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Babies due in November 2016 #6

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coppergrey · 30/08/2016 09:01

Starting a fresh new thread for us!

I think Fedup asked about Elderberries and if anyone had heard from her... I haven't seen her name pop up in a while, but I'm not on the FB group either. I've been wondering the same about almondbutter, haven't seen her on here for a while now and know she was really suffering with sickness.

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DuckWaddle · 20/09/2016 08:48

Oh little grey- that sounds really hard. I take it there's no closer hospital that can monitor you?
I too am completely unprepared and having just moved into a house that needs complete renovations everything is manic! I've found parts of cribs but can't find the screws etc!! So you're not alone on that front!
Can you ask to go on Mat leave earlier? Given everything you're going through I think you have an absolute right to go before then. You're more important than work is

bobcat85 · 20/09/2016 12:23

LittleGrey - if you want to go early you should definitely do it. Your health is much more important than work.

MuffyTheUmpireSlayer · 20/09/2016 13:34

Littlegrey I'm so sorry to hear that. I would definitely talk to them about going off earlier. When is your EDD? Given the circumstances I would say you'll need it!

As for being organised, I'm definitely not a part of that club. I'm still redecorating everything and living out of boxes so the baby stuff hasn't even got a place to go yet!

Fedupithink · 20/09/2016 17:15

That's rough Littlegrey I spoke to work about leaving earlier than planned and even though I've decided against it, they were so accommodating it actually helped me feel more relaxed anyway.

I'm sure in your situation they wouldn't begrudge you not waiting for a handover. The newbie will pick it up and you could always offer to help by phone for a fixed period of time?

LittleGreyCatwithapinkcollar · 20/09/2016 21:11

I know they'd work around me going earlier and I will if need be. It's just I hate leaving the students without proper teaching, even for a short time! My HoD has 5 children so she knows the score. If I stay this tired I'll be going to see the head after I've seen the midwife next week! Smile

AyeAmarok · 20/09/2016 21:23

Is anyone else struggling to get their head around the idea that there is a little human inside them?

I mean it's sort of looks like a human, it has a wee face, but it lives inside you and doesn't breathe air Confused. It's kind of more like... an amphibian?

Sometimes I just can't get my head around it.

MuffyTheUmpireSlayer · 21/09/2016 06:37

Yes Aye. I keep on looking at adults, especially really large, tall men, and thinking "you grew in someone's belly" Grin.

I know what you mean about not wanting to leave your classes LittleGrey. I have no idea who is going to be taking over mine and don't think I'll get a handover period. The children are already panicking about it. They keep on asking me whether they're going to have a load of supplies and I can't give them an honest answer! It's making me feel guilty leaving them Sad

Fedupithink · 21/09/2016 07:20

I do too Aye my DH thinks it's very odd every time he feels her kick. We've been able to see her kick from the outside for a couple of weeks now and that really freaks him out.

I suddenly realised a couple of days ago that I'm going to someones mum, I'm not sure I'm responsible enough!

RuskBaby · 21/09/2016 07:50

I sometimes seem to forget then get a kick and think oh what's that!? I'm still completely in awe that I am growing a baby right now and it could grow to be 6ft.

smellsofelderberries · 21/09/2016 09:46

Yep, I still can't quite wrap my head around it! I looked online at photos of 32 week premmies the other day and they're tiny, but not the scary tiny premmies either! They look like actual babies now.

Anyone else having occasional waves of panic where you feel like they would be safer out than in now? I am really struggling with the fear of loosing her right now. I'm seeing the prenatal counsellor on Friday before my midwife check and might float the idea of starting my weekly appointments a little sooner, or if they would offer any extra monitoring. Some weeks I'll have a good few days, but I'm starting to really struggle. Doesn't help that our container won't turn up until the week commencing Oct 17th, and a lot of her stuff is in there, so I can't setup her nursery until then and I feel like by not getting her room ready we're putting out a negative message into the universe that we don't want her Sad which obviously couldn't be further from the truth. Currently trying to organise some artwork to put up at least, and I have washed and folded her clothes and put them in the built in wardrobe in her room.

LittleGrey, I also think you should go earlier if you need to. Considering how many stresses you've already had with this pregnancy, I'm amazed you've held it all together for this long!

needahugbug · 21/09/2016 09:48

Hi everyone, just a quick one
I'm 33 + 1 and am starting to think about packing my hospital bag. I've read lots of threads on here about what to include etc but can't remember what brand/type of maternity pads everyone was recommending to get.
If anyone can recommend any particular brands/types that would be fab :)
Or if anyone has any other tips on bits to include please feel free to share.
Aye I also struggle and sometimes forget there is a little person growing inside. I don't ever feel the baby due to my placenta being anterior it's normally when my bump whacks into something I get reminded :)

Fedupithink · 21/09/2016 10:28

Need I've opted for boots own maternity pads after someone on here recommended them. They are really thick sold in packs of 10 and are usually on 3 for 2. I think I bought 5 packets of those and one of the slimmer ones which are more like sanitary towels in thickness. I figure if I need more DH or I can nip into town.

bobcat85 · 21/09/2016 12:12

Sorry you're feeling anxious smells. I'm actually hoping he doesn't come out till atleast 37 weeks. As you say it might be worth starting your weekly appointments earliers as they might help set your mind at ease.

needahugbug I've just picked up a pack from from Tesco (own brand). I have no idea how good they are but can always send Husband out to get some different ones if they're rubbish.

Just went to buy a load of baby stuff nappies etc... which has made it feel a bit more real. Although I'm still finding it very hard to connect to the baby, still feels very unreal. It may be partially to do with what you were saying AyeAmarok about finding it hard to believe there's a human growing inside me. It just feels very abstract to me although it is the most natural thing.

needanewjob · 21/09/2016 12:54

I've bought boots own brand pads - the thin ones. They were fine after my last birth. I'm not comfy with the big ones.

Just had a weird phone call with the doctor. I'm slightly anaemic this pregnancy (was 10.3 at 28 weeks is now 10 at 34 weeks despite the iron tablets) and although they aren't ,assuredly concerned about my anaemia they did mention that my lymphocyte level is really low as in less than half what it should be...I wasn't sure whether this was an issue until the gp said he was going to discuss my results with his colleague and call me again!

Does anyone know anything about lymphocytes? Should I be worried? I'm sat here trying not to stress (unsuccessfully)

Kitten3 · 21/09/2016 15:24

Needanewjob I'm sorry for not having much knowledge, but if your lymphocyte level is low, then that indicates you have a lower white blood cell count than normal. That could be driven by several factors. I suppose in pregnancy, a doctor might be concerned that if you went into labour and later had an infection, this would leave you vulnerable as you wouldn't have a strong immune system to begin with.

Kitten3 · 21/09/2016 15:26

I'm a teacher too- but wasn't given s timetable in September! So all I have been doing is prepping and planning for new specification and the occasional cover. Still, I'm ready to leave! Not scheduled to leave for another 4 weeks.

needanewjob · 21/09/2016 18:16

Thanks kitten I'm going to call them tomorrow and ask for clarification...I've really tried to eat and sleep well this pregnancy and nothing seems to be reversing the anaemia... Ah well five weeks to go

Ionacat · 21/09/2016 21:08

I'm not finishing until half term, but I can work from home so sneaking in the afternoon naps to compensate for the getting up to go to the toilet.
I have no idea about lymphocytes, but I wouldn't google though as it tends to lead to the worst case scenario!

Spottyladybird · 21/09/2016 21:19

I've got 7 working days left (I work three days a week!). It can't come soon enough as I'm starting to struggle and becoming pissed off with the 'are you sure it's not two?' Comments from people.

needanewjob · 21/09/2016 21:22

I admit it.... I googled, and freaked myself out. Have now stepped away from Google

LittleGreyCatwithapinkcollar · 22/09/2016 07:14

No advice, need, other than step away from Google. I hope they can get you sorted soon.
Open evening at school tonight so a 14-hour working day to look forward to Sad and I'm so tired already. I've not even got out of bed yet!
As for maternity pads - I used Tesco and and Morrison's ones last time and have the same again this time. I think they're all pretty much the same tbh.

Fedupithink · 22/09/2016 07:29

I've had to swap my working from home vs London days this week so in London today and tomorrow instead of being at home Friday. I'm not sure how I'll manage to be honest.

So is anyone else now snoring? My DH recorded me - it is pretty bad to be honest and he isn't happy. I think we may have to venture into separate rooms a few nights a week as neither of us are getting good sleep at the moment. I wake him with my snoring then he thrashes about as he cant get back to sleep and wakes me.

So worried about how it's going to be when the baby arrives and she's crying though the night. We are both at our worst when we are tired. Fingers crossed for a good sleeper Sad

bobcat85 · 22/09/2016 08:46

Same here with the snoring Fedup. He's slept in the other room for a couple of nights due to it as it wakes him up then he tries to wake me up so neither of us get much sleep. I'm guessing it's because there's a lot less room for breathing left in there.

Babies movements have been quite painful the last few days. Feels like he's trying to escape out of the sides.

tiredmumrighthere · 22/09/2016 12:29

Bob-i feel your pain Confused it really does hurt!

Okay..sorry if the is tmi Blushbut is anyone else just not feeling up to sex? I feel so un-sexy especially as when I get into bed the baby is moving all around and I just want her to settle down and get some sleep, but Dp has other ideas Blush and I'm like continuously fobbing him off with "I'm too tired" I feel so bad for this but I just can't bring myself to do it! I just don't want to be touched I just want to turn over and sleep, plus the last couple of times I have given in I've been in excruciating pain afterwards so not wanting to go down that road again! I just feel really mumsy and not at all attractive it just cringes me out Confused

MuffyTheUmpireSlayer · 22/09/2016 13:46

tired it's the same for me. I've told DP that it is highly unlikely that there will be any more for a long time so he'd better become acquainted with his right hand and some privacy (TMI, sorry!) If it's likely to change any time soon he'll know about it, but until then he should just assume it's not on the cards. It's just far too uncomfortable right now!