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canadianmum · 09/03/2007 10:15

Due to recent sad news and at the suggestion of others, I have started this new thread. Let's hear everyone's news.......

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MrsMar · 23/03/2007 13:13

I see what you mean. Take it easy and try not to worry too much, the risks of anything happening drop dramatically after 12 weeks.
xx

Pennypops · 23/03/2007 13:57

Laska - I had exactly the same exactly 2 weeks ago and it coincided with some cramping. I panicked completely and panicked my pooor dh and went for an emergency appt with my GP. The doctor was really kind and got her doppler out to listen for my little aliens heartbeat. It took a few minutes to find because the doppler was ancient and alien was wriggling around. It was the longest few minutes of my life. Eventually we detected a heartbeat coming in at the regulation 140bpm. I was told to go home and have a chilled weekend.

Please try not to worry too much - the odds are that all will be well. Calling your midwife may set your mind at rest?

FlossALump · 23/03/2007 15:09

Laksa, most likely it is nothing. But being a Friday afternoon I would ring gp/midwife and get an appt to put your mind at rest.

laksa · 23/03/2007 15:35

Hiya

floss, I rang the gp and they said if I start bleeding properly to ring them back and they would make an appointment at the early diagnostic wing of PRU, if it happens at the weekend I'm to go to AandE. Guess will just wait and see. Glad everything was ok with you penny.

xx

FlossALump · 23/03/2007 15:59

Thats good - at least you now know that there are places to go if you need to IYSWIM. I'm pretty certain it will come to nothing though. Have a lovely chilled weekend.

Holly29 · 23/03/2007 16:16

Laksa,

I'm sure it's fine too. In fact, you have reminded me that I had exactly the same thing a few weeks ago which I ignored as it only happened once and since then I've had my 12 week scan and it was all OK. I'm sure it's just bits finding their way around or something ... take care.

sophus · 23/03/2007 16:32

hi all
Laksa - good luck - if you have had a scan already then the chances of it being a MC are incredibly slim, but do let us know how you get on.
My dreaming is bonkers, either raunchy or just very very vivid and surreal and almost like tripping. Hoards of baby tortoises this week. It was our anniversary yesterday and partner forgot totally, even to the extent of not wondering why we were going out to dinner midweek. What a numptie. He's off to the US for two weeks this w/end and if i don't get serious presents he is in such big trouble.
Tired today so sick as a dog - what a drag.
s

sophus · 23/03/2007 16:34

oh yes and being 30 is wonderful (if i can remember that far back).
Twenties were rubbish - thirties you actually begin to find out who you are and feel comfortable in your own skin. My thirties have been great and even make me welcome my forties - which is lucky as they are just around the corner.

EdieMcredie · 24/03/2007 09:28

Glad to hear it only gets better (im 25)

This sciatica is killing me and is anyone else getting god-awful headaches?!

Laska-I think this is perfectly normal but keep us posted on what happens. Ive never been a knicker checker so for all I know this could have happened to me loads of times. Like others have said, concentrate on that scan image!

MrsMar-Are you a nurse? As for the movements, it prob is the baby, it's nice isn't it?!

JemimaPuddleduck-Welcome. I have too had a mc but have relaxed a bit now at 15 weeks!

Hello to everyone else!!!!

EdieMcredie · 24/03/2007 09:34

PS Will anyone be doing birth plans later on? A couple I have seen have made me laugh TBH. I don't think ill be doing one myself, what do others think?

laksa · 24/03/2007 09:56

thanks guys, I know I'm probably overreacting but I have't bled at all throughout this pregnancy so the sight of red even a very little has freaked me out. Nothing today though, so fingers crossed.

sophus, I am hoping that they (thirties) bring me lots of joy in the form of nappies, puke and sleepness nights

Edie, I get a headache every now and then that lasts 2 days and then mysteriously vanishes just as I am whinging that I can't take it anymore! Oh, and I have sciatica and it seems to be playing up...my mum told me hers went away during pregnancy

xx

lou031205 · 24/03/2007 09:59

Toadstool - sorry in advance for long post!

The lawyer your DH spoke to was, with respect, speaking rubbish. Legislation states (info taken from \link{http://www.dwp.gov.uk/lifeevent/benefits/statutory_maternity_pay.asp})

To get SMP you must have been:

  • Employed by your employer into the qualifying week which is the 15th week before the week your baby is due. Which you are
  • Employed by the same employer without a break for at least 26 weeks into the 15th week before the week your baby is due. Part weeks count as full weeks.
  • Earning before tax an average of £84.00 a week. This is called the Lower Earnings Limit for National Insurance Contributions (NI) and is the amount you have to earn to qualify for benefits. You have to earn more than this amount before you actually start paying NI.

If YES to all, claim SMP.If you leave your employment at anytime after the start of the 15th week before the week your baby is due your employer must pay SMP to you if you qualify for it. Which you will

What happens if my employer says I do not qualify for SMP?

Your employer will tell you why they cannot pay SMP to you. They will give you form SMP1 explaining the reason. You may be able to get Maternity Allowance. You will need to send form SMP1 to your local Jobcentre Plus/social security office with your Maternity Allowance (MA) claim form.

If you believe your employers decision not to pay SMP to you was wrong, then you should ask your local HM Revenue & Customs office to decide the matter.

But, you won't be able to choose when to start mat leave because:

If you are entitled to SMP and you leave your employment:

  • after the start of the 15th week before your baby is due but before the start of the 11th week ? SMP will start from the beginning of the 11th week before the week your baby is due
  • at any time after the start of the 11th week before the week your baby is due and before the start of your maternity pay period, your SMP will start from: ° the Sunday after you left employment, if your baby is due on or after 31 March 2007; or ° the day after you left employment, if your baby is due on or after 1 April 2007

You must tell your employer when you want your maternity pay and leave to start. You should do this by the 15th week before your baby is due.

You must also provide your employer with evidence of when your baby is due. This is normally on maternity certificate MATB1. The earliest that this certificate may be issued by your doctor or midwife is 20 weeks before the week in which your baby is due (around the 21st week of your pregnancy).

Sorry for all the bold and italicised text, but basically, you are entitled to SMP from your current employer, but will get it as soon as you leave their employment, as long as your average earnings are more than £84 per week, and you have worked for them for more than 26 weeks at the 15th week before due date (in other words, you worked for them before you fell pregnant).

Give them your MATB1, and make them respond with the SMP1 if they don't want to pay. That way, you can take it to HM Customs and Revenues, who will make sure you get it.

HTH

Lou

HammerHeadShark · 24/03/2007 10:06

Morning All

Had my scan on Thursday and Yay there is a baby in there it was lovely and busy, waving its arms and legs, and we were quite relieved that there is just one this time!

I was really glad we took the DTs despite the whole thing taking four hours due to delays and our naughty baby hiding away so I had to come back again after having something to eat and drink. We were trying to show the girls the 'baby on the telly' and one of them patted my head and said "Ah mummy, baby in tum tum". Bless her

Edie, sorry to hear about the headaches, I got them last time really badly (GP said hormones) but not so bad this time. That ForHead stuff is quite soothing and my friend used to swear by hand massage to get rid of crappy pregnancy headaches.

Mad busy at work at the moment and am starting to wonder if I have made a mistake going full time from part time as the shifts are so knackering. I shall focus on the maternity pay/leave - means to an end and all that.

Hope you are all well

MrsMar · 24/03/2007 12:12

morning all,

Glad to hear your scan went well hammerhead... it's great to actually see there's a baby in there isn't it? I'm still reeling from the shock!!

Edie, I'm not a nurse, do I sound knowledgeable? hehe, prob not!! I work in telly hence horrendous shift work.

I haven't had any headaches thank God, not sure I could cope.

Had another crazy dream last night, dreamt I was a detective and I was called to a murder scene, two small children had been found in the atrium of a big office building. While I was looking for evidence, I had to look after a really tiny premie baby, literally the size of my hand (God knows what it was doing out of hospital) and the baby kept being sick, loads of green puke. I was so worried, I kept trying to give it a bottle of water because I was terrified it would get really dehydrated. I woke up parched!!! Must have been my subconscious saying "have a glass of water you silly bint!!"

I'm off to switzerland tomorrow. Gonna try a bit of skiing, posted something on the skiing topic page, and general consensus is that it's ok if you're careful. Fingers crossed there's lots of snow and sunshine and luscious hot chocolate with lashings of whipped cream... hmmmmm!

Have a good week everyone, Laska I hope the bleeding stops and everything is ok.

Take care xx

Hopeitwontbebig · 24/03/2007 13:56

Hi all. Hope you're all having a good weekend so far. We've just come back from the woods with two very muddy dogs, not to mention the mud on us!! The very daft Boxer (we're looking after) kept misjudging the length of the stick he was carrying and smacking us on the bag of the legs, and me on the bum!! He's going home tomorrow

Hammerhead, glad your scan went well and it's only one!!! It is strange seeing a perfectly formed person on the screen knowing that it's inside you! Weird

Eddie, I had a really bad headache lastnight, had to go to bed at 8:30 with all the lights out, couldn't stand any light, it's mostly gone now. I seem to get these everynow and again. Yes think it's down to hormones. Must get some of those forehead thingys. It's rubbish for you having sciatica. I had it towards the end of my last pregnancy, it's not fun. I won't be writing a birth plan!! I had all these grand ideas with DS1 and the reality when you're actually in labour tends to throw all your plans out the window. I think it's a good idea to go into it with an open mind. I suspect if you have strong opinions about the sort of labour you want and it doesn't go the way you planned, it can leave you feeling disappointed. I think if anything, on the birth plan you could right things like whether you want DP to cut cord (or not in my DH's case) and whether you want the baby cleaned before being given to you.... stuff like that. My plan this time is NOT to be polite and ASK ASK ASK for pain relief. With my 2 DC I always waited till I was offered. But I'm bigger and uglier now, and I won't be shy about asking this time!!

Laksa, sorry you've had a fright. What with all the bad news that's been going round recently it's TOTALLY understandable to have freaked out. I am sure it is absolutely nothing, and the fact that it's all stopped is a fantastic sign. 'Try' not to worry, the risks are SO small now. Hope you're continuing your birthday celebrations into the weekend

Ooh MrsMar, what do you do then working in telly and all that, sounds interesting?? Apart from nightshifts that is .. yuk.

emalushka · 24/03/2007 14:45

Hello everyone - hadn't had time to post for ages as have been so busy at work. I'm working about 60 hours plus at the moment - I really should try and cut down but I really enjoy working and I keep thinking that I need to fit everything in before the baby gets here.

Laksa - What a coincidence, I had spotting of blood on Friday evening and was ever so worried (I'm 16 weeks, but not had scan yet).
I rang NHS Direct and spoke to a very helpful Doctor, who asked if I had any pains (no) and how many sanitary pads I had used (none, not that bad) and also about the consistency and colour of the blood (light red, watery consistency). Sorry if that's too much information for some people!!!
She came to the conclusion that it was nothing to worry about, but if it did get significantly worse, go straight to A and E. Otherwise, just get plenty of rest, put a cushion under legs, so that legs are elevated, relax and keep hydrated. So, here I am in bed reading and catching up with MN and drinking loads of water.

Hope you feel better soon, but please don't worry too much and make sure you rest. Take care xx

Hopeitwontbebig · 24/03/2007 16:45

My headache's back with a vengeance

FlossALump · 24/03/2007 17:47

I've had to come home from work with a headache. Couldn't concentrate and just wasn't safe to be there really. i really don't know if I am ill of if it is my hormones. I've been going hot and cold, feel shakey and faint and have managed to sleep on and off all afternoon. Now I have to try and decide if I am up to going in tomorrow afternoon - I hate doing this! I either stay home and feel healthy or else I go in and am useless.

Whinge over - sorry!

PurpleLostPrincess · 24/03/2007 18:05

You poor thing hopeitwontbebig, I hope it clears up soon. I had a migraine last week which wasn't fun so I know how you feel.

I've been in bed feeling really low today, not sure why!? I woke up a few times in the night with one side of my body feeling numb and with pins & needles so have been trying to sleep in different positions etc. I also keep crying, I guess its just the hormones, ho hum!

Hope you all have a nice weekend xoxo

Hopeitwontbebig · 24/03/2007 18:37

Oh Floss, I feel for you I really do. Don't go in tomorrow if you're feeling rubbish. There's nothing worse than working when you feel like crap, let alone working when you're pregnant and feel like crap.

Poor Purple... what's going on today??? Is there something in the air.. water? Toy Story is on, that might cheer you up, ((((((((big bugs to you)))))))))

Ps thanks for the sympathy it helps x x

canadianmum · 24/03/2007 19:36

hammerhead - congratulations on the scan, I certainly understand the relief of just seeing one baby, I firmly believe that one set of twins is enough for a lifetime -

For those with regular headaches, I had a regular throbbing headache until about 15 weeks in my first pregnancy. Of course I assumed it was hormones and just gritted my teeth and got on with it, but at about 15 weeks I went to my osteopath for a back MOT and told her about the headaches, so she did some work on my neck and by that evening my headaches had stopped. Of course it could have coincided with a second trimester hormone swing or something but it might be worth a try for some of you????

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canadianmum · 24/03/2007 19:37

I have finally caved in and am now wearing lovely comfy maternity trousers - aaaaaaah

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FlossALump · 24/03/2007 19:42

Thanks HIWBB, I've packed DP out to go and get a lovely burger (it will never be as good as I expect it to be will it?!). I'm going to see how I feel after that and ring up. I just know its short staffed tomorrow, and all junior staff IYKWIM. So i do need to be there.

Maybe it is just something to do with the atmosphere today and we will all be feeling fab again tomorrow?! Hope so for all of us!

Good news Laska, I'd say if all is stopped still you'll be a ok.

toadstool · 24/03/2007 20:12

Evening, all.

lou031205, thank you very much for all this. Work do seem to have accepted the 15 weeks rule, but I remain amazed that a personnel person, an employment lawyer and 2 union reps thought it was enough to dismiss the issue without consulting any documentation at all. TBH, if I'd been less confident of my rights, I would have ended up very down - and completely misled.

And a good week-end to all the September ladies!

EdieMcredie · 24/03/2007 23:04

Oh my god how weird that loads of us have headaches!!!

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