November 2017 #3: Flutters, bubbles and a proper bump!

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Here we all are... delving into our second trimesters and awaiting 'The Big Scan'! Don't forget to keep the list updated.

I woke up twice last nice for a wee. I wish I had listened to the voice in my head saying marmite at 5.30 though as when my alarm went off at 6.30 today I felt sicky but still had a craving for marmite. Sorted now after nibbling on marmite on toast slowly for the past 45 mins.

Thanks all and @Topsyloulou I'm in the second trimester so can't imagine what third will be like! Am 18+4 today.

I did a bit of googling when I couldn't sleep and apparently pregnancy induced insomnia is a thing, going to try and see if any temporary meds doctor can give. The only time I feel sleepy is as my alarm is going off!

Nothing in particular on my mind keeping me awake just lots of random things as well as old, non-baby related worries.

@izzibee29 marmite on buttery toast was my best friend during first trimester!

Lydia yep it is a thing alright, it's particularly unfair really when as someone else said you'll be kept awake in third tri by so many things, sleep should be abundant before that!

My only sleep problem is ds, always a poor sleeper but he's sick at the mo so for the last 4-5 nights he's been going to sleep late fighting it, waking crying/coughing/writhing every 30-60 mins, and then up at 6am. Brutal

My only symptom left at the moment is heartburn. Mostly under control if I don't eat bread or dairy and eat quite big meals, god I miss bread and dairy!

@lydiangel83 I am enjoying you in your insomnia, my is caused by a problem in my urinary tract which means I have to pee at least 12 times a night. I've just been to see the doctor and he has signed me off for a week (work will love me!) and gave me the news that there is nothing, that's right NOTHING that can be done to help me until the baby arrives. I'm back in bed having a cry.

Sockportal 12 times??!! You poor thing! I've never heard of a problem like that before, I assumed very frequent urination in pregnancy was always a uti and relatively easily treated. You deserve a cry :(

Oh @theotherendofthesockportal I'm so tired and emotional I may have a cry for you. Don't worry about work. I thought 3-4 toilet breaks during the night was bad but now I will be more grateful!!

@Foggymist yes I'm under no illusions that life wouldn't be harder if I had a little one already to look after. I feel for you!

Lydia most other people's small children seem to sleep 12 hours solid or wake once or twice when baby's and then sleep allll night from 1 onwards, we seem to be in the minority with such a difficult 2 year old! :(

@foggymist they are all lying.

Lol @butterybollocks let me live on in blissful ignorance for now!

Ha @butterybollocks, they're not though! Out of my closest friends with children (four of us, one 3 year old, three 2 year olds) one slept 12-14 hours from birth practically, had to be woken for everything, still sleeps that long at 3. The others are all sleeping 8-12 hours with no wake ups or very small ones that rarely require intervention since 1. Out of the entire mum & baby group where I live nobody's child sleeps as badly as mine, it's become a joke now, everybody will say "mine's been waking all week...but not as bad as Foggybaby obviously!".

Foggy My little darling lulled me into a false sense of calm by sleeping through for a fortnight in mid May. However for the past week, she's been waking up and screaming for 1-2 hours and refusing to settle. At least before the sleeping through episode, we could just give her milk and she'd be off again fairly quickly.

I keep on going to bed at 1900 just to try and catch up on some zzzzs!

Ladies I find I am much sleepier in the day (especially now, feel like dozing at my desk zzzz) than I am when it gets to bedtime! I tend to drop off within an hour or so but without fail wake up at about 3am and spend 2 hours or so trying to drop back off. So annoying. I had insomnia very badly throughout childhood and my teens, in my twenties I thought I had finally cracked it! Hopefully it doesn't last for all of us.

Lydia your 20 weeks can must be coming up soon? I'm 17 weeks today, still have to pinch myself that I've got this far! x

Congratulations sock on a girl. I'm sorry you're having problems and there is nothing that can be done.

I did the whole sleep thing with DS in reverse. He slept great until about 2 then when we moved into our own place (his dad and I split) he used to crawl into my bed whenever he felt like it. There were many mornings I'd wake to find him next to me and had no recollection of him getting up. It didn't bother me too much as I wasn't disturbed. When I got together with DP three years ago I had to start getting up to put him back to bed. He didn't remember getting up and coming in. By that time it had become automatic.

The dreams have been crazy the last few weeks. I generally don't really remember my dreams but since being pregnant they've been really vivid. My mum called me late last night to tell me my cousin had miscarried. I spent all night dreaming about her and woke up so sad.

Finally starting to wear maternity clothes to work. I must have popped over the weekend because the trousers I wore on Friday weren't even close to being able to be done up today. I need to invest in a couple of pairs of trousers...although it's June it's very nippy here. Too cold for me to be in a skirt/dress.

Stuck I second the vivid dreaming. It's kind of exhausting isn't it?
Sorry about your cousin. Found out this morning that one of my OH's closest friends' wife had a miscarriage last week. It makes you feel weirdly guilty doesn't it. :( I remember feeling so resentful to other women who had healthy pregnancies after my miscarriages, it's a horrible reaction but you just can't help it because you feel so empty yourself. Now, as the person in the other position, I just feel guilty. Miscarriages are a bloody horrible thing!

@Hazandduck and @stuckinny sorry to hear about the miscarriage news that's so sad :( we have friends who have had terrible experiences and I do feel so lucky/ guilty - wish there was something I could do to help but there isn't :-(

I have always slept badly so no one in family / friends really paying attention to the fact it is much worse than usual - apart from DH who bears the brunt of my moody emotional outbursts :-/

Going to brace myself to go spinning tonight in the hope that physical exercise will help a little!

Ps yes @Hazandduck scan is on 13th, well remembered :-) can't wait! Haven't felt movement yet (that I'm aware of at least) so keen to hear that all is ok! We want to keep gender a surprise so must remember to tell them that at the start!

Ooh not long to go, a week tomorrow! My 20 week scan is 3 weeks Wednesday when I'll be 20+2. We are keeping it a surprise too so need to tell them as well. I am going to find it really hard not to try and have a peek at their nether regions though lol! My OH is adamant we won't find out though and I always used to be like that so I will respect his wishes :)
You are brave doing spinning! I can only just bear to walk back to my car at Park and Ride each night, I used to run, do circuits all sorts! I have completely gone off exercising and am just so lazy now. I really should sort it out as I am getting married in August and will be a total heffalump by the wedding!

@Hazandduck, I agree with the guilty feeling. On top of it, her sister announced she was pregnant just a few weeks ago. Oddly when I told them about me I asked her if there would be another little one soon. She said no but gave me a bit of a smile. All three babies would have been born within two months. I feel so incredibly sad for her.

@lydiangel83, My scan is just two days after yours. It's exciting to be able to see them again isn't it. They will do extra measuring at mine because of my age and because DP only has one kidney.

Ah @Hazandduck I'm sure you will look radiant at your wedding! I've only been a few times but just wanted to get a little more exercise whilst I could between T1 and T3 i.e. The sick and the fattest times!

My DH came out with a classic line the other day, staring at my belly whilst eating dinner and said 'oh for a minute there I forgot you were pregnant, I just thought you'd got fat'. Lol thanks a bunch! We both agree tho that I'm at the in between stage where unless you knew me you probably couldn't tell I was pregnant, just eaten all the carbs (which I actually have!). Just had 2 buttery slices of fruit toast with tea as afternoon snack - yum yum!

Haha very tactful of your DH!
So my walking to the park and ride was also scrapped tonight because I forgot my coat and it was pissing it down and blowing a hoolie lol x

@foggymist you are due a good sleeper this time round by the sounds of it!

Haz and stuck, sorry to hear about the miscarriages. I had to tell a colleague I'm pregnant today because we're working on a project together which will go on until next spring. I know he's going through infertility and failed ivf at the moment and felt really guilty telling him my news. He was lovely but I could tell he found it hard to hear.

Hi all I'm new to the group and first time pregnancy due November 18th! Still got morning / all day sickness at 16+3. When is everyone thinking of going on mat leave? I want to try and leave it until last minute but so far in my pregnancy I've been so tired and had a lot of aches and pains so finding it quite difficult.

Welcome to the group @Bubbasmama2017 I'm due on 26th November. I'm planning to go on maternity leave on 29th September when I will be just past 33 weeks. I had always envisioned working until I dropped. However I have found pregnancy draining and would now like to spend my time at home making it nice and ready for the baby. Baby might come early anyway!

Thanks @theotherendofthesockportal ! That's true about baby coming early! I'm a very organised person and would hate to be working until last week and not have anything sorted at home. I think I'm nesting already . Maybe I'll go mid October and give myself a month until due date. My sister had to finish at 32 weeks because of bad pains.

Hi @Bubbasmama2017. I'm due 10 November and unfortunately will be working until I go into the hospital (I did the same with DS). Lack of maternity leave is just another joy of not living in the U.K. Thankfully, I have a desk job and a short commute so working until the last minute shouldn't be too much of a problem.
Chances are I won't be organised for the arrival. We need to move house before the baby comes and I have a feeling it's not all going to have gone through by then (we haven't even found somewhere yet!). I'm not too worried although I do envision the baby sleeping in a drawer like in The Brittas Empire