January 2018 babies!

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Just me?

Due 30th Dec/1st Jan

1st baby

purplepoppy hope everything is ok. Can dh get there to be with you? How long did you have the pains for? Please let us know how it goes

Sorry I meant oh not dh. Hope you can get seen to before you need to get back to dd x

Good luck Purple, I know it's a tough thing to go for the scan alone, especially after previous experience of MC, but surely it's very important for your health to know if something is wrong? Fx that it's just one of those weird pregnancy things and that it's all OK!

ra I'm glad you're getting seen to; feeling sick is normal, but actually being sick so often is not and there's no reason to suffer it! No badges will be handed out as they say

Those waking at 4:30 every day, that was what I had last time! It stopped around 7 weeks and it was a blessed relief! This time I'm just a lot more tired, but I'm putting it down to the extra work my body is doing in terms of digestionI'm now reduced to hiding prunes in my smoothies ffs Now I understand why old people can be so grumpybetween prunes and constipation, I'm not sure there's much choice! I was also a bit more sick feeling this morning, and very very dizzy, but it seems to have passed now. Luckily I had today off, and I only have to hide it through 1 more day of work before my 8 week scan on Wednesday, after which I will be telling work colleagues anyway!

ALHC I agree that some people are toxic, and best kept out of your life. That is the line I have sadly had to take with my abusive grandfather, and by extension my grandmother as she is completely under his control. So I understand how hard and guilt-ridden it is to not be able to enjoy milestones like this with the people who should truly love you. I know I am lucky to have loving parents (my mother is a crazy drama queen, but she does love us!) and the best in-laws I could have hoped for! It sounds like you and your DH are very much united and loving, and I'm sure your child will benefit from having the two of you as parents! X

@WLMcl Thank you for understanding. You've got it in one. Most of us have families that may not be perfect but which function, and it must be wonderful to share such happy news with them, but there are a lot of us out there who don't fit the pretty picture on Mother's Day cards etc and that's okay too. Still makes for wobbly moments at times like this, as it highlights what you're missing. But you don't get to pick your family. All you can do is decide how much they impact on you. Thank God for MN as an outlet for all the stuff going round in my head, since I don't have a mother I can talk to about such stuff.

Christ someone help me. I'm 8 bloody stone and petite and yet I look as if I've put on 3 stone. I ordered a bikini for our upcoming holiday - usual size. Doesn't fit one bit.

How do you prevent this bloat? Or ease it at least! I've no idea how to hide this belly at work and I'm starting to freak.

alhctps I totally get it too, me and my parents are not close at all, they adopted me age 5 but we never formed a bond, adoption did not work out and I went back into care at 15 and left for good at 16. Since ds arrived 15 years ago we have built many bridges and I can count on them for support as in babysitting and they are very good with ds, but there is still not that emotional bond between us, so I can talk to them about practical things but nothing more than that. Also identify with the wedding drama as we chose to have the ceremony on our own just me, dh and ds were there as I didn't want to be walked down the isle and other reasons. We did have a party afterwards but it definitely overshadowed by my mum and her family's open disapproval of our decision.
That being said I feel if you have the love and support of your parter and a few close friends then you have everything you need.

I'mbreaking I'm going to Holland and Barratt later to see what I can get to help the awful bloat, I'll let you know if I find anything that works!

maybe I wish you luck!! Fingers crossed you find something as I'll be running there at the back of you.

My dad asked me if I'd put on a bit of weight yesterday so it must be noticeable.

Thanks guys, maybebaby2 I have exactly the same problem/s as you, so as normal I got the immediate comment "oh it's retroverted" pause... "oh it's really really retroverted"

Anyway no signs of anything causing the pain from her perspective but she pointed out the corpus luteum on my left ovary which is definitely where the pain is coming from. So I've engaged brain (and added to my gynae history) - I had a large cyst there removed when I was 21 - botched operation resulted in damage to both the ovary and tube and I've had subsequent operations to remove scar tissue, so most likely scar tissue get tangled with stretching uterus (similar to my last pregnancy)

Ps I saw a heartbeat! and am secretly a little disappointed it was only one

Sorry forgot to add details of the pains - so dull stitch down left lower abdomen 90% of the time + some stabbing pains in ovary area and then three episodes of agonising pain down my entire left side leaving me struggling the move much! It must be a combination of trapped wind and my existing gynae issues! Quite extreme though!

More spotting here. Keep telling myself its normal but can't help feeling a little hopeless for this pg for some reason.

purplepoppy that's brilliant news, so glad everything looks good, you must feel so relieved! Fab that they could see it as well with your retroverted womb! Ah an you got to see a little heartbeat!! Amazing can't wait till its my turn for scan!
Those pains sound similar to what I've been experiencing only last night I was almost crying with the pain in my back. If it was the same this morning I think I would have had to call gp. Thankfully as the day has gone on I'm feeling a lot better and hopefully won't get much more of it!
Just need to deal with the bloating and constipation now.... which was probably a major part of the issue in the first place!

Maybe I'd get it checked out just in case, with in internal scan then can pretty much see anything!

Jelly I have friends who've had spotted/bleeding and been fine - there are a few people on here with similar experience too, hope you're ok x

Glad you're sorted purple. Exciting to see a heartbeat. I can't wait!

Hello ladies! Got my BFP last week and based on my last AF, I'm due at the end of January all being well! Counting down to first midwife appointment now - newlyweds, 30yr, first baby!

Purplepoppyseed I hope everything has worked out well.

The GP checked my urine and sent me to the hospital, so they are hydrating me and also giving me antisickness medication too. Thank you to the lady who suggested I go in, could have been much worse if I hadn't xx

I'd appreciate a quick sanity check.

I'm probably going to wait until 8 weeks to tell my parents and then (if all appears to be well), I'm really looking forward to telling them face to face. However - DH is being difficult about taking the time to travel to them or having them up to see us. It really isn't that far, 2.5 hours on the train each way - but we're both very busy and stressed with work, and he doesn't understand why I can't just tell them on the phone. He plans to tell his parents via FaceTime at 12 weeks - but they live much further away and he's less close to them.

From my point of view, you only get to tell your parents this for the first time ONCE. I want to see their faces and I want them to be able to give me a hug. I think they would feel cheated by a phone call. (They are technophobes, by the way - so Skype / FaceTime is not available to us as a compromise option).

I'm getting a bit wound up - I feel like I'm being deprived of such a basic thing. I could go down on my own and tell them - but it's something I'd imagined us doing together. Is this my hormones running wild, or am I justifiably upset? I suppose this is an AIBU, really - but I can't face the volume of traffic and the flaming!

Elle I agree with you, it's much nicer to tell in person if you can! My parents would feel cheated by a call, but then they're just half hour drive away. I'd say the train journey isn't that long, maybe go up on a Friday after work, stay over and tell them saturday morning, and head back later Saturday so you still have a day to rest at home before another busy week?

@Rosehyd2 - An overnight is completely out of the question! Wouldn't even dare suggest it at the moment, he is so stressed. I'm just trying to get 2-3 hours with my parents - so with the train either side of it, all day on either Sat or Sun gone, but we'd be back by the evening. For various reasons, we are both working very hard - but his situation is much worse and he knows that he will hardly have any time off over the next few months.

Elle I would definitely tell them in person. Is there not a time where you would see them anyway? I don't know how often you see them but I told my dad at a meal we had already planned. Anything like that?

Glad I could help ra002, I'm glad you're being looked after. If you pop over to the pregnancy page, there is a hyperemesis support page, they're ace and really helped with tonnes of advice in my last HG pregnancy x

Scan all went well! Put me at 7+1 weeks rather than 7+3 but he said he was very happy with how everything looks. Now to relax the tiniest bit and begin the countdown for the next one in 2 weeks 2 days...!

Jelly how far along are you now?? My last pregnancy I spotted throughout first trimester and everything was ok. This time round i spotted a little for about 6 days but now it's completely stopped and tests keep getting darker/weeks go up, so hoping all is OK. I know how frightening it is though.

Elle Tell your DH that you're pregnant and get to make certain demands. How you tell your folks is one of them. YADNBU, it's not like you've got to fly to Azerbaijan is it?! Happy wife, happy life!

Hi, has anyone had an early scan? I'm thinking of having one when I'm 6/7 weeks and was wondering what can be seen and if it will be worth it