May 2017 #13 the lucky thread

[Rustler74]

Just thought I'd get the next thread ready. Let them babies arrive!

Yay nurse you're back!!
Sorry to hear you've had a horrid couple of weeks. Headaches are so debilitating and yes, some people say the most stupid inappropriate things sometimes!!
The woman in the clinic!!! She'd have to ask me what I'd been doing with my DH of 20 years!!!

Yay Mrs sanity you're back too!!!! How'd wedding go??? You've been sick?

Glad all is well and you can go home now wish :)

Redblu yes, I am having movements that hurt. I'm 37+5 and it's been going on for a few weeks now, but ramping up. It often feels like baby has just run out of space. Other times, baby is just so active that it gets uncomfortable. MW told me there is no such thing as too much movement so I am just focusing on that!

Yeay @nursebickypegs glad you're ok, your "friends" sound "interesting"  better off on here with us talking nonsense! And at the "what did you do in your 20s" woman, fair play if she wanted 6 kids that's up to her but what a weird comment!

I think my baby brain has taken over, I don't understand Roman-Ace beyond it being weird  what am I missing 

@Autumnsweater glad the painkillers are working  you might be right about baby's bum, think s/he might just be running out of space! I'm amazed you have fingers left to type after washing a cat's foot

Hello Mrs @SanitysSake do we get wedding photos? I bet you looked amazing!! Hope you had a fabulous day!!

@RasperryInAMelon when is your appointment to talk about induction? Doesn't sound like you're getting much of a rest on ML

@nursebickypegs glad to see you back! But really sorry to hear you've been struggling. Headaches/migraines have been an issue for me since I was a teenager so I fully appreciate how draining it can be! If you haven't already maybe try acupuncture? It was a life saver for me when I had to come off my preventative tablets in pregnancy!
I definitely agree that knowing more must make it more stressful, ignorance is bliss for us!
Also your friends sound awful! Definitely keep the positivity going, as much as it sucks there's always people who feel the need to stick their negative noses in! So may people have cats and babies, they will be fine!

Loving the idea of bath with baby, might suggest that to the other half as sounds like a brilliant chance for bonding!

@SanitysSake congrats! How was it?! Hope your feeling better now as well!

Congratulations Sanity and welcome back! How was the big day?

My psychology appointment went ok. I basically cried at the doctor for an hour! She said she doesn't think I'm anxious or depressed, or that I need to worry about the impact of my grief on my babies, but said I need to start being kinder to myself and accept that I'm doing a good job as a mum, even though things are not quite as I imagined. She's referring me for bereavement counseling and to see her again when the baby is about 6 weeks old.

Autumn did you read the recent thread about washing cats? Very funny. If you managed to wash him and keep your fingers, the newborn will be a doddle!

@EsmesBees glad your appointment went ok. I'm sure it will help talking to someone.

I'll have to look for that washing cats thread! I woke up at 5am this morning to find my cat dry heaving so I had to frantically shoo her off the rug and onto the laminate floor and then clean up a pile of sick whilst trying not to gag myself. Great start to the day!

Thanks for the welcomes. I've been completely rubbish since I found the thread as DD has a lovely case of sickness bug! What a delightful start I've had to maternity leave!

Got a question for any second timers. Has your bub dropped really early? I'm 35wks today and baby has been so low for a few days now. I crouched down to pick up some toys and swear baby was right on my cervix.

I'm struggling a bit today. I don't know why but I can't be arsed to see or speak to anyone. I'm fed up of people asking me how I am and talking about bring pregnant. I just want to be treated normally for a bit. I'm supposed to be seeing some friends tonight but I'm more than likely going to cancel in favour or sitting in my pyjamas instead. I'm fed up with attempts of bump touching and being public property. Is this normal?

@Rabbitykins55 I'm fed up of people going to me "you better do XYZ before the baby comes!" This can be anything from sleeping, eating, shopping, breathing...

@Rabbitykins55 Totally normal! For me, it's the wow how big are you? That babies not staying in for 5 more weeks, blah blah. I know I'm huge, I don't need to be reminded!

Rabbity totally normal! It does wear a bit thin when all anyone talks to you about is the pregnancy 🙄 I've found that not so subtle conversation changes work best with friends "ahh yeah still pregnant, I'll let you know when it's out! Anyway let's talk about..."

Thank you ladies. 💜 I don't like people commenting on my size either! You wouldn't say oh aren't you massive to someone who wasn't pregnant so it's not ok to say it to someone who is. If I could hide the bump I would but with less than two weeks to go that's neigh on impossible. Especially as my coat no longer does up.

As much I as I wouldn't wish feeling like this on anyone I'm glad I'm not alone.

Roman-Ace is a mis-spelled Romance. I've seen it a few times on awful FB groups, and now I have seen it in the wild. I never use to be a snob with names but now I'm pregnant I am definitely a huge snob!

I managed to go to a breastfeeding group while DH was away with work. Such a huge positive experience, I met with a few Mums and I had a chat about my worries when it comes to feeding which is basically doing it in public. The Mums were incredible and I definitely feel more pro-BF than I did. I've bought some bras and vests, and DH has reassured me that he will always shield me if we are out in public! I think that's my biggest worry! My second worry was about DH bonding with baby, but I read in my BF book that I can put baby on DH chest for skin to skin after a feed, for bonding and routine and DH is up for that. I have an image of just dumping baby on DH while he's asleep however!

@WishIWasSleeping congratulations by the way!!!!! Can't wait to read your birth story. What name have you gone with? I swear 2017 is the year of the boy!

@BouncingBlueberry it's freezing over here in Nottingham, but still sunny. I'm expecting rain later tonight no doubt!

@RasperryInAMelon I'm trying to find a "little Jedi on board" sticker for the car 😂 definitely pre nerve jitters, on our wedding day I was just talking endlessly (more than usual!) and I predict I'll be the same. I'm so excited but scared to see him and just hold him! DH says I'll probably cry as I am secretly a very emotional person, and he's probably right.

@Rustler74 I swear I've just got "massive" this past week or so. When I sit in the car it's this huge bump now!

@MrsJW15 I'm obsessed with what baby looks like too. We have a really clear ultrasound where I can see his whole face and I'm convinced he looks like me. Our entire family are clones according to my Dad and DH; I look like my mum, mum looks like her dad, and then I have a photo of my Grandpa's Mum from 1930 and it looks like my Mum has time-travelled. I'm hoping Bub has the clone gene 😂

@RedBlu I hate SPD, and it feels like I am always being kicked in the fanny!!! I'll definitely try that @Barnes79 as getting out of bed is a nightmare. I struggle hugely with getting out of the car (so much so that I've switched cars back to mine) and the shower.

@Badgerbird 😂😂 you will blow her mind!!! I think people don't engage their brain before they ask questions; rather like people who ask why haven't you got kids yet etc.

@1004Rise interesting is definitely the word!  I always think before I make a comment, and tbh my cats are so gentle I doubt they are going to come near Bub when he's here anyways. It felt like they had spoken about it before between themselves like, "oh nurseBP has cats, have you seen her FB, yeah I bet they will attack the baby" because I do post a lot of cat photos of FB...

@Tickyboovicki I have woke up with another headache today, and I am popping paracetamol like it's going out of fashion. I'm definitely going to look at acupuncture. My mum reminded me that I suffered during my late teenage years, something which I totally forgotten about. I use to lie in a dark room and drink loads of water, so I might try that again! I know peoples vision goes with migraines but I can still read/watch TV but sound drives me mad. DH was on Skype to his brother and they were just being so loud... I nearly unplugged the broadband so it would disconnect! In reality he was probably just whispering!

@EsmesBees that sounds fantastic and really good progress. How do you feel about it all?

@Autumnsweater you're brave washing a cat!!!!! I have washed my cat once and I swear I still have the scars to prove it!

@Rabbitykins55 ugh the size thing!!! I get asked endlessly how much weight I have gained which I find exceptionally rude.

Here is the cat washing thread Do you wash your cat ?
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/2908838-Do-you-wash-your-cat

😂

Afternoon all, had a great start to the day feeling hugely positive about doing this all again but this afternoon I'm really starting to feel the doom cloud descending. I went to an antenatal breastfeeding class earlier and I think it's just bought back all the guilt and anxiety from failing to BF my first baby. I feel like I'm going to fail with this one before I've even given birth. I don't know what's wrong with me I'm such a positive person and a very practical logical thinker but I just can't get my head round it all, in such a spin.

Sainty and nurseBP glad to hear your both well and it's not been a dramatic early labour keeping you from us. Mrs Sainty if your on the FB group pretty please can we have a wedding pic.

Ah peas don't go there, you'll do fine!
What didn't work last time, anything you can do differently this time?

@nursebickypegs I think I may have preferred being in the dark about Roman-Ace that's awful!! I clearly lead a sheltered life!!

@EsmesBees well done! Crying for the full hour is hard work, was obviously something you needed.

@Rabbitykins55 Completely normal! I've even been avoiding Tescos and doing more online orders so I don't see people! I have to say I've never been so glad to work from home than when I've been pregnant. For the first half because I could be sick and miserable in peace (much easier to hide on a conference call) and now I avoid all the "useful" advice that seems to fly about. The worst one has to be "you have no idea what you're letting yourself in for"... or "you're not going to be able to do x y z anymore".... really winds me up.... I'm not a complete idiot thank you, and just because I have a baby doesn't mean I will give up everything else I enjoy, I will just have to do it differently!!

Savage he wouldn't latch basically, just refused the breast. I used shields but that was the most painful thing I've ever experienced and he would be on the boob for 1-2 hours at a time so obviously was fairly inefficient at getting milk. I had no real life support to keep going and gave up in a sleep deprived desperate haze.

@peasandquiet I know how you feel. I had to give up with my first after a few weeks, thanks to mastitis in both boobs. I couldn't even express milk by this point as my nipples were in such a state. In the end, my screaming baby and my mum giving me a bloody good talking to about letting go of the guilt, helped me accept the change to formula.

That was what really annoyed me about the Bf class we went to pre-baby 1. I just don't think they're upfront about just how flippin hard it really is. I only know a couple of mums that have made it last beyond a month. Also, the fact they don't tell you anything about formula feeding left us in a right pickle!

At the end of the day, fed is best, so I've decided to combination feed this time to take the pressure off myself.

Oh peas. Feel for you. Try not to think of it as failure. Your baby just ended up being fed in a different way to how you imagined.

Thanks Rise I think you are right, I did need it. I'm not a natural talker and I don't cry easily so this is new territory for me.

Nurse I feel relieved it's over and tired to be honest. Am working from home this afternoon but it's not going to be my most productive few hours.

Peas I know there's so much pressure on us nowadays to BF, but just remember a fed baby is what matters most. If you can't BF it's not your fault, it just doesn't work for everyone. You've said you're going to try so you can't do anymore than that. That's my approach anyway...

Ah peas that's not your fault. Hopefully this baby latches better for you!

@MrsE84 I'd love to combi feed as I'm just convinced I won't produce enough milk!

Oh and I almost forgot to say, I've just been for the first trial dog and pram walk to the post box. Considering what an anxious dog he can be I am so proud of my fur baby right now. After the first 10m he just toddled along next to the pram