July 2017 #6 - labour here we come

[nat2311]

I think this is how you make one?

Oh god what a nightmare.

My first was so quick. When I got to 4cm she was born within 3hrs.

Have a feeling this is going to take ages.

Oh @glitterglitters I'm really hoping for it to suddenly speed up for you. Do you think you might be able to rest at all or is it beyond that?

@Notyetthere that sounds so positive! You sound so much happier as well

And yeah they stink 🤢

Youre not only 1cm ...you are 1cm.
Baby coukd take a week or could be here in a fee hours theres just no way to tell. I hope uts the latter and things move quicker for you. Try not to be disheartened by a number. Im off to sleep but ill cross my fingers for a birth announcement in the morning xx

@Algebraic I'm in bed now. In just scared nothing will happen and dh will have to go to work and I'll be in pain watching my daughter (or trying to!) all my support people are at work tomorrow.

Thank you @mynameisntLinda

You're definitely right xxxx

Yay @Notyetthere I'm glad you had a positive day!
Ooh I didn't realise the cord would smell! All these things you don't think of...
Out of interest when you go to a breast feeding group do you get one on one time and privacy? For some reason I imagine lots of women sat around with their boobs out. I'm probably completely wrong 😂

Glitter exciting that something is happening. Not long now. I felt exactly the same. The contractions were quite regular but then was told I'm only 2cm. It felt like the amount pain directly related to at least 6cm.

Great to hear youve had a positive experience with the grouo not. No idea on the cord smell. Ds's fell off within 2 days tops. Was just lying there in the front of his nappy when i took it off which made me feel sick. I threw it in the bin and then dh made me get it back out coz he wanted to keep it

@mynameisntLinda so did my dh. He put it in an envelope. 🤢

Thanks guys , you've cheered me up. Definitely reaffirmed why I wanted to go to the midwife unit as well. Didn't like that place. Everybody smelt of fags

@algebraic i went to my local sure start one when preggers. They had a little session on and we met ppl already bfing. Some came with their little ones but mjght not have actually fed whilst there but they had baby toys out and it was basically a 2 hour meet up which involved drinks and cakes lol

@Algebraic yeah it's usually a big group circle st ours. Helpers make you a tea or coffee. Some feeding, done don't. The helpers come round and ask if you need help etc.

It helped me get my confidence up for feeding in front of people. Plus free coffee in a non spill thermos? Yes please!

@mynameisntLinda you got cake? No fair

Only because we brought the cake haha

Ah that's ok then.

Ah ok glitters that makes much more sense, why I assumed there would just be one helper with everyone looking at you whilst you took your turn I don't know 😂

Lol the drop in clinics are a bit more like that. I was expecting s room full of super hippy mind but it was lovely and definitely one of my favourite groups I did with my daughter :)

*mums

@glitterglitters is the queen of predicting new arrivals in the group, so let's all send positive thoughts her way and predict that her little one will finally have the courtesy to make his/her way out of the womb and into the big wide world in the next 24 hours!

@Notyetthere I'm so happy to read your update today. There are bound to be plenty of ups and downs on this journey, especially in the early days, but I'm really glad you got great support at the group and have made such fantastic progress in a very short time. Well done supermama!

I've had a bit of an awkward situation with DM tonight... My midwife appointment is tomorrow and she said over dinner "What time will WE be leaving home to go to the hospital" 🤔 She just completely assumed that she would be attending all my appointments with me from now on, what with DH not being here. At her request, I allowed her to attend my consultant appt with me 2 weeks ago so that she would get to hear baby's heartbeat, and it clearly meant the world to her, but she kind of commandeered the appt (she likes to talk a lot, bless her) when really I would've preferred to deal with the consultant myself. I definitely want to be in with the midwife by myself tomorrow so I can talk everything through privately and without any interjections, so I told DM I wouldn't need her to accompany me. Also logistically I'm going on from the hospital to another 2hr appointment straight afterwards, so wouldn't be able to drop DM home. She sobbed. Cried her eyes out. Gave me the whole "why wouldn't you want me there" chat and when I said I want privacy with the midwife she said "but I'm your mother! You can say anything in front of me."

Don't really know how to handle this, especially as it's just the two of us together at the moment and I'll be staying at her house right up until I go back to Dubai. Plus she's also assuming she'll be in the room when I give birth, although I'm really not sure I want that either 🙈

Awww thanks @Butterfly

Tricky one with your mum. I think it's completely dependant on your relationship really. My own mum wouldn't have minded me not including her but my dsis is demanding I let her know when i go in etc.

Personally I'd rather go in by myself too. It's better that you feel comfortable so you can progress rather than having to be aware of others etc. It's a tricky one.

Algebraic I was so desperate for help that I would have whipped out my boob for anybody who cared to look . When I turned up, I asked whether DH could stay for the breastfeeding session with me for a while at least and I was told yes he could because it is a children's centre so all welcome. We sat around on sofas, chatted about all sorts even the consultant herself was breastfeeding. It was all really chilled out.

Congrats not and wildone on your healthy bundles

I've had a rough couple of weeks after an amazingly healthy pregnancy but feel hopeful I'll get a healthy baby too

Morning ladies, the reflexology was soooooo good! I would have it again purely for relaxation, was better than a full body massage. The lady seemed to really know her stuff and could tell other things just by touching my feet!

I've been woken up in the night with a few pains, but nothing regular yet. Was up at 4.20 with an upset tummy. But apart from that no action yet. She actually said to me if you haven't gone into labour I'll come back on Friday afternoon and do it again for free! 😳

Glitters sounds like you are on your way! I'm currently sat on the sofa as was uncomfortable in bed felt like baby had stretched and feet were up in my ribs. Feel better now I'm sitting up a bit.

Not, sounds like you are feeling better after the support group, so pleased for you and the fact that the lump has gone down is amazing! Has baby been checked for tongue tie? Apparently that can go unnoticed and cause some issues when starting off breastfeeding?

Ds has tongue tie and i think it's why we struggled so much but i was told that his wasn't severe enough. It pulled the middle of his tongue inwards! But because we leanrt to feed with it by the time he was 6 months or so and it was noticed again there was no point fettjng it cut. It seems to have grown with hin though and cant tell now. I have a tongue tie too but its only minor.

butterfly thats a tricky on with your mum. I dont even take dh to any of my appointments id rather go alone. (He came to the 2 normal scans and took me to the growth one on monday but thats it). I would just say that you really didnt mean to cause any offence but youd rather go to the appointments alone. There will be a lot to take in and questions to ask but youll update her when you get back.