June 2018 #3

[ClareB83]

Just restarting the thread as we're close to 1000 posts

June 2018 babies #2 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/3059704-June-2018-babies-2

@clareb83 - I’d recommend keeping two big beds if you can, it totally was a godsend for us with our DD. DH could get at least 5 hours solid sleep and I wouldn’t panic as much about him driving to work in the morning.

Baby will be sharing with her big Sis when she’s old enough, probably this time next year but for now, we have space beside our bed for the cot and we have the rocking chair already in our room.
Top tip is to keep a little basket with spare PJs for baby, nappies, wipes, and nipple cream with bottle of water in your room if not in nursery. Helps with late night changes and no traipsing all over the house looking for things.

We have a Moses basket as well but my DD1 outgrew that so fast , we only had it in the sitting room for the first 12 weeks for naps, after that she was in her cot for nap time or on top of me .

Don’t panic about having a perfect nursery - no point when you will probably change the furniture round to suit better later!

Thanks @Shutupanddance1. DH and I both like to have things planned and sorted, so we're struggling with the fact that we really don't know what will work best until they're here. I think the chaos of twin boys will blow our minds!

@Pittcuecothecookbook our nursery is in a similar state to yours don't worry, we might do a Disney theme maybe but that's about it on the white walls....possibly Easter weekend

@shutupanddance1 thanks for the tips about keeping things in the room!

How long are your dps going to have off?

He's hoping for three weeks. Although he's only entitled to two - the quirks of small companies.

We're doing SPL, with my other half having the first 13 weeks off and me until Feb, probably. He was unsure, meaning that we'll both be going back sooner but I dont know what I'm doing (first baby) and he isn't leaving me to work it out on my own. Plus, as I'm the higher earner, no real major impact in terms of money (him on SMP while I'm on full pay is better than him on full and me on SMP). We have a tiny house though so nervous about the 3 of us here a lot!

Wow 13 weeks off together sounds amazing.

We might do some SPL but not for the first six months at least (I get full pay). Financially it makes much more sense for him to be off after that but I think his company might fall apart without him and he likes his job.

You can have the SPL concurrently so my husband is having weeks 31 to 39 of my maternity pay but taking it weeks 6 - 13. Just if that helps you! But I think I know what you mean, both being off together means longer with either 1 salary or 2 salaries and childcare costs. I work in HR and it was so difficult to work out SPL!

[Weeks 1 and 2 Paternity leave, weeks 3 - 5 Annual leave]

Welcome @Bluesnail! We're the same - have a crib that we all slept in years ago from my mum (got a new mattress though for DS). Does anyone think I need a new mattress for the new one? I'm not sure.

@Pittcuecothecookbook I'm sure it's fine to sort your nursery once baby arrives. I personally wanted to get it all sorted before our first arrived but that's just me. Our spare room (also in a 2 bed but a flat not a house) was DHs mancave so we had to rearrange quite a bit of stuff and I just wanted it sorted before baby arrived.

We had a crib in our room, a cot/ changing table etc in the spare room and then I just put DS on a play mat on the floor in the sitting room - or I brought the crib in.

Completely agree with @Shutupanddance1 about having a spare bed available. It's a godsend if your DH just needs a solid night sleep. We have a single bed in the nursery which is mainly used to read stories on but will become DS's bed once this baby moves into the nursery. Hoping and praying we'll move somewhere bigger before that time comes!!

Dh is taking two weeks off and then holiday over the summer when ds will be off school.

Our nursery is just the spare room with a cot in. The plan is whoever is on night duty will be in the nursery and earplugs for the other. Not planning on bf beyond colostrum, wasn’t for me last time.

We have emptied the drawers and have began refilling with things for the baby.

Hello Ladies, looks like many of you have most thing figured out!
We have the big things like pram (bought few years ago hoping the baby will come but took some time :)), cot (given by close family) but in our home country so need to organise transportation.
We are currently renting and in process of buying own place...so hoping to buy, move and organise nursery by end of June!
Plan is though to have the cot and a small double bed in the nursery for me and the baby so DH can sleep in the main bedroom.
Depending on moving date we'll decorate and buy stuff for the nursery as we go along...

We’re in the middle of totally rearranging the entire upstairs of our house. I may need to explain some of our back story in order to make sense...

It’s a three bed house and originally I had bedroom 3 and let out bedrooms 1 & 2 to lodgers. 5 years ago dh moved into bedroom 2 as a lodger. After a while we became an item and he started sleeping in my bed, but all his belongings stayed in bedroom 2. When the lodger in bedroom 1 moved out we didn’t replace them, so that became the spare bedroom.

So for ages the biggest bedroom has been empty/used for storing junk and occasional guests, bedroom 2 has been known as dh’s dressing room and had all his stuff in and bedroom 3 as our bedroom - but only really has my stuff in. A totally weird set up for a married couple!

So, it’s all change! Bedroom 1 will be our bedroom. I’m currently working my way through all the junk that had accumulated in there and doing some major decluttering. We’re planning on sleeping in there and having baby with us, ideally in a snuzpod or similar. Bedroom 2 will be set up as the nursery. The small double bed will be replaced by a cot bed (donated by family). Dh’s belongings will finally be moved out and integrated with mine and the drawers/wardrobe in there will be used for baby’s things. Bedroom 3 will become the spare room.

BUT... we’re planning on moving house anyway, hopefully this winter. So we’re not decorating the nursery because baby might not even start sleeping in there before we move. It makes sense to declutter before the house goes on the market though, it will look better at viewings and make packing easier when we come to move. There may also be some nesting instinct driving this. Meanwhile dh is being very tolerant of my demands that we tidy every room of the house simultaneously!

I'm glad it isn't just us who are doing some room swapping and major decluttering! We are currently in a 2 bedroom house, and sleep in the smaller bedroom and the larger one is used for "storage"-all the crap we have that didn't have anywhere else to go . So we are in the process of clearing it all out and getting furniture moved, stuff sent to charity shops etc. We are going to remain in the small room once baby is here and he will sleep in the moses basket next to the bed. Once he gets big enough, he will stay in the small room and we will go next door into the larger room.
Once larger room has been decluttered, it will be a fab place for storing the cot and play things until baby is big enough to sleep in his own room. That's the plan anyway!

@SparklesandBubbles My health visitor and my Dr Sister in law say you should get new mattresses with every baby for cots/moses baskets and prams. I'm getting a new one for the cot not sure about the other two as ds hated them both and so his new mattresses were barely used.

We are attempting to clear out the "junk" room as it's going to be the baby's. As with ds, the baby will sleep with us for the first six/seven months but I want to have a clear out/find homes for everything/deal with the toy mountain before they arrive.

Had my first consultant appointment on Friday which went better than I hoped for. Agreed that I could have an elcs if that's what I wanted, said they would get me in at 32 weeks so I could have first pick of days/times as it's usually not booked until week 36 and will get the midwife to go over what happens with me so if there are any problematic areas they can adapt the plan. I'm also going to get extra growth scans as they do personalised charts now and ds was a tiny dainty baby and I look like I should produce baby rugby players so more chance to see baby and hopefully get my father to one as it's looking increasingly likely he won't be here in June.

@Dinosauratemydaffodils - delighted that you are getting your ELCS, I’m sorry about your dad though, must be very tough for you.

Yes to getting a new cot and Moses basket mattress. We took out our DD Moses basket and it was last used 16 months ago and the mattress was yellow. The Ikea mattress for the cot we had was stained as well were the slats met it

Hey ladies,
Just a quick update, I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl today @ 16:19 weighing 1lb 7oz. Thanks for all the support. She is in NICU doing very well .

Oh mummyloves- sending so much love to your precious little bundle. Well done on holding on to her for long enough for those vital steroids to work, you should be so proud. I know the coming weeks will be hard but we're all here for you. Do you feel comfortable sharing her name? (Don't worry if not!) thinking of you all though- please keep us updated!!

Congratulations @Mummyloves09 on your beautiful little girl. I know it's going to be a long stay in NICU but she'll get strong there and the hospital will take good care of you all.

Thanks ladies she is in NICU. But when she was on reduced air as she didn't need that much help we have a long journey ahead however she has got off to a great start. She was moving from the moment she was born.

@Mummyloves09 Congratulations. NICUs are amazing places, when Ds (not premature just ill) was in there were several 24/25 weekers and the transformation from these little babies to 3 year boisterous 3 year olds has been amazing. Please keep us updated if you feel up to it.

Also make time for yourself being a NICU mum can be hard going mentally.

Congrats on your beautiful baby girl mummyloves hope she continues to do well xx

Congrats Mummyloves, all the best to your girl and yourself!

@Mummyloves09 congratulations! Sending lots of love to you and your dd x

@mummyloves09 congratulations on the arrival of your gorgeous girly

Congratulations Mummyloves