Due in July - Part 3- we are a chatty loy...

[twoplusone]

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Morning all!

Firststar - Hope the scan went well...Cant wait to hear your news!

Catstar - I too have been a little tearful since my scan. My littleone seems to be really wriggling around and every time I put my hand on my tummy I start to worry about it...I am worried that I wont know what to do when it gets here! Will I be a good Mum, can I cope with work and a baby and a house and a DH to look after! All quite irrational really!
I hope you feel better about it all soon.

Twoplusone - I am so sorry to hear about your little ones ear problems. I too suffered terribly with my ears when younger but thankfully they managed to get them sorted out. I had perforated ear drums at a young age and it caused all sorts of problems. I hope it all gets resolved.

Try not to stress yourself too much about the smoking. Just try and make a conscious effort to cut down and do your best. It would probably stress you and the baby more to cut stop it completely now anyway!

I totally understand why you don't want to move to the other house. It makes little sense to pay more money, have to buy a new car and move location when you can make do with what you have right now. As for DH, I am sure you could make his little haven downstairs a pleasant place for him to play!

LynneC - What a nightmare! It almost sounds like a soap opera! Hope all is well now.

Caroline1852 - Good luck with your scan today.

Is anyone else getting lots of movement at night? I laid in bed last night and put my DH's hand on my tum. I have never heard him scream before!!! It really freaked him out (This was the first time he felt it!) I laughed so hard I nearly pee'd myself! He said he couldn't believe how it was kicking and how he was glad it was me and not him carrying it! Men!!!!

Hope you are all well today and looking forward to a nice weekend.
Big hugs

Afternoon all,

My fairone- I wouldn't worry about thoughts about coping. I think it is normal to have anxieties. Towards the end of my first pregnancy, my already vivid dreams became very focused on newborn babies, and generally around not looking after them e.g. forgetting I had one and not changing its nappy or feeding it, or leaving it somewhere really dangerous. I hope I was not the only one to have dreams like this! In some ways, I wonder whether having dreams or anxieties about it is all part of making sure you are a better mother when baby comes!

I worry about how I'll cope with 2, but at least my DH is planning 2 weeks paternity followed by between 2 and 4 weeks annual leave (as I am having a c-section and therefore can't do too much for first 4-6 weeks) so I won't be alone at the beginning. Last time, he had about 3 weeks off altogether, and I was dreading him going back to work, but I just about managed!

Last time round, we were reluctant to ask for help from friends and family, and tried to do everything ourselves (baby, housework, shopping etc). We regretted it, so I would suggest new mums take whatever help is offered, or ask for it when they need it, as it was a lot harder than I could have imagined.

pulapula i'm having a c section too and will definitely be taking all the help offered, and setting up online shopping for the first few weeks. Last time my parents came up from Dorset to see me for the day and spent it all doing housework - at least they know what's expected of them this time!!

Jamantha, you are back on the list - I don't think last week's saved properly!

Back from my anomaly scan. Everything she could see was fine but she could not get a good view of the bladder and kidneys due to the way lo was positioned. Means I have to go back again. She also moaned about my DD who was unfortunately sick of hanging around the antenatal clinic (was there for almost 3 hours). It seems I have an anterior low placenta. Doctor thought it sensible to discuss the risk of placenta accreta due to two previous c/sections. Oh the joys.

Glad all went was well caroline..

Myfairone- I worried about not being a good mother to dd when I was pg with her.. when she came everything slipped into place.. although I musyt admit.. I would get her in her pushchair.. walk for about 10 mins then have to go home for nappies, milk etc!!!!..

I am worrying a little on how I will cope with getting two ready in the mornings to get ds to nursery, and help dd when and if she needs it (hair..... breakfast depending on what she wants..etc.)
I am sure everything will slip into place.. we are already trying to get ointo routine housework wise.. mainly re ironing.. i.e ironing as soon as the stuff comes up from cellar instead of leaving it sat on the table!!.

DS is really starting to come along this week re counting it seems to have clicked.. last week getting to three was an effort but last night he counted to sevenm in the bath.. then as I am typing he has just counted to ten in the kitchen for dh ... all on his own withoug prompting to do it.. we have found if we ask him to do something he wont!!.. then he just comes out with it later..

ordered myself a maternity evening dress from ebay thew other night for a function we have next month.. hope it will be ok... I hve orderd it in dusty pink!! I normally stick with bright reds, blacks or sparkly greys!!!!

Hello - not been on for ages again but just wanted to say hope everyone's blooming and enjoying the middle bit! Can't believe we've got so little time to go!

Good luck with moving justaboutmanaging, what a fab way to sell your house! - we decided to stay in London (I think you asked ages ago Chooster, sorry for taking so long, just caught up) but will prob come back to Scotland when the boys (can't believe there'll be 2 of them!) are older. Think we're moving to Crouch End if we can find somewhere, but need to paint our flat first and trying to decluttter before we put it on the market. So much to do!

Aargh to those of you with aches and pains - I remember the leg cramps and I'm not looking forward to them. My gorgeous vari vein is starting to bulge again, will look lovely in time for summer

Hope everyone's enjoying the sunshine...

OMG I'm feeling SO hormonal. Can get upset at the drop of a hat. My boss in work has been made Acting Ward Manager and therefore has a lot more on her plate. She has to take in to consideration the feelings of a lot more people than she used to but I feel I am being left on my own. I'm taking everything she does as a personal insult against me when I know it isn't. She pushed me to where I am now and now I feel she only did it to ease her workload so she could take on a bigger role. I had a bad dream about it last night as well. Felt I was fighting to hold everything together on my own. When I woke up and realised it was a dream I didn't feel any better as I knew it COULD happen.
I'M FED UP WITH BEING TIRED! I manage about 2 hours in work and need a nap. As I must be the only person who can get to 21 weeks and STILL NOT HAVE A BUMP people forget or don't even know that I'm pregnant so I don't get all the "Oh you sit down" or "Don't lift that". I get "Oh I wish I didn't show. Aren't you lucky!" WELL NO I'M NOT. I AM JUST AS PREGNANT AS SOMEONE WITH A BUMP. I GET JUST AS TIRED AND RATTY!
I had "SKY" installed on Sunday. It was fab. But in the slobby afternoon that following I forgot to wash any tunics for work so ended up having to wear my dress one day. As my dress is slightly better fitting than the tunics you could she a very SMALL bump. That gave everyone the right to touch my stomach and go "AAHH tiny little bump" I suddenly remembered how much I HATE people doing that! They wouldn't do if I wasn't Pregnant so Why do people do it when you are?
And don't get me going on DP. Went to town this morning to get Mothers Day Presents for my mum and MIL. DD hasn't been well so I took her in the buggy as the walk would have worn her out and made the journey twice as long. She was very good. She got out of the buggy and walked when it got too heavy. B4 I left I asked DP to tidy up as I was getting the present for his mum so he didn't have to think about it. When I got home the house was as messy as when I left and he was ASLEEP upstairs watching Sky Sports!(or Sky sports was on and he was snoring)
I warned you I was feeling hormonal.
Sorry for the long rant but I feel a bit better now.

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typhoonsmum feeling exhausted is so debilataing Sorry you are not getting more support at work I can see how not having a very noticable bump has disadvantages. Rant away

OMG twoplusone I am so sorry to have mentioned it what an awful experience Hope you are doing ok with cutting back on the cigs.

I managed to get some extra sleep this morning as dp looked after ds, it made such a difference and I actually did some housework

you have my sympathy Typhoonsmum. I feel premenstrual ALL THE TIME. Horrible and ratty and ready to jump down dh's throat poor chap. Last pg I was SO serene and laid back and happy. Wonder if it's because no2 is a boy and it's testosterone making me feel aggressive...probably not.

Really sorry to hear about your Grandad Kyte - that's really sad.

I'm sure that whatever you and your Dad decide will work out fine. I know you don't need to be reminded about how important your health is, so you don't want to take on too much. I'm sure your Grandad would want you to look after yourself as well as look after the family.

Kyte,sorry to hear of your bad news, hope you are ok.

Ladies wanted to ask if anyone had any measurements for the lo at this stadge.Im 21 weeks and just been to the gp, who has referred me for a scan, due to baby being so big she says it measures 25cm is this normal or what?????? I did excpect this would happen with dh being 6feet4.

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right, well that doesnt sound too bad Im booked in for thurs morning for scan, hopefully its not too big

I always get my mum a small present on mothers day (and so do all of my sisters).

I got a card yesterday from DS/DH. And nothing else ... now feel a little disappointed. No flowers... nothing. Nothing for valentines day either (flowers were ordered but didn't turn up) apart from a card.

I know it sounds really materialistic and maybe its just because we always got my mum something in my family that my "expectations" are a bit abnormal! Am I being a cow? (I haven't said anything to him at all about it)

Hi All,

Trimum, sorry to hear you're feeling a bit blue. I think women tend to be better than men at the mothers day stuff... in my experience anyway. Try not to take it to heart and maybe have a chat with your DH about it - he probs has a very different view of Father's Day and so just does for you what he wouldn't mind happening for him.

LynneC - hello! I have read loads of varying info on size. My book tends to err on the smaller side, whereas my BabyCentre updates tend to be bigger. 24 weeks on BabyCentre is 30cms from crown to heel and 1.3lbs. Whereas my book is smaller. Also - some measures seem to be crown to rump and others crown to heel. Hope it's not too big!

Trimum- last year I was a mum to 2 month old baby and dh made me a cd. He's always doing this for people and the cd had lots of titles with mum in. How lovely I thought. When I put it on, it was 12 tracks of dd crying. My goodness how way off mark was he! This year I bought myself a plant for the garden and said thankyou for getting me this plant.

Jennster - I count myself lucky!
Think its just my hormones making me feel over sensitive.

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Cyee/Firstar - think you guys are right. Just different standards. Its probably what he would expect for him. I was on the phone early on Sunday morning to my mum (who when I called was on her mobile to one of my sisters!). Don't think he even called his mum yesterday! Boys.. eh?

I can see what you are saying Trimum - maybe drop a few tongue in cheek hints next year. The other week my DH and I were walking through town and I said "Thats a fab shop there if you are struggling to get me something for mothers day or my birthday!" A present from that very shop appeared yesterday - who knows if its done the trick for my birthday next weekend.

Gosh LynneC - I hope its not too big - The nice thing is you get another view of LO. Good luck!

Kyte - I'm very sorry to hear about your Grandad. I hope you manage to resolve the funeral arrangements. Nice for you though that your family obviously believe you would do it so well. I hope you get some respite from your SPD.

Justaboutmanaging - Congratulations that you are getting a boy!!! Fab news...