Due February 2017- thread #6

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See below for previous chatter:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2697188-Due-in-February-2017-thread-5

Holly it was rude. Its bad enough if you don't give a warning you don't want negativity. Ignoring that, guilt tripping you etc makes her sound like a narcissistic cow (sorry as I know its your friend and I'm sure she's usually lovely).

LeBerg one of my best friends grabbed my belly. She asked first though so it was all good. I'd be outraged if a stranger uninvited touched me, pregnant or not.

I always get randoms trying to touch my baby bumps (they are huge) makes me extremely uncomfortable and pretty pissed off tbh I'm not a feely person at the best of times.

I've found some nice maternity leggings if anyone is interested.
I usually get them from next but decided to try M&S they are lovely! Only £12 a pair aswell.

Ugh there is nothing worse than random bump touching. Any bump touching in fact without permission. Time to take up self defence...

Had midwife today, heart beat of 150 after a bit of looking. But I wasn't worried, baby had been doing the worm in there for a couple of evenings. DH finds it funny to hum loudly on my bump which really makes baby move!

london, loads of people will ask you what your name choices are, it's just something that's easy for people to ask and everything thinks they need to ask you about your pregnancy, so it'll happen a lot. Last time we told close friends and family we were keeping it secret and also joked with everyone about the ridiculous name we would never in a million yrs choose. Our favourite was Holly Jolly. Perfect with our surname, lol (which is in my MN username).

I'm so glad no one thinks I'm overreacting. I wouldn't dream of responding to the average person like that, never mind a close friend... I don't expect everyone to like what we choose, but it isn't their baby is it

Turns out the name she hates is probably the favourite anyway, so she can go step on lego after her rudeness lol

Luckily no one has touched me yet. Not sure how I'd respond! Like no one comes and grabs your boob when they make a comment on them if you're having a good cleavage day... So why is a bump different?

I've had lots of bump touching which I don't mind if people ask of give warning but out of the blue makes me jump!

Your friend sounds v rude and that would make me absolutely sure to call the baby that name!!

I actually don't have an obvious bump yet. Its only obvious if I pull my clothes tight. Initially my friends said I looked the same when I saw them this weekend. Only when I pulled the dress really close could she see it but its definitely there.

I think when my bump becomes more an unmistakable pregnancy bump I'll have to contend with it more. One of my colleagues had one of our investors grab her belly during a conference once. You wonder what's wrong with some people!

I thought I was starting to show. I asked My friends what they thought and both replied "you just look like you're getting fat!"

..charming!

Even though I have put a lot on, i like to pretend it is all baby

Anyone watching Bake Off and want to eat their body weight in cake? Nom, nom, nom 🍰😁

Got a gorgeous present from my best friend today 💜

I've had a few random grabs from extended family members. Have nipped that behaviour in the bud, I hope.

Have had some bad news - my SIL is having a miscarriage. I feel sad for her, and also all the more anxious about my baby. Considering a private scan just to make sure it's still ok. Stupid?

Aww ceecee I'm so sorry xx

Mrschn we tried to make baby move tonight by getting DH to him loudly on my bump but nothing happened except for us both dissolving into fits of giggles and the dog leapt on us howling to see what's going on

Morning ladies.

Well the medication for the nausea seems to have worked the past 2 days!!! Keeping everything crossed. So for anyone still suffering sickness and nausea please go to the GP. No need to suffer as long as I did!!!!

I am a hot sweaty mess on the train this morning. I don't often do nursery drop-offs as usually DH drops off and I pick up but Thursday is my night 'off' every week. Nursery is about 25 min walk, and it's at the top of a hill. I didn't realise how much pregnancy has taken out of my fitness until I got half way up the hill this morning and had to stop to catch my breath. I could barely walk up the stairs to change platforms at the station either. Might have to start doing a pregnancy exercise dvd in the evenings to keep fitness up as I don't know how I'm going to see this nursery thing though to January otherwise!

Marjory yes it is devastating when you are ttc and friends get pregnant. My best friend and I were both struggling and I found it hard to tell her. I am giving her all the time in the world and I would understand if she doesnt want to talk to me for a bit because it is too much for her. I think in this case we have to be this way. It is not fair to get what we wanted and expect them to be happy for us, this is how I see it, ttc with no success is a horrible place to be.

London the thing with the names drove me INSANE when i was with family!!!
And of course "it has to be a name that can be pronounced in Spanish" well no! It has to be a name that doesnt have 4 double Rs of LLs as we live in England!

And they kept asking if DH had ideas for names too.we are trying to take this slowly!

I am definitely keeping it quiet until baby is born. People are so opinionated in my family!

evergreen just go with the name you and DH want! I think my mum was really disappointed that I didn't give DS a Dutch name, but having grown up in the UK with a name no one can spell or pronounce I didn't want to inflict that on my children. I love my name and my heritage but I was very happy to take DH's English surname so I at least have half of my name now that I don't have to spell out every time!

Glad you're feeling better Diva.
I'm not going to make the mistake of telling anyone (apart from maybe my mum) our name choice this time. We mentioned a name we both liked to MIL last time and she said she didn't like it. It immediately put DH off. I think he's actually forgotten about this because we went through so many names and he was saying the other day that he quite likes it so if we have another girl I'm hoping we might be able to use it. I don't think most people are rude enough to say they don't like a name once the baby's been born and named!

We didn't decide on names until DD was born although had a couple of favourites. I just didn't want to discuss them. We did want a name that would work in both English and French though, or at least that could be pronounced in both as DH is French but our surname is pretty international and, by coincidence, both our first names are too which has the advantage that noone, say, reading a CV or whatever, can discriminate because of the foreign name! We will try to find another name for this baby that works in both languages too, although it will be harder if it is a boy as there are a lot fewer of them.

prettypinklady I was 20 when I for pregnant with my first and 21 when I had her. I then had my second age 23 and will have this one age 25 . my husband is 10 years older than me and we both wanted smaller gaps so its just what's worked for us x

Diva glad ur feeling better!

Dare I say it bit I haven't been sick in a few days! Still bit icky of eating certainly things but better than before...

How's everyone's bump coming along? Mine still looks like podgy sometimes! Haha...

Been reading some horror stories about birth and petrifying myself...

ceecee sorry about your SIL. How far along was she?

If you can afford it, I think private reassurance scans are totally worth it. In the US women get scanned all the time. The NHS need to save money so I get why they don't do it but it puts a lot of stress on us during most of the 2nd trimester

Shell my "bump" definitely looks less in the mornings and grows in the evenings - through what's likely bloat, no doubt.

I looked at it in the mirror this morning, actually, and then spent my bike ride in to work/first half hour at my desk nearly in tears thinking it was too small, wasn't growing properly, that there's some sort of problem. I know i'm basically having a one-woman pity-party because I have no reason to think any of this, and I am tall (5"9) and quite curvy, so it's going to take longer for me to properly pop.

London I completely agree about the reassurance scans. My OH, despite knowing how upset I was this morning, is still telling me to just trust the NHS to do their jobs and won't let us get a private scan.

I think today I'm just feeling hormonal, down and tired but right now 20 weeks still seems like a long time away and this trimester hasn't reassured me yet, it's made me feel worse from my symptoms easing off .

Yes totally agree with that evergreen. In this case I know my friend isn't ttc although she would like a third at some point. Anyway, I've asked her before if everything is ok and she said yes. I know her well enough to know she is being off with me though.

Had my 16 week checkup today, glad I didn't ask DH to come because she just checked blood pressure and urine. No bump measuring or listening to heartbeat this time.

No one has tried to touch my bump yet, they didn't last time either!