May 2018 thread 3, 12 week scans and heading towards the 2nd trimester

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As the 2nd thread is full I've started this one. Hope everyone finds it!

megsmog I forgot to thank you 're sushi info :)) xx

Thank you estrele I hope your letter comes soon!

Harmony test is back, baby is low risk for everything and it's a boy. I am pretty disappointed about the sex as I was hoping it would be a girl. I know how silly that is and feel bad even saying it when other people on this thread have had to do IVF, had miscarriages, etc. I know I'll come around by the time he's here.

My sister made me a cake with a blue teddy on top to celebrate which was nice.

Yy to constipation, I'm also taking ondansetron so I guess that's not helping. Tried movicol but it tasted like drinking a big glass of sea water and I threw it straight back up again. Any recommendations for one where the salt flavour is disguised somehow?

ooop pressed too soon... all you will be hoping for is a healthy little boy.

Ar not sure what's happening with my posts! Thought I'd pressed send before finishing sentence....

Piewraith I was saying it's totally normal for parents-to-be to have a preference over what sex they have so don't feel bad. Your disappointment will be fleeting and all you will be hoping for is a healthy little boy. Little boys are great anyway.

Hey Piewraith I think it’s totally normal to feel this way and it will only be temporary, once baby arrives you’ll forget all about it! Be kind to yourself though and just let yourself feel all of the feels right now, don’t forget you’re hormonal too!

As for constipation, try lactulose!

@Alou88 Good thinking about the Easter holidays! I might see how many weeks before due date that will be for me (due end of May). Teaching is so hard when you have no energy and are feeling very hormonal isn’t it?

I always wish I worked from home but I know I’m so lazy I’d never get anything done, so I always admire those who do!

ladypug so pleased for you! And great that your dates have caught up too.

piewraith as others have said I think gender disappointment can be quite common, I certainly have friends who felt a bit gutted on finding out the sex. Obviously they are all besotted with their DC now! Maybe when you feel ready you can start thinking about names / buying some clothes to help you feel a bit more excited?

Bloody insomnia last night, had an awful nightmare then lay awake for ages. Then thanks to the clocks DD was awake at 5:50 AND DH has a migraine so has spent the morning asleep in the spare room. DD and I are watching Room on the Broom in bed eating fancy chocolate my mum gave me. Top notch parenting

Congrats ladypug so glad all was ok!

cautious do you know where you will hive birth yet? Have my scan on Friday at the JR, still can’t believe they have told me to leave an hour to find a car parking space and the JR is an hour from me, it’s basically going to be a whole day off work!

How is everyone else? I am so rubbish at reading the thread every day. I am so bloated, weighed myself yesterday and am now 1.5lb up. I’m a bit annoyed as with DS I lost weight by this time (tho hardly ate!) I have been stuffing my face but kind of hoped I’d stay the same til the 2nd trimester! Crossing fingers all will be ok at the scan I keep having dreading feeling it won’t be (for no reason, just irrational anxiety!). Also keep having panics about having to five birth again, working while pregnant, telling work colleagues etc. I don’t think I realised how much last time and the bad experiences I had have affected me.

I worked til 34 weeks last time as had loads of holiday to take. It was great as I had 2 weeks of still being able to do stuff so did lots of clearing out, washing, sorting and fun things with my parents. This time round I plan to stop at 36 weeks ish as know I could have gone 2 weeks longer and want the shortest time period possible where I will have to pay two lots of nursery fees when I go back to work before DS is 3! Also I only get statutory pay this time as haven’t been in my job long enough to get occupational pay so want to start late as possible as I feel I can so that I can then be off for longer with annual leave from next year etc. So I think I will take 2 weeks annual leave beforehand at 36+1 so start mat leave at about 38+4ish. We calculated this maternity leave is going to cost us £12k in lost earnings, someone get me some Valium!!

Motherofaboy there is a Waitrose by JR you can normally park in if you then pop in and buy something? Not ideal but better than the hours you will spend circling the car park. I have the choice between JR, stoke and MK as am in the middle of them all. Stoke is slightly easier to get to tho so for now I’m thinking that one. Anyway may be worth checking it out even if you don’t use it this time.

Mother I'm North Oxfordshire so my choices are the MLU at Chippy, MLU at the Horton or JR. My DD was born at the Horton but they only have one pool so my first choice is Chippy this time as I'd like another water birth.

@MegsMog @ladypug and @elvi1 you are right and thanks for the reassurance.

I'm worrying about the silliest things in this pregnancy. I read an article about how people stop loving their pets after dc and I cried thinking of that happening to me! As if my cats would even care, if there's food available they are happy. But I felt so sad and started worrying about it.

Who have you told about your pregnancy and when did you tell them?

I am going to tell my parents and my sister when they come to stay the weekend after next. I thought it would be better to do it face to face rather than over the phone but I am worried they will be cross with me for not telling them straight away. I quite like it being a secret as I feel that I can have my baby to myself. My mum and sister have a tendency to take over.

I haven't told work but I will probably have to to get time off for my scan. I am also a bit worried about this.

piewraith ha this takes me back to my first pregnancy. We have two cats and I used to get really upset thinking that once baby was born they wouldn't be allowed to sleep in our room and I used to look at their sweet little faces and feel so bad that their lives would soon change and they would be relegated to sleeping in the kitchen, and would they feel rejected. I was so soppy about them! As soon as my son arrived I definitely wasn't soppy over them anymore, but cats are very fickle and like you say as long as they have food, a cosy place to sleep and get the occasion stroke, I really don't think they gave a rat's a r s e about the new love of my life ha

elephantgrey I've told 3 close friends as I found keeping it a secret quite isolating. My husband told his parents but I haven't told any of my family. It's a bit sad but I don't feel like I'm that bothered about making a big announcement as because it's our second I don't think our friends/family will be that excited this time around so I might just casually drop it in to the conversation as and when I see people. What I'm really worried about is telling work. I returned to work in January having convinced them to agree to a job share and things have been really tough at work with change over in staff and being understaffed so they won't be thrilled I will be going off on maternity leave again in May. I'm sure once it's out there I will feel less guilty.

I told my parents a couple of weeks ago when I went and stayed with them for a weekend (H wasn’t there). They would have noticed my rather peculiar eating/sleeping habits anyway!

Otherwise we have only told people in an administrative capacity. H has told his head teacher because as a teacher it is harder for him to get time off for the scan otherwise. We will tell PIL and my work after the scan on Tuesday, if all is well.

H and I will also tell our siblings, but it’s not going to go any further in my family for a few weeks after my grandfather’s funeral. I don’t want people congratulating me at the funeral or associating the two - it would be awful

I've told my parents, PILs, a close friend (my DDs godmother) and my sister. Most of them were expecting it. My Dad was shocked and that's all he said so that was odd. This is my second and I was worried about people's reactions but my in laws were really pleased so that was nice.

I don't work anymore but I remember the stress of telling them last time. I told them at 12 weeks so we could coordinate my handover and be really prepared - my boss panicked thinking I'd be leaving in march (he has reports in different countries) but I worked until the end of May. As it was my replacement started 2 days per week the week before I left so my handover was rushed and I was still training when I went to lunch on my last day.

I’ve told my parents, my cousin (who’s like a sister to me), my PIL, my brother, one of my BIL (he was probing), my old antenatal NCT group, my old postnatal NCT group and my boss. Sounds like a lot but I still feel nobody knows! Haven’t told my grandparents or my other BIL/SIL (there are 4 others we haven’t told yet) and none of my friends outside NCT and none of my work colleagues know.

Between me and and DP, we've told loads of people this time round! Parents, siblings and quite a few friends. I had a miscarriage in Aug which in a funny way has made me less worried about telling people- it was really hard in the summer telling people what had happened (like my mum who was staying with us at the time who then felt the need to tell my dad etc) when they didn't know I was pregnant.

Not mentioned anything at work and won't till after scan... They're just in the process of interviewing to cover two members of staff going on maternity leave (also in teaching here) so not sure how well my news will go down!!

I've told both our families, close NCT friends and some very old school friends. The support of whom I would want if anything were to go wrong. Lots more than the first time.

Sure it's fairly obvious to most though due to the massive weight gain. I look as pregnant now as I did at 5 months with DD. Hoping it slows down into second trimester but very excited to start wearing maternity clothes again. Sucking it all in til the 12 week scan though.

Any sign of a date for your scan cautious?

In the same chefs I look the same now as I did at about 16 weeks with DS! Tho back then it was all bump and now it’s all flab 😂

A bit late but congrats @ladypug on your scan yesterday!
Hehe talking of pets, I'm still as much of a gooey schmuck with my cat now as I was before my daughter arrived, the heart just grows to accommodate the extra love I s'pose! She is just as affectionate as any dog and a sensitive soul, she overgrooms herself when stressed about changes to the house, so fx'd she deals with a second baby better than my first! A week on Wed til my scan, hurry up! I've told my parents, close friends and 2 work colleagues, can't wait to spread the news though. Not sure when to tell my daughter, have visions of her asking me daily when her sibling will come!

I’ve told immediate family today - dad already knew as told him early, told Mum and in laws and brothers/sisters/inlaws today too. Will tell my best friend end of the week (nervous due to her recent mc) then will tell others once 12 week scan is done!

Ah thanks Kirstipops