Due in February 2017 - thread #9

[twocatsandatoddler]

New thread - hope everyone finds this! I'll try and post the link in the old thread if it will let us go over 1,000 posts.

Oh and Sparkles I think it's week 28? To be honest, I've lost track of how many months I am, because everything's measured in weeks!

I thought third trimester was 26 weeks but maybe your right with 28 kiki Is anyone else suffering from terrible constipation, do you know if the pharmacist would recommend you something over the counter or make you have a GP prescription. It's so hard for me to get a GP appointment and I haven't received my NHS exemption card yet!

newmummy when I went to the doc they gave me lactulose! You can buy that over the counter

Sparkles I think it's 28 weeks.
Newmummy I did last time and have done on and off this pregnancy but I'm making sure I have plenty of fruit and veg. I think my addiction to cherry tomatoes is helping!

Newmummy I went to the GP for constipation and am now taking lactulose and pills called lepricol. Both are totally safe during pregnancy and have finally done the trick. I was losing my mind.

I did recommend Expecting Better-- its quite good and does explain what you can and can' t do. The occasional glass of wine is fine as is a certain amount of a caffeine.

The thing I miss the most is cured meats. That and drinking in excess with my friends. Its a bit tedious being the only sober one when everyone else is having a proper knees up which with my friends is once a week! Still going out that-- just got back from a pub quiz with my friends which was fun.

Welcome to the newbies!

Been awake since 3.30 it's now almost 5 never had insomnia in my life before but I'm getting it now! I wake up feeling really restless and fidgety and uncomfortable. Totally sucks!!! Anyone else?

Not last night Sparkles, cursing my alarm this morning instead! Feel like I could sleep for a week, so glad it's Friday! Hope you managed to get to sleep in the end.

-Sparkles i hate that restless feeling, if I wake up any time after about 4:30 these days that's often me awake for the day, as by the time I finally get to the stage where I could be going back to sleep again my toddler wakes up! So annoying as even if DH tries to let me have a lie in at the weekend I usually can't sleep in. I found the insomnia went away as soon as pregnancy ended, and when the baby arrives you become brilliant at snatching sleep whenever you can!

Morning ladies!

sparkles yip I often wake up during the night and can't get back to sleep for ages!! Last night though I woke up at half 2 and just lay with my eyes closed willing myself to go back to sleep.... worked eventually!

Does anyone else who has an anterior placenta not count the kicks yet? I'm trying not to as just starting to feel more movements and I know we can't feel everything yet... so hard though lol...

Well my woofy baby is a big 5 today!! Bought him a card and presents haha..

Morning! shellbell I've got an anterior placenta and I am coming up to 22 weeks. I didn't think we were meant to expect regular movement to 28 week mark so I wouldn't worry to much. I definitely have times of the day when bump is more active, don't think I am feeling definite jabby kicks yet but am feeling pops, flutters and perhaps flips. If I haven't felt anything for a bit I usually lie on my side and that helps. I think there's many factors involved which affect feeling by move including size of mum, weight and position of baby and position of placenta- so I guess we're all different! Also from reading some info on count the kicks website it did it didn't like to prescribe a specific number of kicks to count instead getting us to notice what's regular movement and when there is a change but not worrying about this until past the 28 week mark.

I am also in the 4:30am night crewe! I find going into the spare room helps where I can spread out in the spare bed and away from
DH noisy breathing and snoring!

Just saw some info on maternity sure start grant for people who don't qualify for maternity allowance. It's a one off payment of £500 after the baby is born.

Shell no one should be counting kicks until 28 weeks!

Does anyone else feel more movement after eating? I was worried I didn't feel my baby this morning but once I had done oatmeal she went nuts!

London I was the same as you this morning too. I hadn't felt my boy at all in the night (usually if I turn over I feel a little flip or shove) or at all this morning, but now i've eaten a sausage sandwich (I'm a model of health over here!), he's giving me prods and kicks . At this stage - even though it's now 24 weeks for me - I still feel him most when I eat, or when I drink something very cold/hot. And he totally doesn't seem to have any sort of routine for me to track! The movements are cute, but my god are they also worrying at times!!

Euuurggh. Broken insomniac here too.

London - he kicks in the middle of eating, before eating, after eating.... the kicking whilst I'm trying to eat is the worst - makes it impossible to enjoy what you're eating! But reassuring that the little guy is active I suppose.

For me its so crazy as getting some food really seems to make her do somersaults. I guess she'll be a good eater :)

Since I finished eating I've barely felt a thing. She's back to sleep I suppose!

Mine moves most after food and during the night. She was having a party in there at 4.30am! I'm another one suffering from lack of sleep. Dd has been sleeping very badly the last week or so and once I've settled her it's hard to go back to sleep. Partly because I know she'll wake again about an hour later. I'm also getting increasingly worried about how I'm going to cope with two babies waking during the night and also about leaving dd when I'm in hospital. I've never spent any length of time away from her and certainly not overnight. I'm probably being a bit PFB but I still don't think she's ready.

Thanks for the info, NewMummy. Starting to stress a little about money :-/ (doesn't help that am looking at buying the pram and car seat this week!)

I haven't noticed anything when I eat in general, but anything hot or cold gets a response!

OH got back after being away for work for a weeks, and I had a bowl of porridge yesterday morning, followed by kicks which he was finally able to feel :)

FriendlyGhost how old is your DD and who would you be leaving her with?

Also, what does PFB stand for?

I know my friends had a hard time leaving their little one to go away for the weekend the first time they did it but honestly it was harder for them than it was for him. He stayed with his nan who sent regularly video updates and did Facetime and honestly he was having a ball. That was this summer and he was about 17 months and they were gone for 3 days / 2 nights with us and another couple we are both friends with out of town.

London sorry it's precious first born! She's 22 months so will be over 2 when the baby arrives. My mum's going to come to stay. I know she adores my mum and will be absolutely fine with her. I just wish she was settling well for bed and sleeping through. She won't settle at bed time or during the night for anyone but me. Dh has tried and tried but she screams so much she makes herself sick. She can also keep yelling for over two hours if it's not me that goes in. The kid has stamina! I thought we were making progress with the sleeping through but the last week has been horrendous. I think I'm just over tired and worrying too much!

We've left DS with my mum for a weekend on quite a few occasions and he adores my parents and my in-laws so I'm not worried about being away from him while I'm in the hospital. It helped that by the time we first left him overnight at six months he wasn't breastfeeding any more so not reliant on me, and he'll usually happily settle himself to sleep as long as he has his comfort blanket. He's a handful in that he's very very active, so he's quite exhausting for parents to babysit, but he's always been a great sleeper and he's very confident and happy to be away from us, so has been an easy child to leave overnight or at nursery in that respect. He's an extrovert just like DH, it's so funny seeing your partner's personality in your child, I was a painfully shy, clingy child so he's nothing like me!

The logistics aren't great though- my parents are happy to have him for as long as we need them to, but they're two hours away. PIL are closer but MIL is a vicar and has quite a lot of commitments and works 6 days a week so they won't be able to have him for more than a night or so.

FIL will hopefully pick DS up when I go into labour, and can then take him up to my parent's house or they can collect him from PIL (my mum staying at ours is not an option sadly, as that would be easiest!). If labour goes really quickly and we can't wait the hour or so for FIL to arrive we'll have to dump DS on neighbours or friends until he can collect him. We have friends a few minutes up the road who would happily have him, but she's due 2 weeks after me and her first two babies have both come early so they might not be the most reliable fall-back option!

All of this is making me realise a planned c-section would be much easier logistically!

Friendly there are 26 months between my eldest two. DD settled well for DH when I was in hospital for 5 nights (but then, she usually did). The major problem we had was she got very upset coming to visit me in hospital. Then she was hideously jealous of DS when I got home. It's a difficult age. Hopefully your DD will be ok - you really won't know til the time comes.

I had my 25w MW appt today. New MW, which I had not been warned about. Seemed nice enough though. She asked how my mood was and I said I was frequently grumpy but I put that down to being tired. I told her DH thinks I need to see a counselor for my sleep problems (eg waking at 4am and not being able to get back to seep) but I think it's normal pg insomnia. It's not like I'm lying there worrying about stuff. She agreed it sounded unfortunately normal.

I have been struggling with my 3yo lately as she just will not listen or do anything you ask her to. When DH gets home at the end of the day I'm at the end of my tether and less able to keep calm. This is the only bit he sees of course. My exhaustion just makes it worse. He thinks if I sort the sleep I will be able to sort DDs behaviour. Well yes, but pg insomnia won't go away with therapy.

I have always been a terrible (light) sleeper- gentle rain will wake me up. I saw a therapist years ago but it wasn't helpful. What will help is giving birth. 15 weeks...

Twocats my parents are at least 4 hours away, fil is out of the country when I'm due and mil is 2 hours away but won't travel so I'm very glad i'I'll have the option for a planned section. It's so tricky isn't it! I know realistically she'll be ok. She's just given up breastfeeding during the night so I'm hoping she'll drop the before bed feed by February. I think that's part of the reason she only settles for me.
Gumboots the jealousy is another worry of mine. I'm not even allowed to hold hands or cuddle my dh in her presence because she gets so jealous and upset. Hopefully it's just a phase! I hope your pregnancy insomnia improves soon too. Last pregnancy I found that yoga and relaxation exercises helped me sleep well.

Sorry to hear about all the pregnancy insomnia. I kind of have the reverse. I can't seem to fall asleep until really late at night but once I'm off, I'm off. I do think the exercise helps as the nights I do yoga and pilates are particularly restful. The only thing is in the last two days, I've started needing to pee more which has gotten me up before I wanted to or woken me shortly after going to bed.

I'm really tired today. Did yoga class last night and then stayed out late with friends at the pub. Wasn't asleep until close to 1am and then had to get up by 7am for a work conference. I can normally survive just fine on 6 hours sleep (even less) but today I'm really feeling it!