May 2017 #12

[savagehk]

Hi all! No imagination for a name but it was getting tight!

@nursebickypegs I bet you get a date around 1-2 May?

@jennymac31 incredibly swollen feet in the afternoon to evening and fingers swollen in the morning

I'm feeling really out of it with our story. I'm 42 and feeling it much at the moment and expecting my first baby. I've been with my lovely man for 1 year 10 months now. I got married to someone else when I was 25 in 2000, divorced in 2006 after lots of difficulties with his health and he changed after he received a transplant which should have made him more appreciative of life but it didn't. Then in 2006 met the man I moved to England with, but when I was 35, I felt the clock ticking when he suddenly revealed that he wasn't ever gonna want any kids. We split up but I stayed in U.K., single and partying until I met my beau in June 2015. I'd had some dating and shorter relationships in the mean time but nothing worth keeping until now. He's 46 and also felt his clock ticking so we started TTC as soon as we moved in last June and lo and behold we were so lucky to conceive within 3 months. That possibly explains why I'm so proud of my bump. I never thought it'd happen as I've had congenital thyroid issues but we feel really blessed. It's just gonna be the one, we think but never say never.

Standard freckly white girl day over here didn't bother putting any sun cream on and am suffering for it now 😩

@1004Rise You're right - DM was a military wife and I agree, they're typically seen as baby making machines 🙈

@newbieho interesting - I'll speak to my MW on Tuesday about that one!

@nursebickypegs I'm leaking too - not enough to need pads at the moment but thick yellow and clear

Like you say - re relationships, when you know you know, I'd have married DH within 6 weeks if it was my way!

Good work on the boot sale front! 👍🏻

@jennymac31 we went for a fairly good walk earlier, after we sat down for 10 mins or so my legs went a weird and came up in purple Patches... seemed to disappear once I started walking again but do feel puffy and sore now... (another one to talk to the MW about)

@yellowismyfavourite sounds just like us, we said we'd start trying straight after the wedding in August thinking it'd take a good 6 months or so, little did we know that 2 days would be enough 🙊

So lovely reading everyone's stories 💕

These OH stories are so lovely to read.

Rustler I'm also in the previously married category...met at 25, married at 31, separated at 34. We just grew apart, but at that point I thought it was game over for me where kids were concerned

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Why is my DH so dumb sometimes?? He'd said he wanted his folks to come to stay one weekend in April, which I was ok with, so he then invited them to stay the entirety of my birthday weekend in May! That would mean no birthday treats and no meal out etc as they're rather old school and want waiting on - they won't even help themselves to a drink. He said they could only do next weekend (which isn't a problem for me), but he wanted the nursery further along as he felt the other spare room had too much baby stuff in it. The other option was 2 weeks before the EDD which I thought was also a stupid idea as I'll be huge and not want to wait on them hand and foot. I've pointed out we can move baby stuff out the way so he's gone to ring them to invite them next weekend. He has no tact whatsoever so I will undoubtedly come out of this looking like an evil DIL. To make matters worse he tried to blame it all on me as I haven't been able to think of anything I want pressie-wise for my birthday so he'd "assumed" that meant I wouldn't want to do anything for my birthday either. He's obviously not planning on spoiling me is he...

Rant over. Sorry

I love these DH stories. I met DH on online dating ! I had met loads of people online before, but not to date. He had a list of books on his profile, so I asked if he read Perks of Being a Wallflower, as I hadn't read any Jasper Fforde. We met about a month later, and became inseparable. On our 3rd date I remember sat in his flat reading and he was playing Xbox and I asked him if this was okay, shall we go out or...? & he just held my hand & went "this is fantastic. This is what I want."

@jennymac31 I think I just cried when I read yours. Never say never :)

@Brightsmoke I'm terrified I will drop Bub too, I am so clumsy (hence the broken iPhones!). I'm really good at stuff close up, like injections, catheters, cross stitch, drawing... walk through a door without bumping into the frame? Not a chance.

I love hippos too!!!! Esp baby hippos 😍

I'm sorry about your DH being poorly, my DH has epilepsy and I worry every hour, every day. I literally warn everyone about it and make sure work have my numbers. He's so well controlled but I'm so worried that he will get poorly when a Bub arrives with stress, lack of sleep...

@Teaspoon74 okay we are HUGE Star Wars fans and if we got May 4th (May the Force...) I actually think DH will scream. Let me ask him... yes, he says he will only accept May 4th now!

Re ages, here's a story for you! My Grandpa (81) has a sister who is (79)... but has a little brother who is in 50s! His Mum had Grandpa young, and then when she was 50 she felt unwell and thought it was the menopause. Went to the doctors and she was 7months gone!! Grandpa had children older than their uncle! 😂😂😂

@nursebickypegs I seriously hope you get 4th May now. Refuse anything else!!!! Do, or do not, there is no try!

As I was saying before I accidentally hit 'post', I thought it wouldn't happen for me at 34, newly single, with an endocrine issue that can cause infertility (diagnosed 3 years previously). But I met my DP only 5 months later...we had crossover in friends, parties, professions...basically occupying the same spaces over time in London for 17 years but we'd never met! He's not quite a year older than me which I love- we have the same memories and reference points. We took things very slowly at first and he has since become the best friend I've ever had. It's the first time I ever felt truly equal in a relationship. We started to try for a kid (in a very half arsed way) about 2 years ago at 38, as I felt we might be pushing our luck already, but I was in a mega stressful job I hated, and we barely saw each other. I changed how I was working last spring, got on a waiting list for IVF, then found out I was pregnant the evening before my 40th before any tests had even started. I was always terrified I wouldn't be able to have children, and give him children as it seemed so unlikely with my history. I could pinch myself now...I can't believe I only have 4 weeks to go, and I can't wait to meet who we have made together. I hope he is very much like his dad.
It's just insane and magical, isn't it?

Loving the OH stories, I met DH on a campsite in Scotland when he was on a boys holiday and I was on a girls holiday, I maintain to this day that we had our tents up first. That was 16 years ago and we'll have been married 12 years tomorrow, which we both forgot about until FIL reminded DH on the phone this evening! At least we forget together! We didn't really decide to try for a baby we just decided to stop trying not to, and if it happened so be it... it happened a little quicker than we expected 

@dreamofhungarianlanterns while I agree that a puppy is hard work, it's a hell of a lot easier picking him/her up at 8 weeks old when mummy dog has done what I've now decided is the hardest part for you!

I had these same dreams about pregnancy being wonderful and glowing and beautiful.... alll lies. I'm no longer surprised when people say the best bit was giving birth!!

What is this heat of which you speak? It's been 7oC and raining all day... but no swollen feet or hands

Nurse I'm going for the 3rd May.... no reason just had to pick a day

@nursebickypegs if you get May 4th you have to go with a StarWars baby name! 😆

@nursebickypegs
I'm going 9th-my CS day!

@Barnes79 can you tell him how stupid this idea is! My in laws are a bit like this, I have to cook and ferry them about and entertain and it's exhausting, even when you aren't pregnant! Have a word Mr.Barnes79!

@nursebickypegs the 4th would be great and it's a Thursday so realistic? But I'm going to place my bet on 10th, I have no idea why!

@RasperryInAMelon This might be an excuse for me to get Ezra (from Rebels!) in as another middle name!!

@mightymouse76 aaahh do you have your date already? We could have birthday twins!

Aw @mightymouse76 I love your story too!

@Barnes79 that is really very bad of your husband! I wouldn't have my parents or in laws over here to stay at all if it was me to wait on them! They should understand that even next weekend they will need to get up themselves for a drink. You sound like a lady with common sense not a DIL from hell!

@nursebickypegs please don't worry too much, you'll grow to become really good with bub!

Nurse - I'm going to follow Barnes example can you have the 28/04.. that's my birthday. Thanks muchley.

Oohh - so aloe Vera sounds much nicer than witch hazel to put on a pad near your sore areas... so maybe that's what it was! And I want to say lavender... but that sounds weird...but I'm sure the pads were purple.... until I just read beans post! It's like I don't even need to comment today!

Dream - your DH's dream is amazing. I would love to have my DH look after the baby for a day during pregnancy!

The OH stories are fab. Sure fire way to fill up the thread too!
I'm also an online dating story. Can't say too much of I'll out myself! DH was working abroad in a hot sandy country. He flew me out for our first (week long) date in April 2011. His contract ended abruptly and it turned out he was home on the flight more or less after mine! We dated, he moved in, (I lived with my mum!) we got engaged at Christmas 2011, (no, I didn't get a present too... told him he was a cheapskate) married in Sept 2012. We both knew what we wanted from life, due to the 2 months of talking before I flew out originally, we agreed to wait a year and had a fab honeymoon on our first anniversary. Then I came off the depo injection. That's when we found out I have pcos. Tried for a while. Was scanned and told by Drs no chance of a natural and was in the process of looking into further options when DD surprised us. She was born 1/1/16. Then we have this elephant new baby due hopefully soon!
I'll be 34 this year.

What wonderful stories of relationships, families and love

dream that dream was brilliant! Bless him :)

So in line with my previous post of there is no right time for a baby, and everyone has there own ideal.

I have just got off the phone to my uncle who was ringing the whole family to share the news that his wife is expecting. He is 48, she is 39 they're expecting their first baby in November.

This means my grandparents are going to receive their 5th great grandchild (spud) and their 6th grandchild this year 🙈

Also, I feel strange as I was the last baby with my maiden name and it was a big thing when I got married that it was the end of the name. And now there is going to be a new one. Ahhh I am excited.

I'm on the train from Ronnie Scott orchestra session reading your OH stories. Thank you girls for sharing, they made me feel a bit emotional.

Lovely stories all!

I met DH at uni doing post grad degrees. We've been together nearly 8 years, married for nearly 2. I'm almost 32, he's a bit younger. I think he would have waited a bit longer for a baby but I was impatient and lots of our friends are having babies too. Luckily we caught fairly quickly!

dream I love that dream!
Awake since 4 so decided to get up... nothing worse than lying awake in bed listening to someone else sleeping!

I love everyone's stories of how they met partners! Mine is:

My husband is a uni friend of my best friends now husband. I was 23 when we met. My friend and I were in a pub and she said, oh that's dh's friend let's go over and say hi, so we did. It sounds mad but it was actual love at first sight. The second I looked at him I felt like I'd known him my whole life and I knew I would marry him... and I'm completely not the sort of person that believed in love at first sight not was I looking for a husband! Been together 7 years now and married last year. We decided to try for a baby straight after the wedding and it took about 5 months for us.

I love love love hearing your stories!!! DH & I met at 6th form, age 17. Shared the same group of good friends, and were just very good friends for a couple of years. After 6th form he went travelling for a year, and I found I really missed him! When he came back, I remember thinking 'hmmmm.....I don't remember you being this hot!'

It took us a couple of years to get together after that - we were with each other & our group of friends all the time, and when it happened everybody said 'we knew it!!'

We've been together 10years next month, and married for 2 years (on our due date!). He is literally the best person in the world.

We were thinking about children, but unsure. Then our method of cycle based contraception got muddled.....and here we are! So glad it did though, as I think we would have kept saying 'maybe next year...' until it was too late, and I do think we would have regretted that.

Bright sorry missed what you said about your DH hugs and

Rustler I've been married before too, I have had other relationships longer than this one but can categorically say I would not have had children with any of them. My DP and I piss each other off in all the normal ways but what is obvious to everyone is that our values about life, relationships etc are really well matched. I guess I feel like I've had enough 'nearly theres' to know this is the bees knees and I will choose to appreciate him every day even when things are a bit shit.

Barnes and Rise nah, puppies are really hard work (DPs last dog was a Boarder Collie with massive anxiety issues) and seeing as the dream prophesises that I can apparently pull the baby out on a whim when he dangles a limb out, I'll be ok at birth Barnes the birthday visit thing was seriously misjudged and DH might have to practise his tour of the house showing them where all the things are that they can get for themselves (and you) from now on???

bean we are resurrecting a family name. We didn't have time to get married as this happened way quicker than we expected but had decided to both change our name. We settled on my grandma's maiden name, she was the last of that line. I'm really pleased except that hadn't realised quite in time that DPs brother and partner are doing the same and have gone for partners grandma's maiden name. The four of us get on really well and I would have collaborated on a joint last name had any of us realised. I need to get on with the Deed Poll!