April 2017 #3 - looking forward to first scans and the second trimester!

[Celen]

The third thread for all those due around April 2017

Apologies to anyone who I've missed off the list x

Esker, due 29 March, dc#1
Smiles01, due 29th March, dc#1 (5th pregnancy).
IrnBruFan, due 30 March (expected to change to April)
Needtoloseastone, due 30th March, dc#5
Bellatrixandstrange, due 1st April, dc#1
MummaFB, due 1 April, dc#1
Gemsbok, due 1 April, dc#2
MonkeyArms, due 1 April, dc#1
Celen, due 2 April, dc#2
Mummymulb16, due 3rd April, dc#2
StillaChocoholic, due 3rd April, dc#2
SummerSkittles91, due 3rd April, dc#1
Strubo, due 4th April, dc#3
AnnaKateNZ, due 4 April, dc#1
Ilovegbbo, due 4 April, dc#2
LotsaTuddles, due 6th April, dc#3 (pregnancy 6)
Sniffysnifferson, due 7th April, dc#?
Littlespoon, due 8th April, dc#2
Midrog, due 9th April, dc#1
MrsRhubarb, 9th April, dc#2
Naranciata, due 10th April, dc#1
Cazbg, due 10 April, dc#2
MyGreenSofa, due 11th April, dc#2
Everdene, due 11th April, dc#1
Finova, due 11th April, dc#3
WindyTriller, due 12 April, dc#2
TopKittyKat, due 13 April, dc#1
Mamato1, due 13th April, dc#2
katemarob17, due 14th April, dc#1
Allaboutthecake13, due 14 April, dc#2
Puggleface, due 14 April, dc#2
Prive120, due 15 April, dc#1
Helbelle75, due 15 April, dc1 (pregnancy 2)
cantmakeme, due 15 April, dc#2
Choccybiscuit due 15th April dc#3
Marmitecheesetoast, due 16th April, dc#1
Jennywren15, due 16th April, dc#2
Hayls17, due 17 April, dc#1
MummySN, due 17 April, dc#?
MumiTravels, due 22 April, dc#2
Bubbinsmakesthree, due 18 April, dc#2
Dandelionrarrrrr, due 18th April, dc#2
Autumnsunshinebaby, due 18th April, dc#2
DeepFriedCamembert, due 20 April, dc#2
Jpeg28, due 21st April, dc#1 (2nd pregnancy)
Jobrum, due 21st April, dc#2
Theknittinggorilla, due 22 April, dc#3
RaRa25, due 22 April, dc#2
Superbabywright, due 22 April
Welsh due 22 April dc#1
SharkBastard, due 23 April, dc#2
Onecrazycook, due 23rd April, dc#1
mrsbobflob, due 23 April, dc#2
Ecofreckle, due 24 April, dc#2
Hummingbird100, due 25 April, dc#2
sarahhh1984, due 25 April dc#1
IAmALionTamer, due 26 April, dc#2
Number4OnTheWay, due 27 April, dc#4
Niks2026, due 28 April, dc#3
Wherethefuckisthefuckingtuna, due 30th Apr, dc#2

I told my headteacher on Monday. They were very supportive during mmc earlier in the year. I've also told a few colleagues I work closely with in case I need someone to cover whilst I rush to the loo or need to nip off for a couple of minutes.
So pleased it's the weekend. Feet up and relax!

Lots to catch up on!

Formula back up if BFing doesn't work: YY to this, and understanding safety/hygiene - I had no idea about basics of using formula as was 100% intent on BFing. For first few days I was making up a bottle then leaving it out of the fridge for hours until we needed it - clueless!

Whoever mentioned the diarrhoea - yup!

Naranciata I'd be inclined to have a nursery in the room on the same floor as you if you've got the option, then move to the downstairs room when they're older (at the move to a big bed stage, about 2-3). Believe me, the number of times I have settled DS, gone back to bed only to have to get up again 5 mins later - would have driven me spare if I was trekking up and down stairs each time. Also it feels weird not to have them close when they are small - DS is currently in the room next door to us but we're getting a master bedroom built in outer attic, so we will be 1 floor up and I feel very odd about it!

So many great tips on here today!

So it's 8pm and I'm going to bed I just can't stay awake! Also I have a confession... I had fish and chips at school for lunch today... And had fish and chips for dinner!!! Don't know what's wrong with me its all I wanted!! Why am I not craving healthy carrot sticks?!

Work-wise - someone in my team is desperately clamouring for a promotion opportunity and would be great as my maternity cover. Just wish I could tell her that she might have a golden opportunity right under her nose! Really tricky as timing wise it would be incredibly helpful to tell her now rather than in 4-5 weeks, but there's no way I can tell her this early. As I've already got 1 DC I could perhaps drop hints that I might be considering DC2 I guess?

I haven't said anything yet jpeg. It's such a busy stressful time the start of term and we've had so much change going on in our school and we've just had a new head of school start. I was hoping to wait til after the October half term. I'll be around 13/14 weeks, things would of calmed down and I would feel a little better because I would of been in my job a year I'm not sure if I'll be able to hide it that long though.

Sussex funnily enough I had a phone call from the dentist at work today saying that my dds application has been processed and they need to see her for her first appointment within 6 weeks (she's just turned 3) so I could use that as an excuse to leave work for a scan and actually book her appointment for one day after school. That way I can tell them when I'm ready.

Nara I'm afraid I'm with your dh! Baby probably won't be in the room till around 6 months but then after that you'll want baba near. You might have a baby who sleeps through the night, or you night have one that still wants feeding every 3 hours all night. Stumbling across the landing is much better than going up and down stairs.

Niks don't rush telling until you are ready and comfortable, honestly. I'm 11 weeks now and my scan is on Tuesday but this is my 8th year at my school so have a strong relationship with slt. But I know that's not the case for everyone. We have also had a huge problem trying to recruit teachers in my department so just wanted to give them as much notice as possible. I'm also a HoD and the only one in my department that teaches A Level so just wanted them to try to get someone in so my students wouldn't suffer a few months before their exam.
I haven't told any of my department or my line manager though as I know they will just panic. I'll probably have my scan then tell my department I think. I'm not entirely sure!

naranciata yes, definitely on same floor as you. When you het up in the night you want as shirt a distance as possible to travel and keep it as dark as possible. One skill that dc have given me us the ability to navigate our house in the dark, I can sense where obstacles are like a human bat! And no matter how much you attempt to contain the toys, they will never be contained!

We bailed out of camping and thank god, as I am currently curled up on the sofa going hot and cold, with stomach cramps and nausea. Joy!

Naranciata I'd go for room next to you too. You can always upgrade them the the bigger room downstairs in a few years when they have more toys or you might be thinking about having another baby. Even once they are six months or so and you feel you are ready for them to go into a seperate room, having them close by will probably give you greater peace of mind.

P.S. Those John Lewis pyjamas sound perfect.

I told my manager this evening! With the hours I work I don't often see senior staff, so I took advantage of her working late. I worked with her all through my last pregnancy so she was really excited, which was lovely. At least now if I slip up and say something, or have any problems, management are already aware.

Naranciata, our house sounds similar downstairs we have toilet, kitchen and living room, upstairs 2 bedrooms and bathroom upstairs huge bedroom - the length of the house and en suite.

Kids room is downstairs from us. It's a killer getting up in the night and going downstairs, but I found it didn't take them long to get bored of waiting for us to get down there that they'd go back to sleep more times than not .

MyGreen, think it depends on your area, because here if you go into hospital intending to breastfeed and can't then they'll provide formula, but if you go in planning on formula feeding then you have to provide your own.

Oh god the ward!! It's 100 degrees and I always get stuck with the noisiest people in the world. When I was in with DS the woman opposite me had had a section too (think I was in a room with all of us had them) and she sneezed and ran to the door screaming that she'd split her stitches. The mw led her back to bed and said the fact that you're walking, let alone running says to me that you haven't, did a quick check and left her to it, 10 minutes later she coughed and did the same.

The worst part though was laying there, breastfeeding, (csection, so catheter still in and practically just sitting on the bed bleeding, boobs on and in walks a midwife - I went to bloody school with her

I've never been so embarrassed in my life

1st scan this time in 2 weeks!
My blood test has come back as 'borderline' for something. I've been told by the receptionist it says 'not to worry' but the Dr will phone on Tuesday.

In last preg I had the same thing. Think I had elevated red blood cells at one stage and neutrophils at one stage, so hopefully just my blood!

You've got me searching for black pjs. Will have to be cotton though as I sweat a lot post birth . First pregnancy I had to sleep on a towel for 3 weeks and change several times a night, would wake up sodden. Think mix of water retention and hormones....

Morning all. I've been trying to keep up but I've had a bit of a rubbish time this week so I've been a bit quiet. Basically one of my close friends has been trying for a while and had a mc in June. My pregnancy was a complete surprise to us, unplanned as we were stopping at 2! I spent a long time working out how & when to tell her and decided to do it when I knew she had a few days off with her husband so he could support her (they both work long hours so was hard to find a time to suit). Plus we work in the same building and as my dept knew I didn't want her to hear on the grapevine.

So she initially said congrats etc, then the next day text to say she was quite upset and needed time to process it which I understood. That was 10 days ago, yesterday I got a message saying she was angry as I had ruined her trip by telling her then, that my pregnancy has made her feel
Inadequate and useless and that she doesn't want to talk about it.

So I've basically lost one of my closest friends because I got pregnant. She may well calm down and regret saying it but I'm so hurt by it that I don't know if I can forgive and forget.

Sorry for the epic post! Hope everyone else is doing well.

For the ladies that had spotting, how much would you say you had? I've just had some blood when I wiped after using the bathroom. I've been feeling so so sick and this morning really poorly. Some weird cramps have started. I'm now freaking out and am all panicky. What do I do?

niks when I had spotting it was just some bright red blood when I wiped, not much at all but the colour worried me. I was a bit cramps afterwards but all was well.

Strubo you are NOT responsible for her life or circumstances and actually, you handled it with sensitivity. Her reaction is actually pretty rude.

Yes, it's hard when you miscarry, harder when you see other people seemingly get pregnant with ease but it is wholly unreasonable for that person to blame another for living their life. I'd be upset AT your friend not FOR her. Sorry, but her behaviour has pissed me off. If she's upset, she most certainly shouldn't put it on you!

*Niks how many weeks are you? Can you go to EPU?

Thanks sturbo it's not a lot but I'm really freaking out and trying to stay calm so I don't worry my little girls. Husband is at work and I'm meant to go to a wedding reception this evening. I had a little amount of bleeding with my dd2 but around 9 weeks and they gave me a scan and all was fine. Didn't have this sickness and cramps with it though. I'm only 7+1 according to lmc. And it's Saturday so can't even call the go

Hi all, been too knackered to write anything but have been reading all your news.
niks when I had spotting it was brown and I needed to wear a pant linner for a few days then it stopped.
sturbo I really feel for you, but I think your friend is bieng harsh on you. She is clearly upset and will hopefully see how she has hurt you and apologise.

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Strubo I think that's very unfair of your friend to say that to you, it's really rude and you are not responsible for her happiness etc.... however I do understand the completely irrational behaviour as after I had my MC I basically lost a few friends who had just had babies or who were pg because I just couldn't face seeing or speaking to them. They were not my best friends though. I'm not excusing her behaviour at all, I would have never said anything to anyone like that and you should be able to be happy about being pg and should be able to share your happy news, but after a MC sometimes people can say and think not very nice jealous things. I'm sure she will apologise to you and in time be so happy for you.

Niks I had a bright red spotting/bleed when I wiped at 7 weeks and all was fine. I ended up paying for a private scan as I was so worried. Had loads of weird cramps too. Try not to worry.

Oh Strubo you poor thing. That was awful of her to behave like that, but probably coming from a place of grief rather than spite. Hope you can patch things up. I have a very similar conversation coming up and am also not looking forward to it.

Sorry sturbo id not read your post. I think your friend is pretty rude. Of course some space and time will be needed but then to text you and say you ruined her holiday! Not acceptable at all. You handled the situation the best way possible. You shouldn't change your life choices based on her circumstances.
When I was trying for dd2 (family knew we were trying) DH sister came round to tell me she was pregnant. She thought I might be upset because hers wasn't planned. But I was happy for her. A couple of months later she unfortunately miscarried as I fell pregnant. We left it a little while to tell her and her reaction was unreasonable. She stormed out and refused to speak to me for 4 months! And the only reason she then spoke to me was because she had fallen pregnant so felt she could move on. I don't feel I deserved that treatment.
It takes both sides to be considerate with any difficult circumstances and you definitely night about your friends feelings. I would be hurt by what she's said and would probably respond saying insensitive she was actually being!

It's the cramps that bother me. A little spotting in pregnancy is normal but I don't like that I feel weird?!? Shark I'm not sure how I would contact epu??

Niks I have had the worst cramps during this pregnancy... Most were caused by a cyst that then disappeared but they really worried me. Can you call your midwife? Or EPU? I'm sure it's just your uterus etc expanding for the baby.

I've put on 2lb already... Must have been the double fish and chips yesterday!! I'm slightly overweight as it is so I'm scared I'll be huge in no time!!

Midwife hasn't called me yet jpeg. I saw my GP Wednesday and they pass on your details to the midwife team to call. When she does though I'm going to mention the spotting and hopefully she'll refer me for an earlier scan. My GP surgery have their own ultrasound so fingers crossed I can just go there.

I was trying to lose weight before falling pregnant so I'm hoping I don't get to big. Going to speak to a trainer at the gym and ask what I can do along swimming to try and keep the weight gain to a minimum.