Due February 2017 - thread #7

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Thread #7 for a very chatty bunch!

(Sorry I accidentally used the last message on the previous thread... hope everyone finds the new thread successfully )

fenella oh god yes. It is horrible bending forward. And I feel for you with the house move. I am still moving boxes and unpacking them etc.... But it hurts so much to bend over and makes me feel quite queasy.

diva I haven't even got to the dreaded unpacking yet- oh GOD!! I had to get up on a step ladder and unwire all our pendant lights earlier - that was an adventure!!

Are you starting to feel like you are nearly sorted yet?

fenella no way!!!! We still have so much to do but back at work now and waiting for builder friend to do some work in the bedroom. Can't buy a wardrobe until the work is done. Gahhhhhhh

diva oh nooooooo!! We tried to be all smug and have the work done this past few weeks before we moved in, but it's run behind and we are due to move in tomorrow but the floors aren't finished!

Does anyone take anything for the aches in the legs and hips?

I'm not taking anything for my hips but they've been a lot better since I started using my maternity pillow again. Have you got one shell?

Iv got a V shaped pillow at the moment. My shoulders/top of arm gets sore during the night with lying on my side(s) all night so use my pillow for that. Going to invest in a proper one though xx

AIBU?? So am lay here writing this breaking my heart :,( after 10 years of infertility we are finally having our precious baby. However last year we had to endure the difficult time that was my little brother and sister in law having their first baby (who I loved instantly on arrival but found the pregnancy so hard). Have just received a text from my brother to tell me they are pregnant again! After SIL refusing to aknowledge our pregnancy till about a week ago (prob due to jealousy that her daughter would no longer be only grandchild) and banging on all of our two week holiday inaugust about trying for number two in the hot tub etc! They now have an 'accident' which they are thrilled about. I know it's probably very selfish of me but I am so upset, feel like this defo wasn't an accident on her part...she's on the pill...and can't believe she can't just let me have my 9 months that I Waited 10 years for!! Hard to say anything as we are such a close family but I just need to vent x

Hey Ladies, hope you don't mind me joining. Loving the bump pics, am currently 17+6 feeling quite big but feeling great (for now!)

Mrsy2015 and SkyLucy I'm due 14th Feb with my first too 😊

My scan isn't til 30th Sept and I'm quite impatient so we had our gender scan yesterday and found out we're having a girl 💗

I was convinced we were having a boy so I was quite surprised, but thrilled! Feels very real now and bought some gorgeous bits in Next, so hard not to get carried away shopping, everything is so cute and diddy!

I can't wait to feel the first flutters of her wriggling around in there.

Crazycat scan twins!

I need to go back and read yesterday's messages and catch up

Laters!

Morning ladies. I have my 20 week scan today. And my next cervical length check. Keep everything crossed for me that length is holding up and my low placenta has moved!!! I don't want to have a stitch put in if I can help it. Next week I have the consultant so hoping for good news.

Aww congratulations crazy cat lady a little girl how exciting!!

So nice to know others with the same due date! We will hopefully all be on baby watch over the same period. x

Hey Carly, sorry to hear you're upset. It must have been so tough to endure infertility for so long. The news is probably quite raw now as you've just found out.

I was pg at the same time as my SIL last time, my BIL was a bit miffed at first as we sort of stole their thunder (they announced first but we were further along). But after the dust settles it was actually so lovely for us both to be pg at the same time & our boys were born just a week apart in the end. Try and focus on the long game, your dc will have a cousin really close in age and your parents will be getting two more grandchildren. It's actually great news! x

Carly sending hugs and hope you are OK. That's what we are here for, for rants and i
raves etc! I know how hard infertility is, we went through a time of it also to get our little munchkin, not as long as you and I know how hard and emotional it is... If your SIL was being like that, it's just nasty!! Don't let it take the shine away from your precious little baby xx

ready that's kind of similar for me. Myself and my cousin are both expecting within 5 days of each other now... was hard hitting as I had went through so much to get my little miracle but now I'm used to it 💟

I just can't see it being an accident on her part. A couple of months ago they were on the verge of splitting up! Then once she knew about us she wouldn't aknowledge it. And then just over 3 weeks ago on holiday she kept going on about trying for baby number 2! Baby number one has only just turned 1. I know it's selfish and once again I am going to look like the miserable bitch but I just wanted my own pregnancy without her stealing my thunder. She's had her turn! (And yes I know I sound pathetic but right now that's how I feel!) x

Mrsy almost twins. EDD 13th of Feb

I got my maternity bra from debenhams and I am not going back to normal bras

18 weeks today and no movements

Happy I told everyone at work now because I have a bit of a belly. Looks fat not pregnant though
Cinderella nice bump. I still just look fat, is it your second?
Oh no piano! A chat! Sounds scary but I am sure it will be fine and then the issue is sorted. Good luck
London I am telling people in person too apart from my NAmerican friends and the Spanish ones. No facebook for me either but the again, I didnt put anything about wedding either.
Carly I know that accidents happen but I always find it interesting that people my age and on the pill get pregnant by accident whilst the rest are peeing on stick and timing everything perfectly. I also think that if it does happen you have to be a bit more sensitive and keep it to yourself not to upset people trying for years. This is my opinion. I find it very infuriating
Sorry
Diva let us know how scan goes! Cervical length!? No idea what that is, I havent had one. Good luck!

Oh Carly, I'm sorry! Yes, she's being a dick but it's up to you to be the bigger person and try to be happy for them. After all, your SIL's baby will be the perfect ready made friend for your precious one! It's not about her. Just focus on your baby. And it's not an exclusive - your family will have plenty of love to go round, whether SIL is pregnant too, or not.

Although clearly she is a massive bitch!

Good luck Diva!!

Thanks guys. I know it's not exclusive and my family couldn't be nicer, and they will both be very loved. Just hurts that I watched them do all the things with my parents I had planned for so long to do, scans, shopping etc. It was a really tough time. Was just so enjoying finally getting to do those things with them myself, that can't help being upset/angry/jealous that they are now going to be taking some of that excitement away. I can't really explain it without coming across as super childish, which I know in a way it is. I think just as such a huge deal was made about her being jealous/wanting baby number two only a few weeks ago and now lo and behold she's 'accidently' pregnant. Grrrr...the more I write the more silly it sounds to the outside world. I am ok now was just a shock. Still pissed off but not a lot I can do about it.

Sorry you're upset Carly. Pregnancy is an emotional roller coaster and you've been through so much to get to this point. It's always hard when you want something so badly and others find it easy but whatever your SIL's motivation you hopefully eventually find it lovely to have babies a similar age. Your baby will always be extra special to you and that's all that really matters.
Welcome Crazy. Another girl for the group
Good luck today Diva!
I'm 18+4 now and still feeling sick. This is the exact point I started to feel a bit better with dd so I had this day in my mind as an end to feeling rubbish. I want to go back to bed!

Sorry carly it does seem weird that they were only just talking about it a few weeks ago, do you think she was PG at the time then?

Who knows what goes on in peoples' heads, as I'm experiencing myself, but just hold your head up and say you're happy for them (even if you're seething inside) and make sure you book your family in for scans and shopping nice and early! Would you go shopping with her later on do you think?

carly unless your SIL is generally a cow I think there may be more to this. People really don't decide to have children to steal attention. It's far too big a decision as anyone with children already knows. Unless you've found her to be a bit unhinged in the past I think the scenario is extremely unlikely. Your brother and SIL may have already been secretly trying fo som time (even before you announced your pregnancy) which may explain why she struggled with your announcement. What do you mean she didn't acknowledge your pregnancy until recently?

Either way, it's a wonderful thing that the cousins will be so close in age! I can tell you cousins can be like siblings when really close together. Just focus on how wonderful this news is for your baby and the rest of the family.

Ever I didn't put anything about my wedding on Facebook either but I'm not a huge Facebook fan.

Welcome crazycatlady What kind of cats do you have? I have two large lazy Ragdolls :) I'm also having a little girl

Divadee good luck on the scan today!

Not sure who asked but I haven't taken anything for my hip pain. Pregnancy pillow has helped but now that I'm doing pregnancy yoga and pregnancy Pilates its gone away entirely (for now).