May 2018 thread 2: first trimester, early scans and first heartbeats

[cautiousoptimist1]

Ladies,

Welcome to thread 2 for babies due in May 2018.

Looking forward to early scans, seeing the first flutters and progressing further into the first trimester.

Fingers crossed everything stops daisy!

timeisnotaline I does speed up I promise! It feels like I was 4-5 weeks for absolute ages and it kept dragging and now I'm suddenly past the 8 week mark!

So weird to think that we'll be having June babies threads popping up

@cautiousoptimist1 I hear you. My son's sleep has been really terrible recently and I've felt terribly sick as a result. I had a nice lie in yesterday and felt SO MUCH better. Get to sleep, kids!!!

@Dorotha she's only 15 months and is getting about 8 teeth at the same time so it must be awful for her. My DH was away today too so he couldn't really help overnight. It was a bad one though as I resorted to getting her milk at 2am when she normally only gets offered water!

My son was quite a boobie monster at that age! He only stopped nursing at night at2.5 years so don't worry about that milk :)

How are you getting on @DaisyMay25? Thinking of you.

Hi @RedPanda25 no update really, cramps have eased off but still bleeding, not heavily though.
I need to stop reading stuff online!
Thank you for thinking of me everyone. Tuesday can't come soon enough!
New symptom for me today too though, I have a horrible metallic taste in my mouth, all my symptoms remain which keeps me optimistic

Glad the cramping has calmed down daisy, can't have been an easy day or 2 for you.

I'm feeling a little overwhelmed at the idea of having a newborn in the house again, I'm much better with babies as they get older! I love how communicative my nearly-3 year old is and seeing her growing independence, just feeling a bit "eek" at starting again! She'll be a lovely sibling I think, she's already said she would like a sister, I think because she isn't that keen on boys lol.

I really hope I am pregnant and it sticks, not least because I feel like I've plumped on at least a kilo on the tum and will have to avoid all outfits with a waist at 5 weeks!

I'm overwhelmed also kirsty had a tough day with DD today (she didn't nap at all!!!) and am shattered. God knows how I'll cope with two!

Ugh I hate nap refusal! Mine gave up napping not long after turning 2 I think, which was pretty heartbreaking but she sleeps well through the night (mainly) and pretty much has done since a few months old (through sheer dumb luck), so I feel I def can't complain

Omg my DD is about to turn two! I can't face the thought that this might become permanent! Haha

Hello ladies - please can I join? I was on another 'due in may' forum but this one seems more busy 😊. I'm just over 5 weeks pregnant with #2 due on the 26th May (fingers and toes crossed). Already have a crazily active 20mth old boy so something tells me this pregnancy is going to be far more exhausting 😬

@Elvi1 Hi! We have the same due date! 😊

Excellent, Monday already going well, managed to hit send after only three words. What I was going to say is that it's only Monday morning and I feel horrific, not sure how to get through the week! I'm carrying a bin bag round with me in case I need an emergency sick. How is everyone else feeling?

I'm trying to work out what to say to work when I need to go to midwife appointments and scans. Hope they don't get suspicious when I suddenly need time off! I'm planning to say doctors/dentist appointments, has anyone got any other ideas?

I'm off work today with a cold, the nausea has actually been better over the weekend since I got the anti sickness bands so it's annoying to be off work with something else!

I have gone with 'digestive issues' ongoing tests and ties in with not drinking, any sickness, frequent loo visits and you don't have to be too specific.

scoutcat Don't know about you but I'm feeling way behind the group at only 5+ weeks....it's going to become really frustrating when ladies are having their scans 3 weeks before us haha

Hello newbies and congratulations! I had an early reassurance scan yesterday and saw a heartbeat and measuring bang on for dates so I'm very relieved. Just waiting for my 12 weeks scan date to come through now! Still feeling very queasy all day with occasional sickness after meals.

Oh I have a safari supper thing to go to this weekend on our street and have no idea how I'm going to get away with not drinking! Any ideas apart from the obvious antibiotics one?

Just booked my GP appointment for Friday - will be 5 weeks and hoping that'll make it feel more real. Bf is having a wobble this morning about it all being very scary - please tell me you ladies have the same problems with your men?! Woke up with fairly severe hip / upper leg pain this morning. It seems a bit early to be getting so many aches and pains. 😕

@Kirstipops my experience is totally the opposite. I loved having a baby, I found it fairly easy and even blissful. My first maternity leave has been 100% awesome, I read lots of books and watched plenty of boxsets while nursing or just holding my baby as he slept.

Whereas 2-3 years have been really hard. My son is really full on, bundles of energy, no naps, early mornings, very stubborn and demanding! I'm constantly knackered so I'm really scared I'll struggle with two. I no longer have the patient of 3 years ago!

Oh god yeah the toddler years are defo tough! I did enjoy the tv marathons during cluster feeds, long walks with her asleep in the sling, milk-drunk snuggles in the rocking chair etc (I'm really looking forward to bf'ing again for that reason!) but I equally like toddler banter and seeing her bound around in the park playing an imaginary game. There are tricky bits with each stage I guess, maybe I just find it easier or more rewarding as they become more communicative!

zoo hopefully just a one off as things stretch and hormones are pulsing! Maybe the way you were lying? And I was more of a wobbler than my husband, or maybe he hid it better than I did! It's totally normal though :)

redpanda could you just pretend you are drinking, I usually would just have cranberry or tonic water and pretend there was gin in it, or decant non alco beer into a glass to drink?

Yes being able to chat to them is super lovely 😍

redpanda it's so hard to find a believable excuse. I've already have family suss because I'm know to never turn down a glass of wine! If you're not driving the only thing you can do is pretend or use a medication excuse. If it's people that you haven't see for a while/ know well you could say you've had vertigo as I know alcohol can bring that back if you drink not long after you've had it (inner ear balance and all that). Good luck!

My DD is 2 tomorrow and she is showing signs of fighting naps. so I'm keeping everything crossed I can drag them out as long as possible. Though knowing my luck she will drop them when I'm in the third trimester when I'll need the break the most.

zoo it can be hard for guys to get connected as they don't go through the physical side of carrying a baby. And they can just focus on how things will change rather than the lovely side of having a baby. My DH didn't seemed bothered or was negative about things we'd have to give up when I was pregnant last time. It was upsetting and I worried he'd be like that after my DD arrived. But as soon as she was here he turned into a big ball of mush and fell in love instantly. For my DH he needed to see the baby for it to be real, then nothing else mattered.

@Kirstipops Thanks for the reassurance! I'm feeling very calm about it but that'll probably change as I get more hormonal.

@redpanda I'd definitely recommend pretending to be drinking - just don't let anyone offer to buy you a drink, or you might find real gin in it...

I'm spending the weekend at my parents' this weekend. They think I'm teetotal at the moment because of headaches (not a lie but not the whole truth). I told them that when we started trying for a baby so it would seem less suspicious if/when I finally got pregnant. Mum bless her has decided to give me lemonade or something in a champagne glass so I don't feel left out when they have a glass!

@readysetcake I'm glad he fell in love with baby once it was born. I guess that's all that matters really.

zoo my DH read pregnancy for men last time and I think it helped him understand that I really was exhausted by 8pm. Would it help your bf when he's having a wobble? It could of course just scare him even more! Keep talking to him, it's a massive life change and only natural to be anxious about it.

redpanda, I'd go with pretend drinking too. Just have mixers in the same glass you'd normally have and no one will be able to tell!