July 2018 babies - part 2 :)

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I had bloods taken too but they were checking for infectious diseases and I've had the results back for them. I've text my community midwife to see what she thinks to it all.

My notes say 'NT screening not possible. A quadruple test is required. Patient referred to AMC.'

Oh no @lifechangesforeverinjuly that’s not good, my friend is leeds area, well Wakefield, and she was able to get scanned at various places, we were trying to go to pinderfields as we are not leeds based and it’s easier for us to get to but no joy there this week so we are going to dewsbury which is closer to her, could they not scan elsewhere? That’s bizarre & not good you have to wait that long, we wouldn’t be able to wait that long & would request it sooner

@Minster2012 funny - I'm in Birstall so my hospital would have been Dewsbury but I refused and asked to go to Leeds!

Not heard anything back yet but will let you know

@lifechangesforeverinjuly small world! we’re having a home birth and the midwife is brilliant as it’s the same lady that delivered my friends last child 6 years ago, she’s fab! She had a home birth then and all went smoothly and hospitals aren’t the greatest with surrogacy births for not letting loads of ppl in the room, and that way she can be near her kids too and everyone can be comfortable. Can I ask why you refused dewsbury out of interest? Like I said we’re just going there for this scan! Worried now that baby won’t be lying on the right position 😱😱

A mixture of things really @Minster2012 - I don't particularly like Dewsbury as a place so didn't want it on the birth certificate 🙈 and I was also born at the LGI so I thought that would be nice! I also work in Leeds just opposite the LGI so handy for appointments and it's easier to drive to!

Home birth sounds lovely ☺️

Well that’s fair enough @lifechangesforeverinjuly, especially if you work opposite LGI, very handy!! All my oncology is at jimmy’s so I spend half my life going backwards and forwards there anyway, a bloody 3.5 hour round trip now I’ve had surgery twice at LGI so I’m an old hand at Leeds hospitals!! Never been to dewsbury though! Really nice to give birth where you were born though

Hello all - could I make myself a late addition to the group? EDD is 19 July, so I am currently 13 + 4. I've been lurking for a while, but have been a bit nervous about this pregnancy, as it took a long time to happen! Scan all looked good the other day though so am feeling a bit more relaxed now. This is DC2 for us.

I am hopeful that I am getting into trimester 2 now as the bone crushing exhaustion that I've had since about week 4 finally seems to be lifting....

Sorry to hear some of you are having issues with scans, hope you get positive news soon. We didn't have the NT test but I think we would have struggled to get the measurement as baby was curled up fast asleep on their front and barely moved the whole time!

Hi @raspberryblonde 👋 welcome! I’m also 13+4, and totally agree re the exhaustion. I thought i was over it, but I’ve had almost 3 hours naps for the past two nights :( it’s awful!

Still running on fumes here in the 2nd trimester I've never had problems with sleep, intact I can pretty much sleep for 12 solid hours if I had the time!

Now, my wake up time is 4am 😭 as well as being off and on throughout the night. It's driving me insane but people just tell me I should get used to it and it's only going to be worse when bubba arrives (which doesn't help in the slightest!).

Could I please join as another late addition? EDD 30th July with second child. Had held off joining after previous loss at 16 weeks last year with T21 pregnancy but just got all clear on harmony this morning! Currently overseas (have been for last 10 years) but will be returning to UK for 1-2 years after this baby is born.

Fingers crossed everyone gets good news from NT scans soon. I have mine booked on Thursday.

That's sounds rubbish lifechanges, 4am is no fun as awake up time, especially at this time of year. I think at least when baby arrives you can rationalise the tiredness a bit although can't say I'm much looking forward to doing a school run on the amount of sleep I got when DD1 was tiny.

Welcome pukekos. Sorry to hear about your previous loss, that must've had been difficult. That's great that everything is looking good this time.

So my midwife text me back to say 'Leeds need to do the blood test' helpful.

Rang Leeds and they said I need to go to a drop in clinic from week 15 onwards so guess I'll go plonk myself there next Thursday and hope that someone knows what they're doing 🙈

Welcome @pukekos - glad to hear everything is going well ❤️ Sorry to hear about your previous loss x

Meant to have my 16week midwife appointment today, 20 minutes before the appointment the drs phone and say clinic is cancelled as there is no midwife to cover it. Really rather annoyed, I haven't been feeling great so wanted the reassurance and had questions. Now I have to wait for a community midwife to ring and arrange a visit.
Due to the midwife who did my booking in appointment being all over the place at no point has my urine been tested and I have only had a blood test as I took myself to the path lab (midwife refused to try apparently I have awful veins).
Sorry for the rant.

I'm pleased to share that sickness has left me this week so I hope that it does for others when you reach this point.

Hi everyone! I've finally let myself join in with conversations about antenatal stuff now being 13+1 and seeing a small kiwi sized human shaped bouncing growing foetus last week! Quite incredible how much it was moving but not feeling a single thing...!!

We've started telling people now and find it lovely to feel people's excitement for us, although I am not too excited yet - is anyone else the same? It feels too far off/not real to me. I haven't suffered from any MS, just so so so tired. I've rehit the gym as of today and will continue to go for as long as I can, but this past 6 weeks the idea of exercising was just too much!!

The anomaly scan is booked in for early March, but I kind of want to have a reassurance scan in a month or so as it feels a long time to go without seeing/checking with the lovely plus that might be able to reveal the sex at that stage and actually start to get to know my own child... has anyone booked in for this/planning on doing the same?

Judging by the length of this post, I am clearly more excited to talk about it than I let on ... but no one else I know is pregnant / had children so I am a bit adrift for answers :)

Wishing everyone a lovely easy pregnancy from here on out :)

Oh no @lifechangesforeverinjuly & @wingingitdaily that’s really bad, I hope you get it sorted, keep pushing I say, the Brits as a nation are too nice & you need to be firm & push

Sorry posted too soon!

Hi to beardofzeus my friend has booked us a private scan at 16 weeks after our midwife appointment so we don’t have to make 2 trips over to her (my best friend is our surrogate) & we are finding out the sex of the baby. I’m more bothered than DH, like others here I would like to say ‘he/she’ instead of it or ‘ the baby’ and because it’s not me carrying the child I can’t feel the sickness, see the bump and so am quite disconnected from our own child so another scan & finding out helps to feel connected & be part of it more.

DH always says ‘he’ though when referring to the baby so he would just do that until the birth (a family of mainly boys!). I don’t know as I want to tell ppl the sex though as I REALLY hate the overtly “boysy” and VERY over the top “girlie” clothes that we would no doubt be bought....I prefer the neutrals, the whites, mint, yellow, creams, mixed colours /patterns of non genders!! But don’t know if DH would keep it to himself, it’s been hard enough not telling ppl about the IVF/Surrogacy & Baby!!

minster I agree think we are to nice most of the time but I find it so hard to complain I end up apologising.

With Dd we didn't find out until she was born and it was a lovely surprise however this time I'm itching to find out. Partly because I have a ridiculous amount of girls clothes to get rid of if it's a boy.

Ha ha! wingingit if a girl she can be all the rage & “gender neutral!” I would def put a girl in lots of boy stuff, it’s just that I couldn’t bear it if loads of ppl know & buy loads of pink girlie stuff if a girl & I really dislike that as a personal taste thing! I think babies look gorgeous in neutral or patterned rompers/gros suits until at least 6 months but maybe that’s coz i’ve yearned for a baby I want a baby to look like a baby for as long as possible!!!

minster oh I get the plain baby grow thing I've bought some brand new white ones as there is nothing cuter. We were given things I didn't like for dd, I either returned them if I thought I could get away with it or put her in it took a photo to show the person who bought it and then gave it to charity. Does that make me a bad person?

@Fancypants01 My yarn arrived! Safe to say I think I'll have plenty in my stash once the blanket's finished!

I went for my consultant's appointment today too. They're happy that my asthma's properly under control, so no need to go back unless my breathing gets bad (hooray!) but I'm just to keep an eye on any coughs and go to the GP early because I'll likely be very poorly if I get a chest infection.

I heard karatebaby's heartbeat today!! It still seems so strange though, and I feel weirdly disconnected. I hope that once I start showing, it will help me to feel more in touch with the baby. And I think that maybe starting to crochet the blanket will probably have an effect too. Mr Karate is already regularly talking to my tummy, and strangely it seems like he's closer to it than I am!

Hi all,

Agree re the "girly" clothes @minster.

I'm retaining some anxiety about telling people, don't know quite why, think I'm scared to tempt fate! Have told about half my friends, close family only, a few colleagues. Told some close friends today, who were super-excited, and for some reason I felt anxious afterwards...

Welcome and Congratulations to the newbies!

@heregoeseverything I feel the same re telling people, don’t know why but still very anxious that it’s still early days. DH is desperate to shout it from the rooftops and instead I’ve asked that we slowly tell people as and when we see them, so very few know at the mo. Very hesitantly told one person at work last week but think I’m going to have to spill the beans in the next couple of weeks as disguising the expanding waistline is becoming pretty tedious with only a few tops baggy enough to hide behind. 16 weeks tomorrow and can’t wait to hear the heartbeat on Thurs.

If any of you are looking for pregnancy books I’ve just started reading Expecting Better by Emily Oster... think Freakonomics for pregnancy. Very good read so far and has made me feel much less guilty about craving a delicious glass of red every now and again Haven’t touched alcohol since getting that BFP but feeling much more comfortable with the idea reading all the stats and info in the book.

@Heregoeseverything @InstructionsRequired I'm the same about telling people - it's just slowly slowly at the moment. I've been worrying about hiding my stomach at work (although I know there's basically nothing there - I'm just conscious about not showing anything at all!) and Mr Karate has been saying to me that I can just tell people now, but I don't really feel like I can yet. Not to mention that I've not managed to tell my brothers yet (want to tell them in person, and won't see them until the 3rd Feb - they're all coming to mine for dinner) and it seems wrong to let loads of people know before them.

Expecting Better sounds good, I may order it :)