October 2017-come one come all!

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Am I the first one here?! Positive pregnancy test yesterday
Baby number 2 ETA 1st october
Do come and join me!

Cramping today
@powerpuffer is your 7 wk scan private?

I'm absolutely gutted. DP (who doesn't live with us, but who is around a lot and is DD1's dad) doesn't seem to want this baby any more. It was a surprise for both of us but he was really happy at first. Now it has sunk in, plus he worries about whether I would be able to cope, what if something happens to me in pregnancy (I have a blood clotting disorder which I found out about since I was pregnant with DD1), what if there is something wrong with the baby, etc. I can sort of see his point of view. He travels a lot and is totally unsuited to being in any kind of committed relationship; he will never ever live with us. And we (currently me and DD1, 3.5) live in a one-bed flat and have no prospect of anything bigger. The living room is L-shaped and I have a private nook there, so it does work very nicely for us as is, but obviously DD would have to share her room if I had another child. So, there are lots of fairly sensible reasons, but I am just devastated by his change of heart and have no idea of what to feel or do.

Hi All

Can I join? I'm a bit late to the party. I only did my test yesterday! EDD 5th of October. It was all a bit of a surprise. This will be DC No.2.

@rosalyn44, Yes, it is. Worth it for peace of mind for me. Far too impatient to wait until 12 weeks!

@powerpuffer was thinking of doing the same ..

Oh penguin what a shock for you

Oh dear, Penguin, that must feel awful. I just hope that having got all his worries off his chest, he can now start thinking of how best to help you when he is able to be around.

Thanks, Cineraria and puttingourhoodupdown :-(

I think he would prefer me to have a termination, although he's said it's my choice. I'm just really really shocked and emotional especially since everything felt so happy initially. Maybe he is in a panic about the reality, and to be honest it has got me doubting whether I was just being naive about my ability to cope and his ability to step up. Thought I was ok and then rang up my best friend (only other person I've told) and burst into floods of tears.

I'd love a second, but it's true that all of the practical worries are real. But I would never never have been ok with him being careless with contraception if I'd known he felt like this -- we've both said in the past we'd like to try for a second and I just assumed it was something he was still happy with.

@NotMyPenguin so sorry to hear that is his reaction. That isn't easy . Maybe he is just scared because of the health issues? Re the housing mayb he could contribute more so you get get a bigger place

Been awake since 4am....aggghhh

Thanks so much for all the kind words. We talked last night and this morning and he says he's "happy, very happy, but very afraid".

10storey, yes, he does help financially, quite a lot actually, but rosalyn the big problem is that we are in London so it's quite unlikely that we can afford anything bigger. He will need to contribute more anyway to cover childcare fees with a second. To be honest I think his biggest worry is if something goes wrong either for me or the baby, and not being around for us in a normal way to help. I can't see this changing; he is who he is, his job and lifestyle are a massive part of him, and I do accept him like this although I do often wish I'd fallen in love with somebody more normal. We have tried splitting up a few times but we do love each other and miss each other awfully whenever that has happened.

I am hopeful about him saying he was happy. I just hope these worries are things we can overcome.

rosalyn, sorry you're not sleeping! Is it pregnancy related?

Hi all,

AF was 10 days late, and I got my BFP today, looks like I'm 5-6 weeks in so EDD is 1-7th October. Made an appointment with the GP to discuss antenatal care asap. This is my first time, and I'm feeling all sorts of things tbh, mostly overwhelmed! I have no idea when or how to tell DP (he has a job interview today so don't really want to steal his thunder!).

Any advice on how to handle early pregnancy, telling people and getting things arranged would be wonderful. Emma X

Welcome rosiehull4!

Congrats on you BFP! I think we can all understand how you're feeling - well I know I can! Its definitely an overwhelming and anxious time.
So far, the only people to know is myself and DH - I plan on telling my best friend when I see her this weekend as she is around 18 weeks pregnant so thought she'd be a good person to have in the loop!

Good luck telling DP - hopefully it will be a double baby/job celebration!
:) x

Hi everyone , thought I'd join and keep up with the stories and advice. Got a BFP yesterday which was a bit of a surprise as we hadn't been properly trying 😂 Calculated I'm 4 and a bit weeks and due ~5th October! Could arrive on my birthday though haha. Told DH yesterday even though I was planning to wait and suprise him sweetly but it sort of came out 😋 We are both a little shocked and unsure of what we are supposed to do next since this is our first! But happy, and nervous and scared DH is itching to tell everyone but I'm inclined to keep it quiet, maybe tell his sister so he has someone to talk to and she isn't too over emotional so should be sensible
Booked a doc appointment yesterday but didn't tell them what for, I was still in shock... so hopefully they don't think I wasted their time.
Glad there are lots of us going through the same thing and also some other 1st timers here

@NotMyPenguin yes think pregnancy related as usually sleep well

@rosiehull4 congratulations :) . In terms of telling peeps Iv told people whom I would tell if something took a turn for the worst....touch wood

Hi everyone, trying to catch up on all the recent posts, there's been so many!!

Welcome everyone! Good to see so many people in the same boat, I'm definitely enjoying being able to talk about being pregnant with others. I'm finding it so difficult not saying anything at work (2 people know just in case I need to run out of class and to help with lifting and tidying away all the toys!)

How is everyone? Feeling lots of strange twinges recently and I second the stroppy zombie comment....so short tempered recently!!! Although my little lovelies at school have been giving me lots of hugs this week and the girls have been playing 'pregnant mums and c-sections'...it's like they know 😂

Ooh and is anyone going to their GP/midwife before their 8 week booking in appt? Mine didn't seem to need me to come in and the appointment is now only 2 weeks away but I thought they normally had you in before then?

I just had to pop in and get the form. When I called the receptionist advise no appt with GP req.

So many twinges and aches today right now the feeling of a full bladder but I just went 😅 The twinges worry me but they are normal from what I've read...
I'm going to the Gp on Tuesday but I didn't tell the receptionist what the appointment was for (was still in shock) so perhaps don't need to. It'll be good to have someone say face to face what I need to do next as I have no clue!

Wow, there's loads of people in here now. It's great.

I'm really tired today, and feel a bit grotty, but nothing I can put my finger on. Each twinge makes me a bit anxious, but I'm telling myself/hoping it's all normal.

I can't get a gp appointment for about 3 weeks, but the receptionist told me I have to see a doctor. It seems so far off and I'm not sure they'll even do much? My partner really wants to come with me too, but I feel like that's really pointless. Sweet though I guess.

I get twinges and AF like cramps too. It's really concerning but as you say, the Internet says it is normal.

Hi everyone

Sorry I Have been a little quiet on here!

Had my appt at the GP today but realized that at Kings College hospital you self refer online so I could've saved myself a whole load of time, not to mention the mile long walk to the surgery!
Any other south London mamas to be here?