Early November EDD

[Jaronior]

Hi......anyone out there just found out they're expecting? Thought it might be nice to start a little thread!
I've tested this morning and got a feint BFP, have recently had 2 m/c so may be being optimistic but I'm tired of worrying!! If it works out it works out!! Fingers crossed. If it's a sticky one I'm due bonfire night! 5/11/17.
Anyone else out there the same??

Hi @Stilyaga

I have told my parents and a couple of close friends.

I think it a bit unfair to tell you they're anxious really, that won't help if you're already worrying!

I would just be happier if everyone knew I think!

We haven't told my partners parents yet. I'm worried it could get awkward as we're going to his step-sisters wedding when I will be 13 weeks! We don't want to steal the thunder from the wedding so don't know when to tell his side of the family!

Sorry, I have sort of taken over your question with my own problem!!

Everyone knows I'm pregnant. It's a bit awful as how about if things go wrong? Wish OH had a smaller mouth sometimes.

That's a bit tactless of your dad Stilyaga! How do they think you feel if they are anxious?! 🙄

I've only told my OH and my mum when I got upset after my sister in law's baby shower and was having cramps. My mum has problems with her mental health so doesn't always remember things and hasn't spoken to me about it since which I'm kind of relieved about. I don't want to tell anyone else until I'm at least 16 weeks. Going to try and hide it as long as I can! We told everyone about our first pregnancy and it was so horrible to lose it at around 10-11 weeks and have to tell everyone. Everyone is different though and sometimes sharing helps people if something does go wrong, this is just my own personal experience really x

Great to hear from you all, as usual :)

I'm glad it's not just me who thinks it's a bit for my dad to imply that we told him too early and thus have made him anxious; he's entitled to that emotion, but why does he need to tell me?!

It's interesting to see the range of dates people chose to tell at. Most people we know seem to have told their parents way before the 12 week mark, anywhere between 5 and 10 weeks, so that's what we were basing it on.

@mummyagain, @haz, I was conflicted about the possibility of loss as well. Something that made me think though was a colleague of mine who followed all the "rules" and didn't say anything until 14 weeks, scans done etc, but sadly a month ago lost her baby at 17 weeks :( I know it's a really rare case, but it made me realise that there was never going to be a truly "safe" time to announce.

However, I think if a loss did happen, I would definitely wait longer before telling in any subsequent pregnancies.

@bex is there any chance you could tell them the day after, or whenever there is a chance of it just being a small group of you together, rather than during the actual wedding celebration itself?

I think it depends on your personal situation and emotions as to when to tell. There no right or wrong

We wouldn't say anything on the wedding day but I feel even a week before/after is stealing the limelight a bit. Fingers crossed there won't be a bump yet! (Which I doubt as this is my first time) Just a lot of bloating!

@bex I totally agree. I think the guidelines about the "best time" to tell are there to help us out, but ultimately it's such a personal decision. Sometimes it's so much easier to just TELL NOW! And other times it's more logical and comfortable to TELL, but later :)

In terms of the wedding, I think if you could get away with it re: having to explain any unusual symptoms, or why you're avoiding alcohol, then waiting until some point after would definitely work. I guess it also depends how often you see them and whether it's important for you to tell them face to face or not!

We have similar wedding dilemmas, my cousin is getting married when I am 12 weeks, but I expect pre scan. Didn't know what to do but ended up telling them because I was due to go to their hen do this weekend gone but couldn't face 4 hours trapped in a car with a toddler feeling this sick. So hard because you want their wedding to be the special event. I have told close family with the caveat that something might go wrong so don't be too excited. I haven't told my dad though as last time we came up high risk for downs and had cvs and it stressed him out tonnes. I don't have enough energy to worry about him too so will tell him later on. It seems a balancing act between protecting other people from being upset and getting suport for what can be a super tough time.

Hi ladies, I need your help!

I am UNABLE to drink water. It makes me even more sick!!! I am on my 9th week and am very worried that I am harming my baby.

Any of you have had this experience before?

@elio it's such a tough one. @Stilyaga makes a good point though, if you/I can get through the weddings by making excuses, might be best to wait until after. Esp. if the wedding is pre-scan. There's probably a bit of a lul after a wedding, a kind of "oh it's all over" feeling so might be nice to bring some more good news.

@mrsposh I've found lemon squash easier to stomach than water, and taking only tiny sips. Sherbert lemon sweets have also helped my nausea.

@mrsposh, my nausea hasn't been quite that severe, but have you tried experimenting with the temperature of the water? I'm finding ice cold water easier to handle than room temp water, and similarly I really can't stand hot drinks at the moment! Maybe trying it hot/warm might be better for you? Or super cold?

Otherwise, what about literally freezing the water and sucking on it as ice? Do you have one of those ice lolly making kits with the sticks?

I hope it passes soon; it must be really rubbish to feel that poorly :(

We started telling people from 7 weeks, mainly because of my job. I am still riding all clients horses and my own, but I obviously didn't want to start any horses that I did not know.

Took my first dose of vitamin b6 this afternoon and enjoyed my dinner for the first time in 6 weeks! Thank you for the advice girls!

It's an individual decision who to tell I guess. I told a few people first time and MCed which was horrible untelling them. Told nobody until after the scan second time. Then this time I've had to tell loads of virtual strangers due to work (I'm freelance so need to be transparent with clients before taking on projects that might go on past due date). It feels very weird.

Mrsposh You could see your doctor for some meds to control the nausea, if you haven't already and if you can make it to the surgery!

Yes mrsposh if you're struggling to even stay hydrated I would speak to your GP. Sucking ice cubes is a good one, or have you tried ginger ale or something like that? Sorry I know people always suggest ginger and it's often the first thing people try! X

Anyone else still testing - I never did this with my other pregnancies!
I had a ds, then I miscarried, then a dd. I think I've had a few early miscarriages since dd whilst ttc.
I just can't stop panicking! I'm not sure when my last period was but I have a rough idea.
So glad to see 3+ tonight on cb!

Just had booking in appointment and got scan date while I was there - 4 May when I'll be 13 weeks. Been red pathwayed cos of previous emergency section but think the only difference will be consultant appointment at 34 weeks to discuss delivery options. Messed up blood work so will have more taken at scan. The next 4 weeks cant go quick enough!

Hello all,

I feel I'm a bit late to the party here but I'd like to join you all if I may! This is my first pregnancy and am due Nov 1st I think and going for my first scan tomorrow (booked a private one for 10 weeks 2 days). I find I'm so up and down, today I mostly feel anxious and had a cry on the bus to work! I think I'm so worried there won't be a baby there when they look tomorrow!

It feels really hard at the moment as I feel this huge thing is happening in my life but I'm having to keep it a secret from most people, so thought it would be lovely to join this group for some support.

Warm wishes to all.

Hi @msbranwen, welcome :)

I joined this week for literally the same reason as you! You're going through a huge life change but nobody knows.

It's one third utter terror about what's to come in November, one third terror about the possibility of something going wrong before then, and the final third pretending that everything is the same as before

SUCH A ROLLERCOASTER!!

Good luck for tomorrow, I hope it all goes well :)

Thanks @Stilyaga, you've nailed how I feel exactly! I started a new job the week after I found out I was pregnant so have that in the anxiety mix too! I think it's so helpful to know that I'm not alone.

Thanks for the welcome and hope you're doing okay.

We didn't tell anyone with our first until 13 weeks. We're planning on doing the same this time but I'm finding it harder. I didn't have any morning sickness last time plus chasing after a one year old is tiring at the best of times. I'm finding it generally harder. My mother is coming to stay for a few days at Easter. We weren't planning on telling yet (I'm only 8 weeks) but who knows. I don't think it's wrong to tell as early as possible, I just prefer to keep myself to myself usually.

Hi, I'd like to join please! First pregnancy, ten weeks today... booking appointment tomorrow. Nervous as it doesn't feel real yet! Looking forward to that first scan, but also anxious too!

Welcome Eemamc and congratulations xx

Hi all, just a quick update. Had booking in this week and nice midwife got me booked for early scan yesterday at EPU. Very sadly, unfortunately it seems I know my body as what should have been nearly 10 weeks only measuring 5, no heartbeat and they think blood in sac. EPU were amazing and as that's 3 miscarriages in a row, they've sent the referral forms off to the specialist. Am devastated, but was so sure at least it wasn't a major shock, just want nature to take its course, quickly. If anyone has tips on that (without bringing the group down too much) please share, as had op last time as much further along.
So, just to say, listen to your bodies and speak up if worried, but wishing you all great, stress free pregnancies, with gorgeous babies at the end of it xx

Hi WasWebb, so sorry for your loss. Hope someone has advice for you x

So sorry for your loss @WasWebb81.
I've suffered a miscarriage and I couldn't do anything to speed it along only let nature take its course and be kind to yourself.
Lots of relaxing, taking it easy, warm baths and the love of your other half.
Glad to hear EPU have sent a referral off and I hope to hear of a healthy pregnancy in the future.
Much love to you xxx

@waswebb, just wanted to say that I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't have any advice I'm afraid as my miscarriage was very - for want of a better word - efficient and I didn't need any intervention. Anyway, I hope you get all the time you need to heal, and wish you the best for the future. xx