Thread 12 TTC#1 Grads. "You are my favourite thing that ever shit all over my hands"

[AudreyBradshaw]

Behold, the wonder of birth! Members from 6 weeks bfp to post-partum wonder Mamas! No question to grotty or minging.

We've come full circle from obsessing about cervical mucus to now obsessing if it's our vagina baby plug going! What larks!

Lots of talk about poo, ours and now babies too! Baby brain is REAL! This heat can kiss my arse. And who KNEW being so neurotic about which changing mat to buy could be so satisfying and addictive!

Sooo many gorgeous babies now! And equally lovely Mummy's! We are amazing! What a year! Can you believe it's been a year since our first tentative TTC thread!? Look how far we've come!

Roll up, literally, in my case, cause I'm practically rotund! for TTC #1 Grads!

Ah miley that is so lovely to hear and such a beautiful picture! I'm so glad it's all fallen into place for you and so many of the other mums, it does help me to feel better about coping once the baby is here. Sorry about your horse, laminitis is the reason mine is pretty much retired- he suddenly went lame in the middle of the eventing season and within several days his pedal bones had rotated, we almost lost him. It's a horrible disease!

nev you can definitely join the horsey club!

audrey lovely pics of your sis on Instagram. I'm sorry your dh is being a knob, and I can so relate to those feelings of tiredness making everything worse. I also think pregnancy makes husbands seem infinitely more irritating, I perpetually want to stab mine at the moment.

Had my 31 week midwife appointment today (at 32+3) and left feeling like the worst person in the world. It was a different midwife and she was pretty old school. Bump is measuring 2cm small, I had ketones in my urine, I haven't got round to having whooping cough yet and I haven't been talking to bump. Basically hand me the crap mother award!

Hope you're feeling better Audrey. If it helps I found it so hard to relate my bump with a baby. Perhaps the fact that I (and you) didn't know the sex also contributed to that as harder to see it as a person. I think it only really hit home when the MW was saying I was ready to push and I'd be meeting my baby soon But once they're here instinct just takes over - promise! But definitely have a word with DH about helping more.

Miley - I hear you on the lateness! It's really hard but if Ali needs to be fed then she needs to be fed and it means we can't leave the house til much later than we planned.

Baby cinema was an interesting experience! Yummy mummies galore - all with bugaboos and screaming babies and I was one of them!! Good way to see a film if you have a baby though as nobody cares if baby cries / needs feeding etc. The film was decent enough and Patrick Dempsey is unbelievably delicious - probably better than the cake I was served

Sorry you're upset canters try not to let it get you down. I really don't think those bump measurements are very accurate at all. I didn't know anything about whooping cough vaccine until people on this thread mentioned it so I had it pretty late too. I hate it when people make you feel like a bad mother - it doesn't stop when you become a mother either! - yesterday I was just walking round the corner to get some milk (5 minute walk from my house). It started raining completely unexpectedly (blue skies a few minutes before) and I didn't have the rain cover for the pram. Someone actually stopped me and said 'don't you think you should have a rain cover for the baby?' I felt awful and quite tearful. Ended up sheltering in the shop for ages until I could be sure the rain wouldn't start up again.

Sorry you were feeling so down earlier audrey and really glad to hear you're feeling more positive now. As others have said sometimes you just need a cry and a rant. Hopefully you can chat to OH and he can understand where you're coming from.

Miley that is so lovely! And reassuring for me too even though it's all so far away and abstract for me yet!

Sorry to hear your midwife appointment left you feeling shitty canters don't let her make you feel crap, you will be an amazing mum!

Heard nothing further from DHs family...annoyed but feeling more positive today. I've had a good workout this evening and now having a nice relaxing evening listening to music and doing cross stitch while DH builds some new ikea bathroom cabinets and disturbs the peace with his drilling

soda I can't believe someone stopped you on the street and said that!!! How rude!!

soda that's horrible for someone to say to you! Like it is any of their business!

indi we're liking Dexter at the minute. But we've got Elijah, Bryn and Maddox on the list. I've gone off Ezra since it seems to be really popular. Same for Roman. But I'm not entirely sure at the moment. We've got a list for girls too, Safiyah, Estelle, Danica, Seren, Anoushka.

Audrey sorry you're having a rough time. The last part of pregnancy sucks! You have a massive hormone surge and you're shattered all the time and going through that when your OH is being a inconsiderate arse can't be fun.
Don't worry about how you'll cope after though. Yes you'll be tired and achey but it will all pale into insignificance compared to your desire to look after your baby... Plus, at least you'll be comfortable

Your OH is right, you'll love the baby when you meet it. I was all ready for not feeling any attachment for a while because the baby was an abstract concept and I didn't feel anything but protective of it while I was pregnant but the first time she looked at me I was in love

I also second Miley you'll be far to focused on when you'll sleep and how long it's been since you last had a shower to worry too much about wobbly tummies and stretch marks.

I used to have fancy rats too well actually I used to have 21 rescues with assorted behavioural, medical or psychological problems. The theory was I was supposed to rehabilitate them and then rehome them... I never quite got to the rehoming bit

Bunch thanks I'll try to log into the computer tomorrow and send you the address. I forgot today

Miley that health visitor sounds like an idiot. I'm starting to think health visitors are pretty useless. Mine told me to keep giving Arya a type of formula that was making her ill because I'd started so I shouldn't change
What an adorable photo

Lol Canters I think there are more important things in the world than talking to your bump, bump can hear your every word anyway, she doesn't care whether you're talking to her or the postman

Soda that's insane, I think the correct answer is "don't you think you should have a think before asking stupid questions? We got caught in the rain too the other day, the world did not end and Arya was fine. Shit happens.

Arya has been having one of her grumpy days today where she doesn't want to sleep, doesn't want to cuddle but also doesn't want to be put down... Of course she's been an angel since her daddy came home with the exception of doing the biggest wee all over my leg, herself, her mat and the floor when I was changing her and the screaming at me because of it she did make it up to me by having a two hour snuggle though

Off to get her weighed tomorrow. OH thinks she'll still be under 8lb, I think she'll be over 8lb as she's now drinking about 6oz every feed, so every 2 to 3 hours in the morning and 3 to 5 hours in the evening and night. That's pretty impressive for a 5 week old.

I finished the last diary page of my bump to birthday book today the only pages left are the milestone ones. I can't believe that after 9 months I'll no longer be recording Arya's progress. I was so excited when I started and the end of the book seemed like forever away and now, that's it. I might have to get a notebook and continue my rambling about how wonderful she is and how broken I am

On the rain cover - yes, now I've had a day to stew about it I'm bloody angry! At the time I was upset and embarrassed and thought I was a terrible person and it was all my fault but looking back it was really rude of them to comment! They could see she was a newborn and I was looking stressed anyway so they weren't exactly helping!

I have to say I didn't get the overwhelming immediate love as soon as she was born - I was a bit groggy and just relieved it was all over! But it was really soon afterwards that I loved her. Sometimes I just now stare at her and get a bit tearful thinking about how amazing she is!

Ladies, what do you do about a baby snotty nose? Arya has perpetual bogies I've git a aspirator but it's bloody useless.

Bloody hell soda, what a knob! can totally understand how it would reduce you to tears though if said at the wrong moment- I vary between wanting to tell everyone to F off and constant sobbing!

Soda, that is just madness. What kind of person stops someone in the street to make a comment like that? Not at all surprised you're stewing about it.

Miley, that photo is beautiful, you both look so happy and peaceful. And it sounds like you and your DH have really got this thing down. It's lovely to hear it's made your relationship stronger.

Canters, I agree with others - what bloody useless things for her to say. Particularly the bump talking one. As others said, the baby is hearing you all the time, how does it know if you're addressing it or other people?

Stardrey, sorry you're struggling at the moment, and as others say, please feel free to vent on here. The way you have (and do) support your DH so regularly sounds amazing, particularly with all the computer and correspondence stuff. I think he'd be lost without you, and hope he knows it!

39+1 today. Have been working on the nursery and obediently bouncing on my ball. Need to do some painting tomorrow, after some blood tests in the morning.

Just trying to catch up after extended birthday celebrations finished last night. Sending and to anyone who needs them as individual comments would end up in a very long post.

Art I'm Cosmoandknits on ravelry and have a linked instagram with the same name of you want to find me. Would be great to see your work and what you make for your little one.

So I've hit 37+6 fed up stage. Baby can come out now are you listening little one. My bladder is the size of a hazelnut and I get period like pains when it's full and I have a maximum time away for a toilet of about an hour and I've ran out of room in my abdomen so Baby's bum regularly lodges under my rib cage so I can't breath and everytime I eat a three course meal I end up in sooooooo much pain I think labour has started. But the sun is shining so it's not all bad. I must get out into it before it rains again.

Today is my due date! 😄😃😁😀😉

Happy due date leonie!! It must feel slightly odd.

Sorry to hear you are feeling fed up cosmo. So lots of bouncing on your pregnancy ball and maybe collar your OH to DTD to see if that helps. I ate bucket loads of pineapple and that made no difference at all

soda, I'm horrified that someone said that to you!!! Was it a man or woman?

Happy DDay Leoni.

Pink thank you, DH still has the worst manflu in the history of mankind so we're in separate beds because I really don't want to catch it. I'm just counting down the days until my 39 week sweep (assuming plans stay the same after the next scan tomorrow).

Pink it was a man aged about 40! For some reason that made me more annoyed / upset.

Cosmo I got on the raspberry leaf tea and was a week early if that helps?!

I had the worst night ever with Alexa. She fed off and on all night. When I put her down she stayed for 15 mins max before waking and crying and wanting more food. I managed an hour or so on the sofa until she finally fell into a proper sleep at 7am.... So I slept from then until 9.30 when she wanted feeding again. I'm exhausted and my nipples are agony.

Soda One word - Lansinoh.

I went to bed at 8.30 last night and DH gave Theodore a bottle of EBM then got me at 12.15 to take over. I've worked out I need to spend 12 hours in bed to try to get 6 hours of sleep. 🙈🙈🙈

Right - waters have gone!

No contractions as of yet, so being induced at 9am tomorrow morning.

DH and I are running around like headless chickens trying to get last minute bits done - he's clearing as much off his work plate as possible, and I'm frantically painting last bits of the new kitchen.

Eek!

Exciting Lisa. Another thread baby on the way . Did your waters go with a gush or a trickle?

Good luck lisa Woohoooooo! 🎊🎉😊

Eek exciting!! Good luck Lisa!!

Thanks all!

More like a couple of trickles, Co5mo. Got up to go to the loo around 5am and the standing up suddenly gave me a trickle down my legs. Wasn't sure, given there was hardly anything.

Went back to bed (though didn't sleep), and got up again around half 6 as the cats were shouting for breakfast. Happened again, so put a pad in. Had an appt for more bloods first thing, so mentioned it when I went in and they did some tests.

Felt pretty sure I was just incontinent and weeing myself, so surprised when they said it was really my waters!

Good luck, Lisa!

Aaahh how exciting Lisa! Good luck, baby will be here so soon

Yay Lisa Hope it all goes well, looking forward to the next thread baby x