First-timers Due last quarter 2007

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After hearing a couple of people complain about the lack of it, and then experiencing it myself, I thought I'd follow nomoremagnolia's suggestion and create an ante-natal thread just for us poor scared naive first-timers

Of course I'm not saying we shouldn't also be on the normal ante-natal club threads so we can learn from people with a bit more experience, but a little newbie club might be friendly and reassuring too?

So if this is your first baby and you're due Sept, Oct, Nov, Dec 07, please join me!

Please?!

So far, the only hassle is having to sleep cuddling a pillow to deal with the growing boobage! No other signs afaik. Early days yet, and to be honest I can't quite believe it. Never had a positive result before, even when 3 mo late, and this is only day 32 of a cycle that varies from 25 to 75!

Whoof. DH is going to pick up another test when he's in Edinburgh next (we live in a tiny town and everyone will know if I buy one here) - recommendations for good brands or is Boots own OK?

Thanks for the congrats - having this site is great for a first-timer as otherwise I'd be sitting on the news and having far too much time to worry.

Hello everyone. Sorry I've not posted in a while, it's been pretty quiet on here hasn't it? I've just been so busy at work recently (which in a way I'm grateful for since it makes the waiting pass quicker) and when I get home all I want to do is eat and then sleep!

Morning sickness seems to be settling down a bit, which is lovely! I'm only just 10 weeks though, so it makes me wonder whether the awful nausea I had last week was just a left-over of the real tummy bug the previous week, rather than m/s.

Got a letter from my antenatal clinic at the weekend, asking me to come for my first scan!!!! So excited! It's not for another 3 weeks, but we're going away for a week to see parents, so it should go fairly quickly.

Hope you're all doing OK, and feeling as chirpy as I do today! And welcome thelady

Let me ask a question to get some discussion started... What worries do you have either about pregnancy or impending parentdom, that you're a bit embarressed/scared about sharing with the already-mums?

thelady I know what you mean, sounds like I have a similar cycle to you and so when I tested I didn't expect to get a BFP either, although I have wanted this for a long time I still can't quite believe it and I am almost 14 weeks and been for my scan and everything! As for pregnancy tests I think once you are overdue any of them are fine.

GIP everything worries/scares me! I generally tend to over think things so I am just allowing myself to deal with one stage at a time. Something that really helped me was a thread on here recently about positive birth experiences because generally you just hear about the negative ones! What about you? What worries do you have?

hi all

i'll join in. I'm an old (39 by the time baby appears) newbie to boot. Stuff i'm worried about:
pain
having a healthy baby
ignorance (on my part)
ambivalence (on my part)
my relationship
being a baby bore
losing weight
sleeplessness
buying the wrong pushchair (dear god did our mothers fret like this over the 1950s version of a bugaboo)!!!!!
could go on, and on, and on.

I'm 17 weeks by the way, have had terrible MS which has mostly passed apart from the odd eruption when i least expect it. As soon as one symptom passes something else appears, your body just never seems to stop changing.

sophus, 38, due sept 5th
geekinpigtails, age 27 (at the mo, 28 by Nov), due Nov 5th
Kittiwake, due Oct 15th
Laksa, due Sept 26
Mandler, 33 too! and due 19th Oct
PolarMummy, 29 due Oct 4th
FCH, 29(30 in May), due Nov 1st
nh101, 29, due Sept 25
Holly29, 33, due Sept 19
MrsMar 36 due sept 19th
honey2theb, 22 due 6th sept

Great idea Geek - keep my place warm, I'm trying to get a pass!

Thanks MrsMc!

PolarMummy, yeah there was a "positive birth experiences" thread linked on the mnet home page not long ago, which was really helpful (and nearly had me in tears tbh - nice tears tho!).

Erm, I'm fairly confident about my relationship with DH and loving the baby when it turns up and not having any absolute practical disasters. I guess my main worries are that the stress and sleeplessness when the baby arrives will turn me into a complete dragon for a year, so that I'm not able to actually ENJOY that time, and I lose all contact with my current (un-babied) friends. really hope i cope a bit better than that!

Things I'm worried about:

coping with ms etc. while running a hotel this summer

the possibility of 'something going wrong' at any time

coping with a wee yin pretty much alone (DH is chef....) as my family are all overseas.

dealing with idiots who don't think I should carry on working.

Pain!!

Hi guys,

I forgot this thread existed . I blame it on pregnancy brain, I put the ketchup bottle in the freezer last week...

On the subject of fears I have a few:

I worry about something going wrong and losing this baby as I have had spotting in the last couple of weeks. I am 15 weeks today and the spotting only started in the 2nd trimester, have had scan so baby is still kicking but it does make you feel disconcerted and I can't fully enjoy being pregnant till I know it won't happen again.

I also worry about money as I am studying at the moment and haven't worked in the last year so not entitled to maternity allowance etc.

We recently bought a house which needs alot of work and I worry about getting it done in time for the arrival of the baby and also what the midwives will think of the state of our house when they come round for the homebirth (I know this is a silly fear)

Also worry about not being able to cope with the pain of birth.

I have loads of others but will save them for another time

xx

laksa: if you're not working, can't you claim incapacity benefit for a while after the birth? Not sure how it works if you've been studying, but it can't hurt to ask anyway....

will have a look to see what I'm entitled to but its not a dire situation where we will be kicked out onto the street, more a case of economising for a while But hey its worth it, We had planned on trying to get pregnant at the end of the year so this baby wasn't strictly planned.

Its quite funny actually as I was convinced I had polycystic ovaries due to long irregular cycles. So I got the fertility book by Toni Weschler and started taking my temps. I was using it as a more accurate rhythmn method for not getting pregnant but getting to know my body at the same time to see if I was actually ovulating. I never had sex till after my temps rose but guess I cocked up somewhere Am very pleased though!

I think you can still be fertile for a while after the temp-rise. I never bothered - I don't have a regular enough schedule to be able to get a 'resting' temp!

I must admit we did cut it fine as dh had been away on business and I was so pleased he had returned We did it about 1-2 days after temp had risen.

geekinpigtails the sleeplessness is something which is really worrying me as well I don't do well without sleep! I am just hoping that there is some magical inbuilt strength which allows you to cope without sleep when a baby is involved.

Hi Laksa, yes our thread is a little busy.

This is my first time. Now 17 weeks.

Scared about my 20 week scan!!

Welcome Edie, any particular reason you are scared about your 20 wk scan or just because its a new experience and the next time we will all have confirmation everything is ok?

I don't know really, think it is just that I have convinced myself that they are gonna say there is something wrong with baby. Im dreading it to the point where I almost don't want it at all.

Maybe ill get excited nearer the time.

Hello ladies, how are we doing today?

Well 9 weeks + 4 days, FINALLY having my booking-in appointment with my midwife this afternoon! (just realised I said I was 10 weeks in a previous post - can't count apparently!) When I got the letter about the dating scan I thought it was a bit weird that I hadn't seen a midwife yet, so I called the screening unit up - they sounded genuinely shocked that I'd been referred for a scan without a midwife explaining what the scan was for! So they said they'd contact my midwife and see what she was up to - hey presto, got a call from her this morning asking if I could squeeze in an appointment this afternoon Nearly (metaphorically) bit her hand off.

We're going away to see parents this evening until next Friday, and I don't know how much internet access I'm going to get. So hope you all have a wonderful Easter, and that we're all feeling like gorgeous glowing mums-to-be by the time I'm back!

I just thought, having talked about some of the negative stuff, let's hear some positives - what hopes and dreams do you have for your pregnancy and newborn, however naive?

That's my assignment to you for Easter, I expect answers on my desk by first thing Tuesday morning!

What am I hoping: that I'll be able to treat my LO like a human being with a mind and valid opinions (like my parents did). That LO will enjoy the freedom of living in a small town without feeling stifled (a big worry!). That DH and I can provide a good example of a strong, loving relationship for LO to build on as s/he grows.

fab answers thelady, thanks

Meanwhile, I am stressed! GP did the confirmation urine test on Tues and promised to arrange a dating scan asap. I could be anywhere between 10 weeks and 5 weeks, and I really want to know. No news at all so far, and with this being our first, I don't know how long the local GP/hospital takes to arrange these things.

What with a holiday weekend coming up, mad busy at the hotel, and this 'not knowing' hanging over me, I'm a mess. Frazzled, grumpy, queasy (not sure if that's ms or nerves!) and generally not the nicest of people to be around.

Poor DH!

thelady don't worry it does get better, or at least easier to cope with, I felt like you as well but it does pass, I think its better now we have started telling people.

Take care and I hope you get your answers really quickly.

Thanks PolarMummy. My GP is great - very down-to-earth and helpful - but the gynae consultant I saw as part of the infertility investigations is just horrid. A misogynistic woman!

Good thread, count me in, BFP 3 days ago, so due 13th Dec(ish) have booked an appt with GP next week, prob too early, but don't care, I'd rather be told come back in X weeks, than you should have come in when you found out. Got plenty of symptoms, but worrying as only 4 weeks, ie too soon for strong symptoms. Good luck everyone.

Hi

I'm a firsttimer (2 previous m/c) due on 20 September ,age 34.

Can I just ask -am I the only one still waiting for a booking in appt with m/w (or confirmation from hospital).

Was lucky enough to have private dating scan due to fact I'd had 2 previous m/c so told the GP relatively late (9 weeks - mainly as I was too superstitious to do it earlier - nothing worse than getting a letter from antenatal clinic when you've had a m/c). But nearly 8 weeks on still not heard anything (partly due to fact GP's surgery did nothing with referral letter for 4 weeks...).

Is it just me or is it just normal due to pressure on the sytem?