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Thread 11. TTC #1 Grads, Babies Arriving Or 'Look At What I Made With My Genitals!'

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AudreyBradshaw · 25/08/2016 18:01

Behold, the wonder of birth! Members from 6 weeks bfp to post-partum wonder Mamas! No question to grotty or minging.

We've come full circle from obsessing about cervical mucus to now obsessing if it's our vagina baby plug going! What larks!

Lots of talk about poo, ours and now babies too! Baby brain is REAL! This heat can kiss my arse. And who KNEW being so neurotic about which changing mat to buy could be so satisfying and addictive!

Roll up literally, in my case, cause I'm practically rotund! for TTC #1 Grads!

Thread 11. TTC #1 Grads, Babies Arriving Or 'Look At What I Made With My Genitals!'
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IrregularCommentary · 08/09/2016 05:54

Congratulations Pink! So pleased she's made an appearance x

LillianFullStop · 08/09/2016 05:58

OMG congrats pink! Hope you get some rest in and enjoy the baby cuddles!

Good luck soda how exciting! Can't wait to find out boy or girl - are you the first Team Vanilla to give birth??

Pinklily1 · 08/09/2016 06:29

Thanks ladies Smile We've had a very broken nights sleep on the ward, partly because there are three other ladies here. Evelyn has cried a lot and not taken particularly to the boob, but we will preserve. I can't stop looking at her.

Shelb, great minds think alike!

My cut was an episiotomy. The doctor had to cut to use the forceps to get her out. OH only told me afterwards that that's what they'd done Shock Its starting to hurt now. Can't wait to get in the shower and clean up - they wouldn't let me do that last night but gave me a bed bath instead. All dignity went out of the window during birth and I really didn't give two hoots!!

Soda, so excited for you! Getting the drip was amongst the best bits for me in a strange way - after a very slow start it really ramped the contractions up and made me feel like we were making progress, whereas I had felt a bit despondent prior to that and as if we were getting nowhere nearer to meeting baby.

Will catchup on thread properly later but hope everyone else is well.

BunchOfBobs · 08/09/2016 06:55

Pink my dignity still hasn't come back. I've shown my wound to so many different people I really don't care anymore. A doctor actually told me off at the hospital last time as he went to shut the window curtain (first floor) and I was like "I really don't care" then the midwife and I joked saying a football team could come in and I wouldn't care. Dr not happy at all "this is your dignity we're talking about, I will not have that talk". Bless. I quite like the liberation of it really.

IndiX · 08/09/2016 07:07

Congratulations pink! I'm so happy for you and your OH, and Evelyn is a beautiful name. Wishing you a smooth recovery and very jealous of your baby cuddles.

Good luck soda!! I'm so excited to hear if you have a little pink or blue babyGrin

Danni89 · 08/09/2016 07:18

Woo hoo, good luck soda!!

Sodasoda · 08/09/2016 07:34

Thanks ladies. Hope you recover well pink and get your shower!

My first tip is bring some bloody ear plugs and an eye mask into hospital! The antenatal ward is a joke. Angry Midwives have kept coming in all night saying 'try and get some sleep'. Errrrr how exactly?! I've had precisely none. On the other hand DH is next to me on his reclining chair snoring gently so I suppose it must be possible Wink

No contractions at all so far so think the plan is to give me a pessary / gel in a couple of hours and see if that works. Come on baby!

And yes, think I might be first of team vanilla? I'm getting my bet in early - I think it's blue based on nothing at allSmile

shelbTa · 08/09/2016 07:38

Good luck soda!!!

Glad you're doing well pink, its an amazing feeling isn't it.

X

Nevlet · 08/09/2016 07:40

Pink huge congratulations! Enjoy those first snuggles.

Soda fantastic news that you are on the way too. Hopefully it won't be too long for you.

I had the comedy waters breaking before labour started how they show on TV... Went to sit down on sofa and it was literally like someone had tipped a glass of water out of me. Stood there shouting I dont know what to do, OH was just like get to the conservatory it's tiled!! I start waddling over laughing and with every laugh more was literally spurting out everywhere.

OH has gone back to work... Just me and little BodhiButt who OH has nicknamed The King of Sharts - poor lad!

PotatosMum · 08/09/2016 07:51

Good luck Soda hope everything goes well for you. Exciting to find out if you're pink or blue Grin

Pink I think everyone feels like that about dignity during birth. I know by the end of my labour I didn't give two hoots what they did as long as Arya was ok and it didn't hurt Hmm

OHs interview is this afternoon, he's already up trundling around being nervous. I hope it goes well for him as apparently there are a few people who have applied for whom this would be a side step instead of a promotion so it would be easier to justify giving them the job Sad I know he'll be gutted if he doesn't get the job.

Lillian I have no intention of listening to people who say I hold Arya too much.
They seem to be obsessed with getting her to go to sleep on her own and stay quiet on her own as soon as possible... She's only going to be a baby for a very short time and I've got the rest of my life to do housework or watch stupid stuff on TV so I don't care if she wants her mummy to hold her until she falls asleep. All too soon she'll be a child and I'll be the one desperate for cuddles.
Also, the most recent studies suggest that babies who are held a lot when they're very small are more confident as they grow up and all the midwives and HVs I've spoken to have said it's impossible to spoil a baby by cuddling them too much.
My DSD is a case in point, her mum has never been that fussed about her and just wanted her quiet or asleep so she could do other things and ever since I've known DSD she is constantly desperate for her mums attention.
I want Arya growing up knowing that nothing is more important to me than her and her daddy.

PotatosMum · 08/09/2016 07:55

Soda I had a similar experience when I was in the ward for my fibroid. Do your best to get some sleep now, I know it's difficult but you'll need it!

Nev did your OH have two weeks off with you?
I think I'm losing all sense of time!

leoniethelioness · 08/09/2016 08:18

Soda Wait until you get to the postnatal ward- the same but with added babies who need obs and cry!

leoniethelioness · 08/09/2016 08:19

Shelb and Pink I love Evelyn. Are you pronouncing it EV lin or EVE lin?

IrregularCommentary · 08/09/2016 08:22

Good luck Soda hope all goes well. Excited to find out what colour you are Smile

Potato I think you're absolutely right. Denying a newborn attention just seems really fucking weird tbh! Have you read much about the idea of the 4th trimester? A lot of that makes sense to me.

So, had a really shit day yesterday. 36w midwife appointment as planned. Raised bp, which she thought was due to being a bit swollen up in this fucking heat and humidity Appointment was late afternoon so I'd had all day Saturday in a hot office not moving enough or having my feet up etc.

Anyway, had to go to hospital to get checked out to rule out pre eclampsia. First bp check there was fine, having just been in an air conditioned car for 40mins so was feeling much more comfortable. Midwife was also lovely.

Still had to have a bp profile done as it had been raised with the midwife so got taken off to a ward. Sat on a chair where my feet didn't reach the floor (great for swollen ankles) and had a bp monitor that checked every 10mins or so. Fine.

Then another midwife comes in and asks to feel baby, she does that and then says she's going to hook baby up to a fetal heart monitor. No explanation. Tells me to relax yeah ok then and to press the buzzer whenever I feel her move. She left the bay saying something about how the doctor would be in soon. Nobody had mentioned a doctor before.

She came back a while later and checked the readings on the fetal monitor and I finally managed to ask what was wrong and were they worried about the baby. Nope, totally routine apparently and nothing to be concerned about. Great, but why not fucking tell me that upfront rather than have me sit there stressed not knowing - especially if you're worried about my fucking blood pressure!!

Anyway... 2hrs later and they discharged me with the midwife due to see me to check bp again tomorrow. I honestly don't think there's anything wrong. I swell up on hot days, always have done, and it goes down again. If swelling raises bp then seems a fairly clear link to me.

Just really pissed off with unnecessary stress yesterday with not being told a thing about what was happening and also worried I'm going to end up not being classed as low risk anymore, which will mean I have to give birth there rather than my nice midwife only birth centre, which is about as close to a home birth as you can get without having to provide your own towels!

Sorry for the me post, especially when I've been quiet recently, just still feeling a bit raw from it all.

IrregularCommentary · 08/09/2016 08:23

Also sat, not Saturday....

ElleSarcasmo · 08/09/2016 08:25

Congratulations Pink! Evelyn is a beautiful name. Hope you recover well and manage to get showered today.

Potato glad you're not listening, it's complete crap to say you can cuddle the baby too much! Who's telling you that, is it visitors who want to get the baby off you? Sad for your DSD. Hope your OH interview goes well.

Soda hope today's the day and that everything goes smoothly 🍀

King of sharts Nev Grin!

ElleSarcasmo · 08/09/2016 08:30

Oh Irregular, that sounds rubbish. It's so frustrating when people don't explain what's happening. I don't think they'd class you as higher risk just on a one off reading? Hope your BP is back to normal tomorrow and that the midwife is able to reassure you. How much longer do you have left at work?

marmitecheesetoast · 08/09/2016 08:33

Just checking in quickly to say congratulations Pink!! Evelyn is a gorgeous name. Hope you are recovering well today and you're enjoying lots of lovely cuddles.

Eek exciting Soda! Hope you've managed to get a bit more rest and that things progress well for you today!!

I've been off work yesterday and today with this stonking great cold. At least I'm getting to nap Grin

marmitecheesetoast · 08/09/2016 08:37

Just saw your post irregular that sounds really stressful and unhelpful, poor you. Hope BP is back to normal today.

PotatosMum · 08/09/2016 09:23

Irregular did they by any chance say anything about protein in your wee? I had exactly the same thing happen to me twice before I had Arya. It is all routine but they don't explain that, they just let you think the worse Hmm it doesn't get any better when you're in labour Sad

Elle it was my sister and OHs SIL. They all seem obsessed with gettin baby self sufficient... I'm happy with my codependent baby thanks Wink

Nevlet · 08/09/2016 10:18

Irregular that sounds really stressful Sad focus on not too long left now.

Potato officially yes but he has gone back after a week and is having second week the week before half term so we have two weeks off together then. Bodhi will be a bit bigger then and we are hoping to take him away to Devon for a little holiday that week

Co5mo · 08/09/2016 10:57

Evelyn would have been our name for a girl Pink. Congratulations. Hope you get home soon.

Irregular which hospital were you at? Hope I get better treatment this afternoon.

Fx things are moving for Soda.

Nursery furniture is here. DH wrestling with it is stressing me out but he doesn't think he needs help. I'm keeping out of the way and having coffee and cake in the garden.

Newmrs22 · 08/09/2016 11:40

Congratulations Pink hope you are recovering well. Jacob didn't feed well in the first 24 hours so hopefully she'll pick up soon.

potato I've had the same thing about getting him to sleep on his own. He's tiny! It's fine if he prefers being cuddled up, he's been inside me for 9 months--it's a big adjustment.

He's now outgrowing all his new baby clothes. Needs 0-3 months now at 3 weeks and 2 days. Luckily a friend gave me loads of slightly bigger clothes as hand me downs from her baby. Loads still have tags on!

Sodasoda · 08/09/2016 11:50

The induction gel is up me. A wholly unpleasant experience. No more sleep - I need IV antibiotics every 4 hours for a start! Apparently I'm 1cm dilated. That's it! They give this gel 6 hours to work and then it's a drip.

I'm allowed up and about so going to walk round hospital. No contractions as yet. Think I'm in it for the long haul! I've had such a medicalised pregnancy seeing loads of consultants all the time, was really hoping for a slightly more natural birth. Oh well. As long as we're both ok.

Sorry for all the me me me nonsense! Irregular that sounds really scary, hope you're ok.

leoniethelioness · 08/09/2016 11:58

Good luck, Soda! Baby will be in your arms before too long xxx

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