June 2018 #3

[ClareB83]

Just restarting the thread as we're close to 1000 posts

June 2018 babies #2 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/3059704-June-2018-babies-2

Lovely baby pics clare and welcome pjs we are close date wise I am 16+2 had midwife today all good and lovely clear heartbeat yay!

@Cookie1831 yes I did too! Heard a lovely heartbeat 😀

Are you finding out gender? I don’t think I am but am curious about the whole heart rate and gender thing, mine was 150-160 x

Heart rate won't indicate sex (not gender 😊). I'm definitely going to find out - I'm desperate for any information I can get my hands on! X

@Cookie1831 I cheated and found out sex early!

@Cookie and @PJsAndProsecco, it's great you got to hear the heartbeat, is that standard at the 16 week appointment? If not I fear I may break and end up getting a private scan to make sure everything is okay in there...

@heregoes we've not heard the heartbeat at any NHS appt so far, Inc 16 week one only at the private scan unfortunately. It's incredible when you do hear it!!

Has anyone else had a dodgy tummy? I keep reading about constipation and I seem to have the opposite situation on the go

@Northernbeachbum Oooh I was hoping for a doppler... I do love hearing the heartbeat and it's so reassuring.

Yes I had a dodgy tummy in weeks 5-9 or so...

@Cookie1831 no we aren't finding out this time! Found out with DD but we'd like the surprise this time as we're only intending on having two, so this will be our last!

@Heregoeseverything I think it varies as to whether or not you hear the heartbeat at 16 week appt. My midwife said she's pretty relaxed and happy to listen in at every appointment I have but I know some areas refuse at 16 weeks as it's not always a guarantee you'll pick it up, as baby still so small, so would cause worry.

My midwife said the hospital have said they don’t want he community midwives attempting to listen at 16 weeks as if they can’t find it then it causes undue stress extra scans etc but that she didn’t care and she was doing it anyway, I like her!!

intel I know it’s probably a pile of balls as are all the old wives tales I just think it is fun!

I had my 16 week appointment when I was 14 weeks, and the main reason for being there was the listen to the heartbeat. My midwife warned me that it could take some time to find or might be bit early, but the moment she put the scanner to my belly it picked up the heartbeat loud and clear!

I guess it depends on your area, but I was told from my first booking appointment that the 16 week scan would be when we hear the heartbeat.

My midwife offered to try and find heartbeats but came across very nervous about trying to find two, so I said not to bother as I had a scan later that day and had heard them before.

I didn't want to freak out not being able to hear them when I knew I'd hear them at the scan the same day.

It is lovely hearing them.

I had my 16 week appointment today at 17 + 5 and I heard the heartbeat 💗 so lovely x

Seems so regional as to whether you get to hear it or not!!

Ooh I really hope I get to hear the heartbeat, fingers crossed my midwife is on board!

@ClareB83 - Twins, how exciting! I've always wanted twins, and they run in my family, but no luck this time!

@Cookie @intel

I found out my baby's gender by way of blood test (incidental to checks for T-13, T-18 and T-21). My usually intelligent FIL in all seriousness suggested that the blood test should be disregarded in favour of a careful analysis of the height and shape of my bump...

@cookie I'm still undecided on finding out, initially it was a no but now I keep considering it. DP will go with whatever i think

@heregoes are you pleased you found out?

Whatever floats your boat! It is the same for me as reading a horoscope that says 's big change is on the horizon', haha. No judgement for those that do!

I have no interest in guessing nubs, bumps size, sickness levels, heart rate, swinging crystals... there's one of 2 options (for sex, not gender!) and I'm so looking forward to finding out my surprise! I don't really have a bump yet (19 weeks, size 14) so desperate for it to feel 'real'...

@Intel Yes sex, I meant sex of course, it just sounds rude !

@Northernbeachbum Yes I'm very glad I found out. I had convinced myself I knew the sex and I was wrong (I have an uncanny ability to incorrectly guess the sex of other people's pregnancies - I usually have a "feeling" and I am literally always wrong, thought I might be right with my own!) and it would have been a shock requiring adjustment at birth!

Secondly I do feel more bonded to the baby - not that the sex determines what the baby is like as a person, but it feels less like a personal connection when referring to a "he/she" or even an "it". Now we know the name the baby will have. My DH feels the same way. It all just seems more real when you can visualise and name the little person, I think that's probably the same for our families too.

When we announced the pregnancy we already knew the sex. This also had the advantage of cutting off any ill-judged comments that might have been made about other people's sex preferences (not that I care what anyone else might prefer us to have, but I would find it irritating!). See @Intelinside, this sentence definitely sounds rude!

I do feel a bit depressed when I see the threads saying, "I have to find out the gender so I can buy the pram, cot and clothes and so I can start to decorate the nursery." I hate the idea of children being so deliberately and positively stamped as pink princesses or blue superheroes from birth. So that was no part of my decision!

Heregoeseverything: being 20 weeks pregnant I think the embarrassment about the word sex should be over by now 😂 the jig is up mate, haha x

My dad's side of the family dais that my dad would want a boy (As he has only daughters and granddaughters atm) and my mother in law, who has sons and grandsons would want a girl. Royally pissed me right off. My dad and my mother in law want a healthy baby, they couldn't give two ticks whether it has a penis or a vulva ffs.

@Intelinside Stop it! I don't want anyone else to know what I've been up to!

Yes I wondered if people would think I was being ridiculous suggesting that people might be so crass as to indicate a preference but I can think of a suspect or two among my relatives...

I imagine the second baby round would be even worse in that respect, everyone has an opinion, assumes you want one of each etc, I'd rather announce the child and sex with a beaming smile and eyes that say, "Don't say a fucking word...!"

I've heard people say "why are you having a third" when they've got 'one of each'. I'd have a little sign ready to hold up that said "none of your fucking business..." if they said that to me in 2 babies time haha

I'm glad I found out it was two boys early as I needed time to get my head around two little boys. I'm the only child of a single mum and unintentionally had just pictured myself having a daughter, imagined wisdom I would pass on about being a woman etc and it was useful just to have some time to adjust, especially as we'd always said we'd stop at two.

I'm really excited to be having two boys.

And we definitely needed time to debate names.

Argghhhh I really can’t decide think I might ask them to write it down and stick in an envelope and decide later in pregnancy