Due August '07 - Part 4

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Welcome all !!!!

Welcome to funbun and Jser!

Jem - if you do decide on a bugaboo I would so encourage you to look at ebay for bugaboo frogs. Loads of them around the £200 mark and eminently resaleable. I would have loved to go to a nursery advisory appointment. Sounds like fun. The ladies at John Lewis are excellent as well.

I am sure your big blooming bumps are normal - please ignore inquisitive florists and the like! I am glad mine is taking its time in a way because it gives me time to massage lots of anti-stretch mark oil in there, but I cannot help worrying that bubs is maybe not growing as s/he should. I had my own embarrassing moment last weekend - someone we met in Devon, when my proud boyfriend told her I was five months pregnant she knitted her brows ever so perceptibly and said " Oh, you don't look it at ALL", to which I reddened and said something about it being just the way I was sitting.

Oooh go on, go on Jem - put a piccie on !!
My friend in Oz was on at me to get a Bugaboo Kite, maybe I'll have a look at them and see what I think.

Also, meant to say regarding bumps - you know what ? This is just another thing that we're never gonna be happy with I think !! Am I too big ? Am I too small ? Is is a good shape ? etc etc Us women can't win with ourselves can we !

give us another two months and we will all be complaining about being huge no doubt!!

Exactly. I remember being of all who could feel their LOs moving. Now when Peanut did God knows what that made me literally jump out of my chair at work and brought tears to my eyes today, I wonder if I was silly to wish that non-moving time away....

Hi folks, I too am enormous, just realised this week that its not disguiseable any more. But as you said TT, what a great excuse to beat self over head. DP says, yes, cos youre pregnant, doh!

Had 20 week scan today and the due date now shifted back a week so I'm 21 weeks (as initially thought) but I think they just say what they like. I just know that if it gets to them making strong recommendations for an induction I'll be reminding them strongly about their messing the dates around.

Welcome to all the new folks! Any twins yet?

I cried a few weeks ago when I couldn't open a cereal packet. Silly! I snap a lot more, too. I shouted at a woman in a cafe a few weeks back when I asked for pure orange and she was talking to her friend and wasn't listening, and I asked her twice more while she was getting a can of tango from the fridge, and starting to open it to pour it into a glass. She was completely oblivious, and suddenly the red mist descended and this demonic voice barked "I SAID PURE ORANGE!"

She jumped out of her skin. I went bright red and felt like such a cow, and then I wanted to cry. My boyfriend thinks I'm going mad, I would never have shouted like that before getting pregnant! I suppose I would have just paid for the pop...

Oh crikey - so much to read and so much stuff! i got the ultimate cheer up today (not) -someone at work said "how many weeks ar eyou?" i responded 23, and she said "blimey you're going to be huge aren't you" (!!!!!!!!)

My stretchmarks (which incidentally ONLY appeared when ds was a week late - and I blame xmas pudding etc he was born on jan 5th) have given up any pretence that they re holding my stomach together, and yes, Jem, mine too is a nice bowling ball that is rock hard. I fear another 9lb-er on the way.

Back on the home v hosp thing - the MOST important thing is that you are absolutely comfortable in the decision you make. It might get taken out of your hands at the last minute (bananabump i can't believe being a little round will stop u haveing homebirth) but in terms of planning go with what you want. if max intervention works, take it. If low intervention works go for it.

We get a lot of pressure at the moment (just watch the pregnancy threads) about homebirths being fab, and "natural births", but if that scares you s**less, its not worth it. One of the key pieces of evidence I've seen is that relaxed mothers have easier labours -so if you are where u want to be, it can't be a bad thing.

Sorry, bit late for an essay really!!

Hersetta and others'crying' I'm so happy, probably not the right way to say it, though you make me feel less lonely, I have been very up and down, crying loads, mainly think I'm upset about previous miscarriages and wishing that I was already holding my LO but dh just thinks i am hormonal, I honestly feel like an emotional train wreck-anxious, scared, gulity, jealous ......I'm a mess

Breesha-My ds will be 2 and 2 months too although he is not intrested in strollers, or prams anymore. He had no problem giving up a cot at 14 months either, he demanded it.

Hi everybody!
Thanks for the new thread TT. No tears here I feel a bit teflon coated in a baby cocoon, as in nothing really worries me too much. It's just eating, drinking, peeing, growing belly!! Babe's moving loads and I know her active times.
Names are still occupying lot of thinking day. I'm wishing we hadn't called our youngest dog Lola as I'd love that name for the babe! I thought dp would think I was going mad but he agreed we should consider changing dog's name, maybe lulu or lila. I'm wondering now I'm writing this if he was just humoring me... probably!
I have an enormous bump now which I'm very proud of, at last people can be sure I'm pregnant and not just fat. But I don't like the people who just stare and don't acknowledge I'm pregnant. I think if you spend a good while staring at a beaming woman's bump the correct thing is to offer congrats or say something nice!

Hi everyone ,

Wow a new thread already , we seem to be flying now, I havent been on for ages, my ds has certantly keep my busy over easter. With regards to tears i had my first 'pregnancy breakdown" last week while cooking the beef, dont like it rare and when i cut the first slice it was all bloody and that was it , in tears sobbing!! - ds came in kitchen and asked me why i was crying, told him and he said " its ok mummy you just have to practise cooking the beef" _ that then made me smile and all was fine!!

There seems to be not many of us left now for our scans, mine is next friday morning and getting a little nervous now , just want it to be here! Have stated to feel some movement now, lots of fluttering but also def kicks ( 3 this morning!) at times!
Just want my baby NOW!!

Hope that everyone else is well and will try and get back on sooner then last time!

Was just thinking about you yesterday love and hoping all was ok. Glad to hear you're fine. There are quite a few scans taking place next Thursday and Friday aren't there so good luck and fingers crossed for all of you !!!

Morning all. I have a meeting in twenty minutes and will miss out on most of today as a result. Just wanted to wish you all well and welcome back pink.

Seems our talk of tears yesterday have just triggered them all over for me. I stood on the scales last night and have already put on a stone and a half, despite not seeming very big of bump. I promptly burst into tears. There is no excuse for these tears. None.

i am going to weigh myself thi morning,when i can be bothered to get in shower, me and ds are having a Pj day today as i have had him out everyday this easter!! God knows how much i have put on but i put on 4/5 stone with ds so hoping i will be no where near this time , did say to my DH that i look smaller at this stage then i did with ds and he said thats because i look pregnant this time round and last time i was fat everywhere!!!!! They are so sutle arent they

Hi everyone. No tears for me either although I did well up last night when dd said that the new clothes that my mum had bought were for her brother. I thought that was so sweet.

I also weighed myself last night and I was pleased that I haven't put on much weight. I lost some weight with ms at the beginning and I'm now just a few pounds heavier than I was before being pg. It helps that I haven't been eating chocolate all the time like I did when pg with dd and I'm really trying to eat healthily. I'm just waiting for the 'middle of the night hunger' to kick in. I'm going to have to try to find some healthy snacks or I'll end up being huge.

Gill , thats really sweet about your dd, my ds was thrilled to start with but it is coming apperent that HE DOES NOT WANT a sibbling , we are trying to invole him in everything, even choosing names but when we say that the baby will come out of my tummy soon (ish) he goes of in a sulk and wont talk about it ( he will be nearly 5 when babe arrives) hponig it will get better when he can see things happening in the babys room, im going to let him help me theme it!!

Sometimes it makes me mad thinking about the body-obsessed culture we live in. i weighed myself at the weekend, then did some desperate internet research to check that my weight gain is normal. then there's the worry of not only having to cope as a 1st time mum but supposedly getting my figure back within 6 weeks or whatever bah...then i worry that i'm going to be a terrible mum for being so selfish. i mean as long as me and baby are healthy it doesn't matter what we look like. hurrumph to yummy mummy, i'm going to be a scummy mummy.

Jser

Am going to be there 100% on the scummy mummy bandwagon JSer! Have made it clear that I don't even expect to get dressed for 6 weeks let alone worry about losing weight!

I must be realy odd as i have lost 4lbs, not gloating, just wish i felt like eating.

I fed up with eating because it's breakfast,lunch or dinner time. Although morning sickness finally when at about 18 weeks, now 20weeks i am just not hungry.

I have to say i am not to bothered as i am overweight (about 3 stone) didn't lose all the weight from being pg with dd.

One of the best things about being fat already is that I don't have all that "must get my pre-pregnancy figure back" pressure! I will start excercising more afterwards though, or at least being more active generally. I want to be able to keep up with him when he starts toddling about. I think leave squeezing back into your size 8 jeans in 6 weeks to the celebs who probably get tummy tucks in with their planned c sections anyway, the big cheaters.

Going to go sign on today (temp job finished last thurs) although I think the chances of anywhere taking on a 6 months pregnant person are fairly slim to be fair. Could do with the money and to get out of the house though, I think 16 weeks at home by myself is enough to drive anyone doolally!

Second anomoly scan tomorrow to measure baby's spine, as first time he was hiding behind my pelvic bones. A month later he's kicking much further up so hopefully they'll be able to get all the stats they need and also confirm if he's definitely a boy, although I'm 99% sure he is, we definitely saw goolies on the scan!

(right, only 45 messages, looking a bit more manageable than the last thread... MrsBadger leaps back into the fray)

Hello all and good to see you again!

Salient points of solidarity:

• Am crying at slightest provocation (up to and including a spontaneous 'But what shall I sing to the BadgerCub, I don't know any lullabies!')

• No pre-pg clothes except yoga trousers fit, had to buy a most revolting boiler suit to paint in at the weekend but other than that am embracing matwear wholeheartedly.

• Snapped at woman in petrol station for forgetting to give me a VAT receipt. Then cried because I was so ashamed of how rude I was.

• Haven't dared get near scales

• 20wk scan looked good but chose not to ask sex

• Not bought a single thing yet.

you are now completely up to speed with the BadgerPregnancy, thank you for your time .

Hello All,

Mind if I join? A bit about me:

I am due 25th August.

This is my 2nd pregnancy - but first baby (after a miscarriage) - it doesnt feel right to say 1 st pregnancy.

Found out at my 20 week scan last week that we are having a girl - I was a little shocked as always thought I would have a boy but delighted all the same.

First felt baby kick (I didnt really get flutters) at 16 weeks and she's been kicking like mad ever since.

Glad to hear other people are a bit weepy and irritable as well. I keep snapping at strangers but oddly I am quite nice to hubby.

I'm sure it's an evolutionary defence mechanism - snap at irritating strangers so they go away and leave you alone, but be nice to DH so he sticks around

I didnt think of that before but yes your probably right