days! Cluster feeding is really hard but it passes and gets generally easier. I agree re la leche league or local feeding groups.

I had an unusually easy baby though. She got the hang of feeding within about 3 days and slept 6 hours at night from 2 weeks, 10 hours from 6 weeks. I have a feeling I’ll be punished with a colicky one next time!

CuppaSarah · 03/01/2018 19:17

muffy when was af due? If in the last few days it's almost certainly breakthrough bleeding. Which is really common, I had it the day af was due. When I lost my last pregnancy the bleeding started very quickly and it was painful. More so than normal period cramps.

muffyduffster · 03/01/2018 19:25

Thanks sarah, it was due on Monday. Hopefully nothing to worry about then Smile no pain, just a few twinges that feel almost like I'm ovulating, but I've had those since I conceived. Hoping it's going to hang in there for me!

LostMyBaubles · 03/01/2018 20:12

Muffy fx everything is ok for you and bean

Para!!! I just googled it and watched a YouTube vid. Now I was doing the first bit but not the lip back out thing. The lips would stay in hence the poor suck!

What are your tips for supply probs?

Thank you 😀

Paranormalbouquet · 03/01/2018 20:33

I had the opposite to supply problems (also a problem as was drowning my poor baby and leaking constantly). The first few weeks are when you establish supply- so the main thing is to get the latch as good as possible and to feed as much as possible in the beginning. Switch feeding and breast compressions can help too. The infant feeding board here is really helpful.

CheekyPearl · 03/01/2018 20:38

@muffyduffster I had one day of spotting around when af was due and around 6 days before my BFP. Was told it is normal. Have also been having cramps since conception like you.