Due in March 07 - in the immortal words of "Europe": It's the final countdown....!

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NEW THREAD!!!! Could this be the last one before we all start to drop???

yes mossy I'm a little paranoid after the general anaethetic, the two doses of morphine and the anti sickness tabs I had after the appendicitis that my baby will be born a junkie
I'm not a pill popper by nature am homeopathic more than anything, but this is ridiculous
Luckily it comes on in the afternoon I rarely get it in the mornings. so I cna work around that
I could just spend the next 5 weeks sitting my my ever increasing ass of course

Aargh - work have just told me that I have to be paid for the holiday I accrue up to the day I go on maternity leave, at that point, and I can't just hang on to it and take it after I come back in September.

The silly thing is that we have a scheme where we can buy and sell holiday (up to a point) - so even if they insist on paying me now for 10 days I can just buy it back again for next year, and spread the cost over the year! Need to work out now what the effect of that will be on tax, NI, tax credits, etc and see if I'll be better or worse off doing it their way. Looks like a cosy evening cuddled up to a spreadsheet for me!

Piffle, The spd does various things to me, mostly just dislocating hips... manageable because they slip back in,
pubic area happening more now, still bearable...but trying to walk when hips haven't clicked back...pure agony.
Maybe things have dislocated with you somewhere? didn't you go to osteopath before?
I hope you can get some relief it sounds awful.

It sounds really horrible, you have made me shut up moaning about feeling tired at any rate!

I'm sure your baby won't end up a junkie!! I mean, in labour they will give you pethadine and diamorphine if you want it, that's pretty strong stuff! (And yet we're told not to drink too much or eat soft cheese! )

Could you spend the afternoons in bed and get your dp / friends to do everything that needs doing? Or would they object?

Oh yes I see you did go to an osteopath.

Piffle,I suspect they put any preg groin type pains down to spd whether it is or not. It's easier for them to call it that.
My experience of many health professionals is that, although many are nice and well meaning, they are inherently lazy and will give the easiest diagnosis they can. That way they've done their job.
In many ways it doeesn't matter what it's called, you need to find a way to manage it until the birth.
I have found that they way I sleep now makes a huge difference to the state of my pubis and I mean huge in a way I couldn't have imagined would matter.
Isuggested it to Foxy and I think it has helped her. Why not give it a go if you're not already ?

Piffle - I am sorry that you are suffering again

I found the SPD crippling at first, but it definitely improved after the physiotherapist realigned my sacrum, which was twisted to one one side. So, it's definitely worth going back to see someone asap.

I am starting to get the groin and lower back pain back again now, I think it's due to the increased weight / weeble-like posture

I think that I have heard/read somewhere that you shouldn't take codeine in the last trimester as it can affect the baby's breathing? Worth asking the doctor though as I'm not certain.

Off home now! As of tomorrow only seven working days left!

Dh is cooking a lovely stir fry tonight too - makes me feel awful about complaining about him on Booboo's thread!

See you all tomorrow.

Piffle - defo try the pillow trick at night to ease your pelvic pain. It makes a huge difference as Kitty says.

Dolly - You poor thing. I'm sure your Dad will be right as rain soon, but what a worry for you and your family.

Had the most frustrating day at the hospital.

It involved three events specifically:

Me throwing Dh's pager against the car park wall so it smashed (and I have no remorse). Was paging him all morning to "test" whether he'll actually answer it on the big day. Turns out he won't answer it - well he certainly didn't today ('cos he's fecking useless )

Me threatening to walk out of the ante natal unit having been kept waiting for an hour (WTF is the point of appointments if you turn up on time then have to wait for an hour? )

Me, on the verge of tears by this time, saying to the consultant "this is the point where you try and bully me into an induction isn't it?"

The scan went OK - placenta is now 3.9cm from Os - ideally it needs to be 4cm.

The baby is big and chubby and partially engaged

They "offered" me a mebrane sweep today (err, no thanks)

They want me to go in for fetal monitoring next week on Mon, Weds and Fri

They have booked an induction for 5 March - way past my due date anyway (DS and DD both came early) which of course I don't have to attend

Sorry to rant but the day has been so crap!!

Poor you Foxy!!! Whay woulen't your dh answer? What's wrong with him ??

Why do you have to go in for monitoring? I don't understand?You don't HAVE to go of course.I hate hospitals and their whole attitude,that is why I'm staying at home. Did you get a doula in the end I can't remember? Anyway, good news about the placenta eh?

Kitty - he didn't answer 'cos he is 1 deaf 2 dozy and sales through life in a dream

You're right about the monitoring - I have booked to go Monday and will maybe just go Friday too (i.e.e 2 rather than 3 visits).

Takes me 40+ minutes to get there and costs me £££££'s in extortionate parking fees each time

My local thread have just started a "Foxies back up crew on the big day" thread - they are such luvvies - it just depresses me that I can't rely on my family. Nothing new there though

Kitty - couldn't book the doula 'cos DH has no work after June and I'm worried about £££.

Foxy,I don't really understand WHY they are monitoring you. Is there a problem? You're not even overdue. Down here they don't suggest monitoring until you are 2 weeks over.

Your local thread bunch sound lovely. Occasionally I see that there is a Brighton meet up, but there are some scary people on there. I would be too terrified to go!!!!

Kitty - I think I saw the Brighton thread once and agree with you!!!

According to QC I'll be 40 weeks on 26 Feb. 'cos of my mature age there is a theoretical risk of the placenta deteriorating (apparently the risk goes up as you get older), hence their risk management - monitoring once I'm over due date.

I understand,still think it's a bit much though. Once a week is plenty,especially when you have the hassle and cost of the joourney and childcare to arrange etc.
Heyho, 7 o'clock, ist of the bedtimes to do

I think its a bit much too - feels a bit punitive to me - for turning down the membrane sweep today perhaps?

Foxy - sorry you had such rubbish time. At least your placenta is moving in the right direction - presumably they are no longer worried about that - just that it needs to hold it together for a few more weeks. How long do you have to be monitored for?

Lunar - all that talk about spreadsheets made me open a bottle of beer!!! You poor thing!

Piffle - OMG you've just described what i've been suddenly getting regarding that nerve that goes down the inside of your leg and pubic bone and makes your legs give way. WHAT'S THAT ALL ABOUT???

IMO - a lot of gps just look at us now and think 'hmm... this lady is very close to her due date - at which point the symptoms are likely to fade... I'll just say it's spd and there's not a lot to be done...'

I think you should try what kitty suggested to foxy to help with her pains.

Thanks for your kind words - I am afraid that the news today isn't good and I am feeling rather pants as a result. Still this is a happy thread and I don't want to depress you all . Have skimmed the last few days. Will keep popping in when I can. Love to all and hang on in there XXX

hi,just scanned the thread.

well....yesterday after tea when i was washing up i strted to feel funny som i went in the back room thinking i must get on with tidying etc but i just collapsed and my head felt all fuzzy.cant remember exactly what happened but dp rang an ambulance and they took me to the labour ward,my bp had shot up pretty high.

anyway,it came back down again but they kept me in overnight to check everything then today i had to have eye tests and stuff due to my blurred vision.and the consultant has put me on medication for my bp.

rant time...every f**ing doctor/mw i saw said 'oh sometimes your bp shoots up when you are under stress,everything else is fine so its ok'.nobody would listen to the fact that i'd had a relatively stress-free day,and i was just standing washing the pots when it happened,the kids were playing upstairs,i wasnt in a mood...grrrr.
the eye doctor i saw said there were some changed caused by high bp,that would go after i deliver,but that was also fine apparantly?!

now i have to take these f*ing tablets that make me want to sleep all the time and give me headaches,for the next 2 weeks.have to go back tomorrow to get checked again as i refused to stay another night.

i am going to try my level best to persuade the consultant to bring my induction forward to 38 weeks as i'm now scared of what could happen if i go further(as i did with ds1).

foxy-would you like to swap consultants with me???all the ones at my hospital are of the opinion that early induction should be avoided at all costs

rant over

dolly-hope your dad makes a fast recovery.

callie-glad to hear you're feeling a bit better.you are doing so well.

its half term this week here.oh joy.

36+5

dolly-x posts.sorry to hear things arent too good,i think this thread has a mixture of happy and sad and if you need to offload...

Dolly, we are all here to support one another. It doesn't matter what about. Please feel you can talk about things if you want too.{{{{hugs}}}}

Diva, what a rubbish day you've had. You sound very frustated. Don't knowwhat to say tohelpo you feel better, but {{{{hugs}}}}} to you anyway

Diva and Foxy sorry to hear about your stressful hospital experiences.

Dolly, thinking about you and your family.

Still wondering about Amie and where has Sazzybee gone now???

oh gosh - my heart goes out to some of you today. (((lots of big hugs to you all)))

dolly - I'm so sorry your dad has been so sick and is not doing as well as you might have hoped. praying for a full recovery for him and that you and your family find the support you need to get through this time

piffle - hope the pain gets sorted soon - keep pushing about that referral

rosy - glad your dh is ok, how is his mum doing?

diva - how are you feeling now? it sounds really scary. hope docs start to look after you more

foxy - sorry your day was crappy and consultants not very supportive - you do need to swap with diva

so the good news is that dd is the right way up (so, upside down). had to wait an hour for the scan (sounds like we have equally crap antenatal appts foxy) then scan itself took about 10 secs but it's unlikely that she'll move back again so I'm v pleased. all mw are supportive of hb as well so I might change my mind at the last minute and ask to stay at home. doula is really supportive of hb idea as well. just dh to convince now

sorry to hear some of you are having such a crap time.

Dolly - sorry to hear about your dad.

Diva - yes please - can we swap families too (well them male members anyway)?

Dolly - you poor thing. Please keep in touch and let us know how your dad is doing...