June 2018 #3

[ClareB83]

Just restarting the thread as we're close to 1000 posts

June 2018 babies #2 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/3059704-June-2018-babies-2

@ClareB83 Yes, being totally honest and for reasons similar to yours I had a slight preference for a girl (I feel a bit ashamed of that as I really don't believe in stereotypes and also feel very lucky to be pregnant at all, but I think it is ingrained from childhood experience). I mean obviously I would absolutely adore any little boy that might come along. In fact the sonographer at my 12 week scan rather bizarrely decided to guess (I really couldn't see anything!) and told us she was 75% sure it was a boy. That was before I got the blood test results. And I just felt so excited and relieved that it seemed to be a healthy boy that I skipped out of the hospital. It was later that day I found out that it was in fact a girl!

So I don't think I could say I would have been disappointed with a boy but more that I felt a girl would be a cherry on top. I didn't admit this to anyone but I think my DH just knew. In any case, I wanted to be fully on board and bonded with any little boy long before he arrived so I could welcome him with 100% excitement and warmth and not even 0.0001% "Oh!".

@Cookie1831 Do you or your DP have a preference?

I was equally mystified by my reaction @Heregoeseverything as I don't believe in all the stereotype nonsense either really. And actually when I volunteered working with children I always ended up working with the boys. But I was really glad to sort it out in my head long before the boys get here.

Especially as people say things like 'well you'll have to have another one then to get a girl'.

Me and DP both have a preference, they're just the opposite to each other I'd love a boy

I can't wait to find out the sex! 20 week scan is next Friday, I've just about managed to stop myself booking a private scan, we're trying to move house so need to save the pennies which I'm terrible at! It feels like an eternity since the twelve week scan...

heregoes I have 2 boys already obviously any healthy baby will be amazing but I can’t help but have a bit of a longing for a girl because I haven’t experienced it as a mum but the boys are so good and the novelty of 3 boys would be cute but I crave buying patterned tights

Although if people say to me about hopefully this is a girl I get annoyed on behalf of the baby and all defensive because it probably is another boy, I am just a bit crazy I think

@Cookie1831 You are an old hand at this so I defer to your experience (!) but personally in your situation I would definitely find out. In fact, for me it's the very definition of the situation where I would most want to find out.

First to shut off the "Ooh it could be a girl" earworm in your own mind long before the little person arrives for the reasons above, and secondly to aggressively shut down the no doubt constant "Hope it's a girl" comments at an early stage. I personally wouldn't want to be dealing with "Aw, shame!" after the birth of my beautiful boy and can see myself being enraged to the point of saying something I might regret to those who dared, fuelled by hormones!

People are such twats!!

@ClareB83 How do you respond to those people? Makes me cross just thinking about it!! It's also so stupid when people suggest you "try for" a girl or a boy, do they know how these things work?

@cookie at least there are loads of cool patterned leggings for boys now

@sleepy we caved and had an extra scan but didn't find out, I almost asked to though but the sonographer asked us before hand so was very careful with the 4d view

@heregoes I'm sure your little girl will be awesome

I just make a noncommittal noise (because it's generally family who say it).

However, I have already started putting people in their place who make assumptions about my children because they're boys. Eg talking to MIL about how the cat will cope with the babies; I said I had a cat from age 2 and was taught to treat it nicely and she says yes but they'll be boys. "It's in their nature." I told her I wasn't going to brand my children animal abusers purely on the basis of their sex. Outrageous. Especially when her own son would never have done anything like that as a boy or a man.

Oh this sort of gender stuff winds me up too - ‘girls are like this, boys are like that’, it’s all bobbins. My son is exactly like I was at his age!

Me too... the people who argue that differences are totally innate are the same people stamping characteristics on babies of both sexes from the moment they open their eyes! I have a friend who gives away any pink clothes people buy for her daughter which I don't plan on doing but at the same time I really do hope people will take it easy on the princessification and if they don't I will need to step in!

A friend who is also pregnant is finding out so she can get excited about "fun baking days" if it's a girl or "muddy walks" if it's a boy

FFS.

Ditto what Clare said

I actually had an argument with my chiropractor about how boys and girls aren't innately that different and it's conditioning. He was dead set that they're totally different. If we're having a girl I'm going to be very strict about sensible clothes and proper toys only. None of relatives have tried to dress my son up as a prince or give him a dolly to play with so same applies. If either of them wants to wear princess dresses or action hero costumes when they're old enough to choose for themselves that's fine, regardless of sex.

Hi ladies, can I join? I'm 18 weeks with my second, another little boy. (DS1 will be 2 next month) I had awful nausea and food aversions in the first trimester but I'm feeling much better now.

I'm an expat in the Middle East so things run a bit differently here. I saw my OB every 2 weeks in the first trimester and now it's every 4 weeks, so I've been lucky enough to see my little boy a lot already.

I had a great water birth with my first (same OB) and I would like to go the same route again. DS was 10lb 3oz and this one is already measuring quite big so I am steeling myself!

Yup I had the same thoughts, but held my tongue.

Must be fantastic to see him so regularly *primeravez!

Welcome @PrimeraVez - gosh that's even more often than I see the twins!

Thanks ladies! Yes, it's been great and it's also nice to have the continuity of care. I see the same doctor for all of my checkups and she'll be the one who delivers the baby as well, regardless of time or day.

Am struggling a bit at work today - I want to cross my legs at my desk but there's a bump in the way!

@PrimeraVera - I’m an expat in the Middle East as well Lovely to have so many check ups and I’ve seen our baby grow from a tiny dot into a well, baby looking baby!

We are at 18 weeks and had a scan last week - we think we are having another girl. OB said he wanted to have another look at anomaly scan just to be sure! We didn’t care either way - delighted DD will have a lil sis to play with and that me and DH have enough clothes for said DD2.. if it turns out to be a boy (unlikely tho) - we’d still be over the moon.

Alls good but feel like I’m stuck with my maternity clothes already! I’m relenting and not buying any more for just 21 weeks

Hey ladies,
I hope you are all well.
Welcome newcomers nice to see new additions.
How is everyone feeling?
I have had alot of lower tummy pain and discomfort at night.
Baby is kicking more frequently now which is nice.

First baby, 18+6 weeks, feeling what I think is movement now, but still unsure as not 'kicks' as I assume they'll feel in a few weeks!

I'm having to reduce plans on weeknights and weekends as feeling v tired quickly now.

Started yoga at home today and trying to swim on a weekend when the public pool is open.

Scheduled NCT classes and booked a "babymoon" (hate that word) to Marrakech beginning of March. Looking forward to relaxing by the pool and found a good spa with a pregnancy package as felt annoyed about missing out on a hamman!

Still no bump, just look fatter and gone up a dress size. Need new bras but trying to hold off as long as possible.

How's everyone else?? X

I hope everyone had a lovely weekend! I actually woke up this morning complaining about being a bit uncomfortable in the night @Mummyloves09 ! Of course, having only a tiny bump at the moment I'm well aware that this is only the beginning, but for the first time I could really feel my ligaments pulling when I was lying in certain positions. I also have a habit of flinging myself onto my tummy and last night I woke up every time I tried! No kicks yet, although I'm sure I felt a few flutters this weekend. Difficult to get excited about when it could quite easily be my food going down!

I also need to new bras @Intelinside, I keep casually falling out of mine . But don't see the point in buying them now if I'm going to keep growing.