Due in June - you toucha my bump, I smasha your face!

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Just thought I'd better kick a new one off...
Another day, another tearful outburst at work! It's getting very embarrassing Is it just me who feels like crying at the drop of a hat? Maybe it's lack of sleep, just not dealing very well with things that would not normally bother me, then something really small sets me off. cried in the toilets for 20 minutes today! Can't even explain why. Is this normal still at this stage?

WOW! big catch up up on the new thread
You will be so proud of me as I have really got into the whole 'must buy things for the baby' DH knew it was only a matter of time! I'm not feeling as confused (this week anyway!) but really excited, which is weird as we had a bit of a scare over the weekend and popped to the hospital, the MW monitored the baby for about 45mins...I also had the lower ab cramping pain (doubled over it was so bad!) along with nausea/diah and aching body. Baby was fine, and we think it was a badly timed combo of food poisoning and the flu. Feel loads better now!
Thanks for all hints/advice re breastfeeding (not too put off yet!!) it is something I desperately hope I can do and enjoy for many months- will get those breast pads and electric pump!
Went to the BabyShow on Sunday- was calm and tried not to get overwhelmed, actually was great to see buggies actually in action...I found it hard to look at the product stands- I was too busy people and buggy watching!
Another gorgeous day out there!

FoxyBrown; re your earlier question about our reasons for wanting a Doula;
Even though my DH is just amazing, not having my folks in the same country I felt like I wanted support throughout the 9 months, or incase I give birth early, not knowing the system here, someone to support us and help advise when it comes decisions and what the potential outcomes are. Mostly I wanted to have all the help and advice to give me confidence in myself, not to be bullied into or by the medical side and to avoid a traumatic experience. We're going in to this pretty open (naive!) I dont believe its something you can plan to the last detail as what happens if it all goes pearshaped? But to have a good birthplan and knowing the resaons for making your decisions etc cant be all bad!! She is very calming but confident, full of practical knowledge and experience, and has a good sense of humour!As do you by the sound of things
My Dh was all for it; the way he saw it was anything to make me more relaxed! And the past 6 months I havent got too wound up about whole birth process YET!!
HTH xx

I managed to amuse all the staff I saw during my delivery so much with my off the wall comments (I swear the gas and air acted like truth serum and I was telling everyone exactly what I thought of them) that I had a constant stream of them visiting me afterwards and telling me what I'd said. It was mostly funny and not too insulting so I wasn't too . Was a bit rude to the aneasthetist after the epidural didn't work and she then had her boss in directing her how to do a spinal....but mystique....leave it at the door along with your dignity

Not allowed to buy any more till the decorating is done and the house is sorted, but panicking as I am running out of time...this poor mite may have a crib....but no mattress or sheets. Everytime I think of what I need I just start to panic as I've lost track of what I've got as it's all over the house/loft/garage and I'll soon be feeling too knackered to go shopping (mind you I can do it all online after I've finished work)

Lilkel, Kiwi...hope you and your LOs are OK...had quite a bit if cramping the other weekend and it is really scary at this stage.

Planning a trip to the coast on Sunday with a Mother's day picnic (weather permitting) and fossil hunting for DS and our friends kids....hope the weather holds as its been really lovely here for the last few days.

A sad ps....just to let you all know that Taichimum who was with us at the beginning and lost her baby has had another mc. Life is just so unfair .

Sounds like a lovely mother's day. I'm going to a sodding rugby match - just so we can spend the day together

Feeling shocking today, DP's snoring for first 2 hours of last nights sleep, DD chucking up in my bed from 2.30 - 3.30, changing sheets etc. Oh joy! Poor mite, she's really not well, but does get to sample flat lemonade so she sees that as a bonus! That's the trouble with so many children, they take it in turns to get I will probably have at least another week of sick kids. Hope I don't get it myself as DP away from Weds to late Sat.

Oooh, sorry for the whinge.

SmilinKiwi - that's kinda what I imagined a doula would do. Sort of be a surrogate Mom during the time, do the things that perhaps your mom would do if she were with you. Without the raised eyebrow and criticism IME!

It IS a lovely day. Am gonna bake with DS2, just call me Nigella.

Poor thing

Oh no, that's awful news for taichimum, please pass sympathy on to her, daisy....

You lot are putting the fear of God into me about lists and mattresses and things, all I have bought is a packet of newborn nappies and one of those sleeping bag things! I am forcing dh to take the coming weekend off and we will buy some stuff. We spent last weekend clearing out what might be a nursery, we filled a skip!

Dh and I are going on a babymoon (?!), a day at a lovely hotel with a great spa attached. Only problem is, ahem, my bikini line. I can't actually see it except in a mirror but I know it is 'untamed'. What do you all do, I am toying with getting dh to tidy it up but he will no doubt treat it as some sort of mildly kinky experience instead of a practical one!

pmsl doggus at your bikini line....you could always book in for a wax.

Just a quick reminder....according to another thread, today is the day of mediation with the legal team of (whispers) that woman. hope it is going well and that we are still up and running tomorrow. I'd miss you guys if it doesn't go "our" way. Good Luck Mumsnet

Blimey, you're away for a few days and you have a huge catch up with the thread!

LOL Doggus, if you can face it I'd go for a wax, i had one a few weeks ago and it wasn't too bad. Or if you trust your DH not to give you a hollywood or brazilian its always and option. My DH would baulk at the thought he definately would not see it as a kinky activity (apart from the end result )

Been away in Lyme Regis staying with friends for a long weekend, and had a great time. DD really enjoyed herself on the beach and has been shattered since we got back!

How did your house viewing go at the weekend Doggus? Your house sounds lovely, esp the open plan - are you hoping to move before the birth? Our buyers although loved house decided that they wanted a bigger garden in the end thought we might have just managed to get a sale in and moved before EDD as really don't want to move too soon after. So, really in a bit of a don't know what to do situation take it off the market and put it back on next year or leave it on and just say accept an offer and state that we won't move until X date (whatever that maybe) In the mean time we plan to decorate the room that would be the nursery which is easy enough the biggest problem is where to put all the junk thats
already there anyway no more whining.

Nice to know that I'm not the only one with social invites, we have a wedding one when LO could be approx 6 weeks - not keen on idea have suggested to DH that will go for just day time which he is unhappy about. But have horrendous visions of lots of people wanting to have a "munch" of LO and LO not settling, leaky nipples on my dress, all the things that everyone else has mentioned [wink.

My other one is at 36 weeks in Poole - a 40th bday DHs friend. Have said I'm not going as don't fancy the very small possibility of going into early labour so far from home and then possibly being stuck in Poole (3hours from home) away from DD and family. DH thinks I'm being unreasonable but hey! its not him having to do this.

Talking of buying stuff - I have not bought one single item (should I be worried? ) my DM has bought a beautiful little coat but thats all I have apart from DDs stuff that I haven't gone through yet. Am considering possibility of cleaning up my travel system and buying the Mothercare one that someone else (Marylou? Daisy? or Bump? -really can't remember) has bought the one with free bag or something?

And weird dreams? well they are something I don't remeber having before but have had some seriously weird sex ones and also one where baby was so big that I could see the outline clearly through my stomach so much so could see it was a boy!

Absolutely Daisy, where else could I have such a BIG ramble to someone who would listen? Think me and DH must have bored our childless 40 something friends with our baby/DD talk at the weekend. We are socially defunct as DH says.

Oooh, that's a freaky dream Seansgirl!

Mmmm.. I know bit worrying really. Anyone else on the odd dreams?

Foxy, were you more nervous before no2 than with no1 cos you knew what was coming?

Yep, absolutely!

Hi seansgirl - the house we saw was so lovely but completely unsuitable for a child - it was all glass, hard edges and balconies! There's no way we will get our act together before the birth so like you, we are going to decorate the junk room and make do. Btw, I live near Poole, and one bit of reassurance is that Poole has a good maternity hospital. Having said that I don't think I'd fancy the party at that stage. We are going to one in London when I am 34 weeks and that's bad enough.

I found the prospect of birth second time round far more scary, even tho no 1 was relatively ok.

But I also found going from 1 to 2 lo's incredibly hard - not so much from the daily routine, but emotionally, the guilt I felt for DS1, the fact he seemed to grow from a baby to huge toddler overnight, and just the responsibility. Oddly enough, going from 2 - 3 was a piece of piss. My only concern going from 3 - 4 is a sense that my luck might run out and something will go wrong somewhere, if not in the pregnancy (which has already been the most anxiety-ridden) the birth, or I might just get a horrid child!

Generally, the birth IS easier secondtime round. Honestly!

Foxy, thanks for the honesty was beginning to think it was just me!

Doggus, wow! you are brave, like you say at that stage social activity isn't high on the agenda is it? Feeling like a weeble (that just may wobble) and watching everyone get pissed is not fun. I don't know who said it earlier in the thread but about wanting to be at home etc doing what they want to do - I feel exactly the same am really antisocial whilst prg just want to be at home with DD, DH and just pottering around really.

I just wish someone had told me I'd feel so guilty. That was by far the hardest bit.

X posted Foxy, yes yes, the birth and guilt to DD is so playing on my mind its untrue. She will be 4 and so used to being the only one. Have the habit of saying "whos my special girl?" to her and kick myself everytime thinking , must think of something else cos if its a girl - well you know where I'm coming from!

Feel quite emotional typing and thinking like this cos she is my special girl and always will be (tried for a long time - but another story) but this LO will be too girl or boy.

Anyway will have to sort it out in my own head, but thanks foxy was thinking was just being dramatic and making a mountain etc.

Seansgirl, she still will be. But she'll have a brand new little friend who will worship her, too, and who she can boss around for years to come. Honestly, it'll be fine. Okay, so I don't even have one yet, but I've got a big sister and she's my absolute best friend...
Re. social ocassions, the drink is the real problem. It's not that I miss alcohol so much; more that people are seriosly boring when they're drunk unless you are, too... I'm definitely less tolerant at the moment. (Yes, it was me who said I just want to be at home doing waht I want to do... ). But that's got to be nature, right? I mean, we're just putting ourselves first and I think you have to when you're pg. You're effectively puting the baby first, and no one else is going to fight their corner.
Doggus, have the wax, tell me what it was like because I keep putting it off and need some encouragement (on second thoughts, don't tell me...)
Am so sad for Taichimum. I've got a friend who's been through the same thing, twice, recently and it is just so hard. And so cruel.
ps, long live mumsnet. That woman does not appear to be on the side of mothers [hmmm]

for taichimum

IKWYM seansgirl, my dd is the best (well imo anyway ) and I do worry about her not feeling as special once I've got a new person to look after. I guess it'll be good for her to spend more time with other people and more time playing on her own. ATM she is really clingy. I'm also worried that the lack of sleep will get to me and I'll start snapping at her (I am a horrible person when I've had no sleep).

Hope you baked some yummy treats Nigella, I mean foxy !!!

Long live mumsnet!!

Thanks girls if was drunk i'd say (in that slurring manner of a drunk person) " come 'ere, let me give you a hug you're my best mates an' I really lurrvveee you" so long live MN! I have just done some skivying around cleaning hall and dinning room so that has made me cheers!

Marylou no, I think you are absolutely right no need for perhaps its part of the nesting thing i am horrendously intolerant at the mo so think best I am kept indoors

sorry so wrapped in me but thoughts go to Taichimum nature just doesn't seem fair. I had two mc before DD and it is so soul destroying.

And go for the waxing girls! Its not half as bad as the up coming events

Yes, Nigella wheres our invite for tea and cakes?