Due February 2017- thread #6

[Readyfortwo]

See below for previous chatter:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2697188-Due-in-February-2017-thread-5

Not too early Sky, I've been feeling since 14 wks.

I was low risk for diabetes on my last pregnancy but sugar in urine was detected at 30 weeks and I was found to have it (although only just over limit). I was honestly amazed as my bmi is fine and I was classed as low risk so hadn't needed to take the gtt. I have since discovered my father's side has high blood sugar issues passing through generations even though none were actually classed as diabetic. I think it is worth having the gtt even if you don't feel it is necessary.

Judging by some comments, I think I may be the youngest on here. I am 20, and will be 21 when baby arrives. The inexperienced, quiet baby of the group

I declined gtt last time for similar reasons to wispa. I did a lot of reading and had issues with the test as a diagnostic tool.Midwife was happy for me to do some home monitoring bloods for a week instead. I said if there was ever a concern the baby was growing too big or I had sugars in my urin e I would reconsider.
I haven't decided whether I will have it this time yet but am leaning towards just having it tbh. Last time I had a bit of a thing about staying in controlled and the whole thing caused a lot of stress but this time I can't be bothered.

Can't wait to start feeling the baby move, 15 weeks n nothing yet bar a few painful twinges which I think must be stretching pain?! X

pretty don't worry about being young, think of all the energy you'll have! I'm nearly 32 and haven't a clue what I'm doing but am sure it'll come naturally to all us first time mummies X

Having slept on it, I now don't know whether to ask the MW for a heartbeat check given that basically she didn't even bother at my 16 week appointment yesterday, or whether I'm just being stupid . I guess I'm just stressing a bit, because I have 4 more weeks to the 20 week scan, I haven't yet felt any movement (the MW didn't see this as bad and said I might not feel anything until 20 weeks!) and I just have no assurance that everything's still doing its thing in there... maybe I'll speak to the OH about a private scan or something.... or maybe I'm just being daft! Feel free to virtually slap me and tell me to shush, ladies!

I didn't have a Hb check either kiki. You will never stop worrying, so try to relax & enjoy your pg. 20wks will be here before you know it!

Prettypink I was 22 when DS was born! I'm 28 now and expecting DC3.

Because of the previous miscarriage we have been holding off telling people apart from our parents. Last night DH rang his siblings to tell them they were going to be aunts/uncles again. 2 out of 3 said 'I take it it wasn't planned?' I find that so rude! The baby was very much planned and wanted. People just think because we already have 2 children, one boy and one girl that we should be done now and not have any more.

Has anyone else had issues with friends since becoming pregnant? Firstly I completely understand that it can be heartbreaking if you are ttc etc to see friends fall pregnant.
We've been friends since our dds were about 6 months old (now almost 3yrs) met up at least once a week, shared problems etc. I told her I was expecting straight away and since then I've seen her once. She never texts any more and if I suggest meeting up I get a very vague 'yes must do that soon!' in response and she doesn't share things with me like she used to. She has a second 8 month old dd and I know she would like a third because she loves newborns but her dp isn't keen. Maybe I'm being over sensitive but it really feels like she's ditched me.

kiki definitely don't worry about not feeling the baby at this stage. I think they only worry if you haven't felt movement by 24 weeks, but most women don't feel movement until about 20. Last time I felt the baby once at about 16 weeks but then not again at all until a good 2-3 weeks later. This time round I only feel him/her when sitting quietly on the sofa at the end of the day when I'm not distracted, and I think I only notice it because I know what I'm looking out for, if you see what I mean?

Kiki I don't think I've felt movement (not 100% sure it should feel like) and I'm 15 weeks on Friday. I had an unexpected bonus scan at my consultant appointment on Monday and the baby is fine, moving loads in there so I definitely wouldn't worry. As a first time mom, I'm not sure I even know what to look out for. I probably won't recognize movement until I'm kicked in the groin :)

Cinderella I find that incredibly rude! It would never in my life say that to someone. That's partly why I've not told anyone besides close friends and family yet. I find the general public including acquaintances can be really rude and I'm not in the mood for it regarding my pregnancy!

Marjory I've not had this problem but I also haven't told two of my friends yet who I know are / have struggled (I just have not seen them as they don't live in London). I'm a bit worried how they'll take it as I know some people get very jealous / distraught. Why don't you say something to her like: 'This may be all in my head but I've felt you become a lot more distant lately. If there is anything I did or anything I can help with please let me know.' It may not be anything to do with the pregnancy, she might be struggling with something else. I'm a very straightforward person though. I get that might be uncomfortable for other people to do.

Marjory have you asked her if everything's ok?

Cinderella that's terrible saying that! Even if it wasn't planned there's nothing better than a wee baba!!

kiki I'm nervous about my 16 week app incase of the HB thing... don't know whether I want to or not incase they can't find it. We are going away for a few days after that.

Ladies my cat scratched my skin with his tooth earlier, just grazed the skin and broke it slightly, no puncture wound... think it will be OK?

Recently people have started asking DH and I if we have picked names. I'm not sure I want to tell anyone. What is everyone's approach / experience with it?

Also, is it only my friends and family that immediately 'jokingly' suggest we name the baby after them? EVERY. SINGLE. PERSON.

London we have that also!! Not telling anyone except maybe my mum... we also have the oh remember my names a lovely name for a baby! From lots of people haha xx

Hello ladies, just got bumped to Feb at my 13 wk scan yesterday ( EDD was earlier in March 1st week)

Anyone of you still feeling nauseated or throwing up ? I'm still fighting my way through morning sickness and trying to eat healthy but doesn't seem to work very well. Not having much luck with any fitness or exercise routine either.
Any suggestions ?

Shell glad to hear this is a typical response! They know we are having a girl and the guys just add and 'a' to the end of their names as their suggestion ...

toburp I am almost 15 weeks and yes still nauseated and occasionally sick. I'm hoping 16 weeks will be more turning point though who knows.

Don't tell them London, for some reason people are incredibly rude/insensitive about names prior to birth. They tend to bite their tongues if the baby is already here!

London you should tell them that you were thinking of getting a cat and you could name the cat after them, ever so jokingly

Try not to worry kiki I didn't feel my first baby until 20 weeks. I've felt this baby much earlier from about 11 or 12 weeks but they do say you often feel subsequent babies earlier.

I won't be asking my MW to listen for the heartbeat at my 16w appointment if she doesn't offer. I did get to hear it at this appointment with my first baby though. I'll just go with the flow and whatever they do now.

For anyone interested I've ordered some 'yesmum' mum to be cards. They're affirmation cards, you read one a day and they help you to get into a positive mind set and trust in your body etc. They're part of the hypnobirthing thing I think! I might take mine for people to read to me in labour.

Thank you ladies , your reassurance is kind! I think it's because aside from sore boobs and an achy uterus (sorry for TMI!!), I have lost most of the nausea/tiredness. I know Trimester 2 is meant to be the honeymoon period of feeling better, but some days I don't feel pregnant and I am trying not to let myself go down the road of "I hope everything's still ok" !!

At least it's a beautiful sunny day here! Though baking hot outside....I am thankful for my office aircon today!

About baby names...

I was on the phone to my friend the other day & she asked if I'll find out the sex, which I will be, but said I won't be revealing any names until after baby is born.

I explained that I don't want people's opinions as it will be a name my DH and I have thought long & hard about,

She then guilt tripped me in to telling her my choices so far, as she's one of my best friends etc... So I gave her the two girls names we both really like.

Her response: "Urgh God no, not ....! Go with ...."
Safe to say I was a bit annoyed that she said that after I'd just made a point of not wanting to hear negative comments lol But apparently I shouldn't be mad, as because she's my friend, her opinion really matters.

Am I overreacting??

HI all!
I had my 16 week appointment this morning Nearly forgot it as I've been so busy lately. Luckily I remembered on the way to work and drove like a nutter to get there on time! #BadMother

I heard the heart beat and she said "Ooh that's a good strong heartbeat" which made me feel reassured. I have a home doppler (angel sounds) which I've used a couple of times so I knew there was a heartbeat there, but it sound so much louder on their one!

She also remembered me from my previous pregnancy which was nice considering it was nearly 3 years ago!

I've got to do the GTT test. I queried it as my BMI was 24, no family history etc. Apparently its purely down to my age (39) after aged 37 it becomes a normal thing to test for... Balls.
I was hoping to avoid it!

Holly1987

I would've retorted with "Yeah, maybe you're right. My [insert partner status] suggested your name but I thought that was shit too"

What a cow!!!

I was asked about names in my previous pregnancy and both me and the OH lied and said "no, we've not decided" and that we were waiting for the birth to decide a name. It was massive lie - we'd chosen her name the day after we found out we were having a little girl! I think a lot of the time people don't really know what to say or ask about your pregnancy, so in order to make sure they mention it when speaking with you they ask the cliched questions.

Anyone had someone touch their bump yet? One of my male suppliers did it the other day at work. I felt like grabbing his balls!