Biscuits, official scans & the end of the trimester - Later November due dates this way...

[AGnu]

Thread #2, because apparently our "quiet" thread is rather busy!

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Help yourself to a , here's to another month of chatting!

That's a tricky one sock. Would moving jobs mean you get less maternity pay? If so, is that an issue? Does the new employer seem family friendly (do people who have young kids work there)? What's the job security like either way? And how are you feeling...pregnancy completely scrambles my brain and I know I'd struggle to take on anything new! Can you tell us what you do?

That said, there's nothing worse than doing a job you hate, and if it's making you unhappy that's also a really important consideration.

@theotherendofthesockportal I had a chat about a well paid job this morning but I think I will stay where I am just for the mat leave. It's a tough one, is there anything you can do to make it better in the short term?

Sock I'm not sure if you're entitled to SMP if you've been working for your employer for less than 6 months before the baby is born. Don't take my word on it but maybe worth investigating?

I'm aware of a few people returning from maternity leave who ended being treated less than favourably. As result, they moved jobs and are happier. Maybe that's the time to consider jumping ship?

Ultimately it depends on what you can afford and how much you hate your job!

I'm sticking where I am for a while. We get 6 months full pay whilst on maternity leave and my team are really relaxed about taking time off for sick children etc. However my pay has stagnated massively so will look around as soon as I stop procreating!

Voice of HR over here, stay where you are and look towards the end of your mat leave instead... it's tough when you're unhappy but it's difficult situation finding a new job, learning the ropes and making it through a new probation period whilst pregnant.

On the note of animals, I am frequently waking up with three cats and two dogs wedged onto my side of the bed, or all trying to get on me on the sofa... one of the dogs even nipped the hubs when he tried to wake me up to send me to bed last night...
I'm currently having a nice little float with one cat on the side of the bath and the other staring at me from the loo seat I am well protected (and stalked)...

Had a call from the drs. The harmony test came back all clear . I have an appointment this afternoon and if DP makes if we'll find out the sex, if not he's going to put it in an envelope for us to open tomorrow.

I have a scan booked for next week to measure the nuchal fold but not sure if it's worth it now we know the results. It has to be done in a special unit in the hospital (with even more inflated rates) so I'm thinking of asking him if we can just do a regular scan at the office. (I'm in the process of calculating billing rates for different insurance companies for work and the inflation for certain services (obgyn being the worst) is sickening).

Thanks for everything last week. I was feeling pretty low about being here and being pregnant. Had a good heart to heart with DP last night and we've cleared the air. Feeling much better and way more positive about things.

sock I joined a new team in May and found out I was pregnant in July. My boss was not happy. I felt like I hadn't built up enough 'goodwill' with the team for any sympathy and ended up working really long hours in stressful conditions. I never really bonded with the team either. I wouldn't recommend it if you could stick it out for longer.

That's great news stuck, you must be so excited to find out. I can't wait to find out at my 20wk scan.

MrsG I feel so much better about the whole thing. I think the not knowing was causing a lot of unnecessary stress. At least there is one advantage of being "advanced age" - yes that is what's on my file! I'm not sure I'd have lasted until 20 weeks this time around

Thank you everyone for all the advice and kind words. I'm in s newish role as it is and still on probation. I work for a very well known national charity. Can't see much else as it will out me.

Things came to a head this morning as I am being made to feel like an idiot. I get told half the information/ story and then get moaned at when I haven't done the full task.

After listening to you lovely folk and taking some advice from my best friend, and a chat with a lovely work colleague, I'm going to stick it out. I'm going to count down the weeks until I can go on maternity leave.

In other news I've had an unexpected appointment with a specialist midwife come through. I'm quite glad as I feel quite wobbly at the moment so any extra support is a bonus.

Not sure if the specialise appointment is because of autoimmune disease I have or because I have anxiety. Either way I'm glad I'm being looked after.

No even 11 weeks & I'm wearing maternity jeans in public while obsessively pulling at the bottom of my t-shirt so no-one can see! The relief of not having to put on normal jeans is amazing! Now I just need to make a new bra extender because I've lost my old one!

Are anyone's symptoms improving yet? I'm finally able to drink relatively normal quantities of water again but still constipated. The nausea is still pretty bad too unless I'm chain-munching Ritz crackers & I'm exhausted all the time. I was out with the DC from 9 until 2 today & was asleep on the sofa by 3 & didn't wake up until DH was handing me dinner at 6.30. In bed with a migraine now! I just want to feel normal... Well, as "normal" as I ever do!

I seen my midwife today for booking in and she was lovely. A specialist midwife for mental health. I've actually experienced stress induced psychosis in the past and last time I was pregnant the midwife flaked out when I told her. Really affected my confidence. It's nerve racking enough being pregnant with your first. Complained, got a more understanding midwife and had an uneventful pregnancy mental health wise. Really nice to see someone unphased this time. Looking forward to my scan on the 8th of may and feeling better on the whole. Didn't realise how much being nervous about midwifery first encounters was worrying me.

Hello sorry not been on here for a few days I've been struggling through day and crawling into bed at night with nausea and a packet of wosits lol - I just keep thinking only a few more weeks of this! ( I.m also dreaming of the pending glowing skin and think lustrous hair, at the moment I have more spots than a teenager and hair than goes limp and greasy as soon as I'm out of the shower!)

Natalie I haven't read all the posts I've missed but don't leave xx

Congrats on results of nipt test.

Hello to everyone else, just going to try and catch up on everyone's news. Xxxx

Mummy we're scan date buddies! It's coming up soon now! I'm really glad the midwife put your mind at rest. It's scary to think we're trusting the safety of our unborn babies to these complete strangers without really knowing what they've been taught/how experienced they are/how good they are at their jobs. It's particularly scary when you've had a bad experience in the past. It's such a relief to find someone who actually listens to you & takes your concerns seriously!

agnu I've been wearing mine for about 2 weeks now, what makes it worse is theyve put me back 3 weeks so telling me im 7 weeks so if thats right im 7 weeks and outta all my own trousers lol

When you feel like you'll actually be sick is it better to encourage it and actually vomit or try and ignore it?

I had to try and encourage it today because was then meeting BIL and fiancé for dinner and wanted to share our news with them. Managed a fair amount of macaroni cheese to be fair!

Tea I've been wearing my jeans undone with a bobble looped between the button & hole for weeks. I'd have been wearing maternity trousers earlier but somehow I used to fit into size 8 & couldn't get my old maternity jeans even halfway up my thighs! Bought some more on eBay & they arrived yesterday, hence the joy today of wearing them!

Lydia I've been trying not to be sick. I figure it's not a bacterial thing that needs to come out & I need every ounce of fluid I can get right now. Plus, I'm a bit scared that if I start vomitting I won't be able to stop!

I have my scan on Tuesday, I can't believe we are here already!

I've not had any sickness but have been absolutely exhausted! I am usually a real early morning person but I am struggling to open my eyes at 6.30am even though I went to bed at 9.30!

I'm in my maternity jeans whenever I'm at home. Everything else still fits just about but is sooooo uncomfortable. I had to wear smart work clothes the other day and was bloated, everything felt so tight... It was horrible.

I'm still exhausted but marginally better - I've managed a few short dog walks this week. Just can't concentrate at work though, my boss has suggested I take a day off and just rest a bit but I feel I've got too much to do.

Still no scan date here!

Ten weeks today, and I may need to start on the bobble trick for my jeans! They're fine at the start of the day, but as I get progressively more bloated they don't feel so good!

We're seeing some friends at their house for dinner tonight so I hope I don't have to give the game away when it comes to food.

I can just about fit in to my jeans but had to go up a size when buying new ones (at 9+5) ie my others had stretched!

Lydia It helps me to try and be sick. I'm often not (just a lot of retching!) but I feel better afterwards.

Glad to hear people's symptoms are clearing up. I'm still feeling nauseous and desperate to start being useful again. It's much worse than last time.

@Zampa I think my symptoms are getting worse at 10 wks than they were at 6-8!!

Finally got round to getting on new thread! Hello everyone!
I have been really quite tired but otherwise not too bad. Just trying to manage gdd now and work out what I can and can't eat.
Ds4 birthday tomorrow (our stillborn son) and it is the first one so finding that a bit tough.
Scan is booked for 11th of may.

Hope everyone is doing great, sorry I have been absent, I've been finishing work, sorting the children out and then going to bed myself. Not very sociable at all.

So girls I had an EPU scan thinking I was 9+6 and had been getting abdominal pain. Turns out I am 13+2! Very surprised but also relieved - and glad I trusted my instincts to ask for a scan before our 2 wk holiday. My scheduled 12 wk scan would have been too late to do screening tests otherwise!!

kimbles that sounds tough, hope you'll have plenty people round you Tomor! Sending hugs