May 2017 #12

[savagehk]

Hi all! No imagination for a name but it was getting tight!

I felt young when I had my first at 30. I freaked that I might be getting too old but then got pg straight away.

Anyone suffering from swollen feet as a result of hot weather or baby bump or both?

Rocky (go for Ben and jerrys!).

Peas try gargling with warm salt water? Sounds rubbish, feels amazing!

peach v interested to hear about the Water birth class. I really want one. I've packed a cheap primark bikini top which will be easy to whip off when I need to!

newbie interested to hear about milk harvesting. I can definitely squeeze a bit out each day.

jenny not swollen feet but swollen hands... my rings are now on a chain around my neck.
We have been together 3 years and got married in August. We thought that it would take a little while TTC so we decided to start trying straight after the wedding. Luckily for us it happened straight away. Some people make comments about how quickly it has all happened but I think we are both old enough to know what's right. And those sorts of comments have never come from the people who know us best either

@jennymac31 my feet look like sausages during the entire day, luckily hands and face look normal (so far)

We've been together 4 years, married for almost 2. I changed careers just after getting married so we waited until I had a job in the new career before TTC but then it took a year of trying (and we literally just got referred to the infertility clinic as we got our BFP). I'm almost 38 so am aware that with it taking a year to conceive this time, it may be our only LO. Either that or have to start TTC immediately after popping this LO out and I'm not sure I fancy that. The nursery fees alone would break the bank and those fanny pops/peas may be necessary

@PeachIcedT it's quite embarrassing, we have a few broken iPhones that I have accumulated over the years; still working but cracked screens etc. They were snapped up! Then some roller derby things, toiletries and then just bits and bobs. We are exhausted now and haven't left the bed. Can I order takeaway?

I'll ask about colostrum tomorrow ladies as I'm at my clinic appointment and seeing the midwife. Tomorrow we get the date for the CS... place your bets! I'm 33 weeks, he's measuring 3 weeks ahead... husband says he gets the end of April & I say the beginning of May!

@yellowismyfavourite it's always people who you don't know well isn't it! We had 2 miscarriages which I am open about. When I said I was pregnant, someone at work went in the office "oh yeaaaah because you have had problems conceiving haven't you!!!"

No, I can get it in the net... it's keeping it there that's the problem. Thanks love!

Thanks northern. I'm pretty sure it's not HFM as no more spots have appeared. I just had a bit of a Google induced panic! Nice to 'meet' another Scandi fan. I've made the double mistake of buying some gorgeous summer bits bought on by this lovely weather. Completely forgetting what the reality of an English summer is like.

We've been together since university too. 16 years this year. Feels like about five minutes. Always knew we wanted children but there was always something we wanted to do first. Then on holiday three summers ago I suddenly felt the tick tick of the biological clock, then about a month later, DD was on the way.

Am hoping the swelling goes down tomorrow, as I'm supposed to be having afternoon tea with my colleagues as my leaving do and I had an outfit and shoes all sorted for the occasion. Oh well.

How exciting nurse! I have no idea, but will guess the first week of May.

Oh lovely to hear about your OH's! We've been together for 17 years, I was at Uni and he was working. Married 3 years later just after I graduated. First DC at 26 which was considered career suicide at the time thankfully it wasn't.

Slightly swollen legs here but I'm keeping them up and wearing support tights or socks whenever possible.

Nurse I'm even going to guess a specific date - 8th May. All the best folk are born that day not that I'm biased as it's my birthday

Wow lots to catch up on today 😊

lullaby laughed out loud, made DH jump and the dogs at your fanny peas ... but this is an amazing idea 👍🏼

jennymac I'm planning a home waterbirth. I think I will wear a normal vest top rolled up or nothing at all. With my other 2 labours I laboured naked without realising. I've stripped both times without knowing I've done it. And I am not that kind of person. Labour does strange things to a lady.

mightymouse ❤️ the vag pop 😂😂 absolute genius!

nurse I am the opposite, we fell pregnant with bean when I was 20, me and DH had been together 5 months! He was a student I worked but was not ready for a baby! But I'm catholic and would never abort so there we were. We married when we were 23, Bean was 2 and I was 17wks preg with Turnip (asked doc about trying for another baby round a bout our wedding...told to come off the pill 4 months before so was all out of system) got "caught" the one time we didn't use a condom on the first cycle after not taking the pill. Hence 17wks preg on our wedding day. We then saved like troopers for our first house (we rented previously) and I studied. I always knew I wanted 3 babies, but DH said he wouldn't allow until I had finished my exams. I finished them in July last year and here we are now. We are now 28 and I am by far one of the youngest mums in the school yard, I sometimes feel as though the other mums look down upon me! Infact there is 1 mum with a child in Beans class that went to school with my Dad! There is no right or wrong time to have children, each to their own i would say.

So this glorious weather and I've spent all weekend inside. Packing the house ready for the move and Bean has come down with tonsillitis so had him to out of hours yesterday. Antibiotics seem to be working though 👍🏼😊

Back to work tomorrow ... then I will only have 1 more Monday to work until march 2018 🎉👏🏼👶🏼💙👍🏼

@nursebickypegs people say things without thinking sometimes!! I am guessing beginning of May

Sorry to hear about the to tonsillitis bean. Glad he's on the mend though.

Just had a go at the perineal massage. Still weird!

Well I feel like a child! 26 and this is our first, only one other couple we're friends with have had kids so far. We've been together for just under 8 years and got married last August after my other half always being adamant he didn't believe in marriage!
Definitely a slightly accidental wedding night baby for us! We had spoken a lot about trying after the wedding, but that night my sister forgot to put our bag in the car so we had nothing when we got to the hotel (couldn't leave our room for breakfast the next morning until someone brought me some clothes to wear!) but both over the moon as we had been speaking about it for ages and had said we would start trying after anyway!

Weirdly we got together just before I went to uni so in my mind I wasn't sure it would last, but he drove down every week on his day off and left at 4 the next morning to make it back to work in time!
And now we're buying our first house together after renting together 😊 Feeling very proud of us!

Lovely to hear all these stories of couples and (planned and unplanned) timings I have pcos and so it was a wonderful fluke to conceive quickly.
Though I was having a cry this morning saying if I'd known how hard pregnancy was I'm not sure I would have wanted to try...

esmes thank you 😚 I am also glad he's on the mend although I've spent most of this afternoon getting annoyed at the pair of them for not getting on. He's starting to feel better and the bickering began again!

As for perineal massage, I never did this with either birth. Bean I had a slight graze no stitches (13mins pushing), Turnip a tore and had stitches (3mins pushing) ... I healed better with Turnip than I did with bean. But I put that down to lavender oil. Lavender oil is the best thing ever for after birth. I had lavender oil baths and put lavender oil in my pads. Healed in no time 😊

Just back from a trek to Sandown for the Baby Show. Wish we'd managed to get to Excel now as the stands weren't that impressive and it didn't feel that big. Did manage to get a deal on an Ergobaby360 - but only after finding it cheaper online than their show price and getting them to match it. Also got some more M&P stuff at 20% off (baby gym, for bumper, hooded towel, couple of pram tops, mobile). Asked about deals on prams and realised we wouldn't have got anything better on our Egg - which was a relief!!

Nurse - I'll go for Thursday 4/5. What do I win if I'm right?!? And well done on the car boot. Great selling skills!!

Re partners etc - my OH and I have been together for 11.5 yrs. never planned a family but it has happened and we're going with the flow. At 42 with a solid relationship, house, good job etc I figure there's no good reason not to. And although the first few months were tough at 34+6 I feel like we're on the home strait now. Though friends who have known me forever are amazed as I've never wanted kids!!

Badger & Adventure - youngsters!! . fwiw, I've had lots of people warn me I may be given strife/ have probs for age but all the medical professionals have said the same. If your body can, your age is not the defining factor. I.e. - being fairly fit and healthy or having luck with your genes is more important than being the right side of 40. And health isn't just weight. Have lost through pregnancy (about 2stone) but expect BMI is still in 40s.

Rockyroad -

Lullaby - "fanny peas" cracked me up! Are they just pesos for topical use? Chuckling away at the idea of "fanny freezer treats. Hope am not laughing on the other side of my lady-garden in a few weeks!!

Loving vag pops and fanny peas 😂

Cox, I know exactly what you mean. I had this unrealistic view of pregnancy being amazing, feeling amazing, all the talk on feeling amazing and 'blooming' never happened for me 🤔

Nurse, I'm guessing 5th May, and well done in carboot! I've never managed to make more than a few quid 😂

Hope you had a great time at the beach Rasperry

I've bought some lavender oil Bean, hoping it helps as much for me if I tear as it did you! Thanks for the tip :)

I'm the first of my friends to have a baby, and have only ever held a new born once and I am terrified I will drop mine!

DH and I went to the zoo today, had an amazing time, got baby's first toy, a stuffed hippo (I'm obsessed with hippos since stroking some at feurtaventura zoo)

DH is 12 years older than me. He was my dads apprentice when I first met him, but I was still at school. 14 years later, he moved back local and in with my parents. We moved in together within a few months, got engaged 9 months later, married 18 months later and now expecting our first and only baby before our first anniversary. DH has a pretty horrible disease so didn't want to leave it any longer.

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Ahh lovely OH stories. I'm in the older camp (36) and me and DP haven't been together for ages, two and a half years. We decided to have a baby as our original thoughts of having a puppy seemed like a lot of work . We had known each other before we got together, me and some friends do a hobby on the farm where he works, so nice to get to know each other in a crowd as the chap I was with before him was great when it was just me and him but a numpty in a group and it can take a while to find that out! DP is the best person I've ever met. Not sure this is the best example but this morning he told me that he'd just met our baby in a dream. I had handed him a baby and a womb bag saying that I needed a break from being pregnant for a few hours and baby had poked his foot out so I pulled... anyway he took baby and womb bag out for the day, I had a nice sunbathe apparently, and then we popped him back in when he got back. Should probably be reaching for the fanny peas after all that in one day!! Bizarrely the dream did make me feel like he definitely gets that however much we're all trying to cherish this experience it is hard work!

Dream I did laugh out loud when you said your first idea of having a puppy sounded like too much hard work