September 2017 #2

[oliversmummy26]

Starting a new thread for us all....

What's the ideal timing to get an early scan? I wasn't going to, but all of this discussion about scans is making me curious...

I guess I'd rather just know sooner rather than later if it's all working out in there...

not 8 weeks felt like a good time to me, because then it's "just" a month until the 12 weeker. Not sure if there's any logic to it.

Scan today: Two weeks ago I had been measuring 7 days behind but now only 4 days. So I'm Feeling very positive now. Fine strong heart rate @158. Delighted. They are keeping my original EDD of sept 8th. DH was a bit flushed in the face afterwards, I think he had been ignoring the idea of another baby till he saw the heartbeat 😝 or maybe he just assumed it wouldn't grow, whereas I've thought of little else since the last scan showed it was behind. So no wine tonight after all, only tea xxx

Super news Cali x

Great news Cali

Great new Cali

I feel the same about an early scan penguin. I'm trying to be patient and wait until 12 weeks and think about what else I can spend the money on, but I really want to know it's all OK in there and I am not generally patient.

What's the latest people are waiting to be referred to hospital? I've a dilemma in that my mum is a midwife in the unit I want to go to, so I need (and want) to tell her before someone sees my name on a list (I've worked there recently, so people will put 2+2 together). I've no problem telling her early, but it would be massively hurtful to my MIL to not be told at the same time. She's a wonderful person, so I wouldn't want to do that, or lie to her, but she's also massively anxious and had problems with miscarrying, so I don't want to tell her too early and have her freaking out! I'm now 6+6, was thinking of telling them at 9/40, but worried that will leave me too short a time to be referred etc!

Amazing news Cali. Definitely enjoy that cup of tea!

Fraggle that's a tricky dilemma, but TBH you should tell your mum if you want to, especially if she works there. Could you maybe not tell a little white lie to your MIL? I know it's far from ideal, but if it will save her the worry, would it hurt so much?

We will be telling our families at different times this time as I want to tell my Family early but my SIL announced her pregnancy a few weeks ago. This is her second pregnancy but a big gap between her first DC and this baby, so we don't really want to rain on their parade.

Thank you to the ladies who sent wishes for our scan this morning. Measuring at 6 weeks rather than 7 weeks, but I have PCOS, so it is entirely possible to be a week less than LMP. But we got to see our little squidgy and a flickering Heart Beat so we are completely made up! ❤️

Pleased to hear about everyone's scans. I'm feeling awful. I hope this doesn't last right to the end like last time. My ILs are here this weekend so I'm having to act normal as we don't want to tell them just yet but it's really hard.

fraggle honestly, just tell both of them. If your mother is a midwife then she knows the score re early preg and if mil will be upset then just bring her into the fold too. It's not a big deal and they are important people to you. We are going away with friends next wknd and will end up telling them I'd say because they are expecting boozy nights of chatting with wine round a fire after we put the kids to bed. Ive already opted out of the skiing so I'd say they are wondering. But none of our families know yet. People understand, circumstances dictate sometimes and it's out of your control.

fraggle I agree with cali I think I'd just tell them both it would take the pressure off at least.

I remember last pregnancy going up to the hospital for 12 wks scan and dh saw 1 of his aunties which meant working in tha department. We'd forgotten she was a midwife (he has 12 aunts and uncles!!)

It's a minefield fraggle and there's no easy answer. This time around I've told people in the order that works best for us rather than 'most important people first' which is easier than last time where I put myself out and caused myself more stress than necessary.

Finding it odd telling people. A bit of an anti climax tbh. I suppose there's not much to say at this stage but I've been desperate to talk to people about it so find it weird when the subject changes to normal day to day stuff (quite quickly!). Huff. Hormones are playing a part i expect!

Great new Cali and Sherbet

I had my scan this afternoon, managed to see Blob without having an internal and saw the heartbeat too! Measuring spot on a 6 weeks although obviously rough at this stage. I am relieved; booked in for another scan in four weeks and having Harmony test then too. Methinks the next four weeks will drag on especially as I'm starting to feel rough (not envy!)

I can't stop being sick. I don't know what to do. Hoping tomorrow will be better.

Oh dear LULES , are you managing to keep anything down? Dont suffer , contact your GP and get some anti sickness on board, thats the only thing as well as fruit pastle ice lollies that have kept me functioning. How many weeks are you now? X

Only 5. Had HG last time so guess it's not that much of a surprise. Felt nauseous for a couple of days but today is the first time I've been sick. No can't keep anything down. Been sick 8 times today. That isn't normal is it?

Ffs I keep forgetting to ring the Drs. Still need to arrange booking in appointment.

Lules, no huni thats alot of vomiting and you wont be able to keep that up for long before getting dehydrated. As its the weekend if your still not able to keep anything down tomorrow and you notice your urine is dark and urinating less ild pop into A&E or get an emergency OOH appointment at the very least. Hope it passes for you soon x

lules def get an emergency appointment it sounds like hg could be kicking in again good luck with anti sickness solutions xx

Still being sick. I have a GP appointment for tues anyway but will see if I can get something sooner. Thanks for your support. It's really helping me.

Lules chew on ice/ice chips. It's cold which is always tummy friendly and you get slow amounts of fluids in. X

Thanks all. I got a couple of hours sleep and am feeling better now. I've managed to drink something so will see if I can keep it down. If not I'll call 111.

So sorry lules, it's the absolute pits. Like people say don't hold off getting meds if it will mean you can get some fluids in. I am battling the nausea but I don't dare think it's anything like hg, my heart goes out to you xxxxx

Oh Lules I feel for you, it must be awful. Get to the dr asap and get yourself some medication, you don't need to suffer like this. Take care

I'm going to attempt to go to work again tomorrow (had a few days off sick) and sort of have to tell my team the news - I'm reluctant and anxious (I'm only 8.5 weeks) but am struggling with sickness so think I have no choice as managing full days is near on impossible. Gah. It's almost like by telling people I feel I'm jinxing it. The first trimester is truly a head f**k.

Lules I've been the same last couple of weeks. I've been lucky in that I can sometimes keep small amounts of fluids down at a time but food has no chance. I went to doctors last week and they wouldn't give me anti sickness (the nurse wouldnt, they wouldn't let me see a doctor) but did sign me off work for a week but I'm going to go back tomorrow. Are anti sickness meds risky for baby, is that why they are reluctant to give them?