#TTC1 - Second Wave grads thread!

[Mooseville]

Hello!!

This is a new wave of grads for those from #TTC1 - Those on the first grade thread are dealing with poonamis and crying babies, while we are still waving our FRER's and wondering if that line is really a figment of our imagination!

Feel free to join in, if you too are embarking on this crazy journey to parenthood!!

Arrrgghh marmite its going to quickly you're going to have a little bubba soon!!

I've prematurely investigated NCT but going to hold off making any payments for a long while yet!!

I'm not feeling well at all. If I get too hungry, I feel sick. If I eat, I feel sick. I'm exhausted but struggle to sleep as I have really vivid nightmares - last night was about forgetting to put the chicken in the freezer (I'm vegan ) and then as a consequence my elderly neighbour died. So was awake at 5 feeling sick and sad. Want to go to bed so much and not be stuck at this shitty desk job 😭😭😭

Skip Sorry to hear you're feeling so rough :-( that's horrible.
Would your boss be understanding if you need to go home or take a day or two off next week? It's just as valid as other illness, and you're probably not able to do loads while feeling so rough.

I hope it either gets better soon or you feel able to take time off if you need to.

Sounds like you have a super-busy weekend with furniture stuff (are you just moving furniture rather than moving property? Hope so, as it's slightly less stressful: anyway, take it easy!), and the scan. You'll be in my thoughts tomorrow. And I'm vegan too!

Marmite I've heard that too about doing the courses for forming a local community - it'll be one of my key reasons. Also, really exciting about the tour, hope it is great and that all your questions get answered - I'm sure they won't mind any questions, sure they've heard them all!

I took the bean for its first swim this morning, which was nice, though the pool was rammed which was less nice. And I got my first hospital appointment through with the antenatal neuro team, which is 3 weeks today. Apparently they might well scan me then as I'm on some meds, so I've cancelled my private scan which was for 6 days earlier as figured can re-book if they don't. Apparently we might be there all morning, so DH has told his boss who's very understanding and excited for us, which is really nice. I'm feeling quite glad I've got into the system so early!

We're off to the cinema tomorrow and have friends coming for board games on Sunday evening, so that should be fun. Tonight we're going through pregnancy notes and leaflets as not had the chance to do that together yet.

Mouse sorry for the tricky situation. Someone in my family miscarried last week and is having EPRC Monday. It is horrid and tough. She already knew I was pregnant (and I her), and I kinda feel bad for being pregnant even though rationally I don't think I should, and she's said she hopes all the luck goes to me now. It's also made me more anxious, I think. I just left it a fair few days after I found out (from her partner), and texted sending love and saying she's in my thoughts, which I think she appreciated. And that I'll be thinking of her on Monday. I think flowers or a day out sound great. As far as telling her goes, I'd second skip's suggestion.

Wanting all the best with the job(s), and the waiting.

Sorry that I've forgotten who else has a scan tomorrow, but all the best for it!

:) That would be me ... and I'm not surprised you've forgotten as I've been very silent here the last few days. Work has been utterly insane the past week, starting at 8am most days and going on for 12 hours before I can leave the office, then continuing to work in the evening, one night until 2am. I'm shattered!! and it's still not over - but so looking forward to the scan.

Marmite - I hope you're feeling better now, sorry you had such a shock. Look after yourself!

Skip, hope the morning sickness subsides. I've been feeling a little rough the last few days though still haven't been actually sick, thank goodness.

Good luck with the job, Wanting!

Mouse - it's a tough situation and I'm not sure how I'd react. A very close friend of mine suffered a stillbirth last year, which is about the most horrific thing I can imagine happening to anybody - I had no idea what to do or how to help and felt useless. In the end I tried to think what I would want in the circumstances and bought a voucher for a luxury spa day for her ... and waited for her to contact me. I didn't want to poke in during what must have been the shittiest point in her life and at least sending the voucher she knew I was thinking of her. Later she told me it was exactly what she'd needed and that the endless bunches of flowers she'd got from most people had just ended up irritating her - though I think that was partly the anger stage of grieving more than anything - not sure anybody knows what to do in a situation like that. Another friend sent a donation to Sands rather than flowers which she appreciated. For a mc rather than a stillbirth though - it would be nice to know people cared and recognised the pain you were going through so flowers would be better received, I would think.

I wasn't pregnant at the time all of that happened ... I have no idea what I would have done had I been. I think other peoples' suggestions of emailing her the news is a good one though, to give her time to settle herself with it - and in the meantime be the same friend you have always been.

Need to head to bed, have to be up early in the morning. Good luck on your scan Skip!

Ooo NS enjoy the board games! I have a weekly board games evening with friends and love it. :) Got Libertalia for Christmas which I still need to try out and played Takenoko last week which was cutesy and fun.

Skip tell me about it, sooo quick!! Too quick!! I wished the first trimester away cos felt so crap, second trimester flew by with Christmas etc and now I'm coming into third trimester WTH?! I've been really enjoying being pregnancy since second tri, wish I could go back a few months, it would also buy us more time we have soooo much to do!!! building starting on Monday though so more progress will happen. Also I feel in no way ready for this still somewhat abstract concept of something wriggling around inside me to become an actual real life baby aarrgghh!! It is exciting but also v scary!

That dream sounds stressful Skip and also I think v normal for pregnancy unfortunately! Hope you get some relief from the feelings of grottiness soon. I remember how hard those weeks were, but they do come to an end honestly! I used to nap everyday when I got home from work while DH made tea!

I've been loving swimming all the way through pregnancy Ns it's one of the best exercises you can do. It's lovely now my bump is bigger too, definitely takes the weight off! Although I am finding it hard pulling myself up the ladder stairs at the pool to get out again at the end what are you seeing at the cinema?

kav your job sounds crazy, hope you're not overdoing it, it's hard with work I know but you do need to put yourself and bean first.

Good luck Skip and Kav on your scans today, sending lots of positive vibes!

Had a better sleep than I've had in a few weeks last night so feeling quite good this morning. Going to do one of my pregnancy fitness DVDs once breakfast has gone down then have a nice chilled pottering day of batch cooking, cross stitch and pregnancy massage later might even fit in a couple of episodes of One Born Every Minute before DH gets home later

marmite I too am obsessed with One born... I feel it's getting me prepared for labour! I'm usually crying my eyes out by the end though!

I too am swimming, trying to do twice a week, that's really the only exercise I'm doing! Really enjoy it though!

Quietish weekend here, mother in law for lunch today, quiet night then friends for Sunday lunch tomorrow. 20 week scan on Monday!

20 weeks today! Eeek halfway there!

Thanks for the advice. My friend lost her baby this morning, she's just messaged me after coming round from her op. I'm sat in floods of tears.

I had my own wobble this morning totally self inflicted, did my freebie clearblue digital (the dud they replaced) and got 2-3 weeks again. I know I know. I'm stupid. I'm worried it's not progressing as it should but then I visited my GP this morning and she told me to ignore the digital tests, focus on the positive result and enjoy my pregnancy as I've had no cramps or bleeds.

I'm usually a very relaxed and rational person but I think I'm worrying because my friend is going through living hell right now. I just can't wait for my midwife appointment now. PMA PMA PMA.

Aahhh moose halfway wtf??!!

mouse that's made me cry so I can well imagine how you are feeling, it's so awful I can't believe people even have babies.
You're right to ignore the digis but did your doc take bloods to measure hcg increase? Also were you having an early scan? You can from 7 weeks so if it would help to put your mind at ease then do.

My scan is in 1.5 hours and I am so apprehensive. I'm expecting bad news though so I won't be devastated like last time, my PMA is that I'll survive, I'll be ok no matter what happens. I just can't imaging going through the next 5 weeks blissfully thinking I was growing a baby only to find I wasn't so I am glad I'm going for scan.

Thanks skip, I'm sure your scan is going to be amazing. Good luck!! Let us know how it goes. X

She didn't seem at all concerned since I've had no cramps or bleeds but I've also had no symptoms either so I think I might have to see if I can get a private scan somewhere. I just don't want to book it and then have an agonising wait thinking the worse. I'm really trying to be super positive but I'm struggling today.

Good Luck skip Please update us asap! Will be thinking of you!!

mouse please step away from the tests! They are notoriously unreliable and you're just worrying yourself unnecessarily! I found the early scan very reassuring, are you near London? The Fetal Medicine Centre were excellent, and the money goes into research. I can understand your worry particularly with what your friend is going through, but listen to the Dr.

Your poor friend. I think you're doing the right thing just be being there for her. Maybe a gift of something to keep her busy, some magazines, a jigsaw, or something like that?

I also had no symptoms at all at first, I think my first one was blue veins on my boobs, the tiredness and hungover feeling didn't kick in until about weeks 7/8-11. No sickness, no nothing, so please don't worry too much.

LSFX and best wishes for you Fxskip - I completely understand your apprehension.

Thank you moose, you are completely right. I'm normally ok. I think it's just a culmination of a few things that's got on top of me. I've just been sat with my pregnancy journal and wrote a little note and I feel better. Friend has asked for cake so when she feels better I'm going to make her the best one she's ever had. I feel so thankful to have you ladies. Thank you.

And moose. Wowzers. 20 weeks already?? That's so exciting!!! Half way to baby cuddles. Have you started buying things yet? Will you be finding out the gender? (I love surprises)

Glad to see you're a bit happier mouse
Btw the worrying never stops, or hasn't for me, it changes what you worry about, and you just have to learn to rationalise it or go mad!!
We're not finding out the sex, happy either way so keeping it a surprise! I got a few bits and bobs from my family for Xmas and I've bought a couple of babygrows but other than that I'm waiting until we're in the new house to buy more. Just hope everything is how it should be at the scan! See from one worry to the next!

I've got a blob! Thanks everyone for your kind thoughts, I can't believe I've got a blob!!!

Whooop!!! And what a fine looking blob it is!!

Congratulations!!!

How many weeks are you now?

Great news Fxskip ! am so happy for you.

YAY for your blob Skip great news!!! Does it feel any more real now?!

Mouse please don't do any more tests!! The stress and worry it's causing you won't be doing you any good. An early private scan is really reassuring if you can afford it as it does seem a long way to 12 weeks. We used a company called Babybond Ultrasound Direct which apparently are nationwide, we had a really good experience with them.

Just back from preggo massage, apparently the pain in my hips isn't pain in my hips at all but actually incredibly tight IT band and glutes! She had her elbow right in there, and hard! Bloody hell it hurt, but good pain! Hopefully it's released everything off a bit and will sleep better tonight!

Yay skip! Fab news. Hopefully you can relax and enjoy it now. So reassuring.

mouse you're totally normal to worry. I often wondered if I'd made it up despite showing dh the many positive pregnancy tests! I stopped doing the cb digital ones at about 6 wks and never got a 3+, but sure enough there was my little blob at 7+1 when I went for a scan and hopefully still there swimming and way now at 10+5. No cramps or bleeding is only ever positive. Don't stress!

marmite I'm also a fan of one born. Always end up crying at the end!

I have so so much to catch up on but YAY skip!!! You must be elated

Hope everything was okay with your scan too kav

Thanks you guys!! I'm 7+1, but some of the angles indicated it could be as early as 6+5 so somewhere in between those. I'm going with 6+5 and hoping I'll be put forwards at the 12 wk scan. It feels more real, and my DH is really happy and even talking about names etc! Obviously don't want to get too ahead of ourselves but this is a massive relief.

Yay, so pleased for you Skip! Lovely little bean you have in there!

There was a baby in there! heartbeat 171 beats per minute, it was just about dancing a jig and I'm apparently further along than I thought at 10+4 according to measurements- or I'm just having a humongous baby ... it even had hiccups at one point!

Relief is immense. Both DH and I were in tears :-) the moment I first saw it move ... just OMG. We went to the Fetal Medicine Centre Moose and it was such a positive experience. We don't want to find out the sex though. Went to celebrate at a fondue restaurant afterwards- so so yummy!

Congrats Skip! So happy for you too. I was nervous so I can't imagine how you felt.

That's amazing kav! Baby looks really developed! Could those dates work with your cycle do you think? Otherwise yay to big, happy baby! Haha