Biscuits, official scans & the end of the trimester - Later November due dates this way...

[AGnu]

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I've got my scan on Thursday next week, the day before I go on holiday. Time is flying by!!!

My scan date is 15th May when I'll be 12+3

Really wanted it to be the 12th as we have a big family party on 14th and I want to tell people then, but unsure about doing so without a scan.

Haven't tried calling to rearrange as I'm sure they'll be booked up but it's playing on my mind.

I had the private scan at 8+2 where everything looked fine though, so I may still tell them

I've got my scan a week today. I'll be somewhere between 11+4 & 12+1, we'll see what the scan says. When I had my 12 week scan with DS his due date was brought forward a week as he was measuring big even then. He was 98th centile for length when he was born!

I called & moved my scan date, they just asked why I needed to move it & even managed to get me the first appointment of the week so DP can come before he goes to work away for the week. It's always worth an ask.

Thanks topsy, I'll try it :)
What's the worst that can happen?

I think mine is a week today, dreading being back in the hospital, such bad memories from last time.

My scan date is after our 2 wk holiday on 17th May where I'll be 12+3.

Getting what I'd describe as 'growing pains' in my abdomen area, think I'm going to call midwife today and just check things are ok.

Wishing we had scan before holiday so that I'd know everything was ok but too late now!

My scan is 12th May, where I will be 12+3 by the standard EDD calculator. I think I ovulated early though so I might be 13+3. With my first at the 12w scan they brought the due date forward a week.

Thank you for the dress link zampa, I'm going to order it today!

I've got an emergency doctor appointment this morning as the midwife still hasn't come back to me. I'm feeling worse, my eyes hurt, my joints are aching and I've got a cough :(

@Foggymist I understand your hospital fear. I actually picked a different hospital this time around as I couldn't go back to the first one.

Sockportal maybe you just have a bug? I caught every bug going last time I was pregnant, it was miserable.

Unfortunately I'd have no option of choosing a different hospital, I live two streets away from the biggest maternity hospital around here, the next option would be 1.5 hours away through traffic into a city!

I'm terrified that something will be wrong at mine, I've not had any Scan yet.

Sockportal hope you're OK...it does sound like a bug.

I haven't got a scan date yet - am 10+1. Hopefully it'll come in the post in the next few days. I have quite a lot on at work in the week when I'll be 12 weeks so could do with as much notice as possible in case I need to cancel work stuff.

I'm off into London today - I usually work from home but have an important meeting today. I'm dreading it and feeling very uncomfortable in my smart work clothes as I'm so bloated. Fortunately it's a lunch meeting so I can legitimately eat all the way through! On the train at the moment and wishing I was at home in my jeans and comfy jumper.

I have a teeny tiny bump really low down, it is under my c section scar and has pushed it outwards a bit. But it's not noticeable in clothes - the bloating is though! And so are my boobs, I've noticed people eyeing them suspiciously.

@Topsyloulou, you genius!
She moved it to Friday 12th, no issue.

@Bearest17 I've been to the doctors, they said they can see a trace of an infection in my water. Plus I have a viral infection - lucky me. Ive got 3 day course of antibiotics and have been instructed to rest at home for 48 hours. I bet my boss loves me!

Sock sorry you are feeling so poorly. Glad you have got some answers now though, hopefully the meds kick in pronto.

So exciting seeing all the scan dates. Glad you got yours changed nicecuppa!

I am so happy having the day off, first day off since January and that was when we were skiing so not exactly a chilled out holiday, and we have been so hectic at work I've been so drained. Just on the sofa, feet up, watching Beauty and The Beast (the original!) Reminds me how crap Emma Watson was as Belle 🙄...

I've started getting that niggling doubt over whether we should still tell anyone after the 12 week scan. OH feels the same. We are just so wary and nervous after the MCs to tell anyone. It's annoying, we should be allowed to get excited!

Haz I liked her as Belle!! God I loved that movie so much :)

We're not really telling anyone after the 12 week scan, probably just inlaws and then my family when we see them a few weeks after. We waited until after the 20 week scan last time to relax any bit and tell people a bit more freely, but there were still those that didn't know until he was born!

Foggy I think we may end up the same way! Or maybe wait until people are brave enough to ask me whether I'm pregnant or just fat haha.
Oh man I really couldn't stand her as Belle, she was so flat and passionless. It's a shame because I loved almost everything else about the new one (so much so I watched it twice at the cinema!) I just wish they'd gone for someone who could actually sing. Paige O'Hara was such a perfect Belle 😍 I adored Josh Gad as Lefou, he was perfectly cast and hilarious!

Hope you feel better soon Sock. I'm at home with a poorly DS today & would love to lie in the sofa with him but have so much work to do. Waiting for him to go to sleep so I can make a load of calls.

Glad you managed to get you scan moved Nicecuppa.

I find the whole telling people thing a bit strange. For the first few weeks you can't wait til you can tell everyone & then when the time comes you end up not telling anyone until they start getting suspicious or you need to. I think you get used to it being a secret & want to keep it that way. It also delays all of the inevitable questions. Think I'm going to tell my immediate team at work at our next team meeting at the end of May. Not sure what to do with family, I don't want DS finding out from anyone except us & ideally I'd like to leave it until after the 20 week scan before we tell him but I think it will be fairly obvious before then. Will just have to avoid everyone!

I hate the attention of telling people. As soon as mil found out last time she was on my back constantly checking was I ok, his aunties calling me crying, and worst of all...trying to touch my stomach Easier to pretend I'm fat!

I agree Topsy there is so much pressure piled on once people know. I think part of the desperation to tell people in the early days for me was wanting support! Now we've come this far without telling anyone I'm getting more and more reluctant to tell people. We may tell our parents after the 12 week scan but may wait to tell others until much later.
Foggy I can be a bit funny about personal space, I get so aggy when people stand too close to me at the queue in Tescos, but not sure how I'll feel about people touching the bump, is it really bad?

Well I hate it, especially because I had a very small bump and mil started trying to touch me as soon as we told her, I had a flat stomach until 18-19 weeks so it was just weird! You wouldn't rub somebody's stomach while chatting to them in normal life so what makes it ok when pregnant? I've only ever touched friend's bumps when they've invited me to place my hand to feel movement, I never just shoved my hand at someone and started stroking them!

So yeah, I don't like it :)

My stomach feels so off all the time, I'm grateful I'm not puking but I'm eating so much to stop it and still feel queasy. Not easy on 5 hours of broken sleep with a teething toddler.

Ooh, I hope that you like it MrsGB. I wore it with fuchsia heels and acid yellow nails and a dark purple lip.

I've told 4 people so far, DP (!), my best friend, my boss and DD's physio. I had to excuse myself from a course of hydrotherapy in a warm pool and didn't just want to say no to something that DD loves and benefits from. Really disappointed about not being able to go!

Other than that, I'd like to wait as long as possible to reveal all. I live a long way from friends and family so easy to avoid the issue. However, my colleagues will guess and I think I should tell those closest to me before them!

Will be sucking my tummy in until the end of May!

I've told 3 of my friends. They're the ones I'd turn to if something went wrong anyway so it makes sense for them to know. DH sort of told his boss the other day - he sent him an email explaining that he's working from home more than usual because I'm ill & he can't really discuss the reason yet. Boss replied saying his wife had suffered in early pregnancy too!

We'll tell everyone after the scan. It'll make it easier when we're away if I want to take a break from lots of socialising. Since this is the last time I'm planning on doing this, I'm trying to think of the most painfully cheesy way of announcing it. At the moment I'm considering buying a Chelsea bun to photograph in my oven, or taping the scan picture to the smallest bike we own & lining up the DC on their bikes & getting them to cycle towards the camera in age order before pulling the tiny bike on a string! I may do several similar photos/videos & see quite how annoying I can be!

The bump-rubbing doesn't bother me so much. After 2 bumps I've got quite used to giving people a hard stare & politely saying "please do not touch me". I've yet to have anyone respond in anyway other than to realise it's inappropriate to go round randomly rubbing other people!

I've told my parents and my parents in law, and my sisters as we have a spa day booked for Saturday.
I've also had to tell my immediate boss and her boss as I've fainted a few times and wanted to let them know that I'm not 100% at the moment.

Plan to tell the rest of family and friends after 12 week scan as long as it all looks good, and will tell immediate colleagues a couple of days later once family know.

So far, no one has tried to bump rub, but it's all just fat/bloat at the moment so there's nothing there.

AGnu, I haven't forgotten about you. I just haven't had a single moment since we got back. With a bit of luck I'll get a few minutes to myself this evening.

I have a docs appointment this Thursday when I'll get the harmony test results and a scan booked for next Wednesday. If all is well we plan to tell DS on Thursday and then parents at the weekend.

I think DS may have busted me though. I bought a really cute baby grow when we were away (it was the only opportunity to buy otherwise I'd have waited) and he saw me paying for it. I said it was for someone at work which he was okay with but I'm not entirely sure he believed.

I seem to be having the opposite problem to most of you. I've really gone off eating. Breakfast and lunch I can manage small portions but dinner is a real struggle. To be honest if I didn't have to feed DS I'm sure I'd have tea and biscuits most nights.

I was planning on telling two friends as I told them about my chemical pregnancy last cycle as I needed their support, but then I kept putting it off until A. I was sure it wasn't another chemical, B. It was actually real with a heartbeat, and then I decided to only tell one of the two and haven't seen her on her own since so haven't had the chance!

I did once tell my mil not to touch my stomach, it resulted in her storming off crying and my sil asking dh within my earshot "what's wrong with Foggy? Why doesn't she like people touching her?"