June 2018 #3

[ClareB83]

Just restarting the thread as we're close to 1000 posts

June 2018 babies #2 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/3059704-June-2018-babies-2

I completely agree that no one should do anything they aren't comfortable with and no one else can tell someone what they should feel comfortable with, so sorry if my response came across dismissive. I just meant that whether it was a man or women, it wouldn't bother me personally.

@heregoes it's a weird one isn't it as some people don't mind about these things. I had a male sonographer early on and found it more difficult getting my mini baby bump out in front of him than a female. He was brilliant and more gentle actually but I'm uncomfortable enough around female midwives let alone male. It's my issue but I can't see how I can change it

Sure, and I'm genuinely interested in other people's views so thanks for responding, @Intel!

@Northern Yes as I say I don't currently have any embarrassing symptoms (except wind, which need not be discussed!!) but imagining discussing eg CM with anyone makes me blush, never mind someone who doesn't have any of his own, I'd be mortified! Maybe I'm just a bit prudish/easily embarrassed by these things!

@heregoeseverything I’m in a Muslim majority country (but I’m a catholic ) and I have a male OB, he’s very professional and I’ve never felt uncomfortable as he’s excellent at his job - plus he looks like Santa . Actually all the male OBs here are lovely, I had a bigger problem last time with the female OB I was under who wanted to ‘control’ my pregnancy weight gain down to the week

That being said, all the workers on the maternity floor are female so maybe that’s something they do here?

I feel like you probably get more empathy sometimes from a male GP as they don’t brush off your symptoms - and are more likely to give you pain medication for any gynae issues you might have, my friend has endometriosis and she stated that this was the case in the majority of appointments she’s been through.

Ironically (?) I had a scan this evening with a very nice male sonographer who put me totally at ease!

Needed the reassurance, so relieved to see her alive and kicking! Gender not in doubt, fanjo sighted

When i was in labour with my son, the midwife that was dealing with me finished her shift and then a male midwife came in to take over, i wasnt bothered at all, he delivered my baby and was absolutely lovely, i actually couldnt have asked for a better midwife x

Thanks for the comments re the pregnancy pillow, I’m going to pick one up tomorrow and hope it helps me get a bit more comfortable at night.

I wouldn’t feel uncomfortable with a male midwife, I’ve had a male gynaecologist in the past and that was fine. However I do think if you’re not comfortable that’s fine and your feelings need to be taken seriously.

It seems like ages between my last appointment and the next which is the 19th of Feb. Then in mid March I have about 12
appointments all in one week! Community midwife, hospital midwife, growth scan and glucose test. I have less than 18 weeks until I’m 40 weeks and only 13 weeks until I go on maternity leave, time seems to be moving exceptionally fast!

Congrats on the scan @Heregoes

Blimey @ElizabethLemon thats a lot in a week, I don't think I have that many left in total! I'm not far behind you, only 15 and a half weeks left of work, one of which is a week annual leave and then we've got Easter and two May bank holidays in there too

Did anyone suffer with a sore arm after the whooping cough jab, its been over a week and mines still very sore

Yes, my arm was so sore! And I had flu jab in the other one too so both felt awful, haha. Fine now though, 9 days later

I'm 9 days later and it's still really sore my flu one was fine though oddly

Think I remember my first whooping cough injection hurting for at least a week after - I didn’t mind tho!

I’ve a scan on Saturday and can’t wait to see our wee baby to confirm it’s a girl! Got a buggy board this week for older DD so that’s off the list .

Now need to look towards getting a new car seat with isofix for baby..

Hello everyone. I haven't been on for a while so jut thought I'd check in. Hope you're all really well.

@Bojangles33 I've been having pelvic pain for a couple of weeks now (I'm 21+3). It's mainly on the inside sides of pelvis/groin, sort of where the leg joint is. Nothing debilitating but if I've been sitting for a while or getting out of bed it takes me a little while to loosen up and feel like I can walk properly without looking too much like I've got a limp. Hope you're ok.

@SylvesterTheCat yes that sounds very similar! I have an hours commute to work and it's definitely worse after the drive. Nothing too debilitating though as you say so hoping I can stop it getting any worse.

The heartburn on the other hand....

Hey everyone :) I'm just wondering how far you're all travelling to get to your hospital/birth centre when you go into labour? My birth centre is an hour away (hospital is 45 minutes but in the next county and involves a ferry ride) so I'm slightly concerned about when to leave, labouring in the car, etc. Does anyone have a similar distance to travel, or done it before with a previous birth and have any tips?

Obviously there is plenty of time to work it out! But it's definitely on my mind...

@honeybee92 I'll be similar if I don't get my ELCS, the MLU is 45mins out of traffic and if you get transferred from that one we will end up over an hour from home. Maternity services in this area are awful. Im planning we will just go up early and wait up there nearby if they try to send us away. The MLU is also tiny so if it's full I have no idea what we will do, drive on to the next nearest hospital I guess!

@Northernbeachbum I think I'll be about the same! The transfer to hospital (the third option) is another 25 mins from the birth centre so we'll be some distance from home in the end. Not to mention my partner doesn't have a driving license! So we'll have to squeeze in some driving lessons and whack the L plates on....

Perhaps getting there early and finding somewhere to wait will overall be less stressful than rushing there towards the end. My birth centre is also small with only two rooms, however apparently at nighttime they close and only go in if they get a call, so perhaps it's not as busy as I think.

I'm a city girl, born and bred and these distances to hospital totally freak me out. Even if I went by bus I'd be there in 30 minutes and by car it's 15 minutes. Another 15 minutes and we could reach a couple more hospitals with birth centres and wards.

I freak out if there's no 24 hour supermarket within a few miles! God knows how I'll move out to the suburbs in a few years as planned! I'll hyperventilate the first time I realise that there is a last bus/train!

@ClareB83 I used to live in a city and now live in a beautiful village by the sea - the area definitely makes up for lack of supermarkets, takeaways and (now I realise) hospitals! Find a place you love and you'll soon forget about late buses and 24-hour shops

Haha we do have a hospital closer but it's reputation is so horrific I'm not considering it as an option. Not one person has had anything positive to say and many have been to the mlu for a second and said much more positive things. It's got a bad reputation for intervention because they want you back out the door asap and to top it all a nurse friend suggested we go elsewhere......that said enough for me to discount it as an option

Am spoilt here hospital 20-25 minutes up a main dual carriageway for me. Depends on baby number if it is your first usually you will have plenty of time but it does vary I would agree with maybe going early walking round and round and up and down stairs when you get there x

I think I’ve 20 minutes without traffic, about 30 minutes with traffic. I’m going to attempt a VBAC however after doing my research I’m not sure if it’s the best thing for me - long conversation needed tomorrow with my Dr I think!

We live in quite a quiet area, near countryside but actually only 10 minutes from the local hospital! So that's quite handy.

We're city based so nearest hospital is about 10mins but our chosen one with a bigger Birthing Centre is about 20mins or could be 45mins in rush hour!! That said for first baby we had plenty of time to get there as waters had broken but no contractions so had to be induced. Thinking this time it may possibly be a little faster!!

30 mins drive for me

@HoneyBee92 I do love the sea, but I grew up in a seaside town. My mum lives in the suburbs now - 10 minute walk from the beach but still hospitals and supermarkets nearby, public transport is rubbish but I drive and don't drink as much as I did in my 20s - so I'd move there if the commute to work wouldn't be horrific. I just need global warming to hurry up and bring the beach closer to London! 😜