Due in June - you toucha my bump, I smasha your face!

[bumperlicious]

Just thought I'd better kick a new one off...
Another day, another tearful outburst at work! It's getting very embarrassing Is it just me who feels like crying at the drop of a hat? Maybe it's lack of sleep, just not dealing very well with things that would not normally bother me, then something really small sets me off. cried in the toilets for 20 minutes today! Can't even explain why. Is this normal still at this stage?

I'm not PG but can't keep passing this thread in active convos without saying your thread title is making me everytime I see it. Brilliant!

I can't take credit for the thread title - I read it somewhere else on here! I'm just a stealer!

Doggus, my hair is so fine that layers seem to have the opposite effect on me, i.e. they thin my hair out. I know people spend lots of money to hair like mine, I can leave the house without blow-drying it and it is poker straight. But I have a narrow petite face, and my hair is just so, well, hangy! Either way it needs a cut so it'll probably be just a bob for me. Just hope people don't think I'm trying to do 'Posh'!

Catkins can you really see feet? How many weeks are you? Is it really freaky?!

bumper,

you in brighton by any chance?!

No - I wish. I love Brighton! Somewhere equally expensive to live in though!

oh, I realised after i posted that there are probably lots of NCT sales tomorrow- not just in brighton!

Probably! Sorry to be cagey - I'm wary of discussing where I live on the internet. You never know who is listening in

Bumper, It certainly looked like a foot! It's the first time i've actually seen anything rather than just felt it. Have spent whole evening since looking at bump and now have stiff neck!!

Is anyone else having real issues with people commenting on their size?
I have a reasonably sized bump and i've put on a bit (one dress size maybe?) of weight everywhere else but the constant comments about it are really starting to get me down.
Everybody at work seems to feel the need to comment on a daily basis (total comments this week are in excess of 47!!) and to be honest i'm starting to get very pissed off. I'm not sure how much longer I can put up with it before I really lose my rag!! People are just so rude-why should me being pregnant serve as an excuse for them to judge my size and pass comment!!! GRRRR
Any thoughts?

Doggus- expressing doesn't hurt, your friend probably already had cracked nips from bfing, hence the bleeding. Nipple shields help prevent and heal cracked nips and so does the wonder that is Lansinoh cream! It is bloody expensive, but is a must for every bfer (Lilkel is obv made of money as she uses it as lipbalm!! If you are engorged expressing feels like heaven!

Bumper- I would invest in an electric pump, esp if you want to express a lot. Manual ones are fine, but make your hand hurt after a while and it can be really hard work to get the first drop of milk out. I have the Medela one, which is great and is the one that most mws recommend. I got mine half price in Boots, so keep your eyes out for special offers!! The only downside is you can't watch tv whilst expressing as it is so noisy you can't hear anything!! I used to put the subtitles on!

BTW these are the best breastpads! They are really absorbant and so thin you can't see them through your clothes!

I knew I had lost all dignity when I was in a pub watching my friend's band. I was just stood there and noticed one of my friends motioning to my top. I had two massive wet patches in the boob region! The pub was packed and if I wasn't such a laidback sort I'd have been motified! Luckily I found the whole experience quite amusing. I then went into the toilet with a girly friend and we both stood in a cubicle whilst I tried to squeeze the excess milk out into a piece of toilet roll. We were both POSL! I then had to go and dry my top under the hand dryer and stuff my bra with toilet roll as I had forgotten spare breast pads!

Morning all! How were your nights?

Second the Lansinoh cream - also excellent for cracked heels (!).

I know that expressing hurt some friends, but I think it was before BF was established. It can be hard work if the supply's not flowing. Don't try it too soon would be my advice. In the very early days when I was having trouble bf DS1 the midwife told me to squeeze some onto a sterilised spoon and dribble it into him. Meant he had tiny amounts, but it stopped me stressing that he wasn't getting any and switching to bottle in panic. That was probably the best thing I've learnt from a midwife.

I prefer the hand-pump, (Avent). I've avoided electric ones for the simple reason that I think I'll feel like I'm being milked like a dairy cow Moooooo!!

'speak' later xx

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Tearjerker for today - page 6 of The Guardian's Family Section "A letter to ... the child we've chosen not to have".

Good grief, I'm off again....

Evening all. Have not posted for a while as have a horrible cough and am too knackered to do anything. On the plus side I took DSs to my homeopath on Tuesday and DS2 has slept through every night since then [hurrah and massive applause emoticon].

Agree on the electric breast pump - I couldn't stand the noise - esp as I had to express using the hospital industrial strength "milking machines" as DS1 was in SCBU for 6 weeks. It was also known as the "milking shed" .

Thanks for the links to Lasinoh pads and cream. Will put in an order to begin preparations.

Love the new thread title btw...

love the new thread name also - tee hee hee!!

LOL at 'made of money' har har har - tell that to DH! I just found myself with a surfeit of nipple cream cuz my BF attempts failed (multiple mastitis, chomper baby, ouch ouch, no way). And it really DOES make the THE most fabulous lip balm! Really!

When I was still BF I found the electric pump by Avent (IQ) to be quite bearable and worth the cost INMHO because it's possible to set your own pump pattern and strength and then you just relax and wait for it all to happen. (Just don't drop it, or let your dog knock it off the table, because it's super fragile and breaks and then you end up buying ANOTHER one and all v v frustrating!!) The manual ones are a bit quieter but they still squeak like mad, and they gave my hands cramps from all the bloody squeezing. Maybe I was just used to the electric models because I was expressing every 2hrs at hospital for a week (DS was in Special Care for awhile).

God I have such a phobia of another BF nightmare this time round, and the associated guilt...

Also majorly crying at everything - it's embarrassing!!

Hmmm,

who's watching fame academy, or am I the only saddo on a saturday night?
Trisha from heartbeat - no, no, no, no.
My excuse is DP is working away this weekend.
And I don't go out after dark anyway ....

Been cursing this baby all day, found it hard to breath, lungs constricted, making me very uncomfortable.
Just got changed into PJ's. Realised supersized sports bra on inside out. Doh! much better now. Sorry baby girl!!

LOLOLOL excellent thread title girls!

Oh Foxy forgot to mention thx for the encouragement re the small gap betweeen my LO's. Some people are really nice about it and tell me how good it will be to have them playing together etc etc but others (I think the same ones who give you that look and say "aren't you BIG?") give you another look and say "oh isn't THAT a bit CLOSE together??" it's going to be tough I know, I just hope I can manage it!!

Annobal hurrah for your DS2 and osteopath success - how old is he? I've always wondered about trying it for my DS. I think his troubles at the mo are teething related though. Not much hope for that except good old Medised

DS2 is just 2. We also have a small gap between the 2 - 16 months - they are now 3 1/2 and 2 and the best of friends. It was difficult when DS2 first arrived but no where near as difficult as I thought it was going to be. I think it is most difficult and life changing to go from 0 to 1. You do forget that small babies sleep a lot as well. What will be the gap between the 2?

I found 1 - 2 hard, because I felt SO guilty for DS1 when DS2 was born. He seemed so BIG, he grew up overnight. But its fantastic. I do sometimes feel like a referree tho. But they are pretty much the same size and build so are a fair match when it comes to knocking lumps out of each other! Wouldn't have it any other way.
But you know what REALLY IS PISSING ME OFF (don't know if you're getting this Annobel) at the mo. Those idiots in the street who look at my children and then my bump (they did this A LOT when I went from 2 - 3) and say "ooh, you're going to have your hands full".
And added to that now, people look at us together (never when DP is with us, mind you) and say in horror "are they all yours?".
To which I reply "F**k off, how dare you make comment on the decisions i choose to make with my life and my choice to bear more than the national average of children per family". Well, I don't actually say that out loud... usually I just smile and giggle awkwardly.
Sorry, had a rant.

Foxy, Thanks for that. Now pmsl.

I find a lot of things go unsaid at the minute!! There are many people i'd like to say exactly what i'm thinking to but always bottle out at crucial time!

I think it's truly wonderful that you're having all your little ones so close together. I'd love it if that happened for us. (maybe i'd better see how I get along with the first one though?)

I wish I had the courage to tell people to piss off too.
Last night, from the same woman, I got "ooo not long now then" (well not really, end of june...) then later the "are you sure it's not twins" comment together with a parting bump touch. AAAARGH. 3 months more, I don't know if I can stand it.

Right. I hearby pledge: I will NEVER COMMENT ON THE SIZE OF ANYONE'S BUMP, NEVER TOUCH IT and most especially NEVER make the twins comment.

some people ask permission first - one man actually said "do you have personal space issues or can I touch the bump?"

'the' bump. because its not me, is it? Tosser.

Grrr...just took dd to the park and there was a pg woman smoking!! That makes me soooo cross! I used to smoke, but I gave up as soon as I found out I was pg with my dd and I haven't touched one since. Yes it's difficult, but you do it. Sorry that's my rant of the day done with ! Actually no I'm not finished!! There was also this older couple with no children sat there and commenting on everyone else's. I caught them looking at my dd and shaking their heads and whispering because I was sat on the bench watching her whilst she went on the slide! Yes she is little, but she is perfectly capable of going on the slide on her own. Right, rant over!!

I am worrying about having 2 as well, but I'm sure it'll be fine. Dd will just have to get used not having my attention 24/7 and my dp will have to get used to doing some housework (atm he does nothing, not even at the weekend. He is useless!!).

Hope everyone had a good weekend, we'll have to get this meet up arranged soon !

Oh forgot to say if anyone is having strange dreams they are not as strange as mine! I had a weird kinky sex dream about Paul from Tikkabilla!! Interesting !!

oh yes! I've had saucy dreams about men I just don't find attractive - like Gordon Ramsey.

Also having stress dreams involving my other children - like completely forgetting DS's packed lunch (he's only 5). It really, really upset me!

Personally, I'd love a pint of cold lager and a fag, but there's no way I would! Some people find it hard to stop - I remember one mum telling me the doctor had advised her to continue smoking because she found giving up so stressful it would be worse for the baby! . Its all about priorities I suppose.

I'm sure you'll be fine with two - you sound like a great mum. Apart from the two fat lips in one week ...