Due in March 2017 - thread #3

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New thread for the March 2017 club!

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Name: Name
Age: 30
EDD: 2nd March
DC #1

Mrs mushrooms coming from someone who had two over due babies (7 days over and 10 days respectively) you might change your mind about not wanting them out early, I was so fed up with friends popping them out at 38 weeks while I endured the "is that baby STILL not here" comments.
Re what people want in labour I don't know who posted it but I'd second an open mind, I refused to do a birth plan because I said how do I know what I'll be like, I can't possibly plan I'll just go with the flow. As it turned out there was no time for an epidural on either but I was very open to the idea before hand that if I felt I needed it Id have it.

PS dozy girl my BP has always been brilliant up till now in fact the midwife said last time I've got the blood pressure of an athlete which made me howl for days as I don't even like excercise very much (except maybe a bit of walking)
Your right though on a serious note I should be having my BP measured regularly as each pregnancy is different. I'm gonna nip to the doctors for a UTI test and to get my blood pressure done I think.

Really sorry if my post sounded judgey or condescending NameChange, I hate it when people judge others parenting choices (as long as your baby is cared for and safe I couldn't care less what kind of birth you have, how you feed your baby etc). Everyone is different and has different fears, I am really anxious (to the point of it probably being unhealthy) about the thought of something being seriously wrong at the 20 week scan even though I know the chances are low, and I haven't even made it to 12 weeks yet!

alpha No no, your post didn't sound judgey or condescending at all! Hope mine didn't sound defensive. It is interesting - and understandable - that we all have slightly different fears. And it's great that we can support each other, even with different experiences and choices

Name:Freckles007
Age:37
DC1
EDD: 1st March

Hi ladies, great to hear everyone is doing so well! I haven't been on the forum for ages...too busy lying on the couch eating dry crackers lol!!
DP and I had a chat this week about the screening tests we're supposed to have at the 12 week scan later this month...because I'm a bit older we're just a bit worried about the higher risk of problems with the baby. We decided to bite the bullet and go for private NIPT testing.. if there are any problems we'd rather know sooner or later. So I had the test today...also had a scan so saw the little bub wriggling and kicking his little legs! I have to wait a week for the result...it's going to be a long one!! x

I'm feeling really sorry for myself today. Iv cried a few times for no reason. I'm Hungry but feel sick all the time. Iv snapped at dh for no reason. I normally eat well and healthy but all I want is crap and then feel worse after eating. My stomach feels huge even though I haven't gained any weight.
Sorry for the rant just feel like shit and don't really know what to do
Going to have a bath and do my nails

And I'm so constipated sure it's coz of the shit I'm eating but it's not helping my current feeling sorry myself!!

Hi freckles Congrats on the scan! I can't wait for my scan but it feels like ages (little over a week). I'm sure the test results will come back fine!

green i snap constantly at dp and then regret it. Mood up and down like crazy. My swollen tummy went away at about 10/11 weeks. Can't remember how far along you are but perhaps the same happens to you.

Fist bump to a fellow feminist, name.

I've just got back from thing with DP and a load of her mates. It's odd - to me, she looks obviously pregnant and she is big for 8 weeks and definitely showing. No one noticed a thing! Even when she obviously wasn't drinking or taking part in the rough and tumble games with the kids. It's daft - we're not telling people but a bit of me feels bizarrely cheated not being asked! :D

Thankyou newbie I'm 9+1 and it's really hit me today. just been a fat moody bitch

Hi everyone,

Lime cordial has been my saviour today!

Congrats Freckle on the scan!

It's funny isn't it LRD when you think everyone will twig and no-one does, or at least, doesn't seem to? I think people are more sensitive to infertility and miscarriage these days, so asking about pregnancy isn't really the done thing even if you have your doubts. On the other hand, some people are less, er, discreet...

Green trees can you stomach a high fibre cereal?

Spolier Alert Anyone else laugh at the gummy bear sex positions on Ovia?

Green I've been going to bed most nights feeling like I want to cry I'm so fed up! Mostly with the sickness as its been awful, although it's finally getting better (touch wood!) I'm also really bloated, and having awful body acne. Not feeling very attractive at the moment.

I went bra shopping earlier which was not successful. I'm in 32e bras at the moment which are too small in the cup and I couldn't find any non-wired bras in a bigger cup size. Really disappointed as I'm sick of my boobs being uncomfortable!

Gummy bear sex positions Magic?! I have Ovia but I must have missed that one!!

I got it at 9+3 alpha. Perhaps I'm just easily amused at the moment makes a change from being grumpy and fed up, plus there's none of that going on here for the moment. Poor OH knows the score from last time...

magic - oh, absolutely, it's a very good thing people are more sensitive (and also less ready to risk the dreaded 'no, I'm just fat!' response). It is amazing how obvious it can be when you know, though, can't it? When clearly to other people there's really not much difference there.

Also gobsmacked at the mention of gummy bear sex positions ... clearly something I missed too?!

I feel like I've missed out! Not that there's been all that much of that sort of thing going on here either! (Well there's been lots of eating gummy bears, not so much sex!!)

Is there a UK version of the app? Because I definitely have the US version...

Check out this recent entry on Ovia Pregnancy! Get the Ovia app: ovuline.com/join

www.ovuline.com/guide/10378/sex-positions-during-pregnancy

But I feel it's a bit too early for all that, I'm too exhausted to be leaning against walls and what not!

Blimey!

I've just heard DP snort over my shoulder and I think she's with you on the eating rather than the athletics, alpha.

Erm, TMI, but, since it has come up - what advice has everyone had about sex in the first trimester? We were told to avoid it, though TBH I found the nurse's reply a bit unprofessional - DP asked if there was any medical information, and she said there was nothing clear but that if anything happened of course people feel guilty and blame that, so they advise people not to.

LRD I think it's more to do with the fact that it can provoke bleeding, which causes unnecessary worry.

Perhaps in some cases it's not recommended, but I've always had the opposite advice. I asked the GP this time and she said it was fine. We didn't last time because it was after a miscarriage and it was a bit too fresh in my mind. We did it once or twice before the nausea kicked in this time. No bleeding. It's probably best to be er, gentle

On a related note, I got given a smear test when I saw the obs-gyn last week Would never have thought that it would be recommended, but apparently it's fine (says the NHS), except it might skew the results...

Oh, gosh - I hadn't even thought of bleeding. And I don't think, to be frank, that it's a question with any practical implications, what with nausea and a lot of tiredness, and me being worried about it all. It's just it's nagging at me wondering whether they nurse really meant it's a bad thing, or whether she was trying to say gently that we were at risk so wouldn't want anything else to worry us. If you see what I mean? If it's normal advice everyone gets, I'd feel better, but I don't see it on the NHS site and never head it before.

Ouch to the smear test, though! That sounds like the last thing you'd want to go through simply for the pain, right now.

(Sorry: by 'we were at risk' I mean 'DP and the baby', not me, obviously!)

The advice I've read over and over (including in NHS material) is that sex is fine, but that if you've had miscarriages before or are a 'high risk' pregnancy, you should try to avoid it for the first 12 weeks. There's not much evidence to back up the caution even for high-risk pregnancies but I think it's a 'better safe than sorry' approach which I'm following (and hating it - roll on 12 weeks!!)