Phew, just taken over half an hour to read everything.
Ria: leggings are cool. It's official. But if you find yourself looking at some with stirrups, say NO
Holly, sound like a nightmare. But I agree with the others who said your DH needs to wake up a bit. He needs to be a father to these boys and that means teaching them how to be good people as well as having fun with them. The boys are obviously desperate to get his attention - I woudln't be surprised if deep down that's the reason for the bed wetting, the outbursts, the generally being terribly behaved; it gets them noticed, even in a bad way. If your DH makes it clear that he won't tolerate it, but gives them loads of attention when they're good, might that help? I would have a really long chat with him, but in a few days, when the boys have gone, when everything is calm. Get him to see it not just from your point of view, but from the boys' point of view. What sort of relationship does he want with them going forward? What sort of people does he want them to be? If you prod him, gently, he might realise himself what he needs to do?
And Bump, at your DH giving you a massage... have got the oil myself, and was going to give it a go but not sure I can reach, so DH might be in for a treat too...
Hello everyone else and hope the flatness is replaced by sun and smiles tomorrow. Personally I burst into tears last night because DH drove my car and told me he was shocked by the state of it (my lack of housework extends to my car ). Cue quiverring lips, then full scale sobs for ten minutes. Luckily I saw the funny side an hour or so later, but only when DH had admitted that he had been very mean, completely unnecessarily, and that my car is absolutely beautiful both inside and out