May 2018 babies

[katiegd]

We're pretty early but thought I'd start a thread to see if anyone else is here already.

I'm 4+1, apparently due around 2 May. Would be great to have some company :). Already obsessing over every little thing. The next 8 weeks are going to drag!

My scan cost £89.

I'm a bit all over too Phoenix. Generally fine, but when something sets me off it's like the end of the world. I'd recommend you do go to GP, they might be able to refer you to some therapies or classes of you don't want to take time off.

I'm pleased to report first instances of nausea/wretching today! I also gagged when eating lunch, couldn't finish it and sat at my desk feeling so happpy and proud!!

I am feeling so sick every evening, whoever named it morning sickness??? Mine kicks in about 4pm then gradually gets worse until I start wretching about 7pm... so nasty! How are you supposed to keep a social life and not have anyone notice?! I am 7wks+2. Got a first midwife appointment on weds next week, am just expecting lots of blood tests and leaflets really. What actually happens at these appointments? She said it would last an hour. Still not told anyone, planning on telling some friends on the 30th but it's aaaaages away and I'm so impatient!! Love reading your stories and comments :)

Usually at the booking appointment they ask you lots of questions about your health and medical history, and give you some information about pregnancy and the screening tests that are available, take some bloods to check your iron level, blood group and check for certain blood related conditions, and they give you your pregnancy notes which you then take to every appointment and scan. I know some have come away feeling disappointed with their appointment so think of any questions you might have if the midwife doesn't cover everything you want to know at the moment. I think sometimes you can be bombarded with too much information! There is a lot to know about pregnancy which would never be covered in an hour, so they should signpost you towards more info whether that be leaflets or websites. Hope that's useful for those who haven't had their appointments yet!

I had my first appointment today with the midwife and it was just lots of form filling etc. They don't do bloods here till the scan as they do the Down syndrome blood test at the same time.

There seems to be so many us in the same boat with the worrying. I'm so pleased I've booked a private scan as I'm not sure I can wait until 12 weeks.

I feel like I want to get excited like I did with my DS but I just won't let myself. Hoping I'll feel better after my scan!

Well the fatigue is kicking in, I'm already in bed, usually I'm a night owl!

I sympathize with the worrying too. After having mmc before I can't get excited until I've seen baby on 12 week scan. DP is the same. He was pretty traumatised by the miscarriage and he says he can't really look forward to it yet, which I understand. Hate these first few weeks of uncertainty!

Thanks @moochops89 :) I already have a huge list of questions to ask!

Oh a bit of a different note... some friends and I have booked (aaaages ago) to climb the O2 Dome in London on the 30th sept and I will be almost ten weeks by then! It says it's not advised if preggers because the harness is tight but I figured if I don't have a bump yet it will be okay? I don't want to back out as I really want to go and don't want to tell my friends until after! Has anyone ever done it (pregnant or not) and do you think I'm crazy for going ahead??

@Phoenix I am in the same boat, mmc in March. I can't get excited about anything because even though nothing untoward symptom wise has happened I know it all seemed absolutely fine last time and wasn't. It's horrible. Have you got an early scan booked? I'm not sure if it'll help at all, but at least it means I'll find out earlier rather than waiting till 12 weeks.

@kkmotts have you got the number for your midwive you could call? It's probably worth checking with them or the GP. It sounds like it'll be ok - you're right the baby is too well protected to be harmed by the harness. The main thing to consider is you - your tendons and ligaments have already started to soften and stretch and can be prone to strain. Doing something that is completely different from normal might mean you're more likely to injure yourself.

Hello all, can't remember if I've joined this thread or not!
I'm 6 wks with my 2nd, due on 11th of may. All day morning sickness kicked in straight away like it did last time. Only surviving by taking anti sickness tablets. I'm so exhausted, I'd forgotten how exhausting early pregnancy is.
I had a private scan yesterday, £29 special offer. If anyone is in the north west I can recommend My Baby Scan in Burscough, Lancs.
Havent registered for a midwife appt yet, im moving house in 2 weeks and can't register with new gp until I have proof of address. Such bad timing! Im going on holiday next Saturday and I'm dreading it! Don't want to feel so terrible when I'm abroad and meant to be having fun.
Hope everyone is feeling ok

Here midwives don't even do bloods. Just forms and questions, nothing exciting at all.
Oh and you do a urine sample for preeclampsia. Basically you spend A LOT of your pregnancy trying doing a wee into a small tub 😀

I haven't had my booking in appointment, it'll be at 10 weeks although I will see the GP first for a midwife referral and he'll book the dating scan. Last time they told me that it'd be about 90 minutes so this time I'm making sure that DH can have LO as she won't sit still for that long! It was a lot of form filling for medical history and any previous pregnancy details and then blood tests for medical conditions testing and blood type. This appointment seemed to set the initial risk level (correct me if I'm wrong here moochops) as last time after taking all of my details and history she determined I was low risk and therefore would be midwife led (giving me 3 local birth options) and could consider a home birth.
My midwife weighed me at every appointment which I think can be a trigger for some people so do let your mw know if this will cause some distress.
Also be aware that the midwife will ask about your relationship and domestic violence, mine asked in a couple of appointments (not all).

kkmots I reckon you'll be fine to climb and that sounds really exciting! The warning is probably for later stage pregnancy, but I'd check with dr/midwife if I was in your position, just to be on the safe side

All day morning sickness here too and only 4 weeks. If it's like last time I have another 10 weeks of this and morning vomiting to come

Told my DH this morning. He wasn't as mad as I thought he'd be. Then went into immediate planning mode. But he did give me a hug and a kiss, do I think he's pleased too, phew!

Anyone else having trouble sleeping? I keep waking up I and off through the night. Doesn't help with the fatigue.

Someone was asking about book recommendations and I remember asking the same question when I was having DD. I'd recommend the day by day pregnancy book and pregnancy for men book if your OHs want to read up and have something actually aimed at them. When we bought it last time, I remember coming home to DH fighting the duvet cover as his book had told him that it was his duty to take over changing the bed!

Are any other second timers finding this a bit weird? Last time was so all consuming but this time, I've barely thought about it since Tuesday as my LO has been ill and she's my priority. Although I have moments where I think that this time next year (all being well) I'll have two - like when putting DD into the trolley yesterday, it hit me that next year I'll need a trolley with 2 seats! Just weird moments like that.
The things I am thinking about are generally concerning my LO - like who'll have her during the birth, can I take her to the scan, will she be ok with a sibling and do I need a double pram?!

Same here. But I'm finding it nice not to be so consumed and hoping I'll have less time to obsess and worry this time around. Last time was a nightmare. I just constantly thought about all the things that could go wrong it was exhausting!

Yes, definitely no time to overthink things when I'm running after my son! I barely think about this pregnancy and would probably forget it altogether if I wasn't so bloody nauseas!
Here they don't allow siblings to attend scans..

Hello, sorry for everyone feeling so worried and unexcited husbands. Roll on 12 week scans!
This is my third pregnancy (but have one DC) so I'm also quite worried. Mainly because if it goes wrong and I need to go into hospital etc I worry about my DD. I'm definitely less worried than with my DD but do think about it quite a lot.
Just had a row with DP as he always gets pissy about the house being messy and it's started already as I'm not exactly feeling like doing a lot of bending and stooping to tidy up. I did say one of the reasons I feared getting pg was his attitude to the house when I'm struggling so hopefully he'll wind his neck in a bit now.

Sorry to hear this @JuniUmiZoomi My husband is exact opposite, he doesn't notice mess, his idea of tidy is my idea of mess and I'm not exactly the tidiest person in the world!
We finally caved in and got a cleaner a few months ago. It's expensive but worth it, much less pressure and arguments!

Hi all

I'm a bit worried that I don't have many symptoms - not even sore boobs! Only tiredness.

Should I be worried! I had more symptoms last time and that ended in mc. 5 weeks today

Hi Hiraeth no symptoms here either at all apart from a bit of tiredness!

Suppose you still haven't had your period? That's one very good symptom!

Haha Dorotha that's true!!!

My boobs are a bit sore (off and on) and bloated but that's it. 5 weeks today too. I need to go shopping for some jumper dresses, too bloated for my jeans!

Not much by way of symptoms here either.

Am fretting a bit as did another clearblue test this morning and it said 1-2 weeks (last weekend it said 2-3). Worried that it's a bad sign... Just rang the midwife though and she said the week indicators aren't that reliable and that in the absence of bleeding or pain I should just assume I'm still pregnant. Can't help worrying though - rather wish I hadn't POAS this morning!

Don't wish for nausea. It's horrible. I'm 6 plus 2 weeks..however believe I'm actual probably closer to 7 weeks and I feel horrendous.

5 weeks is quite early for symptoms. Plenty of women don't even know they are pregnant at that stage. Try not to worry.

kkmotts I have done the up and over at the O2 and it's not strenuous. I remember the harness being v unflattering around my arse (!), but don't remember it being at all tight around the tum.

I am not too calm today. By my dates I am 6+2, but I had an early scan that dated me as 5 weeks. The sonographer said that as there is a heartbeat I should try to stay optimistic but said I should return in 2 weeks for a viability scan and to be prepared for the fact it could be bad news. So it's wait and see time here for me.....

I'm bowing out, I miscarried yesterday at 4+6. I'm utterly heartbroken but trying to remember there must have been a reason. I've really felt all the support on this thread, I wish you all the best.