September 2017

[ADuckNamedSplash]

Hi all - looks like I'm first here! I'm pregnant with #1, due 2 September. Got my BFP a couple of days ago and already it feels like a rollercoaster ride - I'm utterly thrilled, anxious about the possibility of a loss and terrified at the thought of the birth! But hey, bring it on!

Hi all. Got my BFP on Wednesday after AF not arriving on Sunday. Feeling extremely anxious as I have started experiencing abdominal pain and my tummy is tender to touch. Had a mc in October 😟 unsure what to do .. x

I'm always in two minds about telling before 12weeks. On the one hand I understand the risk of loss is higher so best not to commit yourself entirely, but on the other hand, you have already committed yourself. No drinking, certain foods omitted, change in certain activities, not to mention you think about the pregnancy ALL THE TIME. 12 weeks is a very long time. When I had my MCs at 9 & 10 weeks I was upset that no one knew I had been pregnant for all that time. And it felt like it didn't matter because of that. But it certainly mattered to me.
So I'm more casual about it now as a result. I don't mind people knowing so long as it's not openly discussed. And it's easier because you don't have to start behaving all strange around others. That's a bigger give away. At the moment I'm trying to make a decision about skiing in Feb with another family. If my scan goes well I might just say it to my friend because it will be obvious if I don't ski or partake in bevvies. But I suppose if the scan doesn't go well then I can carry on as before. At any rate we shall see.

Haven't told anyone except my two best friends. After 2 mc's, the first and worst of which my mum was present for, I don't want to share the news til I'm reasonably sure it's good. So that'll be 12 weeks.

Got a dating scan on Wed (cos I have such irregular cycles I honestly don't know how far along I am). Fingers crossed it's all good.

Hello, just found out I'm expecting my 3rd baby and it has come as a bit of a surprise! I also have two boys aged 2.9 and 6. Due around the 15th September though my others were both born at 41 weeks.

Argh, slightly insensitive timing of my post after calimommy's - sorry! I get why you'd want to not wait to tell people - it's a huge, horrible thing to go through (I had mine at nearly 12w and 7w) and to not tell anybody feels almost like it's a horrid little secret.

But personally, especially after my mum was present during the 12w loss (she happened to be staying over), I'd hate for her to bear the burden of knowing I'd had another. She doesn't know about the second one, even.

Yeah I've told partner, obviously and quite a few other people. But I'm someone who needs to talk about things that bother me. My mum, dad, brother and two best friends know. He's told his sister and his son from a previous relationship (who then proceeded to tell the mother) so she knows and I can't tell you how much I'd rather she didn't.

I read somewhere that a miscarriage is unlikely twice in a row, but then I come on these boards and see how many women have experienced that. Gulp.

Not at all nOne, each to their own. I just like to let people know it's ok to tell if they want. Half the time people are nearly cross with you for telling. Their like "oh but sure it's early days yet" as though your not really pregnant till 12 weeks. I beg to differ! X

Can I join please?
Got a bfp on Wednesday. 😀 We had only been trying for one cycle so we are both pretty shocked but super excited.

My stats

Age: 30
Cycle: 1
Kids: 1 DS, 12months
Due date: 20th Sept
Status: Married
Fur babies: One Dog!
Location: NW
Find out sex: No, want the surprise (although another boy would make the clothes shopping easier!)

Hi to newbies and congrats, sorry for all those who have had losses, it's s scary time waiting it out even without having had a mc, so I can't imagine... Where I live they scan you as soon as you see s doc (all healthcare is private) so I also saw the tiny speck today. Unfortunately there's also a big blob of blood in my uterus which doc isn't happy about. Have to take progesterone and needed a jab. Eeeek. Anyone else had similar??

Did they call it SCH (subchorionic haematoma)? I had one. Mine didn't work out but I know lots of women have them and they go away. X

I've been a bit quietly lately as busy with work but I've just caught up! Glad everyone is progressing well.

My dodgy tummy phase seems to have passed which is good but I think sickness is coming on! Felt like I was going to throw up on the bus this morning but luckily didn't...might have to start thinking of a contingency for that one...anyone know why you can buy sick bags?!

Still got (massive) sore boobs & get a "heavy" feeling down there, like pre-AF. POAS this morning & got 3+ weeks am about 6 weeks now! I have been a lot better with the testing this week, it's finally sinking in!!

We've just been invited to a wedding of a really close family friend, like a sister to my DH growing up...& it's on my due date!!! We just looked at each other but said nothing...that's going to be interesting! I guess we'll have to say no - it's about 4 hours drive from home.

Guigirl it's good to hear about your Birth Company experience, we've booked for late Jan when I'll be nearly 8 weeks. Think we'll tell parents after that if it goes well.

Very hard to keep the secret - amazingly no one has put 2&2 together that I've stopped drinking Diet Coke despite being a complete addict before! I know you can drink caffeine but I can't stand the taste of it anymore! A good way to quit I suppose. Also can't bear anything other than skimmed milk, tastes like butter. Coffee shop put whole in my tea this morning as I wasn't paying attention & it's horrid! Also, a colleague & I tend to go to a sushi bar as a treat lunch & she was trying to persuade me yesterday and I came up with the crappest excuse that I had some bad sushi a few weeks ago & couldn't face it...

Hope you're all keeping safe in this silly weather. We had snow on the ground but it's sheet ice this morning! Buses & trains all running as usual though so no snow day for me

Londonexhile I bought some sick bags from Amazon to keep in my classroom. They're plastic with a drawstring bag and seem much better than the sort of ones you'd get on a plane! Never thought I'd get excited over a sick bag. I'm actually quite looking forward to using it.

I also have a wedding, 5 days after my due date! It's my SIL's wedding though so I think it's going to be a hard one breaking the news!!

Happy Friday!!

Woke up with a cracking migraine and feel sick. I was signed off with ds in 2nd trimester with crippling migraines and injections etc so really hope this isn't going to be a thing this time, and this early on!

Question for all the 2nd/3rd timers - how do you
a) snack on biscuits/crisps/whatever you need to survive (last time for me it was jam donuts for about 3 months!) without your DC clamouring for some and
b) how do you cope with the tiredness and nausea when they just want to play all day? I'm a SAHM. She's 2.

Had a bad day yesterday when I couldn't get off the sofa for hours and DD was really annoyed at me for not reading endless books and playing puzzles etc etc
All I wanted was ginger nut biscuits and chocolate but she never leaves my bloomin side (normally bearable)
I'm just kind of struggling atm and know what's to come too

Dont I'm a SAHM too and felt absolutely horrendous with my second pregnancy, DD was 1.5 when I fell pregnant. I was coping so badly I had to go and stay with my parents for 2 weeks (they live miles from us so daily help wasn't an option) from week 7-9 as I was being such a rubbish mum to DD. I felt too ill to do anything. Thankfully it passed for me at 14 weeks and I began to feel better at 10 but still, it was bad. Thank goodness (and I am touching wood here) I am feeling better this pregnancy, feeling sick but not that needing to lie on the sofa/floor feeling and I am so thankful for that as I now have DD 3 and DS 10 months and I was genuinely dreading another experience like last time. Sorry that's not very helpful is it! My advice is just get through it the best you can and if you have any option for help then use it

Londonexhile and MrsK I reckon dog poo bags could also do as sick bags! You can get them anywhere and they come in handy little rolls!

Kskifred really hope the migraines don't become a theme for you. Best of luck.

Feeling very delicate this morning...not been sick but feeling very queasy...I'm on belvita breakfast biscuits, dunked in my one coffee of the day..

I would kill for a MDs double cheese burger now but our nearest is a 1.5 hour round trip

We haven't told anyone yet and won't do until after results of our 12 week screening tests. Each to their own I guess, but I was so pleased I hadn't told anyone last time, as I would have hated to have to "untell" everyone straight away when I was still so sad about what happened. This way, we were able to come to terms with it in our own way and told people what happened as and when we wanted to. We got married in September and are constantly having friends and family insensitively asking if I'm pregnant yet (including in laws and DH got fed up with them asking before Christmas and gave them a "well if you must know..." which made them feel bad, but it pisses me off how people feel they have the right to comment on whether or not your pregnant or ask you why you're not yet, when you are trying your best and it just makes me feel inadequate. So f**k them, I don't care if they they feel bad!

Anyway, rant over, will be keeping shtum for another 6 weeks or so yet..

Afternoon ladies

We haven't told anyone, made much easier by my 'dry jan'. Also I find it nice us having a little secret, get our heads around it and dream for the future without people ruining with practicalities! Ha. We will probably tell parents around 10-12 weeks. Everyone else 12 plus.

I see another side now about telling people early however after reading one of the comments on here.

What does everyone do for work, are most of you ladies office based? I am, and wondering how I will be able to manage when/if sickness comes. My boss doesn't like me, so definitely no way I am telling her early!!

Each to their own.

Ps doggy poop bags as sick bags

Don't I have a 3 year old, so know what you mean about trying to cope with the tiredness/need to eat junk while dealing with a little one. That said, I'm not a SAHM, I work PT, so can hide at my desk. That has it's downsides too, as my colleagues think I've turned into a complete junk food addict and I fall asleep at my desk in the afternoon.

On my days off, I try to get outside if possible, as I find the fresh air helps me wake up and my DS is occupied. I don't have much nausea though, so that might make it more difficult! for you, lots of it, and don't feel bad if you end up having a bit more TV than usual for your daughter. I tell myself it's not for long, and you just need to do what gets you through!

Oh and Whitelily, I'm office based too. I don't have much nausea, but am falling asleep at my desk (and looking a bit portly already). I just tell my colleagues that DS kept me up at night, but you could use a variety of excuses for looking/feeling a bit rough - hangover, insomnia, noisy neighbours keeping you awake, bit of a bug!

I work in an office lily lots of snacks on hand is the best idea. If i eay constantly any nausea goes off.

I have just had my caffeinated tea, think i feel a bit better. Had this with ds and became addicted to full fat coke during my last pregnancy i hate the stuff normally and got really fat lol. It seemed to help with constant headaches though so need to prepare for an healthy alternative this time.

I'm getting more and more (

Unfortunately I am checking out of this thread as no baby for me this time after this morning's scan.

All the best everyone, I hope the next nine months go smoothly for all of you, I am sure they will fly by! :)