Due in June - big tum, spreading bum

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psmsl sputnik!!! tee heehee !

I'm definitely starting to get skinny person jealousy. I mean, I was never Kate Moss pre-pregnancy but I'll be lucky if I see size 10 again (to be fair it was a fleeting relationship anyway!) But I'm starting to get really peed off when shopping or reading magazines that I haven't a hope in hell of looking good in a pair of jeans for a while. Really envying girls with flat stomachs and pert breasts Anyone else feel the same?

Yep, I am having flat tummy envy at the mo. I am finding myself gawping at girls with flat tummys and then daydreaming about how / if I will ever get mine back again?
I'm sure I am looking like a bit of a lesbo weirdo?

Oh bumper mee too!!! I've never been a jealous person, esp about weight as I've always been quite fit and vain enough to stay like that TILL NOW!!!! I see a girl with a flat tummy and small, pert boobs and i think vicious horrid thoughts about her!
I am a bad person
is this worse? When i see someone with a great big belly ( even a bloke) who is'nt pg I think hehehe....

Fashion envy . I'm not the most up-to-the-minute person, nor do I go in for designer labels in a big way....but some of the clothes on the high street look lovely and I'm itching to get back into 'normal' clothes. My fave combats look at me lovingly every toime I open the wardrobe.....whimper whimper....

The pert boobs and flat tummy I gave up on a long time ago....around about the time I had DS to be exact!!

Yes dontknowmy..... I am getting funny looks too from girls who prob think I'm checking them out.. in a weird way... Luckily i live in the gay capital of britain so not too noticable really...

Daisy put them out of sight!! I've done this, obv not with everything that does'nt fit as i'd have nothing left! But all my favourite jeans and tops are hidden from me, it seems to help.
Also, is anyone else unable to fit their shoes? I've got pumps out from last summer that were the most comfy shoes ever and they're all too small!! Looks like it's fishing pants and flip flops from now on....

Not many gay people around where I'm from (very boring area - yawn!) So my daydreaming whilst being transfixed on a girls nice flat toned tummy is worrying for them I'm sure.
I'm not jealous just facinated as to how I will ever get mine back and have now forgotten what it feels like!
Am worried I might actually try and touch one!!!! eek!
If anyone with a flat tummy asks for a feel of my bump - I'm going to ask for a feel of their flat tum!!!
Or is that too wierd?

Dare you!! Actually i did that to a particularly buff male friend of mine....

I'm gonna!!!
And I'm gonna go looking for 'buff males' especially!! he he he
Might even offer it up first 'I'll show you mine if you'll show me yours' kind of thing!!

LOL Dontknow.....it's worth a try.....even more daring I think than the 'does orgasm help improve your pelvic floor question'

Saw you on that BF thread mytwocents....it's a really emotive issue and I'm struggling with the whole thing, given the problems I had with DS. Luckily, here in Leeds we have a network of BF cafes, the first of which was set up by my MW, so hopefully I'll get better support this time around.

I've never had a flat tummy in me life...I'll settle for being able to get back on my rollerskates without feeling like I'm going to tip over frontways. Current fashion really isn't doing it for me (all those horrible loud prints) so that's not stressing me out too much - I'm more of a classic 'i like that so I'll wear it for the next decade' kind of girl - i'd rather spend 200 quid on something I'll wear a lot than buy 10 cheap tops.

Sounds like you had a rough time daisy, I always read the bf threads and was good to read one that was -mostly- not an argument!I figure knowledge of others wildly different experiences will help me when the time comes. Good luck to you though, will it be possible for you to have someone watch mystic red ranger for you for a while so you can focus on feeding? Seems to be quite consistent advice that it's easier if you are waited on and can stay in bed for a couple of weeks......

Ooh, on the tummy front. Funnily enough, I feel the opposite. I actually find it really liberating to not have to hold my tummy in! I'm loving wearing really tight clothes around my bump - first time I've ever been able to wear tight clothes in that area I guess it really depends what your shape is to start with - my sister was always a flat-stomach girl (her waist was her slimmest bit), so she found pregancy a real trial because it made her feel bigger all over. Whereas I'm kind of skinny with a tummy that I've always had to disguise and in pregnancy I've only really put weight on my stomach, too, so for once my body is kind of working...

Having said that, am definitely getting very bored of maternity clothes. Everything feels uncomfortable, most of my nice shoes feel too small, and there's still two months to go . Give it a few days and I guarantee I'll be over the novelty of walking around with my stomach pushed out...

See I'm pear shaped and my waist was the only I had going for me! Now I have a belly like a teletubbie as well as tree trunk legs! Plus, I'm fretting for my breasts. I mean they weren't that great to start with, is it all over for me now that I'm having a baby? Someone please tell me that I won't look like a deflated balloon after being pg. I'm only 26 is it all over for me? Wahhhhh!

Mytwocents.....looking back it was pretty horrible, most of the EBM I fed DS looked like strawberry milk, I was bleeding so much, but...don't want to put people off and I'll certainly be giving it another go this time around. DH will be around for two or three weeks, and DS is at school, so things should be manageable. I've got a great support network of friends here, so I know if I'm desperate, there'll be someone to deal with DS. I plan on spending my first few days at home with the bub in bed trying to get the BF off to a good start, and ignoring the rest of the world....need to get the laptop at the ready....will need MN at that time for sure

Marylou....I'm with you on the tummy thing....usually I'm paranoid about mine and it is quite liberating to be able to wear clingy clothes which procalim my bump rather than baggy tops to hide my baggy tum.

Bumper....didn't mean to give you something else to worry about . Don't worry about your poor boobs....they won't be shapeless bags, honest...they just won't be as pert and will feel less robust than they did before, if that conjures up the right image......forget Foxy's spaniel ears and Holly's pitta breads (or was it the other way around?). On a positive note though, my DH likes them better post DS rather then pre DS as they feel weightier (sorry if TMI ). They are also two cup sizes bigger than before which is an added bonus, but not gauranteed for everyone.

I am having serious flat stomach envy too! Like you bumper I was pear shaped and I had a fab washboard tummy which I kept with no exercise and eating whatever I wanted. I did have a bit of a fat arse and small boobs though so my tummy was my thing! I am now a bit fat all over and my boobs never shrank, so I suppose my boobs are my thing now!! It wasn't so much the fatness that upset me, but the stretchmarks! They are awful!

I'm sure you'll be fine with the bfing this time round daisy. I had such hideous hell with my dd to start with and nearly gave up so many times, but then I discovered nipple shields and never looked back! They are a wonderful invention and I had to use them for 3 months as I couldn't get the latch on right, dd was such a greedy baby and my nipples couldn't handle the force of the sucking! The pain was awful! The shields allowed my nipples to toughen up a bit. I wouldn't have been able to bf without them.

Yeah, as someone who has seen her pregnant tits morph from a 34B (just) to a 36A, I'm not holding out much hope of going up a couple of cup sizes...! Am only just dealing with the sense of betrayal; I'd been expecting at least a C-cup

Re. breastfeeding, Daisy, I read the thread and really agreed with you. I have to say, I'm quite philosophical. Will do my absolute best, but if it doesn't work, formula's a nice back up to have. I don't think me or my sister were breastfed (it wasn't the thing to do back then) and we're fine. To me it's like the whole natural birth thing - if I can do it, great, but if I have to have a c-section or scream for an epidural, that's great too. I think there's enough pressure on mothers as it is...

Holly, so jealous of your washboard tummy, even if it's only in photographs now. I didn't even have one when I was 10!!

I found a pic of me in a club on my 21st the other day and nearly cried!! I had tight jeans and a short top on. It was only 4 years ago!!

I def agree about bfing. If it doesn't work then it doesn't work. Formula is great now and has loads of goodies in, ok not as many as breast milk, but nearly. If you give it your best shot then that's all you you can do. Surely it's better to have a relaxed mum who feeds formula than an uptight upset mum who dreads every feed.

Ellie on the April thread had her baby this morning, just read it on the birth announcements. Sounds like she had a brilliant birth!

Just been catching up - mytwocents, I LOVE your name list. Theo is one of our boys' top choices and same for Violet. We have a silly last name, though, French, and it's hard to find things to match. This weekend I am going to focus on names, I have bought a book and will lie in the sun!

I have always been very tummy-conscious, I never had a flat one even as a little girl and so it has been fab to wear Lycra and actually breathe out. I think I am going to be investing in a lot of Empire line dresses!

I have a question on tummies to all you second/third/fourth-timers - after you give birth does your tum become soft? Or does it stay hard and jutting out? Or does it just sag?!

It kind of goes soft and jelly like doggus! It does take a couple of weeks before idiots keep coming up to you in the street asking when your baby is due! Durh I'm pushing it in the pram you loser!! Although some women don't have a saggy belly, they sort of breathe out the baby, take a couple of cleansing breaths and are back in their size 10 jeans again! I can assure you that wasn't me! Maybe you will be lucky!

Cleansing breaths. I like the idea of that... . I hate it when people tell me they were back in their jeans a week after the birth. I'm like 'which jeans? Your fat ones or thin ones? Maternity or normal? And why would you tell me that when I'm going to be leaving hospital in a tent?!'

After four years, I still had a hangy bit over my c-section scar......its also a bit lop-sided as DS stretched me more on the left than the right....stretchmarks past my belly button on that side, but to just below my belly button on the right. This LO seems to favour lying on the right side, so hopefully it'll even things up a bit . I hate those women....and I mean that ferociously......who look like they've never even had a baby a week later, whereas I still had the whole saggy tum going on for ages. Of course with the C-section I couldn't get on with exercises, and then life took over and I forgot all about it, until DH and I got back together and it was ages before I would let him see me naked with the lights on! Now I just don't care.....and let it all hang out.

and...bizarre thing this...my feet got wider and didn't go back, to the point that several pairs of strappy sandals didn't fit anymore, but being the shoe fetishist that I am, they're still gathering dust in the bottom of the wardrobe.
why the hell do we do it, I wonder.....

good news today....cashed in an endowment policy and the money is now in my account, so feeling temporarily rich until the debts eat it all up....must resist a new handbag, must resist a new handbag, must resist....