January 2018 babies!

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Just me?

Due 30th Dec/1st Jan

1st baby

Thanks Maybebaby2 - It was our first cycle of trying, so I expected it to take longer, especially as we are both in our mid 30s and my own parents had fertility issues. I thought I was getting my period as I had a big old mood swing (as I often do a few days beforehand) and a bit of light cramping - which I now think must have been implantation. I only took the test to double check! Hope you're doing well!

Wow that's amazing ellemc! I think a lot of people think they'll have the same fertility problems as their parents. Friend of mine was convinced she'd have real difficulties because of a hereditary blood condition plus she was an only child and a miracle one at that but it only took her 4 cycles to conceive her 1st and now she has another! But wow 1 cycle really is amazing!
I'm still in a bit of shock as I'm bit older 37 and dh is 43, I was on cycle 7 and was starting to think it might be a very long road ahead. Start of this cycle was horrendous and so stressful so I'd counted myself out, took a test for the hell of it and there was the line! Feel immensely lucky and just hoping it's a sticky one!

Congrats Elle :)

Elle, don't worry about the coffee and yoga. The baby wasn't supplied by the placenta, so no caffeine will have reached it. And exercise is fine, the baby is very well protected!

Busy thread today!

I have two others maybebaby2...5, 14 & 16! I really don't want to tell my 16 yr old as she has exams and is stressed enough already. 5 yr old is always asking for a sibling so she will be pleased. I'm pretty sure at 43 that this will be my last though!

Ifeellikechicken I was in London last weekend and had to make up some bizarre exuse to my friend as to why I wasn't drinking! Not sure if she believed me though, I would probably have told her but we had our teenagers with us!

Millsbynight, sorry to hear that you are vomiting already, I feel nauseous around the 10 week mark but never really sick. Can they give you anything for it? Can you stil eat? That must be terrible x

Most of my symptoms have gone now, except for sore boobs! I'll be glad to see the mw on Thursday and feel as though I must resist the temptation to test again....

@ImBreakingBad I got a squinter on Thursday the week before my period is due and then positive first responses Friday and Saturday and then braved a clear blue digital this morning and got a 1-2 weeks pregnant at 4 weeks before af was due, so you might do!

*4 days!

I'm dreading the questions about why I'm not drinking. I have a hen do and a few parties and BBQs coming up and they are small enough people will notice I'm not drinking. I think we will tell close friends after an early scan if I get that far

Thanks Maybebaby2 & Kirsty.

Fattycowagain - that's reassuring re- the coffee and makes sense. Thank you! The advice on yoga in the first trimester varies, but the general consensus seems to be that it's safest avoided - particularly backbends and abs stuff... I don't think it's too terrible, though - I'm just paranoid! I'm planning to keep up my running, as I find that really important for my mental wellbeing - I'll just take it a bit easier.

waitingonasmile I know exactly what you mean, I'm on my way into London for a bottomless brunch so will have to make up some dodgy excuse about having to drive to the station to excuse the fact that I'm not necking prosecco like I usually would! Had to 'drive' to my friend's hen do last weekend with the same group of friends so it's going to be really obvious! I've also got two weddings to go to between now and end of first trimester, one of which we're staying in a hotel for, so it's going to be really hard hiding it! I seem to only go to hen dos and weddings when I'm pregnant!

Hi everyone, I got my BFP this morning on cycle 6. This is DC#2, I have a DS 2yr10m.
I got a very slight squinted yesterday and a nice pink line this morning, followed by a CB 1-2weeks 😊 AF isn't due until Tuesday so I'm still slightly cautious but excited 😊 EDD 19.1.18 at the moment

Congrats mummyme and welcome along!

Hi everyone! Just got my bfp! Af is 3 days late now, fingers crossed for a sticky one!!

How the hell do I cheer the f up. I keep weeping ALL the time and feel really low and over sensitive and twitchy. The world is going to hell in a hand cart - Brexit and Trump etc, I hate everyone I work with and just want to stay home with my cats, the house we were buying has just fallen through because the vendors are arseholes, despite all the effort we've put in and I'm now convinced we'll never find a place and I'll have a newborn in a one-bedroom flat and then have to deal with a house move at some point in the future with a small child. That is, if we can ever afford somewhere - this is the second purchase that has fallen through and I'm getting desperate and feeling that everywhere is getting more and more expensive and the places we could afford six months ago are now out of reach. Basically, the sky is falling. I'm exhausted and I'm only five weeks gone. How am I going to get through another 35 weeks? And I'm the only one who ever fing does anything, as my beloved, despite a high flying job, is absolutely passive at home and leaves everything to me, even though I have a career too. This is why I put off children so long. Why would I want another dependent when my beloved is already like a fing child who expects me to do all the emotional labour. He'll do things, but he's so fing slow and could procrastinate for England and just doesn't 'see' anything that needs to be done. It all happens magically and all the initiative and motivation has to come from me. Just as he's getting a child but I'm the one who has to go through pregnancy. It's all so f*ing unfair and our life is going to go to shit if I can't be the powerhouse pushing things through, but I just can't anymore. I'm not even showing and I'm so tired and weepy and vulnerable. How the hell am I going to get through this? I can't even drink or smoke!

Congratulations mummyme and mrsb!!

That sounds like you've got a lot going on alhctps . Pregnancy can be so overwhelming and emotional but I'm sure w everything will fall into place.

Good luck with that ifeellikechickentonight. I think I'm going to say I'm on a diet and stopping drinking ubtil summer while gorging on everything in sight

Welcome newcomers!

Thanks for your advice ladies. I think I'll get DH to get DS ready for school in the mornings and make his breakfast for the next 6 weeks or so as I don't want to vomit in front of DS while making his toast. He's such a sensitive little soul that he'll get really upset seeing me so unwell.

Don't know what I'm going to do about work. ExP had quite a bit of money so when it became apparent I was really suffering in pregnancy I stopped working. Don't have that option now, both DH and I need to work. Will make an appointment with the GP to get some anti-sickness meds.

Alhctps that all sounds tough. Just ride the wave of shitiness. I promise it won't last forever

Forgot to say - I can hold down food :) Eating is the only thing helping the nausea, but I can only stomach junk food. A salad just isn't doing it for me right now!!

Congratulations mummyme and mrsb on your bfps!!

alhctps you sound like you are really going through it at the moment, pregnancy hormones can be a bitch! If it makes you feel any better, last night I lost my shit with the pizza delivery man! Ds (age 15) went down to collect from door and I overheard pizza delivery guy complain about having to wait a couple of mins at the door, he was really snotty so that was it I flew down the stairs and let rip! Felt really embarrassed afterwards because I would never normally act like that!!

mills sorry to hear you've been sick already. I'm 6+3 and have been feeling quite nauseous for several days now but no puking yet! Also finding that eating a lot is the only thing that's helping, and nothing healthy!

alhctps sounds like you're having a tough time. Be kind to yourself - early pregnancy is draining both physically and emotionally. Hormones can also make things seem awful.

I could do with some advice pls. Not sure what to do. I'm a teacher and meant to be leading a school trip abroad during May half-term for five nights. I currently feel barely able to look after myself due to extreme exhaustion and constant nausea let alone get 30 kids through the airport and looking after them on the trip with nowhere to hide (I'm currently able to pop home for a lie down at lunchtime and after work - this will be full on from 7:30 to whenever the heck they're in bed). Also we'll be quite remote so worried I'm going to need to pee and there not be toilet stops very often! With DS I also started puking daily at 8 weeks and as I'm feeling pretty sick already assume this is heading in the same direction. So what would you do? Suck it up and get on with it? Confess to my boss to see what she says (which means it'll be round school in less than 24hours which isn't ideal at this stage)?

Kili, I would come clean to school if I were in your situation. If you don't think you're going to be up to it then I would say so now, sp they can try and put something in place to cover you. I'm a teacher too, and I know when we run residentials it's normally hard to get people to volunteer

You have the right to complete discretion from your boss, but it's likely people will put two and two together when you pull out. What a sucky situation :(

Congratulations mummyme and Mrsb!

Kilicat what a pain! Can someone else do it? You may feel better by then as you are further along, also, are there any other staff members going along?

alhctps that all sounds bloody awful, my husband is worse than useless so I can sympathise with you there. These feelings do pass though and your second trimester should be less of a worry than the first. Just remember that your little one will have you to love it and that's all it will need, well, that and a good bottle of gin!!

millsbynight as long as your eating!!

Just to clarify, the gin thing was a joke and I meant for you after the baby is born/Breast feeding!

Just sitting down with DH. Pulled my back lifting at work 3 days before I got my BFP and I am in total agony 😕 DH just opened a bottle of my favourite fruit cider with lots of ice 😡 I'm joining him with a Vimto and ice! Plus I got this today..... will probably stop testing now!!!! X

I got an email from my midwife team. Stupid gmail put it in spam, so I've only just realised... They mailed me yesterday morning!
I get to go for an early scan on May 23rd, when I'll be 6+6 according to dates. I am nervous about it, as that is about as far as I was along when I miscarried last time. But the midwife team here is really lovely, they really are there for you. Only 16 more nights before I hopefully get to see a little heartbeat!

Kili I would second that opinion, talk to the head about getting out of the trip (and it shouldn't need to be said, but if they're the gossipy type of person then reinforce that this is a confidential medical condition and they'll know to keep their lip buttoned!) Residentials are exhausting and physically demanding (might there be heavy lifting involved, luggage etc?), and a remote spot abroad might not guarantee the medical help you could need if, god forbid, anything goes wrong. There is nothing more important right now than your health and the health of your baby. Nothing--not embarrassment that your colleagues might find out, not guilt over putting your boss in a tough spot to find cover for the trip, not "she'll think I'm a wimp", nothing! X