ALL NEW - Due in December!

[JARM]

Over here girls - sorry for the abuse on the last one, but this is the happy one!

Lets get started!

hi fifisworld, can I ask why you want another cs? just interested

Well i had emergency cs with ds after a long labour and i wasnt dilating,i think i got to about 2cm's, plus ds was distressed.
Im just scared to go though it again and for the same thing to happen, also for practical reasons for my ds as well ie arranging childcare.
I might change my mind yet i know ive got plenty time to think about it but im just so scared of the same thing happening again

Its just I have an interest ;) I'm a doula

Would you like a VBAC because its perfectly possible? Obviously, if section is what you want Im not for a minute preaching just thought I would offer information/advice if you wanted any

when you say you got stuck at 2cms - what were the conditions of the labour? Were you in hospital? being monitored? scared? etc it might just be that the conditions werent right for your body to relax and let go in to the labour.

anyway dont take offence at any of this, just rambling and interested

No its fine pecka
I went in on the friday morning for induction as i was 2 weeks overdue.
Had first pessary at about 9.30 am and started getting pains about 2pm.
Had another pessary at about 3.30 and i was apparently 1cm.
I asked for gas and air at about 6.30 as i was really uncomfortable and didnt get any until about 8 as they were busy changing mw's. Got moved to labour room just after 8 and was fine,on birth ball and had gas and air.
Then i was checked at 10pm and was only 2cm's and g&a not working much by this time. They suggested breaking my waters to speed things up which they did, then i had epidural which i dont think helped really.
Was monitored and ds was in distress. They kept monitoring me for another 30 mins or so but ds still wasnt happy so they said a cs would be best as i still wasnt dilating.

Sorry that went on a bit didnt it
Anyway had cs at 1.23am on the sat morning and came home on the sunday night.

Hi all. I went back to work today as the virus has not spread into any other children so felt it was ok to go back. Enjoyed being back but now i've finished i'm physically and mentally shattered. Hope all this gets better!!

Mrsdarcy - I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you feel better with time and I wish you all the luck in the future.

mrsdarcy I am so so sorry. You sound like you are dealing with it in the best way possible and I think we all really admired your post, so strong and sensible. Please make sure you get checked out when you feel up to it, and we are all wishing you the very best.

hi guys

i also had my booking in appt with mw today, as wasnt sure about, my dates she has a arranged a dating scan for next thrusday (how scary)
now im really paranoid that they will tell me there is nothing there it was a phantom pregnancy or something and all this sickness is in my head.

not sure if i will get another scan again after until bout 20 wks which seems a million miles away, hopefully all will be well on thrusday,

feeling bit emotional today just been bawling my eyes out about coronation st did anyone else watch, was heartbreakin

mrs darcy- sorry to hear your news,sometimes life is so unfair, its great when ur pregnant again but we never forget those weve lost,my own losses were in my thoughts today as is yours, please take care and remember someone is always around to talk to.

Mrs Darcy I'm so sorry to hear your news, your post was lovely though, hope you're getting all the love and hugs you deserve at this sad time.....

Just a quick question to anyone out there this eve. Have any of you had the worst churning stomach ever? Not in a ms kind of way, more like a tummy bug? I'm eating ok but my stomach is in turmoil, just wondering if it could be hormones? Actually I'm a bit scared about listeria cos I handle blue cheeses and pate all day (in a deli) but I'd be v ill with that wouldn't I? (plus we wear gloves to serve but when we're cleaning up not) Sorry I'm prob just panicking over nothing...

Glad work ok Bambino, its crazy how tired we all feel already, I just want to get to the blooming phase! I seriously pissed off my 7yr old dd today by saying I couldn't take her swimming because I didn't feel well, hmmm she didn't speak to me for an hour! I wish I could tell her but we're waiting til the scan....

Hope everyone else is ok, and (whispers) 'hello bearsmom!'

Whispers back 'hello!' [fingers crossed emoticon]

Yeah Lizzers I've had the churning stomach thing. Haven't had any ms but the past couple of days I've felt my stomach doing flip flops. It's like I want to eat but the thought of food turns me a bit green. I wouldn't worry about listeria if you're wearing gloves and washing hands.

How is everyone coping with work? I work full-time and I'm finding it an absolute nightmare. Went to the docs this morn to get signed off for a week with exhaustion. I know I'm a wimp but could quite literally sleep the clock round. Counting down the months to mat leave already! Tell me when do you hit the blooming stage cos I just feel tired, sick and spotty?

Oh MrsD
How are you today?

Bearsmum - cheers for the advise - I thought that was the case but brain is so numb at the moment really not sure - Paracetamol it is then!

Fifisworld - I ended up with Emergency CS last time too - I got to 9cm after 18hrs but then northing for 5 hrs or so - G&A was rubbish, after 3 attempts the epidural still wasn't working and they wouldn't try again - but, and a big but here - I wouldn't go for CS again if I can help it. For me I was just so unprepared for the after effects - still being hooked up to a catheter during that very lonely and scary first night alone in hospital with your baby - who you can't pick up coz you can't get out of bed etc etc, not being able to really pick her up for a week or so and certainly not bend over to bath her etc, and the infected wound.............. Never again. I know that might just have been my reaction to it - sounds like you had a much more positive experience.

Anyway - point of the post was that my big sister experienced exactly the same as you with her first - 18hrs and only 3cm so CS it was. For the next one (now 4) she said she wanted to try for a VBAC but that she knew that at the first sign of things not proceeding as planned they would advice a section - she didn't really get the chance to as 2hrs after her waters broke in the bath at home, little Dilbert (not real name!!) popped out. Each to their own I know - I've not really got the a fixed decision yet - other than I'll simply want a healthy baby delivered in the safest manner for both of us.

Beachbunni - I work full time too - PM in the construction industry so very much a mans world - they're not exactly clued into the niceties of ms etc. Lucky though as I can 'work from home' a fair bit and just about manage my own time - did have to leave at 3pm yesterday though (only managed one of my 2 meetings!) - straight home and crashed in bed for 2 hours. No idea how teachers, nurses etc etc manage when they are non stop all day (apologies to all those other professions I didn't mention!). As for the churning tummy bit - snap - keep thinking I've eaten something but nope - just hormones I assume - didn't get it with DD, jsut this one - Does that mean it's a boy as my pg is so diffrent???

Morning girls.

Had my booking in appointment today, just waiting for a scan date - should be in the next few weeks.

Had some good news today though - DH has finally had his discharge date from the Army through - 5th august.

We are happy campers here today, but of course am thinking of Mrs D and all the others xxxx

JARM - how unfair - very . My booking appt is on 14th May with the scan up to 2 weeks aferwards!!!Miles away !!!! I have no patience at the best of time but this is really testing me

Howdy girls, sounds like we are at around the same point. I was hoping to go on midwife-led care, but BMI was on the border (who ate all the pies) so now I'm on shared care apparently..

Beachbunni - I'm suffering at work, cannot cope with broken sleep and totally knackered. (F**ked up VAT Qtr by £16k - MD was unimpressed.. however was almost in tears of joy when I told him I was pg, think I'll be lucky cos will be able to bring baby into work at my desk!)

Beanster, I have no patience either, i wish my scan was today, but i guess i'll see more on the scan at later date.

Ambi... what has BMI got to do with anything? My MW worked mine out today and i nearly died, but she isnt concerned x

bugger - forgot all about that - I know last time is wasn't great - add on the stone and half I've not lost since then!!! As I informed my DH last night - I'm creating a warm house for my little button as it will be very cold in Autumn and so they'll need lots of insulation

At least all you lovely ladies have dates for your scans and something to look forward to. As yet I have heard nothing, nada, zip!
Whoops Ambi, 16k! That's so nice you'll be able to bring baby to work. Dp and I have are going to have to seriously consider dropping my hours. We have no parents close to hand to call on for babysitting duties and childcare is sooo expensive. I'm putting off working the figures out for a couple of months incase it scares me

Hi everyone, havent been on here for a while so hoping I can pop back in!
God, i know what you mean about the churning stomach. Its like that awful feeling you have with a hangover of wobbly tummy and shakiness isn't it? Ugh.
Interested to read about the VBAC thing, I had an emergency c section last time and am SO keen on a "natural" birth this time. Had a huge sense of disappointment that i could not (still havent) shaken. My midwife told me that 86% of women go on to have vbacs, but this seems pretty high??

Much love sent to Mrs Darcy if still reading this, xxx

Dunno what BMI has to do with it? just being cautious in case of diabetes or pre eclampsia I think, was expecting it to be much higher considering I've been eating for 10!! I have this thing against consultants, I feel like a number on a sheet rather than more personal care with a midwife.

I really want to be a SAHM more than anything, but we'd really stuggle so it is really good that I'll be able to bring kiddo into work. Only intend to do PT though, and work from home, cos don't want to ignore kid for 40hrs a week at work for 4 yrs (until school), it's a bit cruel...
Shh darling, play very quietly, we're busy...

I am under consultant care (have a medical condition) and he's booked me a scan for tomorrow which should be around 9 weeks. He said it would probably be a vaginal one - anyone had one? I'm feeling extremely squeamish about it. How far up do they go if you see what I mean?

Oh almost forgot.... need to take urine sample each time i go in, but they have no sample pots thanks to cut backs (visions of me holding god knows what, a pint glass maybe, slopping over me as we go over a speed bump) Oh the NHS, is really unrivalled isn't it!!!

Apologies for those eating lunch

Bimb- sorry no experience, the others will help you out though,

I guess that's something we've got to get used to now for labour when everyone will want to cop a feel without even buying us a drink!!!

Vaginal Scans - the "probe" is about the size of a decent size vibrator! They even put a condom on it with a bit of lubricant.

It doesnt hurt and its fairly discreet, your legs are up in stirrupy things so your bottom clothes are all off but they do cover you with a sheet so your not actually laid bare with it all on show.

Only the scan operator will see anything and even then, she doesnt even really look.

Hope that has reassured you and not freaked you out further.

Its fine. REALLY!

Ambi - intereted in your comments about being a SAHM and possibility that you'll work from home so you don't have to "ignore your child for 40 hrs a week".

Practically you will still have to put your little darling into childcare if you intend doing any work from home - yes, it does save the commute and in general you need to do less hours as it's more intense and far less distracting than being in an office, but you still have to be able to work properly - which you cannot do with an infant/toddler around.

As for ignoring your child for 40 hrs a week - you simply prioritise your time differently. I suffered PND after DD was about 6 months old and for me, returning to work and being able to have a bit of 'me' time has been vital to maintaining a happy balance. And yes, unfortunately, as you infer, money plays a large part in the decision to work or not too. For us, it works well. With 2 salaries we can afford a nice houise, holidays, trips to visit relatives who are all over the country etc and some of that is improtant to us in expanding DH's experiences and social development. There are downsides but we manage - we took the decision that she doesn't have tea at nursery but at home with us after she gets home - and yes that is ususally about half six - but that is her routine. it means she's not really in bed until 8 so we have less 'us' time than a lot of folk but allowing us several hours with DH is the balance we have.

Sorry this has gone on a bit - think what I was trying to say is that nothing is ever quite the extremes that titles such as SAHM or Working Mum allude to - we all have our own ways of balancing life, money and time to best meet the needs of our children - and ourselves.

Ambi - I hope you are able to sort something out which allows you and yours to have everything and eat it - after all that's the aim really