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Due February 2017- thread #6

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Readyfortwo · 14/08/2016 19:40

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mrschn · 01/09/2016 19:37

Lanisoh. Yes. I had a tube in every room Grin. A definite must. Nipple shields good to have in. Just in case. And also reccommend if you are planning to BF to have some of the ready sterilised and ready to go formula bottles you can get. After my milk took an age to come in and baby was screaming with hunger in night 3 poor DH ran to 24 HR tescos for these. We didn't stop BF but they helped when we needed it and it was nice to not have to buy everything eg bottles, steriliser etc.
We'll have those in again. Just in case!!!

Keepingupwiththejonesys · 01/09/2016 19:55

I always have babies in outfits for during the day but I keep it simple with cotton tops, leggings, dungarees etc. I hold a towel round baby during and just after feeds to avoid as many changes coz I'm a saddo lol! X

LondonGirl83 · 01/09/2016 19:58

I'm planning on mix feeding (with breast milk or formula depending).

ChozzleopsTheThird · 01/09/2016 20:01

Is anyone else planning a home birth?

Naschkatze · 01/09/2016 20:16

So much information here! I'm going to have to start taking notes!

Chozz at the moment I would like a homebirth. I'm going to visit my local midwife led unit but I'm leaning towards home. DH would prefer the maternity unit though..

ChozzleopsTheThird · 01/09/2016 20:38

Is it your first Nasch? This will be my first, luckily DP is more keen for a home birth than I am so he's happy that I've got on board. Need to tell the midwife at the 16 week appointment, keen to find out more about the procedures in my area.

FriendlyGhost · 01/09/2016 21:30

Definitely agree with the lanisoh cream and breast pads. All the other breast pads made my nipples itch. I was sore feeding for a couple of weeks but I soon toughened up. I'm also still feeding so don't know if my boobs will ever be the same again!

gumbootsandjandals · 01/09/2016 21:33

Just catching up quickly.

For BF I recommend Lansinoh from the Very First Latch. Have a tube both upstairs and down. Little Lamb reusable bamboo breast pads are lovely and soft.

In terms of baby carriers I used a baby bjorn when mine were little. I bought a Lillebaby (similar to a Tula) during a midnight bf but felt too guilty to take it out of its hiding place for a month or so, so it never got used when my youngest was very little. Used heaps from 3 months. It's very versatile as can be used from newborn (without an insert) up to age 4. I will try it with baby this time but also keep the baby bjorn on hand.

I bought a snowsuit for my second but never used it as worried about overheating indoors. He went in a covered carrycot with a blanket over the top, so easy to remove layers. I'll do the same this time.

I bought a couple of outfits in the Frugi sale but otherwise am trying to keep purchases to a minimum as this is #3.

Naschkatze · 01/09/2016 21:44

Yes, it's my first. I have no idea what I'm doing but I have a fear of hospitals so I know I would feel more comfortable at home and that has to help right?!
I think I've said before that I'm not scared of labour but I am of interventions and not feeling in control of that.
I'm planning on trying hypo-birthing... Who knows, maybe it will all be too much and I'll have to get help but I'm trying to be positive and trust my body.

Finding it hard to think that far ahead at the moment though, it doesn't feel real especially with current lack of symptoms.

wispaxmas · 01/09/2016 21:44

This is not a judgement of any kind, and I hate to sound like a doomsday kind of person, but I hate the thought of any first birth being a home birth simply because of my own experience as I really do think I would have actually died without immediate intervention on hand to stop my bleeding and I had been classed as low risk in every way and a prime candidate for a home birth, according to my midwife at the time. Nothing that happened in hospital accounted for my outcome, it would have happened wherever I was and in now petrified of having an accidental home birth due to the what ifs as I'm now high risk for maternal health.

wispaxmas · 01/09/2016 21:50

My 2 year old (26 months, no nowhere near 3 yet) is comfortably in Zara 3-4 years stuff and gap 3 years. Both come up similarly small I've found.

topmammy · 01/09/2016 22:05

I would consider a home birth if I ever had a baby #3 and only if this second birth goes smoothly. I wouldn't have been able to have a home birth with my first I dont think as I had to be induced.

How lovely it would be to have your baby and then snuggle up in your own comfy bed afterwards though. It'd be easier staying at home so I wouldn't have to worry about leaving DD too. I also dont look forward to the prospect of a 25 to 30 minute car journey while contracting, or being sent home because leaving the house has slowed labour down due to a change in environment/stress. But despite all that, I still want to be in a hospital near all the drugs, just in case Grin. Totally a personal decision though.

ChozzleopsTheThird · 01/09/2016 22:12

Mine isn't a fear of hospitals Nasch I just don't feel like I can have the birth I want in a hospital. They are so quick to intervene and offer up drugs, and that's just not what I want. Being very realistic though, I know that births very rarely go how you want them to, all I can do is have my ideal world plans and hope we stay as close to it as possible. So long as baby gets out safely I am happy in the end.

I am booking on To a hypnobirthing course, anything that might help is beneficial in my eyes 😊

wispa sorry you had such a bad birth first time round, hopefully this time will be better for you. I've read up on all the statistics and feel it will be the best option for us, fx it goes to plan 😊

Blueskies80 · 01/09/2016 22:17

Chozz, I am considering a home birth. this is baby no 3 for me and I've had two fairly straightforward labours, first 8 hours and second 7 hours in hospital.
It's highly personal decision, for me, I wanted to be in hospital for my first, not having a clue how it would pan out (was very lucky and had a water birth tho) my second I had group b strep so had to go in for antibiotics in labour.
Leaning towards a home birth, as I've not got group b strep this time, especially if it is a quick labour, but I'm so risk averse I might decide to go in, plus don't want the kids to hear me in labour/ scare them. I do want water if I can though which may not be available in hospital, although they have a midwife led unit so hopefully would be.
I think you can change your mind right up to the birth so maybe see how things go and do lots of speaking to people maybe? Definitely do a tour of the labour ward too.

Lansinoh is an absolute must if you are breast feeding, I put it on after every feed when my poor nipples were cracked (right at the start of breastfeeding, it didn't continue on for too long). It's magic stuff. Healed them so fast.

Re buggies, we have a (slightly rickety) bugaboo bee plus buggy board which has lasted us 5 years now so we will continue with this with next baby, it's great for city life, although can't really cope with mud or snow (fingers crossed for a mild winter!). I also have a moby wrap sling for the early days around the house but when baby is big enough to go in it, and a manduca (like an ergo carrier, a soft structured carrier) for when baby is bigger. There are places called sling libraries where you can try them out, as there are so many types it can be a bit bewildering.

Carly6971 · 02/09/2016 04:40

Just booked tickets to the baby show...has anyone been before? Is it any good? (Yes I realise it's 04:40am!! Pregnancy insomnia-all good training I guess!)

ChozzleopsTheThird · 02/09/2016 06:23

Thanks Blue we were thinking it's easier to plan for a home birth then change our mind and go in to hospital than it is to plan a MWU unit and change our minds, once you get into that unit they're not really going to let you go home if you fancy a home birth :)

They have a pleasant ish MWU near us (Calow) and it's quite new, however I've heard lots of stories about people being left alone for hours on end and being ignored and belittled by the midwives. The community midwives have a reputation for being attentive and more caring. Though I suppose it depends what you get on the day, at home you get two midwives dedicated to you so no chance of being left alone.

GinIsIn · 02/09/2016 07:05

carly - we are going too. With my DM. And my MIL. Shock

ChozzleopsTheThird · 02/09/2016 07:57

We're also going to the baby show... The one in Manchester.

Anyone been before and know if it's any good?

wispaxmas · 02/09/2016 08:04

Chozz, it wasn't the birth that was bad - I had a fairly normal straightforward firth labour and birth and even with it being long I think I did really well, but after DD was born I did have a life threatening bleed, the kind which can happen to anyone and they can only predict it if it has happened to you before. And so I'm high risk because if you lose 3l of blood once you're most likely going to bleed again, and if that happens at home, well.. fuck, there's no one there to do more than give you the syntocinon injection and call 999, where for me it took 2 jabs and having the drip put in to stop the bleeding, and all of that within a few short minutes. But a bleed of more than 1.5l is rare, occurring in something like 6 in 1000 women I think I read. So chances are things will be fine for others, but hemorrhage is still the biggest single cause of maternal death worldwide, and I can't believe I didn't know that it can still happen in the developed world.

ChozzleopsTheThird · 02/09/2016 08:14

It's definitely something to think about wispa thank you for the add to the FB group :)

Evergreen17 · 02/09/2016 08:25

Thanks for tips on carriers

I got myself a boba sling in ebay for carrying around the house when baby is wee. Mainly because it goes over both shoulders and I have a pelvis that tilts if I use on side more than the other.

Chozz mum said: please dont make the baby wear jeans, they look so uncomfortableGrinI will be buying flowery for boys and girls, both DH and I are in the botany field Smile
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16 weeks appointment* what the f was that?!
So I got a different midwife that must have been on speed. I couldnt understand a lot of the stuff.
First why didnt I bring my urine sample? Because nobody told me to. Second where are my booking printouts and blood results? I have no idea I never got them. So they are missing. What is your blood group? Well I know it but she needs to see it written down from hospital (I understand this).

Apparently my booking midwife made lots of mistakes (11 weeks ago!) and my stuff is lost and she doesnt understand why she ticked yes for glucose and couldnt find my sifilis results. Jesus!

So basically left the place stressed and argued with DH and cried my eyes out.

She did find my uterus and we heard bubba's heart at 156 which was good. I weed in a cup and she took my blood pressure.

No time for questions. Sad

No idea about birth. I wanted a home one but also worried. They have a lovely unit at my hospital with pools which I would love but I imagine then it is full at the time and they send me to the hospital and I really dont want that Sad unless I need an intervention of course

Bumblebee33 · 02/09/2016 08:32

I envisaged lots of baby carrying with my first and bought a baby bjorn. However I could never do all the buckles up myself whilst juggling a wriggly/screamy/asleep baby. Just too complicated for my sleep deprived brain. Can anyone recommend a super simple sling/carrier?

topmammy · 02/09/2016 08:38

I used a baby born with DD. I agree it was easier if you had someone to give you a hand. I really rate ring slings for their ease once you've got the hang of it.

wispa were they able to tell you specifically what caused your haemorrhage?

LondonGirl83 · 02/09/2016 08:41

It looks like it's time for a new Thread!

wispaxmas · 02/09/2016 09:19

If no one else is making one, I will.

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