June 2018 babies #2

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Good luck cookie, twins strikes fear into my heart too!

Had private scan this morning measuring 9+1 and in the right place good heartbeat etc feel like a weight had been lifted off my mind- there’s actually a little bean in there who is growing and has a heartbeat, first pregnancy so first scan, it was amazing

Another one considering a home birth here. DD was very quick - arrived less than an hour after we'd got to the clinic - and I was very comfortable at home and didn't enjoy the transfer! That said, I had a very good experience in an MLU, as did my other friends who went there (even the one who had to be blue lighted to hospital - apparently you get to jump the queue if you come in that way). I'm wondering what to do about childcare, also, as DD is very clingy and currently freaks out if I leave the room to go pee. I'd need to drop her round a friend's I think if we went into hospital, but I don't know if I could expect to have a baby at home with her here too! (It's not a big house)

As well as worrying about delivery (clearly sensible as the major concern this early since chances are every single thing will change by then) I'm starting to worry about miscarriage again too. The pregnancy feels like it's strong - I'm starving, nauseous, and exhausted, none of my clothes fit... - but it's about when we got the bad news last time and I am so freaking worried. I'm wondering whether to book another reassurance scan in a week or so but it's a lot of money. The baby I lost would have been due next week which doesn't help.

Those symptoms are good am sure you will be fine phyrne
Had my scan wee 6 ish week bub with heart heart abdominally and confirmed with internal so relived pictures just look like a blob !

Relieved

I love the idea of a homebirth, because I would feel comfortable and relaxed and I think that is meant to be good or labour and even speed it up! I have personally decided against one because I might want pain relief, and am scared of the risk, even though it is very small.

A very good friend of mine was in a midwife led unit not joined to a hospital. Thankfully she got blue lighted to a hospital due to low blood pressure or something before she actually gave birth because it was an unexpectedly traumatic birth, her baby got stuck and she was told had she not been in a hospital and a doctor who could safely get her baby out urgently, her baby may have been brain damaged or even not survived. The 15 minute journey to hospital would have been too long for a good outcome as baby was being starved of oxygen. I acknowledge this was very unlucky and is unlikely to happen to me but it has put the fear into me so much I don’t think I could relax at home or in any unit not attached to a hospital so it would be counter productive in my case!

I know 2 people who had home births and loved them, one with hypnobirthing, but it’s funny how your friends’ negative experiences stick with you more than the positive ones!

On the subject of homebirth, I think it's a lovely idea, but ultimately no ideal. The reason that we have such low maternal and neo-natal mortality rates is access to high quality medical care and rapid intervention or prevention of risky situations.

I just don't think could ever tempt fate like that.

I kind of like the idea of home birth, especially for DH who can't drive on his own so it would save someone else having to move the car if we drove to hospital. I think I'll opt for a hospital birth though, just because it's my first one and our rented house isn't massive, the bedroom would feel really crowded with four of us in there. I'll just have to get my parents to move the car!

Just back from early private scan, measuring at 8+5 so my fag packet estimate was pretty good. All looking healthy with a strong heartbeat, and very thankful it’s just the one!

Are these early scans Private or through NHS? I am wondering wether to book one or not. Really not sure, have seen they do one near me privately for a okay price! (I’m North London)

I think they are mainly private ones @betsy1988, certainly mine was. I think NHS only give early ones if there’s a problem eg spotting or bleeding. I found my early scans very reassuring. I’m still nervous about my 12 week one but a lot less so because I knew all was well at 9 weeks.

I get early scans at the EPU because of my past history of miscarriages and spotting. If you don't have a past history though then you can only get an early scan if you go private,

Thank you! @caspiana and @arkadyRose

I’ve just booked a reassurance scan for week after next. Xxx

Thanks cookie I know I'm being irrational to worry but also...

Yes, private betsy. In my experience the NHS won't do one early without good cause to worry (e.g. bleeding) which is fair enough given the crunch.

senza obviously it's a personal decision and I wouldn't criticize anyone for making whatever choice for their birth. I do think it's unfair to suggest that home birth is inherently dangerous though. After all, in the UK, you'll have 1-2 midwives looking after you at home while in a hospital you might have 2 between 30 due to staffing shortages (this was my experience as I got taken back in a week after the birth with a suspected infection and that was what the staffing was on the maternity ward at the time). Moreover, birth in this country is low risk iat least partly because of the universality of antenatal care, which includes screening people for where they give birth and spotting high/low risk pregnancies before labour. Yes, there are things that can go wrong suddenly wherever you are, but the actual risk level has to be balanced against reducing other risks (e.g. of unnecessary c-sections) and costs to the NHS (ward stays) and other positive / negative outcomes (tearing, bf rates, whatever you want to count). As an example, at the MLU they reckoned it took the same time to get someone into the OR at the county hospital as from the ward there, because you still have to get the team together so actually the level of crisis is not really the limiting factor.

I am just really really glad I'm not on the NICE commission as it's hard enough figuring out the right thing to do for ME never mind recommendations for the rest of the country!

Private, I had one last time for reassurance because my nhs one was so late, went back to the same place today because I really wasn’t sure of dates. They are so lovely there and so excited for you, no one else knows so nice to be congratulated!

Hi all,
I'm new to mumsnet and this is my first pregnancy. I'm generally worrying about pretty much everything. I see lots of you have had or are getting early scans. I've had a letter for my nhs "booking appointment" which won't be until Dec. By that time I'll be 11+4 by my calcs. Is it usual to be that late? Presumably I won't get a scan for a couple more weeks after that?

Hi @blythwind it’s my first too, when did you first go to your gp for a referral? I think it’s all dependent on your area / wait / and any previous history so I don’t think it’s anything out of the ordinary. I hear after your booking you usually get your dating scan two weeks after. If you’re worried I would call the hospital that booked your booking appointment x

Hi, keep losing you all. You’re a chatty bunch.

I’m now 6+2 and having a bit of nausea and have been really tired. It has started :-/

I’ll be having this baby at hospital. I have huge babies and the risk of shoulder dystocia is just too scary. I also might be too fat to be allowed one but let’s gloss over that! Looking back I could’ve had my last one at home, but I don’t found the hospital experience bad tbh, not once we get to delivery suite at least. I’d love to avoid the postnatal ward this time!

Hi @blyth Normally you call your GP and they get you your booking in appointment with the midwife through the surgery and our local NHS says this must be by 10 weeks. Definitely worth calling to get an earlier appointment if you can! x

Re: homebirth/MLU/labour ward... each to their own I’d say!! I was on the labour ward last time and I had a wonderful experience so looking forward to going through it all again! My NCT friend started off as a homebirth in the pool in her front room and ended up as a section. What will be will be

Between my age (almost 45) and my epilepsy, sadly I suspect there's no way I would be able to get a homebirth. Not too keen on the idea of a hospital birth; Whipps Cross has a pretty bad reputation but my labours go so fast, there'd be no way I could make it to a different hospital in time. As it is, my homebirth with DD3 went so fast that she arrived 10 minutes before the midwives arrived. DH called the midwives at 9am on a Sunday, waters broke at 9:30am, she arrived at 9:40am, and when the midwives finally got to us at 9:50am I already had her on the breast and feeding happily! Chances are that I wouldn't make it to a hospital anyway, unless I have to go in to be induced. But I'd rather have it planned than an unattended homebirth. If all goes well and I get past 12 weeks OK then I think I shall strongly suggest that a homebirth kit be dropped at our house at 34 weeks just to be on the safe side....

Good morning Ladies,
Hope you are all well?
Thanks for the responses regards homebirths, it's really given me food for thought.
My midwife told me to go by my original (Lmp) dates not the dates from the early scan as she said 12 week scan is the most accurate. Anyone else had similar advice?

Have a relaxing Sunday

Hi everyone, 10 weeks today, due 3 June. I have a 3.5 year old daughter, lost a baby at 21 weeks last December, had a miscarriage in April at 7 weeks. Because of these losses I'm under consultant care, had a scan at 8 weeks and baby looking good! I then bled this week, went EPU and had another scan Friday, baby still in there wiggling! Not got too many symptoms luckily, tiny bit of sickness, sore bigger boobs, spots, not sleeping properly. Had a water birth with my daughter in our hospital Birthing Unit, was fab! Hoping my many scheduled scans for 12, 16, 20 and 22 weeks all go ok and I'll be discharged from the consultant and can go back to low risk and get back in the birthing unit for this pregnancy. Nice to meet everyone, good luck x

Just checking in to keep it on my active list. Got the date for my 12 week scan on Friday - Friday 24th November, I'll be about 11+4.
I had a bit of pain last night, but I was lifting my nephew up a lot yesterday so I think I was just tired. How do those with toddlers manage? Or are you just less paranoid about every twinge?

For Labour I'm very lucky that we have a birthing centre in the hospital. Home birth is not my bag, but the more I read about water birth, the more I think that's a preferred option.

Welcome trac so sorry for your past losses. Glad this one is wiggling well!

Holy I have a toddler who wants to be carried everywhere and had PGP last time. Think it's starting again already so don't know how I'll cope later! Just been lugging her around as usual so far.

May be the only one in maternity jeans already (anything with a waist band makes me want to hurl), but if anyone else is looking I ordered some from funmum and they came with a discount code of LLH2410A for 15% off. They come in different lengths and don't have holes in already!!! (I am so unhip)