May 2017 #12

[savagehk]

Hi all! No imagination for a name but it was getting tight!

@peasandquiet boiled water, honey & lemon, honey, lemon & glycerin syrup is ok to. I think you can also gargle with tcp but I never got that desperate  other than that you're stuck with lockets and soothers

I can only add my awe to those of you doing this for the second (or more) time, I'm not even coping with me 

Was completely exhausted yesterday, totally my own fault as I sort of forgot to eat... had my breakfast then not much after that wondered why I was broken by about 5.30. Ate a proper dinner and all was right with the world again 

I'm just now starting to get sore hips (33 +4) and my bladder and cervix were getting used as a punching bag. Half of me wants this baby to drop (breathing would be nice again) and half of me doesn't want to experience a whole new level of discomfort!

@nursebickypegs 36 is definitely not old for a baby (I am and this is no 1) we've been married since I was 24, we were just having fun it being just two of us

I think the two in childcare at the same time has to be a concern, I could see me taking a year off next time if we had another close to this one, just to get to the stage where some childcare is "funded"

@Rockyroad17

jenny I have an old tankini packed... It used to be very loose around my stomach and now is like a maternity tankini... Saves me buying a new one!
nurse I am 35 and this is my first baby. Not sure if we will have another but if we do it will be once this one gets some free child care. We are also talking about adoption as we both like the idea of giving a child a home who needs one.

37 weeks today!!! Happy for baby to come any time now but think it's a while off yet!

I'm 39 and this is first baby so you lot all seem young to me !!

Whoo yellow 37 weeks!

Re: spacing babies. I didn't get my periods back until DS was 2.5 and then I got pg immediately so couldn't have been any closer than 3 years if I'd tried!

I'll be 38 when LO arrives ( and this is my first) so I agree with Adventure - you're all youngsters 😁

Morning all! I'm 36 and this is my third- had my first when I was 30 (almost 31), second day at 33 and this is my last at just turned 36. My mum had me at 20 and I'm sure she had more energy than me, but I'm coping!

esmes, try not to worry re HFM- my DD2 had it when I was about 20 weeks. It was pretty mild for her but I Googled myself silly worrying, however the chances of you getting it and it causing complications would be very very slim. On another note I also have a scandi habit I need to curtail now I'm on maternity leave!

I am finding clothes a bit easier now I've finished work, but don't like the extra exposure required for warmer weather. I'm not massive but really feel it now and don't like having my bump on show too much, it makes me feel self-conscious when I can't wrap up in a long cardi and a scarf! I am rotating about 4 tops and two pairs of jeans. I love my h&m skinny jeans and suspect I'll probably still be wearing them for a few months afterwards. I am worried about what I'm going to wear in Canada in August though.

Love the idea of frozen condom vag-pops- that's inspired, but I wouldn't be putting one anywhere near my nether regions I don't think. I can just imagine MILs face if she found one of them lurking in the freezer!

I feel like I'm old at 28 only having my first, majority of my friends are on their second already. I think it's different within different age groups for everyone, but it does seem perfectly normal to leave it 'later' to be starting families.

@PeachIcedT you'll have to let us know how the class goes tomorrow!

Have a happy and sunny Sunday everyone 🌞

I have got THREE working days left so I cannot be bothered about working outfits anymore. Agree with everyone that it's difficult to find colourful, smart and comfy business attire that does not cost an arm and leg. I still need to buy another nursing/ sleeping bra though.

I've started packing hospital bag, which made me feel a bit calmer however still feel little panicky by looking at the calendar (35+2 today). Don't want to go into labour too early and baby bouncing on my bladder does not help.

Has anyone heard of milk harvesting? It was mentioned during NHS breastfeeding class. I am willing to give it a try after 37 weeks.

@peasandquiet Hope you will get better soon!

@RasperryInAMelon I'll report back happy to ask any questions if anyone has any to the course facilitator.

Already had a super productive day today, doing all the house jobs we've been putting off for ages that can't easily be done with baby around.

It really interests me the different time people decide to have/try to have children. My cousins and their friends are similar ages as you @RasperryInAMelon and it the same are on their 2nd kids already, our circle of friends all in mid to late 30s and we're only the second couple to have a baby. For me the thought of having a baby in my 20s was just laughable... no way we were grown up enough Not even sure we are now, but that's a different story

@newbieho what is this milk harvesting you talk of?

Good work @PeachIcedT now I'm on leave I've decided no chores on the weekend... albeit a bit late, DH and I are on our way to the beach for the afternoon ☺

@1004Rise I was engaged to another guy 6 years ago so was on track to keep up with my friends in theory, but after we split I kept getting the third degree from my friends about finding a new boyfriend before I 'ran out of time' 😂 it amazes me when I consider that DH and I have only been together for 3 and a half years, 3 house moves, a mortgage, engaged October 2015, married August 2016 and baby May 2017 🙈

@RasperryInAMelon sometimes it's just right I got the "before you run out of time" comment a A LOT from wives of people DH worked with. Because he was in the RAF every time we went out with his work I got two questions 1. What do you actually do for a job (couldn't comprehend a wife with a career) 2. Why do you not have kids yet? I'm making a massive generalisation but with military wives it always seems to be married kid, another kid, another kid.... and so on. I got so fed up with the why no kids question one night I turned round and said because I can't Which was an awful thing to say and I felt really guilty about afterwards but after what felt like the 100th time of asking shrugging my shoulders wasn't working!! Needless to say we reduced the amount of time we spent with that particular group not long after that!

@RasperryInAMelon the lady running the class mentioned you could start trying to hand-express your colostrum prior birth (once, twice or three times per day) collect it in small sterile syringes (available on ebay) and freeze it. This may help with milk production after birth ad feeding the baby with your milk in case you or the baby land in special care unit (touch wood it won't happen!). The advice is to start harvesting milk not earlier than after 37 weeks as there is a risk milk harvesting can induce the labour. I have not heard of it earlier and was looking fir everyone's thoughts.

Vag Pops and Fanny Peas
I love you lot!!!

mouse I know what you mean about needing to get a wriggle on if we want 2!! We did want 2 but just gonna see how we get on I think. I'm 40 in Oct.
Hello adventure :) I'm same age as you and on my first. Are you considering more if you don't mind me asking?

nurse its funny how it works out isn't it.... my mum had my sister at 17 and me at 31, then both my sis and me will have been 39 when we had ours! I've been with DH for 20 yrs in July but like you we've enjoyed our fair share of festivals (still did upto this yr!) and our hedonistic years seemed to go on a long time! Then we've been building our own businesses too which we wanted to get a bit more settled before LO.

With regards to feeling self conscious about bodies/ extra weight etc I'm sorry to hear peeps feeling like that. It's such a tricky one isn't it coz we know logically that our bodies are doing an amazing thing creating new life but sometimes hard to remember after years of conditioning! I now have flabby arms and cellulite down to my knees which I didn't have before and I'm wearing my dhs boxer shirts in the garden today coz the maternity ones I bought are too tight and it's bloody boiling!!

@newbieho @RasperryInAMelon I've heard of this but not from midwives, rather from other mums. I'm leaking colostrum quite a lot now and I'm 32 weeks.

@1004Rise @RasperryInAMelon haha this sounds me! I was with my ex from 17-23, we had a car, a house, everything together but he wouldn't marry me! I was really poorly in 2009, had bowel surgery etc and my nana died, and he was not there for me so I ended it. Had a bit of an epiphany when he got super drunk on my birthday and I was sober as a judge at home. Then I met my husband at 24, engaged within 6 months and moved in together!!! When it's right you know it's right!

Back from selling at car boot. Made £300!! I fell asleep in the car and poor DH had to sell, but it did good.

BBQ tonight anyone?

@RasperryInAMelon a lot of my friends have kids, I'm the odd one out as I got a career. Sounds snobby but I don't mean it to be. One of my friends had 4 boys... another has 4 boys and a girl!!

I'm happy with being this age and being a Mum. My DM & I use to fight endlessly and due to small age gap, now that I'm older I get mistaken for my Dad's wife or even her!! I use to work in a village practice as a community nurse and it was the village where she grew up and my GrandPapa still lived. Every day... EVERY DAY I'd get "oh you're one of the Lewis daughters!" Nope, I'm the granddaughter and you're getting the biggest needle now!

It's funny how people have different perspectives on what is a 'normal' age for a first time mum. I'm 30 and a few people have commented that I'm quite young and they were surprised I didn't want to be married longer before starting a family (got married Feb last year) other people have commented on me being an 'older mum' so you just can't win really!

@ClaireSunflower I live in a suburb of Nottingham and at my baby clinic appointments I'm the eldest by far, and my midwife has said I'm classed as an "older" mum!

Freezing colostrum seems to be popular with diabetics too as you can give it if they baby has low blood sugars. I'm really not sure I can be bothered!

@RasperryInAMelon have a great time at the beach! What a day for it ☀️ and makes total sense saving the chores for weekdays now you are off.

Wow well done for making so much at the car boot @nursebickypegs That's really impressive!

The right age to have a baby is completely individual. We are expecting baby before our first wedding anniversary but we've been together for 10 years so have had lots of time just the two of us. Each relationship is different but lots of people seem to be willing to give their opinion on them!

@newbieho that's new to me, on my list of to do's is to test out breast pump so I may try this after 37 weeks (and after my birthday as don't want to risk encouraging her to arrive that day )

DH & I were together 7 years before we got married. But we met when we were 18 & 20 and didn't even consider it for years. Been 14 years together this year