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New december 2016 thread! Will there be arrivals on this thread I wonder?

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Bigfam · 15/11/2016 04:15

We maxed out our last thread before starting a new one.
I'm not savvy like kitkat so can't post our list either! Hopefully there will be some ba's before this thread is completed.

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Londonmamabychance · 21/11/2016 18:55

Congrats, South sounds like a good experience, hope you get to cuddle your little one again soon!

Christmasbaby16 · 21/11/2016 19:25

38 week induction for me tomorrow after a sweep this am Blush
Congrats to those already delivered Flowers

TipBoov · 21/11/2016 19:33

Having a bit of a wobble tonight, I'm feeling very tearful. I'm looking forward to meeting the baby (c-section next week) but I suddenly feel very overwhelmed!

duxb · 21/11/2016 19:52

Congratulations South. Hope you manage to get back for cuddles soon.

39+2 today and now so ready to meet baby (and be able to sleep on back again!) but absolutely no signs.

SolomanDaisy · 21/11/2016 20:19

Congratulations south! Always good to get that first being weed on experience in early. Will they wheel you down to SCBU in the bed?

Londonmamabychance · 21/11/2016 20:40

Good luck, chrismas!

Sorry you're feeling wobbly Tip I think it's only normal! Suddenly being the mother of a whole new human being is massive and overwhelming and will change your life forever Smile but you will manage and you will be fine, although it may be totally overwhelming at first! Flowers this is my second and I'm a bit wobbly about suddenly having a whole new child in our lives! I'm so excited but probably more nervous than I let myself realise.

Am so full of cold now too, caught DD's from last week. How I will sleep at all tonight is a mystery to me. My nose is so blocked.

Nojo82 · 21/11/2016 20:47

Aw congratulations south! Hope all is well..

barkingtreefrog · 21/11/2016 21:52

Congratulations south!! Grin

Good luck Christmas !!

Tip when are you in? My c section is booked for next Wednesday Shock.

TipBoov · 21/11/2016 21:57

london I think it's because I've been so busy getting everything ready for the baby, that I haven't had much time to think about her actually being here! I have a 4 year old so I'm also a bit rusty Blush

barking I'm in on Tuesday... I can't believe it's next week! How are you feeling about it?

goinggrey1978 · 21/11/2016 22:31

SouthDownsSunshine, congratulations!!
that's 3 babies in 6 days now, these December babies are rather keen to see Christmas aren't they!!

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Bigfam · 21/11/2016 22:34

Oh bollocks, think I've got a dodgy stomach. Not good Sad

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Thisisbonkers · 21/11/2016 22:42

Congratulations south

Another daft question alert Blush when I go into labour, should I still be able to feel the baby move? Will it still be wriggling etc? (There's nothing happening, btw!)

Chookchick · 21/11/2016 23:05

Congratulations South, I hope you get lots of cuddles soon!

TipBoov · 21/11/2016 23:15

Oh no bigfam, hope it passes quickly.

barkingtreefrog · 21/11/2016 23:26

tip I think I'm still in denial. The mental health midwife came round this morning and said I was in self preservation mode. I just cannot believe after five years we will finally be bringing a baby into the house. I even spent a while in the early hours of the morning considering whether it would be bad taste to post a photo of the baby on fb if we had a still birth, in a totally dispassionate way, just thinking through all the possibilities Sad. I don't consciously feel overly worried now I know I've got a c section booked in and a date, and logically I know the statistics are on our side, but I was in tears a few times talking to the midwife this morning so there's obviously still a lot going on underneath!

'Next week' sounds so soon, this pregnancy has been sooooooo long!!!! Especially as we started the ivf in February, so it feels like it's been a year!!

Bigfam really hope you get a good night of sleep and wake up feeling a lot better Flowers

TipBoov · 21/11/2016 23:42

Oh barking I understand what you're going through. I had IVF 5 years ago which resulted in DS (he's 4 now), and I remember looking at the nursery, all decorated ready for his arrival and thinking that it would never see a baby anyway. I just felt detatched. When he was born he was whisked to the other side of the room to have his lungs cleared and all I could say to DH was "I told you this would happen". Because I just couldn't believe we'd ever be taking a baby home.

As you say, the statistics are on your side, and at least a csection is quick and you can plan for it.

SouthDownsSunshine · 22/11/2016 01:00

barking you've done amazingly well, and it's natural to worry given your history. I was the same right until she came out screaming!

thisis baby should keep moving. TBH contractions + movement = ouch! My baby's movements slowed right down this morning, and when they tested the placenta post birth, it showed that it was starting to give up and we got baby out in time. So do keep paying attention.

Solomon I tried to see her in a wheelchair, but fainted Blush I have hardly seen her since she came out which is horrible. But she's doing really well. I need to rest so I can get cuddles and try a feed tomorrow. I'm really hoping my milk comes in even though she hasn't been at the boobs at all yet.

bigfam I hope you're feeling better soon x

SolomanDaisy · 22/11/2016 01:12

barking, I remember feeling similar with DS (four years trying for us). It actually didn't go away once he was born, I just assumed we wouldn't be getting to keep him. I wasn't depressed or anything, I was insanely happy, I just found it difficult to accept he was there.

south, oh no! A bed is easier than a wheelchair I think. I didn't see DD for 12 hours and then I fell asleep while cuddling her. I couldn't try and breastfeed for several days due to the drugs I was on and I barely saw her, but my milk still came in so it's definitely possible. It's great that she's doing so well, is she in an incubator or an open cot?

AppleMagic · 22/11/2016 01:53

south I know from friends that didn't want to breastfeed at all that your milk comes in whether you want it or not! Can you pump when you feel better? I don't get to breastfeed baby very much because he needs to conserve his energy so I've been pumping for him and giving it in a bottle. The nurses give it when I'm at home now. It might just be a US thing but here there are pumps in the postnatal and NICU rooms that we can use.

SouthDownsSunshine · 22/11/2016 05:37

That's really encouraging apple and Solomon. I tried hand expressing but no luck, and here they don't let you use a pump for the first 24 hours. I'll try hand expressing again, as at least it'll be helping get my boobs ready.

She's in an open but heated cot. It looks like lots of wires but actually it's the NG tube that hasn't been used yet (as far as I know), oxygen, glucose drip, and monitoring. So doing really well. As she came out so strong and screaming, she had delayed cord clamping which should help her out.

I'm just waiting to find out how she is doing this morning. I desperately want to see and hold her.

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Bigfam · 22/11/2016 06:32

Barking your posts always make me cry, it's easy to see how much you've longed for this baby and it's so touching.

Hope you're feeling OK after fainting south Shock so glad to hear your little girl is doing well.
Thanks everyone, I'm actually feeling ok this morning, but dd2 might have tonsillitis now (after dd3 only had it a month ago!) Kids always seem to be poorly

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Bigfam · 22/11/2016 06:33

Hope you can see her and have cuddles ASAP south

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DartmoorDoughnut · 22/11/2016 07:09

Glad it wasn't the start of anything bigfam

barking I don't think I know anyone who felt it was real the first time around, particularly not anyone who has had such a bloody tough journey to actually get here!! Just be kind to yourselves, I also don't know anyone who had the movie "rush of love" btw, I had a rush of protectiveness but love took a couple of weeks! It was mainly just "oh wow" and "WTAF do I do now"

I'm so tired and ready to not be pregnant any more, being pregnant with a toddler fucking sucks! Mind you this bloody cold is not helping matters, I swear I'm only ill when I'm pregnant Grin I just feel like the worlds worst mummy, have a few days of fun things lined up for him now though so hopefully that'll help both him and my guilt!

SolomanDaisy · 22/11/2016 09:56

south, I've never managed to hand express but I get on fine with a pump. You can ask for the NICU breastfeeding coordinator to come and help. It's great watching them gradually remove each of the wires, DD is just on the ng tube now.

Londonmamabychance · 22/11/2016 12:36

Tip I'm also a bit in denial about having to give birth soon again and what a new baby will mean! I am trying to get my head round it, but it's hard as I'm also so busy preparing and with DD (2).

Barking it must be so hard to comprehend having a baby after going through all that you have! Wishing you all the best. Once you've made it this far, the likelihood something would go wrong is very small. But of course you know that yourself : ) sending big hugs.

south hope you feel better soon!

Anyone's whos gor around a 2-year age gap between kids? I can't believe how difficult DD has become recently. It's literally happened over the last two months, since she turned two. I heard of terrible twos, but didn't expect it to be this bad! She screams and protests everything, and is such a shock because she was such an easy child before, and started sleeping through early on. Last night she woke up at 3am and was awake until 7am, first screaming and crying, could find no reason for pain unless it's teething, and finally settled to sleep until 8am and then woke bright and happy. I'm so exhausted and now acres how we'll manage with a night waking and stroppy toddler and a newbkrn. Please, someone tell me it gets better and it's manageable with this age gap?!